TTC #8 A great adventure is about to begin…

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ThisIsMyDragName said:
Thank you! I feel like I don’t have the right to have this strop as I have been actively trying to get pregnant for a minute, and many experience this for years with much more grace than I have shown so far. I just worried that I’m old, my periods started when I was very young, and I have no idea if my years of mirena use or my endometriosis (and maybe adenomyosis) have had any impact on me. I think I’m angry that women’s health still seems to be this totally mysterious thing that nobody really understands, of ant least I don’t even understand my own body, and certainly I never got properly taught about, even by fellow females! So misogynistic. Plus my husband has had to do nothing whatsoever for any of this journey, except have sex with me. What a hardship 🤣🤣. It’s not that he isn’t supportive, but he doesn’t get it, and why would he, I guess!
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your feelings are perfectly valid and you’re allowed to feel upset and agitated! It’s really frustrating when you feel like you don’t understand your own body and start to question whether it is able to do what you want it to do. We’re all here to listen. 🥰
 
littlepup said:
Regarding age - Everyone's story is different I'm well aware and of course there are barriers with age but I feel like we're made to feel you're 'past it' by your mid 30s and it's simply not true. I'm not 100% if I'm positive/if it'll work out but I'd be 42 when they arrived. First time mum at 38 and that seemed fairly average in relation to the other ladies.
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Thanks, this makes me feel good. I'm 37 and this is my first full month of TTC. My cycle is a regular 28 day one but having read this thread I think I will start tracking ovulation from the next cycle. I don't want to get obsessed and thought I would wait a few months before doing all this but I think knowledge is power in my case - completely get it is different for others.
 
My mum had her first when she was around the age I am now, and her last about ten years later when she was in her early forties. I keep on telling myself this - I also think my LH levels must peak earlier because I keep messing it up/ haven't got a definite line. I have been doing it at the same time every day around the dates I thought I should but I think I need to start earlier ( my cycle is also shorter than average).

I tried to google what could be wrong and found some websites suggesting you do it when you first wake up, some on the "second urine" between 10-12, others early afternoon, others between 6 and 8!
 
RoseyThorney said:
Hello all,
I posted here back in June with my BFP but sadly I lost that pregnancy.
We’ve been back TTC since my first normal cycle again and I’m desperately keeping my fingers and toes crossed that we’ve done it this month. 🤞🏻
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I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope this month is your month❤️
 
!noseyparker! said:
My mum had her first when she was around the age I am now, and her last about ten years later when she was in her early forties. I keep on telling myself this - I also think my LH levels must peak earlier because I keep messing it up/ haven't got a definite line. I have been doing it at the same time every day around the dates I thought I should but I think I need to start earlier ( my cycle is also shorter than average).

I tried to google what could be wrong and found some websites suggesting you do it when you first wake up, some on the "second urine" between 10-12, others early afternoon, others between 6 and 8!
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I do not understand how I’m supposed to have a full time job around all this testing 🤣🤣. All joking aside I’ve been trying to do my morning test on my second wee but my bladder has been holding it in so I’m perpetually late for work. Thankfully I’m the boss and I work late a lot so I’m not in trouble for it but it’s not great when I’m really supposed to lead by example. But peeing in a pot at work where the toilets are quite ‘public’ and being sat in there with my dipstick for 5 minutes is impossible. As is disposing of the test. I literally don’t understand how I’m meant to fit it all in and keep it private. Exhausting 🤣
 
ThisIsMyDragName said:
I do not understand how I’m supposed to have a full time job around all this testing 🤣🤣. All joking aside I’ve been trying to do my morning test on my second wee but my bladder has been holding it in so I’m perpetually late for work. Thankfully I’m the boss and I work late a lot so I’m not in trouble for it but it’s not great when I’m really supposed to lead by example. But peeing in a pot at work where the toilets are quite ‘public’ and being sat in there with my dipstick for 5 minutes is impossible. As is disposing of the test. I literally don’t understand how I’m meant to fit it all in and keep it private. Exhausting 🤣
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I work from home so I don't have to worry about this! Another wfh advantage to add to my mental list (the main one is snuggles with my dog-or as my therapist has started calling her "your first baby"). So I have time to do things, but it's taking up so much headspace. I go to bed counting what my due date would be if my last period was my final one before conceiving, I count without thinking, I count ahead to when my next window will be (I am so glad my December period is due immediately before Christmas because if I'm not pregnant I will be drinking so much wine). It's taking up so much space in my brain!
 
