Ashley James #28 my body is Ada’s home, Alf’s is down the road

[Rose18778]

“I’m a really REALLY good toddler mum, to date I’ve never lost my patience”

You know, if I didn’t have to make 3 meals every day (9/10 times for it to be thrown on the floor), clean up all the mess, do bath time every night for BOTH my children, bedtime, play, read, entertain (for more than 10 mins a day), console the many tears and tantrums, the school run for the older child, oh and try and hold down a job, I don’t think I’d ever lose my patience either

 

[JarvisCockerSpaniel]

If she’s never lost her patience with Alf (I call bullshit on that anyway) it’s because she’s not bothered. I’ve been frustrated with my toddler on occasion (who hasn’t!!) because I care about meeting his needs. As a lively, stubborn, loving life kind of toddler, he often fights me on that but I have boundaries in place for a reason and of course he will try to resist them, he’s learning how to be a person. Ash does duck all so I doubt there’s much resistance coming her way.

What does she mean ‘lost patience’ anyway? She’s never hit him? Wow Trash, what a benchmark.

 

[Rose18778]

If she’s never lost her patience with Alf (I call bullshit on that anyway) it’s because she’s not bothered. I’ve been frustrated with my toddler on occasion (who hasn’t!!) because I care about meeting his needs. As a lively, stubborn, loving life kind of toddler, he often fights me on that but I have boundaries in place for a reason and of course he will try to resist them, he’s learning how to be a person. Ash does duck all so I doubt there’s much resistance coming her way.

What does she mean ‘lost patience’ anyway? She’s never hit him? Wow Trash, what a benchmark.

I took “losing patience” as getting irritated / frustrated on occasion (as most of us do) not hitting, although who knows!

 

[Feeiona]

Anyone that writes im really really good most definitely isn't. We can all see your not "really really good". You spend 10 minutes with him anyone would feel like the were really good if that's their only interaction. She is full of red flags and actually gives me the Ick

 

[JarvisCockerSpaniel]

Yeah I think you’re probably right with that one! Just a weird thing to say. There is a broad spectrum of ‘losing patience’. Like she’s superior for never getting frustrated at perfectly normal things to get frustrated by!

 

[starshine89]

I love my toddler but she’s frustrating and annoying at times and I have most definitely lost my patience with her and that doesn’t make me a bad mum. I think all toddler mums have lost their patience with their kids that’s normal.
She doesn’t spend any time with Alf so no wonder she’s never lost patience with him
I can’t imagine only spending max an hour a day with my daughter

 

[Marmite.Crumpets]

"I'm a good toddler mum".

I bet to bleeping differ, Trashley. You do not meet ANY of Alfs needs. You do not cook him meals, you do the bare minimum to interact with him. You left him in his own sick and tit overnight. You pawn him off to anyone, literally anyone, who will have him so baby girl gets all the attention.

You are not a good mum. You are not a good person.

 

[JarvisCockerSpaniel]

How does she think women do go to work and breastfeed?! Just cold turkey their babies at the 9month mark when maternity leave is up?! Or before if they’re back at work?!

 

[MidnightRambler]

@MidnightRambler any idea on DJ fee for a two hour corporate set? I'd be very interested to know. because yes as others have said, once you've bought a dress, rented a dress, got your hair and makeup done professionally, arranged and paid for childcare, transport etc.... how much goes into the family kitty? she's a total waste of space.
it irks me how she always says she's got a 'DJ gig' - she always emphasises the DJ bit like it's possible we've forgotten she's a DJ guys??? most people I know in the arts just say they have a gig. no need to specify. it's cooler and more irreverent. she is such a try hard it's so cringe lol

Can’t be sure but for a 1-2hr ‘set’ like that for a brand like that, in a location like that,you’d be struggling to get anything near £500 I’d say.

Given she claims to turn down jobs that don’t meet her exacting requirements, but happily took a gig that wouldn’t allow her partner and baby access to a private room or even cleaners cupboard, didn’t cover transport and finished before 9.30pm on a weeknight, you’ve got to assume she is doing it for the #exposure and #content and to show she really is a DJ (spoiler alert, she’s not - the last ‘DJ’ Batiste hired just before Christmas was that famous one Pixie Lott )

 

[willowtree2]

Her dinner…. Alfs dinner.

