New baby and post birth advice #60

[Crones884]

Love playing the fun game of has my baby’s sleep gone to shit because of teething, wind, the four month regression or mercury being in retrograde.

I feel like it just gets worse and worse. He was inconsolable last night for a good two hours. I think under his gum from the front I can see teeth maybe. But who knows?!

I was going through my WhatsApps and I sent a message to a friend at the middle of June saying his sleep was going downhill. It’s been relentless and I’m so tired.

I think we've mentioned before that baby Lava and Baby C are quite similar in age and just something ive noticed that has made a big difference in the last 2 weeks was moving her into the bigger cot. We are now getting naps of an hour plus and bigger stretches at night cause she can move around and get comfortable. Now shes still waking twice a night but I dont know if this might help?

 

[jolly_parsley]

Baby Parsley has discovered rolling onto his side in the last week and oh my god I could watch him do it all day it’s the cutest thing when he lifts his little chonky legs and then rolls it’s just adorable. Today I was lying next to him on his playmat and he rolled towards me and held one of my fingers and was just smiling at me. I died and forgave him for starting our day at 5am because he’s just so gorgeous

 

[wishiniwasskinny]

Anyone else reading this and wondering where the rest of the one and done club is

Hi one and done over here !

 

[LavaFlake]

I think we've mentioned before that baby Lava and Baby C are quite similar in age and just something ive noticed that has made a big difference in the last 2 weeks was moving her into the bigger cot. We are now getting naps of an hour plus and bigger stretches at night cause she can move around and get comfortable. Now shes still waking twice a night but I dont know if this might help?

We’ve been thinking about this too! His cots ready to go and he does try and roll in his crib and keeps hitting the side. He does nap in the cot already but not overnight. We were holding out til 6 months which is in 3 weeks but tbh we might need to try it earlier as it’s getting ridiculous. It’s too late for tonight but tomorrow potentially.

Every bit of sleep where I thought “at least this bit isn’t that bad” is slowly going to shit. His bedtimes are now taking hours in the latest thing that’s going wrong. I’ve just spent an hour and a half and Mr Lava is now trying. He’s such a sweet and lovely baba in the day too

 

[Crones884]

We’ve been thinking about this too! His cots ready to go and he does try and roll in his crib and keeps hitting the side. He does nap in the cot already but not overnight. We were holding out til 6 months which is in 3 weeks but tbh we might need to try it earlier as it’s getting ridiculous. It’s too late for tonight but tomorrow potentially.

Every bit of sleep where I thought “at least this bit isn’t that bad” is slowly going to shit. His bedtimes are now taking hours in the latest thing that’s going wrong. I’ve just spent an hour and a half and Mr Lava is now trying. He’s such a sweet and lovely baba in the day too

We still have the big cot in our room im not going to move her out another while but like that she kept hitting the sides and now shes a belly sleeper

 

[Fearne]

Hi one and done over here !

Welcome to the club.

 

[justonemorepage]

My baby was sleeping so well but now a few teeth have erupted and she's struggling so much. Been up every half hour with her. And I'm back in work. The joys.

 

[LavaFlake]

We still have the big cot in our room im not going to move her out another while but like that she kept hitting the sides and now shes a belly sleeper

we can’t get it out of the nursery without dismantling it Stupidly put it up when he was sleeping well lol. We’re thinking to try it tonight as last night was the pits and it can’t get much worse surely?! And I might sleep on the floor ha.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Oh god, we're inching closer and closer to the edge of the poll

 

[opintionatedperson]

I've an uppa baby vista travel system ... I love going for walks especially now the weather is getting cooler , I love autumn it's my favorite time of year. Anyway I'm wondering if a footmuff worth buying , it's basically a sleeping bag for the stroller. Have ye one and do ye use it ? It's around 120€ so I'm probably being a bit miserable but I'm on unpaid leave at the moment and don't want to buy anything I won't use. I hate buying for the sake of it

 

[Chewycinema]

I've an uppa baby vista travel system ... I love going for walks especially now the weather is getting cooler , I love autumn it's my favorite time of year. Anyway I'm wondering if a footmuff worth buying , it's basically a sleeping bag for the stroller. Have ye one and do ye use it ? It's around 120€ so I'm probably being a bit miserable but I'm on unpaid leave at the moment and don't want to buy anything I won't use. I hate buying for the sake of it

My footmuff came as part of the package with my oyster and personally I do use it in colder weather, but I'm not sure I'd have bothered if it didn't come with it. If I'm using my other buggy that doesn't have one I just use a blanket

 

[shhh1712]

I've an uppa baby vista travel system ... I love going for walks especially now the weather is getting cooler , I love autumn it's my favorite time of year. Anyway I'm wondering if a footmuff worth buying , it's basically a sleeping bag for the stroller. Have ye one and do ye use it ? It's around 120€ so I'm probably being a bit miserable but I'm on unpaid leave at the moment and don't want to buy anything I won't use. I hate buying for the sake of it

I have a nuna mix next and I brought a foot muff from Sainsbury’s which was £15, it’s so thick and fluffy. Nuna have since brought one out but it’s £100! You can get other non branded ones in John Lewis, and probably other retailers like boots or even Amazon if you didn’t want to spend that much.

