For anybody struggling ❤

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Elliesmum13 said:
I might be the only one to actually be jealous of NOT HER but what she has! Have no one! No family, not any good friends. I do have an amazing daughter though. I’m so sick of her and her bullshit attempts at feeling sorry for herself. It’s Christmas and I have nothing/not one thing! No one to ask for help, no one to go to. I do have have family, really wealthy family actually. But they cut me off years ago for telling my truth about my step father, but they chose to believe him and stay in the money loop. My sibling lives in a massive 5 bed house, drives beautiful cars and goes on 4-5 holidays every year. I was left (I walked away really) with my kid and now live in a tiny wee flat that I hate, I never leave the place. I haven’t had a holiday in over 6 years only been 2 holidays my whole life 45 years. I couldn’t even afford an advent calander this year. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been EVER, I’m only here because of my kid and that’s because without me she has no one. A has her mum/dad/sis all there everyday. I would love to take my kid on holiday but there’s never enough money left. I have no idea how I’m gona do Xmas and the thought of another lonely day watching all these families is killing me. If the worst I had was some stranger on the Internet telling me to unalive myself then I’d think I was ok/pretty lucky. She never ever will think herself lucky in life, will always be the victim. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking why is life so hard. Yet this tool gets everything handed to her in life! Aimee just stop for one day and realise how lucky you are.
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@Elliesmum13 I can’t add anything to what everyone else has already said. You have more resilience in you than Aimless will ever have. You don’t have no-one, you have all of us, we are always here if you want a rant or anything, there will always be someone to listen. Massive hugs to you ❤️
Honestly, I wish all of us could have a WhatsApp chat or something!
 
Elliesmum13 said:
I might be the only one to actually be jealous of NOT HER but what she has! Have no one! No family, not any good friends. I do have an amazing daughter though. I’m so sick of her and her bullshit attempts at feeling sorry for herself. It’s Christmas and I have nothing/not one thing! No one to ask for help, no one to go to. I do have have family, really wealthy family actually. But they cut me off years ago for telling my truth about my step father, but they chose to believe him and stay in the money loop. My sibling lives in a massive 5 bed house, drives beautiful cars and goes on 4-5 holidays every year. I was left (I walked away really) with my kid and now live in a tiny wee flat that I hate, I never leave the place. I haven’t had a holiday in over 6 years only been 2 holidays my whole life 45 years. I couldn’t even afford an advent calander this year. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been EVER, I’m only here because of my kid and that’s because without me she has no one. A has her mum/dad/sis all there everyday. I would love to take my kid on holiday but there’s never enough money left. I have no idea how I’m gona do Xmas and the thought of another lonely day watching all these families is killing me. If the worst I had was some stranger on the Internet telling me to unalive myself then I’d think I was ok/pretty lucky. She never ever will think herself lucky in life, will always be the victim. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking why is life so hard. Yet this tool gets everything handed to her in life! Aimee just stop for one day and realise how lucky you are.
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Please can you give the Samaritans a call and they will be able to find help for you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Never feel like you’re alone. There is always someone who can help and we are all here to support you 💕💕
 
