New baby and post birth advice #60

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can anyone help baby had 8 week jabs 3 days ago she spiked a temp about 6 hours later, gave the 3 Calpol doses and a 4th as temp Was still high, but with the forth one ( temp was 38.3) she threw up badly while giving the Calpol, but she was very sleepy, slept but still ate, next day temp was nearly enough to give Calpol again but didnt and fast forwards, she now isn't eating,, shes ebf and just doesn't want to eat, shes been sleeping better than normal but when she wakes she doesn't eat for longer than 1 minute, shes having wet nappies still she last ate now at 4 am and hasn't want it since
I speak to the hv today I'll ask then but is this normal? I keep offering but now shes fallen back to sleep and will probably sleep for 3 hours and just worried shes not eating enough because will be going on like 7 hours no eating

im not blaming the heat as we've been in my bedrooms nd I have aircon so its not that its very cool in here
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I also did end up getting an out of hours gp app at the hospital with that temp of 38 they wasn't very helpful as they said well shes alert so shes fine but she was eating then art least

 

[manpyj89]

can anyone help baby had 8 week jabs 3 days ago she spiked a temp about 6 hours later, gave the 3 Calpol doses and a 4th as temp Was still high, but with the forth one ( temp was 38.3) she threw up badly while giving the Calpol, but she was very sleepy, slept but still ate, next day temp was nearly enough to give Calpol again but didnt and fast forwards, she now isn't eating,, shes ebf and just doesn't want to eat, shes been sleeping better than normal but when she wakes she doesn't eat for longer than 1 minute, shes having wet nappies still she last ate now at 4 am and hasn't want it since
I speak to the hv today I'll ask then but is this normal? I keep offering but now shes fallen back to sleep and will probably sleep for 3 hours and just worried shes not eating enough because will be going on like 7 hours no eating

im not blaming the heat as we've been in my bedrooms nd I have aircon so its not that its very cool in here
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I also did end up getting an out of hours gp app at the hospital with that temp of 38 they wasn't very helpful as they said well shes alert so shes fine but she was eating then art least

no advice sorry but hope the HV was able to help today and that baby is back eating today x

 

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Thank you, she did thank god, still pretty sleepy but eating abit better but she’ll only breastfeed if I’m standing up and swaying side to side x
Health visitor just said it’s all normal as usual like they do with everything

 

[opintionatedperson]

Thank you, she did thank god, still pretty sleepy but eating abit better but she’ll only breastfeed if I’m standing up and swaying side to side x
Health visitor just said it’s all normal as usual like they do with everything

If there is wet and dirty nappies they never seem to be too bothered.
Hopefully your baby will be feeling better soon

 

[Burrito88]

Thank you, she did thank god, still pretty sleepy but eating abit better but she’ll only breastfeed if I’m standing up and swaying side to side x
Health visitor just said it’s all normal as usual like they do with everything

Being tired and loss of appetite can be side effects of the vaccinations. If she’s sick again or you’re worried don’t hesitate to call 111 for advice

 

[anything at all]

Has anyone ever taken a 3 or 4 month old to a wedding? One that involved travel and overnight stays too?

My brother is getting married next year, they’re hoping to book something for June or July I think. I’m due no.2 late feb/early March and the thought of taking a 3 or 4 month old + a 2 year old to a wedding sounds not fun

It would also be a 4 or 5 hour journey away (and even longer with added stops for little ones) and then I guess we would want a 2 night stay when we get there.

I feel a bit bad because I think there really isn’t many from our family going and my parents seem to think we should/could do it but it just sounds a bit of a stupid idea to us?

I’m not wrong in thinking it’s a stupid idea am I?
I’d probably look large and unattractive in everything at that point still

 

[Hotel_breakfast]

Has anyone ever taken a 3 or 4 month old to a wedding? One that involved travel and overnight stays too?

My brother is getting married next year, they’re hoping to book something for June or July I think. I’m due no.2 late feb/early March and the thought of taking a 3 or 4 month old + a 2 year old to a wedding sounds not fun

It would also be a 4 or 5 hour journey away (and even longer with added stops for little ones) and then I guess we would want a 2 night stay when we get there.