 

[Hashtagnotspon]

I've an uppa baby vista travel system ... I love going for walks especially now the weather is getting cooler , I love autumn it's my favorite time of year. Anyway I'm wondering if a footmuff worth buying , it's basically a sleeping bag for the stroller. Have ye one and do ye use it ? It's around 120€ so I'm probably being a bit miserable but I'm on unpaid leave at the moment and don't want to buy anything I won't use. I hate buying for the sake of it

Plus there's always the likes of vinted. There's always pram accessories for sale on there. Definitely no need to spend that amount of money if you don't want to.

 

[opintionatedperson]

Plus there's always the likes of vinted. There's always pram accessories for sale on there. Definitely no need to spend that amount of money if you don't want to.

We don't have vinted here but we have fb marketplace and other websites but they're full of bots and scams. I haven't seen it on sale anyway the last couple of weeks. The moment I buy one I know it will crop up.

 

[Crones884]

I've an uppa baby vista travel system ... I love going for walks especially now the weather is getting cooler , I love autumn it's my favorite time of year. Anyway I'm wondering if a footmuff worth buying , it's basically a sleeping bag for the stroller. Have ye one and do ye use it ? It's around 120€ so I'm probably being a bit miserable but I'm on unpaid leave at the moment and don't want to buy anything I won't use. I hate buying for the sake of it

Have you tried amazon? They might have a universal one for cheaper that you could try? I got one with my buggy but haven't had the need to use it yet but im also a big fan of the full quilted pramsuits I think they look so cute on the baby too

 

[opintionatedperson]

Have you tried amazon? They might have a universal one for cheaper that you could try? I got one with my buggy but haven't had the need to use it yet but im also a big fan of the full quilted pramsuits I think they look so cute on the baby too

I'll try Amazon and look around for a universal one. Didn't even think to check there
I had a pram suit when he was a newborn but now I see everyone else with footmuffs in our estate (we all seem to have vistas) and I know soon he will be kicking off the blankets. He's like his dad runs really warm whereas I'd be happy out in the sleep suit haha

 

[Crones884]

I'll try Amazon and look around for a universal one. Didn't even think to check there
I had a pram suit when he was a newborn but now I see everyone else with footmuffs in our estate (we all seem to have vistas) and I know soon he will be kicking off the blankets. He's like his dad runs really warm whereas I'd be happy out in the sleep suit haha

I have the icandy so we just got the full package together but amazon or maybe smyths might have one too

 

[cotdotton]

Has anyone as a first time mother experienced patronising/know it all comments from family members?
I’m beginning to get really annoyed with a close family member (SIL) and her comments. To give a bit of background she would have worked with children in the past and is one of these people that is never wrong and is an “expert” on every topic.
There have been a few incidences since my baby has been born where she has given disapproving looks at the most mundane of things- when my baby was having their nappy changed in the first couple of weeks they didn’t like it as is the case with most baby’s and everytime she was in the house with a nappy change she was beside me giving that look somewhere between flinching and disapproval.
She has since made comments and given unsolicited opinions on a range of different things (the rock-it we had borrowed to try out would give my baby feeding issues) (they needed to learn to soothe themselves as when they start crèche they won’t be helped to drop off to sleep).
If I meet her for a walk she starts saying to my baby oh you’re freezing with the cold and re-wrapping his blanket. We constantly have extra layers in the buggy should he need them and are more than capable of checking if he is too hot/cold.
I’m just sick of it to be honest as I feel it’s constant judgement. If he starts to whinge it’s oh you have a pain. Our local health centre is walking distance from our house and she saw me leaving the centre one day as she was passing and was straight on the phone wondering if everything was ok and baby’s have lots of little things that need to be checked out and not to worry if there was something wrong. He was just in for a routine check with the nurse but she didn’t seem to believe me when I said it.

I don’t want to fall out with her but these constant patronising/know it all comments are beginning to really annoy me and after meeting up with her I come home feeling really down. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could say in reply as I’m never quick to think on the spot when it happens.

