I feel like you’ve articulated what I feel about it. Something is just off. I don’t doubt that he behaved badly and I don’t think she lied but I do think she turned the volume right up on several incidences of bad behaviour which served to strongly suggest that he was an abusive partner and man. I feel like it has done harm in some ways because it gives ammunition to those who claim it’s all gone too far etc.
The Twitter post felt very staged and melodramatic. The ‘I am not a victim’ start seemed a deliberate way to call attention to the fact that she DID feel she was a victim of abuse but would rise from the ashes (with the cat). She also liked a load of bitchy tweets about seann.
I think she understandably found the whole thing hugely humiliating and needed to re-write the narrative to salvage her career. She said in an interview ( think with guardian) that her agent/ manager warned her not to tweet as it would harm her career but she did it anyway and has never been doing better.
yep she comes across as a bit of a dick lol
this interview with the guardian made my eyes roll. And
of course she quoted Nora Ephron. These chicks might as well start a Nora cult, admit they don’t have a shred of creativity among them and be done with it.
The actor’s breakup with comedian Seann Walsh went viral after he cheated on her with his dance partner. Now she’s written an unflinching, very funny memoir
amp.theguardian.com
i remember thinking at the time the kiss happened, he comes across as a bell end. He went out on her birthday for drinks with someone else. Comedians are notoriously egocentric and vain and self involved. He was probably a nightmare to be in a relationship in.
but she comes across just as melodramatic and egocentric as he does. Her pride was hurt and she wanted to save face. He kissed someone else ffs. She mentioned in the guardian interview that her worst fear was him kissing someone else and it being all over the news. Her worst fear wasn’t that he’d be hurt during a routine, or that she’d lose the relationship. It was fear of being publicly embarrassed. I’d be distraught if my fiancée cheated on me - but over the loss of the relationship, not the public embarrassment.
she’s never directly accused him of anything other than gaslighting, but she has (in her words), become an “accidental figurehead”.
she’s written columns about abusive relationships, spoken in parliament about abusive relationships etc.
She’s never directly accused him of anything beyond being “controlling” but the subtext is clear. She’s states that she disappeared into a shell of herself during the 5 year relationship. She has painted him as a controlling abusive partner without ever directly saying so. So she’s never asked to stand by that accusation and equally, he’s never able to confront or address any accusations because, she hasn’t directly made any.
now she’s cashed in and written a book which, let’s face is, is all about that strictly debacle. It’s not about helping victims of abuse, it’s all about her.
but it’s 4 years since the kiss/tweet happened. Sean is rebuilding his career and is having a baby with a new partner. Rebecca is
still dwelling on being cheated on and is still mud slinging.
neither of them seem like nice people. My sympathy in scenarios like this tends to be to automatically believe the woman. I have a natural empathy for women who claim to have been the victim of abuse and manipulation because I’ve been there myself and I know what it’s like to not be believed. But with Rebecca I just can’t bring myself too.
this reeks of the fury of a woman publicly scorned, rather than a woman coming to terms with abuse and wanting to help others.
Haven't attempted HTKYF.
