Made in Chelsea #8

Weirdest MIC crush?

  • Spencer

    Votes: 29 9.5%

  • Jamie

    Votes: 51 16.7%

  • Julius

    Votes: 5 1.6%

  • Sam P

    Votes: 28 9.2%

  • Sam T

    Votes: 37 12.1%

  • Alik

    Votes: 50 16.4%

  • Ryan

    Votes: 7 2.3%

  • Reza

    Votes: 11 3.6%

  • Mark-Francis

    Votes: 12 3.9%

  • Tristan

    Votes: 54 17.7%

  • Others (please specify in your posts!)

    Votes: 21 6.9%
  • Total voters
    305
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Brigitjonesbuttcheek said:
I just watched the baby episode. It was lovely seeing how many people care for maeva and the baby, how attentive and interested James is. It's really unfair to say he's shit for going skiing. One week away after how there he was for her isn't a big deal.

Believe me, men can get much, much shitter.
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I agree. And I also think it would've been planned. I mean Maeva is incredibly feisty and independent. If she didn't want him to go, he wouldn't go at all. I also think it's a bit harsh to judge her for Beau going to the MIL, she seems a very hands on mum and has said they won't get a nanny and have James' mum for support. She obviously has her reasons for sending Beau there and maybe is feeling very anxious about passing covid onto him and him getting ill. She was 2 weeks overdue so ski trip could've been booked months ago. I also saw on James story him in a car today with their dog so it doesn't look like he's actually skiing 🤷‍♀️ but I didn't see his stories yesterday. Anyway, whatever the situation, they have their reasons and I don't think she should be 'mum shamed' or judged for them, it isn't the end of the world and Beau will be very much loved and cared for by his grandmother I'm sure
 
Of course men can be much shitter. Doesn’t really excuse his choices though, and we are all on tattle judging various influencers/celebs behaviour so not sure why these two should be exempt because they came across well in front of the cameras for one epsiode?

But tbh regardless of how I felt about being left on my own with a baby (and I say this as someone who had a baby entirely solo so know it’s possible to cope alone) it’s a bit of a red flag to me that my newborn’s dad would choose to go away on holiday when his baby is just a few weeks old. Why would any new parent choose to be separated from their newborn? Never mind which of the adults involved are ok with it, what about the actual baby and his needs?

They don’t need a nanny because they clearly have a grandparent to dump the baby on at just four weeks old. Not a good start for poor Beau!

ETA if it turns out he’s not actually on holiday I’ll take back what I said but I’m not sure why he would post a pic on a ski lift and why Maeva didn’t mention anything about James today if he wasn’t away.
 
Tofino said:
Of course men can be much shitter. Doesn’t really excuse his choices though, and we are all on tattle judging various influencers/celebs behaviour so not sure why these two should be exempt because they came across well in front of the cameras for one epsiode?

But tbh regardless of how I felt about being left on my own with a baby (and I say this as someone who had a baby entirely solo so know it’s possible to cope alone) it’s a bit of a red flag to me that my newborn’s dad would choose to go away on holiday when his baby is just a few weeks old. Why would any new parent choose to be separated from their newborn? Never mind which of the adults involved are ok with it, what about the actual baby and his needs?

They don’t need a nanny because they clearly have a grandparent to dump the baby on at just four weeks old. Not a good start for poor Beau!

ETA if it turns out he’s not actually on holiday I’ll take back what I said but I’m not sure why he would post a pic on a ski lift and why Maeva didn’t mention anything about James today if he wasn’t away.
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Come on, red flag is a bit extreme. My dad went skiing when my mum was 8 months. My husband carried on working 300 miles away when I was overdue. I had three kids and my husband only stayed for the main event. Not there before and not there after.

Not a big deal. There isn't a rule of life of how people should behave. As long as their partner doesn't care what does it matter.

And my dad was the best dad you could have, even though he was at times absent.

Plus skiing always comes first doesn't it? I'd sack of my baby for some good powder if I could.
 
Tofino said:
Of course men can be much shitter. Doesn’t really excuse his choices though, and we are all on tattle judging various influencers/celebs behaviour so not sure why these two should be exempt because they came across well in front of the cameras for one epsiode?

But tbh regardless of how I felt about being left on my own with a baby (and I say this as someone who had a baby entirely solo so know it’s possible to cope alone) it’s a bit of a red flag to me that my newborn’s dad would choose to go away on holiday when his baby is just a few weeks old. Why would any new parent choose to be separated from their newborn? Never mind which of the adults involved are ok with it, what about the actual baby and his needs?

They don’t need a nanny because they clearly have a grandparent to dump the baby on at just four weeks old. Not a good start for poor Beau!

