New baby and post birth advice #61

How old is your baby?

  • Brand spanking new

    Votes: 13 14.9%

  • 0-3 months

    Votes: 13 14.9%

  • 4-6 months

    Votes: 13 14.9%

  • 7-9 months

    Votes: 14 16.1%

  • 10-12 months

    Votes: 8 9.2%

  • 13-18 months

    Votes: 5 5.7%

  • Older than this but still here

    Votes: 5 5.7%

  • Pregnant

    Votes: 12 13.8%

  • Just nosing

    Votes: 4 4.6%
  • Total voters
    87
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raspberryjuice said:
Have you had a look on eBay or vinted etc to see if anyone is selling the discontinued design? (still in the packet, obviously!)

ETA - is it these? https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/28603472...486&ssuid=&var=&widget_ver=artemis&media=COPY
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That's the ones. They have the big air hole same as the Mam but they bend away from the face, not seen anything else like it.

There was a listing on Amazon for four for £42 and there are a few on ebay for similar price. Not sure I trust that they wouldn't be dodgy. Plus the price is eye watering!
 
I didn’t notice the postage on those ones! That’s crazy 😰 I guess if you could guarantee he wouldn’t launch it out of the pushchair/under the car seat/down the side of the cot the minute your back is turned it would be worth the cost for his skin but you can guarantee he’d lose them within 5 minutes even if he keeps hold of his other ones for ages 🙈
 
If he's anything like his brother he'll literally lose them within two minutes of getting them in the post 😂 It's such a shame, such a good design for little ones with chubby cheeks!
 
So glad to read other comments RE: breastfeeding struggles. I’ve been really struggling with it since the hospital. First it was her latch, then I found if I used a pump to pull my nipple out she could latch on so thought great. But then she started this cluster feeding and it’s been killing me both mentally and physically. She is having 5-9 minute feeds then pulling away, sleeping and then wanting more again 10-20 mins later and this carries on for hours. I have been dreading nighttime’s because of this, she won’t settle till she’s full but won’t drink in one go.

I had to sleep the other evening so my oh gave her some formula in a bottle and it gave us a few solid hours of rest. I’ve been expressing since about day 5 because my breasts were so full and hard and we’ve been bottle feeding her this on a nighttime.
Last night was a much better night than previous she woke twice and had a bottle of expressed each time and I did 1 pump.
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
 
Everycloud said:
So glad to read other comments RE: breastfeeding struggles. I’ve been really struggling with it since the hospital. First it was her latch, then I found if I used a pump to pull my nipple out she could latch on so thought great. But then she started this cluster feeding and it’s been killing me both mentally and physically. She is having 5-9 minute feeds then pulling away, sleeping and then wanting more again 10-20 mins later and this carries on for hours. I have been dreading nighttime’s because of this, she won’t settle till she’s full but won’t drink in one go.

I had to sleep the other evening so my oh gave her some formula in a bottle and it gave us a few solid hours of rest. I’ve been expressing since about day 5 because my breasts were so full and hard and we’ve been bottle feeding her this on a nighttime.
Last night was a much better night than previous she woke twice and had a bottle of expressed each time and I did 1 pump.
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
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I felt the exact same about dreading it. Defo get some support as they can help your latch and positioning, but also don’t feel bad about doing what’s best for you and the baby - I tried a few different support routes and no one could really help, but I felt better at trying as much as I could. I pump now and she has bottles and we are all 100% more happy 😂
 
Everycloud said:
So glad to read other comments RE: breastfeeding struggles. I’ve been really struggling with it since the hospital. First it was her latch, then I found if I used a pump to pull my nipple out she could latch on so thought great. But then she started this cluster feeding and it’s been killing me both mentally and physically. She is having 5-9 minute feeds then pulling away, sleeping and then wanting more again 10-20 mins later and this carries on for hours. I have been dreading nighttime’s because of this, she won’t settle till she’s full but won’t drink in one go.

I had to sleep the other evening so my oh gave her some formula in a bottle and it gave us a few solid hours of rest. I’ve been expressing since about day 5 because my breasts were so full and hard and we’ve been bottle feeding her this on a nighttime.
Last night was a much better night than previous she woke twice and had a bottle of expressed each time and I did 1 pump.
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
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Tell your OH if he wants to breastfeed to knock himself out, oh wait his nipples are useless! If you want to stop or reduce then it’s up to you, not him! It’s literally the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
 
Everycloud said:
So glad to read other comments RE: breastfeeding struggles. I’ve been really struggling with it since the hospital. First it was her latch, then I found if I used a pump to pull my nipple out she could latch on so thought great. But then she started this cluster feeding and it’s been killing me both mentally and physically. She is having 5-9 minute feeds then pulling away, sleeping and then wanting more again 10-20 mins later and this carries on for hours. I have been dreading nighttime’s because of this, she won’t settle till she’s full but won’t drink in one go.

I had to sleep the other evening so my oh gave her some formula in a bottle and it gave us a few solid hours of rest. I’ve been expressing since about day 5 because my breasts were so full and hard and we’ve been bottle feeding her this on a nighttime.
Last night was a much better night than previous she woke twice and had a bottle of expressed each time and I did 1 pump.
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
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I struggled too, really wanted to combi feed and her latch was great but I just wasn't producing anything. I had a section 2 weeks early and after they spent 50 mins trying to pump colostrum and couldn't get anything. Bought a pump to try and help my supply and after 3 weeks and being very close to a mental breakdown I gave up. She's doing just fine even though I thought id failed her
 
Everycloud said:
So glad to read other comments RE: breastfeeding struggles. I’ve been really struggling with it since the hospital. First it was her latch, then I found if I used a pump to pull my nipple out she could latch on so thought great. But then she started this cluster feeding and it’s been killing me both mentally and physically. She is having 5-9 minute feeds then pulling away, sleeping and then wanting more again 10-20 mins later and this carries on for hours. I have been dreading nighttime’s because of this, she won’t settle till she’s full but won’t drink in one go.

