I definitely get this a lot. I just have to keep on distracting myself, or always have something in the background. When I’m totally alone (i.e. MrDragName is away) I prefer to sleep with the TV on, on a sleep timer. I tend to meander around the internet on my phone till I fall asleep. It’s not exactly healthy tips I’m giving you, though!
Yes I can relate to this, I have lived on my own (well just me and my daughter) for a few years now and when she’s at her dads I’m even more anxious (never used to be) but struggle to drift off to sleep and I get super paranoid, slightest noise and I’m awake it’s ridiculous
and like you I think it has gotten worse since I’ve got older 
I’m not sure what the solution is! Ive also moved to a bigger property than my last place which definitely hasn’t helped and has increased my anxiety levels….! One thing I’ve stopped doing is watching true crime as that definitely makes it worse 
would also welcome any suggestions
I am sorry you are hurting. I don’t know why your friends haven’t checked in, I just know that it is on them and not a reflection of you as a person or your value and worth in this world. You are not a burden. You are having real feelings and that’s ok. When I am at a low point, I try to remember that I won’t always feel this way. You are right that you know these feelings will pass. Being pregnant as well is its own emotional rollercoaster and it is important that you feel supported. It can be hard not having someone to vent to, I want you to know I hear you even if it is just on this anon forum. Please be gentle to yourself and have a plan to talk to your dr or midwife or a help line if you find these feelings are too much.
I am sorry you are hurting. I don’t know why your friends haven’t checked in, I just know that it is on them and not a reflection of you as a person or your value and worth in this world. You are not a burden. You are having real feelings and that’s ok. When I am at a low point, I try to remember that I won’t always feel this way. You are right that you know these feelings will pass. Being pregnant as well is its own emotional rollercoaster and it is important that you feel supported. It can be hard not having someone to vent to, I want you to know I hear you even if it is just on this anon forum. Please be gentle to yourself and have a plan to talk to your dr or midwife or a help line if you find these feelings are too much.
I definitely know that the feeling will eventually pass so I'm holding on to that. I think sometimes things just get overwhelming. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond
Don’t be ashamed. It is not pathetic to express your dreams and aspirations. It sounds like you have raised your kids and made your mark that way, which can be all consuming. The years fly by and we can lose ourselves a bit along the way. It is hard having aging parents too, and the feeling of duty to them or guilt for moving away can be so strong. It can be hard to watch others live their dreams while you feel stuck. If moving away is not a realistic option right now, can you try to find ways to get to the sea for that cuppa say once or twice a month? Can you try to reconnect with old hobbies or discover new ones? If you decide to stay and care for parents, feelings of resentment will creep in if you can’t find purpose and peace within yourself. I hope OH can at minimum understand how you feel and not get defensive just because he has his own reasons for staying.
I’m not a therapist but am doing DBT as well and understand the framework. Your feelings are valid and your emotions are there for a reason. Is the intensity of what you’re feeling based on facts related to what happened? When I’m in an agitated state, I use some of the coping skills I’ve learned to get out of crisis mode so that I don’t behave in a way that makes things worse for myself or others. The intense exercise (angry cleaning or jumping jacks or anything to burn off the energy), paired muscle tension and relaxation, paced breathing where the exhale is slower than inhale all help me. Try to get yourself to a “wiser mind.” Can you observe and describe what you are feeling and thinking, non judgementally? Can you write it down? Can you think of tips your therapist has shared that you can practice until you are able to speak to them? You may be angry for good reason or your anger may be clouding your judgement. You will get through this, keep reminding yourself that.Is anyone else here got bpd
I'm doing dbt atm
But I've just had a struggle thrown back in my face and I'm absolutely furious and can't calm down just wondering if anyone can just help I've reached out to the thearpists and I assume they're on lunch because I've not got a answer
So sorry if I upset or trigger anyone but I don't know what else to do
Thank you i legged it to the gym its kind of a safe space for me especially when its quiet and just did what I had to do I've done the emotion regulation module and I am now on the distress tolerance skills so just been learning about the crisis skills it just didn't enter my head straight away to do because I think I was at that point of kind of no return unfortunately and I've just had enough and things need to change but I know it's not going to happen overnight important thing is even tho it took a few hours than I would of liked it too I eventually came down I can't control how that person was to me but I can control my reaction and that's what I need to remember thank you for reaching out I really appreciate it
Well done for legging it to the gym. You’re so right, all we can control is our reaction. Once we are in a better state of mind, we can synthesize a path forward or even create change in the situation moving forward. It is not an easy thing, I agree, it will take lots of effort and repetition so that those skills come more naturally when we are in that state.
It’s exhaustingSeriously sick of feeling this way