ETA if it turns out he’s not actually on holiday I’ll take back what I said but I’m not sure why he would post a pic on a ski lift and why Maeva didn’t mention anything about James today if he wasn’t away.
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I've just listened to her story again, she clearly isn't 'dumping' Beau. She said she felt it was safer for him, she could have medical anxiety or anything so I don't think we should be jumping on her for her choices. I get why she's done that. My partner had covid when our baby was 6 months old back in 2021 and he was banished to a bedroom until he tested negative. We were all worried and some people still are. I get we are on tattle talking about celebs behaviour but it doesn't always need to be seen to be negative. I get why Maeva has done it and you can clearly see she is trying her best.

I think its neither here nor there where James is, they have their little set up and are happy with it. He's a business man so what if he had to go away for business for weeks? My BIL is army and was only released for the birth of my nephew and then was gone again. Red flag it is not.
 
Brigitjonesbuttcheek said:
Come on, red flag is a bit extreme. My dad went skiing when my mum was 8 months. My husband carried on working 300 miles away when I was overdue. I had three kids and my husband only stayed for the main event. Not there before and not there after.

Not a big deal. There isn't a rule of life of how people should behave. As long as their partner doesn't care what does it matter.

And my dad was the best dad you could have, even though he was at times absent.

Plus skiing always comes first doesn't it? I'd sack of my baby for some good powder if I could.
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Good for you. Not the life I would want but it explains why you have no issue with their behaviour though. I have different experiences and dislike their behaviour towards their 4 week old baby. And yes it would be a red flag if my baby’s father chose to go on holiday when my baby was just a few weeks old.
 
It's hardly a big, red flag. For all we know the holiday had been booked on the assumption that baby would be born on time, and a natural vaginal birth. When he came late and by c-section maybe James and Maeve discussed it and agreed he should go and his mum would stay over and help her. She then got covid so decided for safety reasons and to put her mind at rest that James's mum would take Beau and stay at hers. Let's be honest, Maeve isn't backwards at coming forwards, if she had an issue with James going then she'd have said lol
 
I’m not getting into any more back and forth replying to people as the thread will just become an argument. Will just have to agree to disagree because the only thing I would take back is if I’ve interpreted James stories wrong and he’s not actually on holiday.

But otherwise I do think they’ve both dumped their baby like we see many influencers do. I think covid is just an excuse 3 years down the line, and this is just the start to him regularly being dumped. Calling it now. James was never ready and Maeva didn’t realise how hard it would be.
 
G+T said:
Sorry just to say Ruby's new bfs mother was a pyscho on big brother!!! Couldn't stand her!
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What is she called? Wonder if I watched her series....

( I've tried going back to the other comments on here where it was all discussed but can't find her name)
 
Tofino said:
Of course men can be much shitter. Doesn’t really excuse his choices though, and we are all on tattle judging various influencers/celebs behaviour so not sure why these two should be exempt because they came across well in front of the cameras for one epsiode?

But tbh regardless of how I felt about being left on my own with a baby (and I say this as someone who had a baby entirely solo so know it’s possible to cope alone) it’s a bit of a red flag to me that my newborn’s dad would choose to go away on holiday when his baby is just a few weeks old. Why would any new parent choose to be separated from their newborn? Never mind which of the adults involved are ok with it, what about the actual baby and his needs?

They don’t need a nanny because they clearly have a grandparent to dump the baby on at just four weeks old. Not a good start for poor Beau!

ETA if it turns out he’s not actually on holiday I’ll take back what I said but I’m not sure why he would post a pic on a ski lift and why Maeva didn’t mention anything about James today if he wasn’t away.
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I also had my first baby completely solo and at the age of 21 while her father was gallivanting the world (still is, 6 years on!) And it doesn't bother me much that James has gone skiing because my viewpoint is that men just make it bloody harder and its better to do everything on my own 🤣🤣🤣🤣
 
Tofino said:
Good for you. Not the life I would want but it explains why you have no issue with their behaviour though. I have different experiences and dislike their behaviour towards their 4 week old baby. And yes it would be a red flag if my baby’s father chose to go on holiday when my baby was just a few weeks old.
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My baby's father went away overnight for the first time at... 9 months. Baby should absolutely not be palmed off to MIL at 4 weeks because daddy is off on his jollies. Absolutely ridiculous. I think reading this has ruined whatever goodwill came from watching Bonjour Baby for me.
 
Alexaj said:
My baby's father went away overnight for the first time at... 9 months. Baby should absolutely not be palmed off to MIL at 4 weeks because daddy is off on his jollies. Absolutely ridiculous. I think reading this has ruined whatever goodwill came from watching Bonjour Baby for me.
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James did a post today, he doesn't look like he's on holiday but again, disagree. Surely it's down to individual preference?!
 
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