I feel a bit bad because I think there really isn’t many from our family going and my parents seem to think we should/could do it but it just sounds a bit of a stupid idea to us?

I’m not wrong in thinking it’s a stupid idea am I?
I’d probably look large and unattractive in everything at that point still

Tbh it's probably the 2 year old that would be the harder work I went to my cousins wedding at 6 weeks pp with my eldest, I didn't feel my best and he even asked me to do a reading but I'm glad I went as there are lovely photos of my eldest with her great nana who's now passed away. We didn't stay overnight but we stayed until about 10, it was fine cos baby had no routine. It might be trickier with a 2yr old. Could your partner take the kids back to the hotel room at bedtime so you can stay with family? It might be a nice night off for you! We went to my other cousin's wedding when my eldest was 3 and she wanted to go to bed early so her dad took her to bed while I stayed for the dancing, handily the wedding was in a hotel where we were staying.

I would say it would be hard work but you might regret it if you don't, these special days can be hard with kids and breaking their routine but it's worth it I think, your brother will only get married once (probably )

 

[Chewycinema]

Has anyone ever taken a 3 or 4 month old to a wedding? One that involved travel and overnight stays too?

My brother is getting married next year, they’re hoping to book something for June or July I think. I’m due no.2 late feb/early March and the thought of taking a 3 or 4 month old + a 2 year old to a wedding sounds not fun

It would also be a 4 or 5 hour journey away (and even longer with added stops for little ones) and then I guess we would want a 2 night stay when we get there.

I feel a bit bad because I think there really isn’t many from our family going and my parents seem to think we should/could do it but it just sounds a bit of a stupid idea to us?

I’m not wrong in thinking it’s a stupid idea am I?
I’d probably look large and unattractive in everything at that point still

I had both of mine at my wedding, you'll find because it's family you'll have people willing to help with both! Family will probably relish in the cuddles with the littlest and rhr two year old will get played with too - bonus points if there's other kids there! The thought of it is far more daunting! We had a family wedding while I was heavily pregnant with baby 2 and my eldest was a flower girl and apart from later on when she was overstimulated/high on sugar I didn't have a lot of parenting to do that day either

 

[opintionatedperson]

I hate vaccines. Poor fella is uncontrollably crying . Put on YouTube there to relax him and seems to be working

 

[Crones884]

I hate vaccines. Poor fella is uncontrollably crying . Put on YouTube there to relax him and seems to be working

Awh the crator hopefully a good nights sleep and lots of cuddles will help

 

[opintionatedperson]

Awh the crator hopefully a good nights sleep and lots of cuddles will help

He fell asleep holding my hand it's the cutest thing ever makes up for the hour of crying it's so hard on them

 

[Crones884]

He fell asleep holding my hand it's the cutest thing ever makes up for the hour of crying it's so hard on them

Oh stop thats adorable we are back in a month again im already allergic

 

[manpyj89]

Is everyone getting vaccines this week? We are the same. Gone off the bottles as a result I think although they jabs were nearly 6 days ago? And seems to be reverse cycling the feeds, will take feck all during the day but guzzling the feeds at nighttime. How annoying. Think I’ll have to reduce the bottles during the night and see if that encourages baby to take more during the day.

 

[opintionatedperson]

Oh stop thats adorable we are back in a month again im already allergic

At least we get a 6 month break after the 6m ones, not back until he's 1. It's just tough on them .

Is everyone getting vaccines this week? We are the same. Gone off the bottles as a result I think although they jabs were nearly 6 days ago? And seems to be reverse cycling the feeds, will take feck all during the day but guzzling the feeds at nighttime. How annoying. Think I’ll have to reduce the bottles during the night and see if that encourages baby to take more during the day.

Is there much distraction around during the day time whenyour baby is feeding. I know with my fella he is too busy looking around so I've to turn off the TV or go into the kitchen to get him to focus.