 

[jolly_parsley]

Has anyone as a first time mother experienced patronising/know it all comments from family members?
I’m beginning to get really annoyed with a close family member (SIL) and her comments. To give a bit of background she would have worked with children in the past and is one of these people that is never wrong and is an “expert” on every topic.
There have been a few incidences since my baby has been born where she has given disapproving looks at the most mundane of things- when my baby was having their nappy changed in the first couple of weeks they didn’t like it as is the case with most baby’s and everytime she was in the house with a nappy change she was beside me giving that look somewhere between flinching and disapproval.
She has since made comments and given unsolicited opinions on a range of different things (the rock-it we had borrowed to try out would give my baby feeding issues) (they needed to learn to soothe themselves as when they start crèche they won’t be helped to drop off to sleep).
If I meet her for a walk she starts saying to my baby oh you’re freezing with the cold and re-wrapping his blanket. We constantly have extra layers in the buggy should he need them and are more than capable of checking if he is too hot/cold.
I’m just sick of it to be honest as I feel it’s constant judgement. If he starts to whinge it’s oh you have a pain. Our local health centre is walking distance from our house and she saw me leaving the centre one day as she was passing and was straight on the phone wondering if everything was ok and baby’s have lots of little things that need to be checked out and not to worry if there was something wrong. He was just in for a routine check with the nurse but she didn’t seem to believe me when I said it.

I don’t want to fall out with her but these constant patronising/know it all comments are beginning to really annoy me and after meeting up with her I come home feeling really down. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could say in reply as I’m never quick to think on the spot when it happens.

Oh she sounds so annoying! I would be wanting to punch her at this point if I were you!

Is she your husband’s sister because then you could maybe ask him to have a word with her and say that while you appreciate how much she seems to care about your baby, you’ll ask if you want her advice/input/help? She might take it more seriously coming from him. If she keeps going maybe see if you can limit how much time you spend with her and make sure she knows it’s because she’s annoying and overbearing (maybe don’t use those words lol)

My SIL (sibling’s partner) is similar and gave me grief because I dared to have venison once during my pregnancy (she has no children so obviously thinks she will be 100% perfect when her and my sibling get to that point of having kids). No one really stands up to her when she gets arse-y so I’ve had to do it a few times, one time I went a bit overboard and it resulted in us not speaking for a month but she got the message that I wouldn’t be a pushover anymore. If she turns into a dickhead over text I ignore her for a bit and then start a whole new conversation about something else a bit later because I cba.

Sometimes you have to be a little bit of a dickhead and it’s hard because you just want to be nice and polite but they’re the ones being rude first so justified in being a bit rude back in my opinion!

 

[Crones884]

Has anyone as a first time mother experienced patronising/know it all comments from family members?
I’m beginning to get really annoyed with a close family member (SIL) and her comments. To give a bit of background she would have worked with children in the past and is one of these people that is never wrong and is an “expert” on every topic.
There have been a few incidences since my baby has been born where she has given disapproving looks at the most mundane of things- when my baby was having their nappy changed in the first couple of weeks they didn’t like it as is the case with most baby’s and everytime she was in the house with a nappy change she was beside me giving that look somewhere between flinching and disapproval.
She has since made comments and given unsolicited opinions on a range of different things (the rock-it we had borrowed to try out would give my baby feeding issues) (they needed to learn to soothe themselves as when they start crèche they won’t be helped to drop off to sleep).
If I meet her for a walk she starts saying to my baby oh you’re freezing with the cold and re-wrapping his blanket. We constantly have extra layers in the buggy should he need them and are more than capable of checking if he is too hot/cold.
I’m just sick of it to be honest as I feel it’s constant judgement. If he starts to whinge it’s oh you have a pain. Our local health centre is walking distance from our house and she saw me leaving the centre one day as she was passing and was straight on the phone wondering if everything was ok and baby’s have lots of little things that need to be checked out and not to worry if there was something wrong. He was just in for a routine check with the nurse but she didn’t seem to believe me when I said it.

I don’t want to fall out with her but these constant patronising/know it all comments are beginning to really annoy me and after meeting up with her I come home feeling really down. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could say in reply as I’m never quick to think on the spot when it happens.

My MIL and SIL can be a bit like this lol. Anytime the baby even gives a whinge - oh you're tired/hungry/cold/nappy/insert comment here and I always make sure that its none of these before I visit unless its nappy lol that one i cant unfortunately see the future on. My MIL had the baby one day and when i came back i asked how did her feeds go and she had just given baby Crones an ounce here and there when she wouldnt finish the whole feed at feed time and then baby was essentially snacking all day and then gave me back all the bottles unwashed