TTC #8 A great adventure is about to begin…

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pollysunshine22 said:
Yes, the first Covid vaccine affected mine as well. I wasn't TTC at the time but still did a pregnancy test.
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It's so weird to go from "oh my period is two days late I do NOT want to be pregnant right now oh god what if I'm pregnant oh THANK GOD the pregnancy test is negative" to "oh my period is two days late damnit why am I not pregnant??"
 
I missed the boat with ovulation this cycle so I was never in the anxious but hopeful waiting time right now, but I’m still surprised to see my period has turned up 7 days early this morning. It’s only been 5 months since my mirena was removed so I can’t exactly say I had a ‘like clockwork’ cycle yet, but it’s been 35-36 days each time till now. I’m honestly embarrassed by how much I don’t understand what my own body is up to. It’s also probably no wonder i started OPK way too late and had negligible results. Don’t really know what I’m moaning about here, I’m just moaning.
 
Another month, another AF which arrived this morning😢

We're now approaching the One Year mark in November, and not as much as a false alarm. It feels like bad news after bad news, with my AFC / AMH diminishing quite a bit since I did a fertility check a few years ago, OH with potential motility issues, a polyp identified and removed, and a bunch of weird cycles where period arrived late / early throughout the year.

Our next round is blood panel for me to test hormones, thyroid etc and back in for semen analysis after OH took all the right supplements for a few months to see if ICMI is our only option.

What I'm finding really hard is the emotional aspect of it all. Every month I get my period, I struggle so badly with focus, motivation at work, all I want to do is stay in bed and cry. What's worse is I have a really stressful corporate job which is relentless, chaotic and doesn't give me a minute's peace. And probably isn't helping any of these matters.

Sorry for the rant, I just needed to vent to people who weren't going to tell me "it'll happen when you least expect it", "don't stress" etc etc. People (including me until recently) REALLY don't understand fertility privilege and how bloody hard it can be to conceive in reality for a lot of people.
 
testingonetwothreefoiur said:
Another month, another AF which arrived this morning😢

We're now approaching the One Year mark in November, and not as much as a false alarm. It feels like bad news after bad news, with my AFC / AMH diminishing quite a bit since I did a fertility check a few years ago, OH with potential motility issues, a polyp identified and removed, and a bunch of weird cycles where period arrived late / early throughout the year.

Our next round is blood panel for me to test hormones, thyroid etc and back in for semen analysis after OH took all the right supplements for a few months to see if ICMI is our only option.

What I'm finding really hard is the emotional aspect of it all. Every month I get my period, I struggle so badly with focus, motivation at work, all I want to do is stay in bed and cry. What's worse is I have a really stressful corporate job which is relentless, chaotic and doesn't give me a minute's peace. And probably isn't helping any of these matters.

Sorry for the rant, I just needed to vent to people who weren't going to tell me "it'll happen when you least expect it", "don't stress" etc etc. People (including me until recently) REALLY don't understand fertility privilege and how bloody hard it can be to conceive in reality for a lot of people.
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I understand completely. We have been trying since 2016. Doctors initially said it was unexplained fertility. And indeed the one time we weren’t trying it happened but it wasn’t to be sadly.

People don’t get it unless they have been through it. I think they just word vomit what they think sounds nice. I get “Having kids isn’t the be all and end all” a lot. That and the “Relax, it will happen when you don’t plan it” and yes it’s infuriating.
 
MidnightAura said:
I understand completely. We have been trying since 2016. Doctors initially said it was unexplained fertility. And indeed the one time we weren’t trying it happened but it wasn’t to be sadly.

People don’t get it unless they have been through it. I think they just word vomit what they think sounds nice. I get “Having kids isn’t the be all and end all” a lot. That and the “Relax, it will happen when you don’t plan it” and yes it’s infuriating.
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So sorry for the struggle you've had. You're right that people don't get it. But also, what I'm learning about through forums such as this and through whispers of struggles amongst my own circle, is that this struggle can be common. You never know by looking at someone whether or not they're part of this silent club. I just wish people weren't so damn silent about it. I get solace from every single celebrity or otherwise that speaks publicly. I think it was Lucy from Made in Chelsea I was reading about the other day, and I felt an overwhelm of validation that I'm not some alien / broken woman who can't perform the most basic of biological functions. Not that I would ever wish this on anyone- but the silence can be deafening.

My mind goes to such dark places sometimes, especially at that time of the month where I start to spiral and question what we're "doing wrong", gaslighting myself over whether or not we're "doing everything possible", blaming myself for the life circumstances which I had no control over where I met OH later in my 30s and am only ttc now in my late 30s. It's an intolerable pain sometimes.