I'm completely baffled this week.

So I haven't had a period since June, the same time as a hyscoscopy, I have been getting faint bfps on various tests and brands, given the date of my last period I had to be scanned to check if just four weeks or 19 weeks down the line. Scan showed nothing. Okay fine I get that but what has totally mashed up my brain is that both me and my partner have seen faint lines . Which originally he couldn't see for the first few days but saw them as they got a bit darker. But I was only getting them later in the day not fmu.

What has baffled me completely is that the Hospital sonographer said that you are only pregnant if the two lines are dark yet everywhere else you are told a line is a line. Including on the packs..I used cheap wondfo test strips, clear and simple test strips, frer and clear blue early. Can't have been a bad batch as they were all different.

So I came away completely deflated and baffled and feeling like I've wasted peoples time. Although gynea say that I Havent.

I feel like I've probably been put on some blacklist as a time waster so when I do get pregnant I will be out back of the queue.

I haven't tested for a few days but today decided to do one fmu and again I see a faint line. Which I wasnt seeing a line fmu before. I wonder whether I was too early to see anything on a scan or whether to just never trust faint lines on tests?
 
wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
I'm completely baffled this week.

So I haven't had a period since June, the same time as a hyscoscopy, I have been getting faint bfps on various tests and brands, given the date of my last period I had to be scanned to check if just four weeks or 19 weeks down the line. Scan showed nothing. Okay fine I get that but what has totally mashed up my brain is that both me and my partner have seen faint lines . Which originally he couldn't see for the first few days but saw them as they got a bit darker. But I was only getting them later in the day not fmu.

What has baffled me completely is that the Hospital sonographer said that you are only pregnant if the two lines are dark yet everywhere else you are told a line is a line. Including on the packs..I used cheap wondfo test strips, clear and simple test strips, frer and clear blue early. Can't have been a bad batch as they were all different.

So I came away completely deflated and baffled and feeling like I've wasted peoples time. Although gynea say that I Havent.

I feel like I've probably been put on some blacklist as a time waster so when I do get pregnant I will be out back of the queue.

I haven't tested for a few days but today decided to do one fmu and again I see a faint line. Which I wasnt seeing a line fmu before. I wonder whether I was too early to see anything on a scan or whether to just never trust faint lines on tests?
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Not an expert here but same as you a second line (assuming in time, not an indent etc) means you’re pregnant and I’m sure all the instructions say that.

That being said, as your HCG is meant to double every two days I think early on the lines should be getting darker. I’ve never gotten that far with a pregnancy but from seeing people on TikTok it looks like the line normally goes quite dark after say a week.

Is it worth taking a digital?
 
User767676 said:
Not an expert here but same as you a second line (assuming in time, not an indent etc) means you’re pregnant and I’m sure all the instructions say that.

That being said, as your HCG is meant to double every two days I think early on the lines should be getting darker. I’ve never gotten that far with a pregnancy but from seeing people on TikTok it looks like the line normally goes quite dark after say a week.

Is it worth taking a digital?
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i thought i had bought a digital test but cant find it anywhere i am going to do that monday I think, give it a few more days.
 
wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
I'm completely baffled this week.

So I haven't had a period since June, the same time as a hyscoscopy, I have been getting faint bfps on various tests and brands, given the date of my last period I had to be scanned to check if just four weeks or 19 weeks down the line. Scan showed nothing. Okay fine I get that but what has totally mashed up my brain is that both me and my partner have seen faint lines . Which originally he couldn't see for the first few days but saw them as they got a bit darker. But I was only getting them later in the day not fmu.

What has baffled me completely is that the Hospital sonographer said that you are only pregnant if the two lines are dark yet everywhere else you are told a line is a line. Including on the packs..I used cheap wondfo test strips, clear and simple test strips, frer and clear blue early. Can't have been a bad batch as they were all different.

So I came away completely deflated and baffled and feeling like I've wasted peoples time. Although gynea say that I Havent.

I feel like I've probably been put on some blacklist as a time waster so when I do get pregnant I will be out back of the queue.