I had to sleep the other evening so my oh gave her some formula in a bottle and it gave us a few solid hours of rest. I’ve been expressing since about day 5 because my breasts were so full and hard and we’ve been bottle feeding her this on a nighttime.
Last night was a much better night than previous she woke twice and had a bottle of expressed each time and I did 1 pump.
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
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Tell your other half to do one. If they had to do it they definitely wouldn't. It's incredibly draining and you definitely can feel touched out and you feel their dependent on you. Which is exhausting.

That being said feeding a baby at the start is very overwhelming no matter how you feed them ♥️
 
@Jellycat369 NUK space are good for avoiding dribble rash if he’ll take them.
Such a shame we can’t dm on here as I have loads baby won’t use. (Won’t take a dummy at all)

Everycloud said:
My oh is really up for breastfeeding because of the ‘benefits’ and I get it too, but if it was down to me I would have switched to bottles by now.
in saying that I have contacted the breastfeeding support lady for our area so I’ll see what she says, but I can’t continue with this cluster feeding. It’s making me miss all the love and cuteness about her and I only think oh god she needs another feed soon here comes the fight. 😕
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I breastfeed but I’m the worst advocate because I hate it in many ways 🙈 I don’t want to put anyone off but I also understand how hard it is so I’m saying this, not because I don’t believe in BF, I do.

Because of the ethical issues they can’t scientifically test breast vs bottle - You can’t do twin tests with babies if one is going to come off worse obviously so the BF data is skewed. The data is taken after the fact without strict controls. We know it’s great, we know a lot about what it has in and why that’s good but there’s also a lot that gets touted that could be coincidental.
We know breastfeeding is more prevalent in higher socioeconomic groups. We also know obesity in later life is less common with bf babies. But can we conclusively say those non obese kids are so because they were bf or because of their background. Richer, more educated people are less likely to be obese anyway, better diet, better health care, access to gyms etc etc. even drilling the data down doesn’t account for all factors.
We can’t say for sure with many claimed benefits because it’s not controlled testing and doesn’t all consider outside factors, genetics, ethnicity, duration of bf, centile baby started out on, parental factors, requires self reporting and so on and so on.

I felt very under pressure because of all the claimed benefits but it’s important to understand what’s data correlation and what’s fact.
IMO it is “down to you”, he can have an opinion but no more than that. Ask your husband understands the genuine benefits and the hypothesised ones and if he’s looked at the evidence regarding maternal mental health and the impact on baby, the impact of bf on maternal MH and so forth. It all has to be taken into account and may give him a clearer understanding if he’s adding to the guilt/pressure.
 
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Thanks @littlepup. I think we have a Nuk one we can road test, see if he likes it before purchasing.

It's so annoying because he doesn't really have a dummy. He'll have it to drift off to sleep but then spits it out. He's only had it more recently because he's been poorly and because he's poorly he's all dribbly and snotty which has caused the horrible rash. Poor little dude can't catch a break.
 
Question: how do people manage to get to baby classes when they always fall slap bang in feeding or nap time? I don't want to wake her to get out the door because it seems so horrible to do.
 
Hashtagnotspon said:
Question: how do people manage to get to baby classes when they always fall slap bang in feeding or nap time? I don't want to wake her to get out the door because it seems so horrible to do.
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Im going to sound awful but that's life sometimes youve to be woken up 🤭 I'm not overly strict with nap times /routines etc so just went away with the classes and woke him , when he was very young he'd fall asleep in class .babies are very resilient they will be fine if they get woken up early
 
Hashtagnotspon said:
Question: how do people manage to get to baby classes when they always fall slap bang in feeding or nap time? I don't want to wake her to get out the door because it seems so horrible to do.
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I would just feed in the class. I found there were lots of babies on the boob or drinking bottles at classes.

And I’d just wake them unless they had a particularly awful night. They’ll probably go back to sleep in the car or pram on the way there if they’re really young and if not they’ll sleep afterwards.
 
Hashtagnotspon said:
Question: how do people manage to get to baby classes when they always fall slap bang in feeding or nap time? I don't want to wake her to get out the door because it seems so horrible to do.
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If Baby Parsley is due a nap around the time of a baby group then I try to leave way earlier than I need to so I can try and get him to have even a little snooze on the way (that said I don’t have a car so all our classes are walking distance which makes it easier to do).
 
jolly_parsley said:
If Baby Parsley is due a nap around the time of a baby group then I try to leave way earlier than I need to so I can try and get him to have even a little snooze on the way (that said I don’t have a car so all our classes are walking distance which makes it easier to do).
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I do the same, leave earlier than I need to, then wait in the car park of wherever the class is whilst he sleeps.
 
If you’re looking for a cheap photoshoot max spielman is so good! We just had ours done today, got a free print with the newborn photoshoot vouchers and got about 10 prints (one is massive 20x30) for only £75! So much cheaper than the newborn shoots that cost £600 per package. And they’ve got Christmas backdrops
 
I just feel like an awful parent.. my nearly 2 year old is feral she won’t walk with me she wants to run and be free she won’t sit in the pram she climbs everything she’s ate half my Christmas tree… please tell me this gets easier
 
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