Elliesmum13 said:
I might be the only one to actually be jealous of NOT HER but what she has! Have no one! No family, not any good friends. I do have an amazing daughter though. I’m so sick of her and her bullshit attempts at feeling sorry for herself. It’s Christmas and I have nothing/not one thing! No one to ask for help, no one to go to. I do have have family, really wealthy family actually. But they cut me off years ago for telling my truth about my step father, but they chose to believe him and stay in the money loop. My sibling lives in a massive 5 bed house, drives beautiful cars and goes on 4-5 holidays every year. I was left (I walked away really) with my kid and now live in a tiny wee flat that I hate, I never leave the place. I haven’t had a holiday in over 6 years only been 2 holidays my whole life 45 years. I couldn’t even afford an advent calander this year. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been EVER, I’m only here because of my kid and that’s because without me she has no one. A has her mum/dad/sis all there everyday. I would love to take my kid on holiday but there’s never enough money left. I have no idea how I’m gona do Xmas and the thought of another lonely day watching all these families is killing me. If the worst I had was some stranger on the Internet telling me to unalive myself then I’d think I was ok/pretty lucky. She never ever will think herself lucky in life, will always be the victim. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking why is life so hard. Yet this tool gets everything handed to her in life! Aimee just stop for one day and realise how lucky you are.
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Please don't ever feel alone and that u have no one we are all here for u. And like everyone else I would also love to help u in anyway that I can I am also on my own with my son but I am lucky enough to have a great family around me but I know how lonely it can be at night etc when your own your own wish we could set up a wee private chat group somehow someone would always be there when anyone of us feel lonely and just want a chat ❤️ sending u a virtual hug 🤗
 
@Elliesmum13 I couldn’t read your post and skip past it. I am so sorry you’ve been through that. It’s time like this where I wish tattle wasn’t anonymous because I’m sure there’s probably one person in this thread who lives local or close to you that would reach out and help in a heartbeat. If there is anyway at all we can help please let us know! I wish I could give you a big hug ❤️
 
Elliesmum13 said:
I might be the only one to actually be jealous of NOT HER but what she has! Have no one! No family, not any good friends. I do have an amazing daughter though. I’m so sick of her and her bullshit attempts at feeling sorry for herself. It’s Christmas and I have nothing/not one thing! No one to ask for help, no one to go to. I do have have family, really wealthy family actually. But they cut me off years ago for telling my truth about my step father, but they chose to believe him and stay in the money loop. My sibling lives in a massive 5 bed house, drives beautiful cars and goes on 4-5 holidays every year. I was left (I walked away really) with my kid and now live in a tiny wee flat that I hate, I never leave the place. I haven’t had a holiday in over 6 years only been 2 holidays my whole life 45 years. I couldn’t even afford an advent calander this year. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been EVER, I’m only here because of my kid and that’s because without me she has no one. A has her mum/dad/sis all there everyday. I would love to take my kid on holiday but there’s never enough money left. I have no idea how I’m gona do Xmas and the thought of another lonely day watching all these families is killing me. If the worst I had was some stranger on the Internet telling me to unalive myself then I’d think I was ok/pretty lucky. She never ever will think herself lucky in life, will always be the victim. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking why is life so hard. Yet this tool gets everything handed to her in life! Aimee just stop for one day and realise how lucky you are.
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I can't add anything that the other twattlers haven't already said but just to agree that we are all here if you need to talk or vent. I would also love to get something for you and your daughter for Christmas. You sound like you deserve the world unlike other 'mums' we know of. Does anyone know of a way we can do this irl? I'm happy to forgo my tattle anonymity if it means I can help? Xx
 
smb said:
I can't add anything that the other twattlers haven't already said but just to agree that we are all here if you need to talk or vent. I would also love to get something for you and your daughter for Christmas. You sound like you deserve the world unlike other 'mums' we know of. Does anyone know of a way we can do this irl? I'm happy to forgo my tattle anonymity if it means I can help? Xx
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I used to have a tik tok account that made it obvious I was a twattler I didn't have any vids just used to comment on old DHB lives to show support without being blocked but I changed my phone & lost my access. I wish I could help too we are not horrible bridge dwellers we just call out the bullshit
 