I haven't tested for a few days but today decided to do one fmu and again I see a faint line. Which I wasnt seeing a line fmu before. I wonder whether I was too early to see anything on a scan or whether to just never trust faint lines on tests?
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how recently did you get your first faint positive test? The sonographer is speaking rubbish- a line is a line and if you have done many other brands it can’t be a dodgy batch. I’m pretty sure false positives are almost impossible other than if you are on certain types of medication?

if I were you I would push for a blood test. Did they check your fallopian tubes?

thinking of you ❤
 
wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
i thought i had bought a digital test but cant find it anywhere i am going to do that monday I think, give it a few more days.
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I’ve ordered a digital clear blue on Amazon for £8 inc next day del on prime. The 2 pack is about £14 I think. 4 weeks could be too early to show on a scan, they made me wait until 7 weeks, but you should be getting lines from fmu.
If you’d had a chemical I think you’d have had a bleed, did they say anything about that? Or what conditions could cause a rise in hcg outside of pregnancy?
When I had a early pregnancy unit scan the second time they made me do a test there and then before they did it, I assume they didn’t ask you?
You definitely haven’t wasted anyone’s time, if anything they’ve wasted yours by not investigating what has caused these increased levels of not for pregnancy or rebooking you for 2/3 weeks time to check again.
When did you first start seeing the BFP?
Was the scan NHS or private?
 
aggytha said:
how recently did you get your first faint positive test? The sonographer is speaking rubbish- a line is a line and if you have done many other brands it can’t be a dodgy batch. I’m pretty sure false positives are almost impossible other than if you are on certain types of medication?

if I were you I would push for a blood test. Did they check your fallopian tubes?

thinking of you ❤
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ive just checked the copy of the report they gave me. it says that they did not visualise ovaries but doesnt mention fallopian tubes anywhere.

i did a digital text last week and it was negative but if its early i understand that it can be later before you get a digital. the firt faint positive test a couple of weeks ago they are getting darker, but very slowly. im not on any medication atm. the only thing that ive had done other than the scan is the hysteroscopy but as i said above that was back in june.
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littlepup said:
I’ve ordered a digital clear blue on Amazon for £8 inc next day del on prime. The 2 pack is about £14 I think. 4 weeks could be too early to show on a scan, they made me wait until 7 weeks, but you should be getting lines from fmu.
If you’d had a chemical I think you’d have had a bleed, did they say anything about that? Or what conditions could cause a rise in hcg outside of pregnancy?
When I had a early pregnancy unit scan the second time they made me do a test there and then before they did it, I assume they didn’t ask you?
You definitely haven’t wasted anyone’s time, if anything they’ve wasted yours by not investigating what has caused these increased levels of not for pregnancy or rebooking you for 2/3 weeks time to check again.
When did you first start seeing the BFP?
Was the scan NHS or private?
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it was nhs. they did a test but they did it whilst i was having a scan (i had an internal one too) so it took a while so i didnt see the test until way past the time limit and the room was dark and she ddnt even pass it to me she just said there are not two dark lines so you cant be pregnant. so for all i know there could have been a faint line there. by then i just wanted to run home and hide under a duvet. im just frustrated and baffled by it all tbh. A midewife contacted me and she was much nicer than the sonographer. hope i can get back to see gynea soon.

also what doesnt help, I have spent the last few weeks explaining to my partner and convincing him that a faint line is important (especially when you have waited so long to see them they feel magical) and then he heard her say a faint line means nothing so he is just going to feel that im getting my hopes up. he has also seen them get slightly darker albeit not a dark line matching the control line. so im not going mad.

also what i have thought significant is that the lines have appeared within the test timescale. she treid to suggest to me that if you leave a test you can get lines. ie evap lines, i thought evap lines are when the test dried out, not during the test period when the test is still wet.


thank you all for being so lovely, sorry for rambling x
 
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wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
ive just checked the copy of the report they gave me. it says that they did not visualise ovaries but doesnt mention fallopian tubes anywhere.

i did a digital text last week and it was negative but if its early i understand that it can be later before you get a digital. the firt faint positive test a couple of weeks ago they are getting darker, but very slowly. im not on any medication atm. the only thing that ive had done other than the scan is the hysteroscopy but as i said above that was back in june.
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it was nhs. they did a test but they did it whilst i was having a scan (i had an internal one too) so it took a while so i didnt see the test until way past the time limit and the room was dark and she ddnt even pass it to me she just said there are not two dark lines so you cant be pregnant. so for all i know there could have been a faint line there. by then i just wanted to run home and hide under a duvet. im just frustrated and baffled by it all tbh. A midewife contacted me and she was much nicer than the sonographer. hope i can get back to see gynea soon.