 

[jolly_parsley]

Has anyone else’s baby gone through a phase of not wanting to lie down (except when asleep that seems to be fine)? Baby Parsley is 4 months and suddenly gets grumpy about lying on his playmat. It’s not every time but it is several times a day and my back and arms are beginning to die because he’s heavy. Sometimes I can get away with putting him in his rocker for a bit but again not every time and I have to walk around the house with him for ages to calm him and get him happy but then if I put him back on his playmat again he starts crying.

I did try seeing if I could he was happy lying down in his DockATot but that made him cry too and even if I lie down with him on me like on the sofa he’s not happy. My arms and back need a break and I’m not confident using our Ergobaby carrier on my own which might help.

I thought he was just feeling clingy after his jabs but they were a week ago now and he’s perfectly happy the rest of the time.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

Has anyone else’s baby gone through a phase of not wanting to lie down (except when asleep that seems to be fine)? Baby Parsley is 4 months and suddenly gets grumpy about lying on his playmat. It’s not every time but it is several times a day and my back and arms are beginning to die because he’s heavy. Sometimes I can get away with putting him in his rocker for a bit but again not every time and I have to walk around the house with him for ages to calm him and get him happy but then if I put him back on his playmat again he starts crying.

I did try seeing if I could he was happy lying down in his DockATot but that made him cry too and even if I lie down with him on me like on the sofa he’s not happy. My arms and back need a break and I’m not confident using our Ergobaby carrier on my own which might help.

I thought he was just feeling clingy after his jabs but they were a week ago now and he’s perfectly happy the rest of the time.

Have a look on YouTube and Instagram for videos on how to put on the carrier without help. I had the same problem with the ergo at first, but I found some alternative ways to get us both into it, and it really helped.

 

[Greenfly125]

Has anyone else’s baby gone through a phase of not wanting to lie down (except when asleep that seems to be fine)? Baby Parsley is 4 months and suddenly gets grumpy about lying on his playmat. It’s not every time but it is several times a day and my back and arms are beginning to die because he’s heavy. Sometimes I can get away with putting him in his rocker for a bit but again not every time and I have to walk around the house with him for ages to calm him and get him happy but then if I put him back on his playmat again he starts crying.

I did try seeing if I could he was happy lying down in his DockATot but that made him cry too and even if I lie down with him on me like on the sofa he’s not happy. My arms and back need a break and I’m not confident using our Ergobaby carrier on my own which might help.

I thought he was just feeling clingy after his jabs but they were a week ago now and he’s perfectly happy the rest of the time.

Yep! LO is 4 months and won’t be laid down much any longer. He wants to be sitting up or looking over my shoulder to see what’s going on. Definitely had a hard few days when nothing got done!

 

[manpyj89]

Is there much distraction around during the day time whenyour baby is feeding. I know with my fella he is too busy looking around so I've to turn off the TV or go into the kitchen to get him to focus.

have tried everything. Pitch black quiet room. Dimmed lights and lullabies. Have also tried the opposite, distract with a toy above his head while in his bouncer. This last one worked once. I’m so sick of every feed being a fight.

 

[Lechat]

Baby chat is 16 weeks and every feed has been a fight for the past few days. I get stressed by it as I worry he’s not getting enough milk I’ve tried feeding him in different locations round the house, keeping noise to a minimum, gently singing to him etc.
I’ve been reading about the 4 month leap / sleep regression from the wonder weeks app so think it’s linked to that. But still, doesn’t make it any easier

 

[manpyj89]

Baby chat is 16 weeks and every feed has been a fight for the past few days. I get stressed by it as I worry he’s not getting enough milk I’ve tried feeding him in different locations round the house, keeping noise to a minimum, gently singing to him etc.
I’ve been reading about the 4 month leap / sleep regression from the wonder weeks app so think it’s linked to that. But still, doesn’t make it any easier

17 weeks here and this feeding problems started a few weeks ago too. I had read that the leap stuff improves once baby learns to roll over. Managed to start rolling this week, no improvement in sleep or feeding