Elliesmum13 said:
I might be the only one to actually be jealous of NOT HER but what she has! Have no one! No family, not any good friends. I do have an amazing daughter though. I’m so sick of her and her bullshit attempts at feeling sorry for herself. It’s Christmas and I have nothing/not one thing! No one to ask for help, no one to go to. I do have have family, really wealthy family actually. But they cut me off years ago for telling my truth about my step father, but they chose to believe him and stay in the money loop. My sibling lives in a massive 5 bed house, drives beautiful cars and goes on 4-5 holidays every year. I was left (I walked away really) with my kid and now live in a tiny wee flat that I hate, I never leave the place. I haven’t had a holiday in over 6 years only been 2 holidays my whole life 45 years. I couldn’t even afford an advent calander this year. My mental health is the worst it’s ever been EVER, I’m only here because of my kid and that’s because without me she has no one. A has her mum/dad/sis all there everyday. I would love to take my kid on holiday but there’s never enough money left. I have no idea how I’m gona do Xmas and the thought of another lonely day watching all these families is killing me. If the worst I had was some stranger on the Internet telling me to unalive myself then I’d think I was ok/pretty lucky. She never ever will think herself lucky in life, will always be the victim. I cry myself to sleep every night thinking why is life so hard. Yet this tool gets everything handed to her in life! Aimee just stop for one day and realise how lucky you are.
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Hugs to you .
I wish we weren't anonymous on here,I could have sent you some resources to help out .
Youre stronger thank you think ,and your daughter will see the strong ,capable caring mum that you are xxx
 
@Elliesmum13 reading your post hit hard lovely I was in your position 23 years ago alone with my daughter etc I want to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel and your never alone.
I cannot post in the TikTok section on tattle but I can tell you this for nothing you have more people looking out for you than a aimless has anyways listen to me harping on lol
Sending love and hugs to you and remember things move and never stay the same
 
Oh guys. I’ve bawled my eyes out at all your messages. Been so long since I’ve received any kindness and I’m so awful to myself daily that it been nice reading all your lovely replies. My daughter is 21 now but she’s still my baby, she’s away to Uni but home now. Just wish I could treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She’s honestly such a kind person. More than gifts I wish I could give her a big loving family I really do. I did ask my brother for a loan of £100 and when I tell you that is pocket change to him but so much to me. Anyway I was told no and to not ask again. Feel so bloody silly for asking but I was desperate. I did say it was to buy his niece some gifts but no reply. Him and the rest of them are spending Xmas/new year in Dubai in the famous hotel there. But as you can imagine it hurts because I done nothing wrong but tell the truth! Hey Ho tho. I do work guys but after all my bills I’m left with barely anything. But I have a home and a bed so I’m already so much better off than so many. I keep reminding myself of that. Again thank you all so much for the much needed kindness ❤️
 
Elliesmum13 said:
Oh guys. I’ve bawled my eyes out at all your messages. Been so long since I’ve received any kindness and I’m so awful to myself daily that it been nice reading all your lovely replies. My daughter is 21 now but she’s still my baby, she’s away to Uni but home now. Just wish I could treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She’s honestly such a kind person. More than gifts I wish I could give her a big loving family I really do. I did ask my brother for a loan of £100 and when I tell you that is pocket change to him but so much to me. Anyway I was told no and to not ask again. Feel so bloody silly for asking but I was desperate. I did say it was to buy his niece some gifts but no reply. Him and the rest of them are spending Xmas/new year in Dubai in the famous hotel there. But as you can imagine it hurts because I done nothing wrong but tell the truth! Hey Ho tho. I do work guys but after all my bills I’m left with barely anything. But I have a home and a bed so I’m already so much better off than so many. I keep reminding myself of that. Again thank you all so much for the much needed kindness ❤
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If you accidentally found me on tt I'd honestly love to help. I know it's hard to swallow your pride but we've all had hard times and needed a hand. It sounds like your daughter is amazing and you've done that all by yourself. It's hard not to judge but your brothers reaction is disgusting xx
 