also what doesnt help, I have spent the last few weeks explaining to my partner and convincing him that a faint line is important (especially when you have waited so long to see them they feel magical) and then he heard her say a faint line means nothing so he is just going to feel that im getting my hopes up. he has also seen them get slightly darker albeit not a dark line matching the control line. so im not going mad.

also what i have thought significant is that the lines have appeared within the test timescale. she treid to suggest to me that if you leave a test you can get lines. ie evap lines, i thought evap lines are when the test dried out, not during the test period when the test is still wet.


thank you all for being so lovely, sorry for rambling x
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I agree it’s bullshit about false positives. There has to be hgc to get a line, a line is a line. She’s a sonographer, not a fertility expert.
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ETA: what strength tests are you taking, 10 or 25?
 
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wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
ive just checked the copy of the report they gave me. it says that they did not visualise ovaries but doesnt mention fallopian tubes anywhere.

i did a digital text last week and it was negative but if its early i understand that it can be later before you get a digital. the firt faint positive test a couple of weeks ago they are getting darker, but very slowly. im not on any medication atm. the only thing that ive had done other than the scan is the hysteroscopy but as i said above that was back in june.
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it was nhs. they did a test but they did it whilst i was having a scan (i had an internal one too) so it took a while so i didnt see the test until way past the time limit and the room was dark and she ddnt even pass it to me she just said there are not two dark lines so you cant be pregnant. so for all i know there could have been a faint line there. by then i just wanted to run home and hide under a duvet. im just frustrated and baffled by it all tbh. A midewife contacted me and she was much nicer than the sonographer. hope i can get back to see gynea soon.

also what doesnt help, I have spent the last few weeks explaining to my partner and convincing him that a faint line is important (especially when you have waited so long to see them they feel magical) and then he heard her say a faint line means nothing so he is just going to feel that im getting my hopes up. he has also seen them get slightly darker albeit not a dark line matching the control line. so im not going mad.

also what i have thought significant is that the lines have appeared within the test timescale. she treid to suggest to me that if you leave a test you can get lines. ie evap lines, i thought evap lines are when the test dried out, not during the test period when the test is still wet.


thank you all for being so lovely, sorry for rambling x
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If they’re over a couple of weeks I don’t think that’s hcg they’re picking up, that’s too long, I’ve seen a few people have lh tests pick up HCG so perhaps it works the other way around too and what you’re seeing is your ovulation?
 
nillal said:
Another month, another BFN 😔
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Ditto, it's just so mentally draining isn't it. I stupidly got my hopes up extra this month after by strange 12 hour cystitis type episode a week ago, I convinced myself it could be implantation. Had a good cry about it to my partner earlier who has finally offered to look into things he can do/supplements etc he can take to help increase our chances. Does anyone have any suggestions?
 
wellwellwellitsanotherad said:
ive just checked the copy of the report they gave me. it says that they did not visualise ovaries but doesnt mention fallopian tubes anywhere.

i did a digital text last week and it was negative but if its early i understand that it can be later before you get a digital. the firt faint positive test a couple of weeks ago they are getting darker, but very slowly. im not on any medication atm. the only thing that ive had done other than the scan is the hysteroscopy but as i said above that was back in june.
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it was nhs. they did a test but they did it whilst i was having a scan (i had an internal one too) so it took a while so i didnt see the test until way past the time limit and the room was dark and she ddnt even pass it to me she just said there are not two dark lines so you cant be pregnant. so for all i know there could have been a faint line there. by then i just wanted to run home and hide under a duvet. im just frustrated and baffled by it all tbh. A midewife contacted me and she was much nicer than the sonographer. hope i can get back to see gynea soon.

also what doesnt help, I have spent the last few weeks explaining to my partner and convincing him that a faint line is important (especially when you have waited so long to see them they feel magical) and then he heard her say a faint line means nothing so he is just going to feel that im getting my hopes up. he has also seen them get slightly darker albeit not a dark line matching the control line. so im not going mad.

also what i have thought significant is that the lines have appeared within the test timescale. she treid to suggest to me that if you leave a test you can get lines. ie evap lines, i thought evap lines are when the test dried out, not during the test period when the test is still wet.


thank you all for being so lovely, sorry for rambling x
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Il

I’m not an expert but If you’ve had a internal scan and they’ve confirmed you’re not pregnant I think I would have to trust the professionals sadly xxx
 
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