Wishing you lots of luck and strength in your own journey x
 
testingonetwothreefoiur said:
So sorry for the struggle you've had. You're right that people don't get it. But also, what I'm learning about through forums such as this and through whispers of struggles amongst my own circle, is that this struggle can be common. You never know by looking at someone whether or not they're part of this silent club. I just wish people weren't so damn silent about it. I get solace from every single celebrity or otherwise that speaks publicly. I think it was Lucy from Made in Chelsea I was reading about the other day, and I felt an overwhelm of validation that I'm not some alien / broken woman who can't perform the most basic of biological functions. Not that I would ever wish this on anyone- but the silence can be deafening.

My mind goes to such dark places sometimes, especially at that time of the month where I start to spiral and question what we're "doing wrong", gaslighting myself over whether or not we're "doing everything possible", blaming myself for the life circumstances which I had no control over where I met OH later in my 30s and am only ttc now in my late 30s. It's an intolerable pain sometimes.

Wishing you lots of luck and strength in your own journey x
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I totally feel the self blame. I blame myself every month Because I have a long term health condition and it could impact my ability to get pregnant. It was only in the last month the doctors are saying it could be my Husband. It’s a rollercoaster.

And yes, I am so validated by women in the public eye speaking up about it. It definitely makes the journey seem a little less lonely especially if your only solace is online forums like this one. I’m in my late 30s and the pressure isn’t the best. I get it. I am sending you all the luck in the world.
Bingobango said:
I work in a small team in a nursery and two out of a 4 person team have recently announced their pregnant and it happened first month.
Trying not to let it get to me. We have just been put on the fertility pathway by my dr but no idea whats next.
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You poor thing. That must be horrific. Sending hugs.
 
Eugh I'm so frustrated, a couple of months ago I bought some pre-seed and other bits from Boots but chucked the bag in my wardrobe and forgot about it until the last week wondering where the hell I put it. Found the bag still full of shopping, opened the pre-seed and the actual lubricant is missing! It's just a box full of applicators. I've no receipt either so guessing there's absolutely nothing I can do about it now 🙄

On a different note, has anyone tried the him and her pregnacare conception tablets?
 
Brewtime87 said:
On a different note, has anyone tried the him and her pregnacare conception tablets?
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Personally don’t rate pregnacare as a brand. They are over priced, often low dose vitamins and words use like ‘plus’ and ‘max’ prey on vulnerable people (in that you want to do your best for baby) and upsell you. You can get almost the same formulation/combinations elsewhere for a few pounds.

The pregnancy ones make a lot of women sick when pregnant too, an expensive mistake and the only things you actually need if you have a normal diet are vit D and folic acid.

I’d still try going back to boots. Your advantage card might hold the purchase data if you have one.
 
My AF has just departed, after turning up earlier than I expected but not earlier than a ‘normal’ range, just to mess with my head. I’m going to be doing ovulation tests from tomorrow to try and get my head around this mess that is my body. I personally test in the morning before work and at some point in the evening, usually before bed although that’s probably ‘too late’. I can’t take tests to work so I do what I can!
 
I'm really confused with ovulation testing. The tests I bought say to test first thing which I have been doing. Premom has told me I'm nearing predicted ovulation and to test twice a day so is morning and evening ok? I work mainly in the office so can't really do daytime.
 
yankydoo said:
I'm really confused with ovulation testing. The tests I bought say to test first thing which I have been doing. Premom has told me I'm nearing predicted ovulation and to test twice a day so is morning and evening ok? I work mainly in the office so can't really do daytime.
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It confuses me too! I think the key might be the same sort of time every day? And I think it matters the most if you are a woman with a short period of high LH. Some women it’s a bit of a ‘flash’, other women it takes a little longer so can be caught more easily on the tests. There is probably proper terminology for all of that…
 
ThisIsMyDragName said:
My AF has just departed, after turning up earlier than I expected but not earlier than a ‘normal’ range, just to mess with my head. I’m going to be doing ovulation tests from tomorrow to try and get my head around this mess that is my body. I personally test in the morning before work and at some point in the evening, usually before bed although that’s probably ‘too late’. I can’t take tests to work so I do what I can!
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My AF has just ended and ovulation testing from tomorrow too. Fingers crossed for us 🤞 x
 
I’ve felt like a mad woman dashing away to the toilet each day with my wee ovulation test 😂first month trying them so we shall see. Our life has had a bit of a set back and my partner is under a bit of pressure so I’m now not sure if TTC is high on his list of priorities. I would suggest waiting but I know it could take ages to actually fall pregnant and selfishly don’t want to waste time. Feel bad bringing it up to him just now though.
 
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