Elliesmum13 said:
Oh guys. I’ve bawled my eyes out at all your messages. Been so long since I’ve received any kindness and I’m so awful to myself daily that it been nice reading all your lovely replies. My daughter is 21 now but she’s still my baby, she’s away to Uni but home now. Just wish I could treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She’s honestly such a kind person. More than gifts I wish I could give her a big loving family I really do. I did ask my brother for a loan of £100 and when I tell you that is pocket change to him but so much to me. Anyway I was told no and to not ask again. Feel so bloody silly for asking but I was desperate. I did say it was to buy his niece some gifts but no reply. Him and the rest of them are spending Xmas/new year in Dubai in the famous hotel there. But as you can imagine it hurts because I done nothing wrong but tell the truth! Hey Ho tho. I do work guys but after all my bills I’m left with barely anything. But I have a home and a bed so I’m already so much better off than so many. I keep reminding myself of that. Again thank you all so much for the much needed kindness ❤
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Elliesmum13 said:
Oh guys. I’ve bawled my eyes out at all your messages. Been so long since I’ve received any kindness and I’m so awful to myself daily that it been nice reading all your lovely replies. My daughter is 21 now but she’s still my baby, she’s away to Uni but home now. Just wish I could treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She’s honestly such a kind person. More than gifts I wish I could give her a big loving family I really do. I did ask my brother for a loan of £100 and when I tell you that is pocket change to him but so much to me. Anyway I was told no and to not ask again. Feel so bloody silly for asking but I was desperate. I did say it was to buy his niece some gifts but no reply. Him and the rest of them are spending Xmas/new year in Dubai in the famous hotel there. But as you can imagine it hurts because I done nothing wrong but tell the truth! Hey Ho tho. I do work guys but after all my bills I’m left with barely anything. But I have a home and a bed so I’m already so much better off than so many. I keep reminding myself of that. Again thank you all so much for the much needed kindness ❤
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I can’t comment on all the threads but followed you and the lovely tattle ladies to here ❤️ It sounds like you have done the right thing when it comes to your family and karma will come for them in the future. I would love to help how I can and put a smile on yours and your daughter’s faces 😊 I will put a wee comment on Debz 🤭
 
I'm having a really hard time. Lost someone close to me 6 months ago and its just getting harder. My job is draining the life out of me. I am trying to find a new one but the job market is rubbish. Constant exhaustion and low mood is triggering my health anxiety. I can't seem to pull myself out of this funk and find myself over eating for comfort.

On top of this it will be my first Xmas at my inlaws who are lovely and who i enjoy being around. But it's really getting to me that I won't be having my family's Christmas. The way they do things are different and I'm worried it won't feel like iv actually had Xmas.

For example my family is everyone attack the presents under the tree and both my siblings will be there. Then eat as much as you like for dinner and no judgement. Whereas with his there is not enough food for everyone and you are snapped at for eating too much (this is not to me but my bf and BIL). They also have a house with lots of small rooms so as there will be 15 people (including 3 children between 1.5yrs-6yrs) we physically can't be all together and it's pandemonium with everyone getting in each others way. My family is 5 people so I just know I'm going to be overwhelmed and overstimulated. Even my bf gets fed up here. Also there is no real present time. Last year we went for 2 days and everyone was so stressed.

He did come to my family for the afternoon last year but as we live closer to my family it's an afternoon. His are 2 hrs away so it will be a 2-3 day thing!.

Thanks for reading my whinging and I know I just need to suck it up but I am struggling with it.

Anyone have any advice on how to pull myself up and make the most of this? .. other than packing many snacks to take with me and eat in secret! 😫
 
Anyone else feel frustrated with there family, had my brothers dog this weekend and enjoy having him but now feel he just uses me, he went away this weekend and met up with my sister (I was not invited), this wasn’t the first time they have asked my brother to go away with them before, again I never get asked, feel like the odd one out cus I’m a single mom ☹ he’s now got my parents to fetch his dog (as clearly hes not arsed about seeing me or his niece) I feel so tearful, down and used, I have tried talking to my parents about him but they make excuses for him, he makes zero to little effort with me and my daughter, we used to be much closer years ago, I am supposed to be at his for Christmas but now feel like pulling the plug as can’t stand any of them or the way they use/treat me I just feel so sad 😞
 
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