She’s a really really good mum full of resentment towards the males in the family. She can’t even read a book with him without resenting her dinners going cold. That’s me most nights cos I’m dealing with a toddler flicking food at the wall and a 7 month old who’s weaning. An ASD child with sensory issues and doesn’t like the safe foods anymore. duck off Ash.
She resents Tommy who has to get up at the crack of dawn, make Alf and her breakfast (in bed), hasn’t bonded or spent any time with his baby apart from standing on a street corner looking like his Mrs just broke up with him, been kicked out the marital bed and gets favoured for MAFS, cooks all the meals, do a full days work on top and then do bed time.

He’s a better mum than she’ll ever be. If she had his life she’d pack her bags. Pathetic!

 

[Algeronwashere]

As per usual it’s all about her. She’s feel differently towards Ad if her friends were close by. What about all those baby groups she’s been going to? Make friends with some mums in the area! Oh that’s right, that was all a lie! And of course she hates ‘those type of mums’. Only cool mums allowed!

 

[kiraaarrrr]

I’m pretty sure she posted a story a while back where she snaps at Alf for no reason.
she’s full of tit.

oh and I’ve lost patience with my fiery 2 year old before (because I’m human!) and I’m still a good mum, because I nurture her, I get her the help she needs when she’s struggling (salt) I actually bothered to get her hips assessed when she was showing signs of hip dysplasia, I play with her, teach her, show her love and I actually cook her food. Suck on that ash

 

[potatoface431]

A really really good toddler mum, is she having a laugh she does duck all. When was the last time she got up with him? Got him breakfast, got him ready for childminder and took him? Spent an entire day entertaining him? Made dinner, bathed and put him to bed? I’d be the ‘best mum’ too if I only had to entertain my kids for 10 minutes a day

 

[ShhItsASecret]

If she’s a really REALLY good mum, why did she have to get NNB to come to the golf course to collect Alf when she couldn’t cope with two kids alone?
A really REALLY good mum would have known how to look after her own son - and I don’t believe she wouldn’t have lost her patience with him at that!

 

[potatoface431]

She has lost her patience with Alf she admitted it on a story that she snapped at him. More than once I believe

 

[willowtree2]

She snapped at Alf numerous times when he was biting her during breastfeeding. That’s the whole reason she stopped cos she didn’t like getting angry and snapping at him. She’s a bleeping liar

 

[Rocky Rosd]

She is so frustrating. We all saw this coming. At about 4 months, as soon as the baby starts wanting to interact and move and is not happy being only in a sling she can’t cope. It happened last time. So any other normal person would learn from the past and make changes. Get that baby to take a bottle as soon as you can. Keep trying so when the four months come you are prepared. But don’t try for the first time in ages on a street standing up at nighttime. And she bangs on about women being judged for their choices. Only in her world. In my experience, most women have friends who support them. Everyone is trying their best and juggling the best they can and it’s hard but if you choose to put your life on public display and then say ‘look at me. I’m the best, most brilliant mum. I’m cool and don’t like unsolicited advice and I only trust my instinct, then people are going to have an opinion. I’m back to feeling sorry for Tommy again! Imagine doing all that he does in the early mornings and bedtime and then being resented for going out to work!

 

[LT2201]

Good mums never think they're a good mum Trash.

 

[DaisyDaisy87]

It’s because the second she’s spent over 15 minutes with Alf and starts to lose patience she can just call up NNB/Tommy to come and take him off her hands. Most mums don’t have that Ash.

She’s spent one hour with them both out of the house (with a friend) and couldn’t even manage coping with Alf then without calling for backup.

Most toddler mums look at things on social media and think ohh that would be a nice place to take them to on my day off - it’s not like she doesn’t have the money but she never takes him anywhere that he might enjoy…no outdoor playgroups…no digger land…theme parks…music groups etc. She’s an awful toddler mum.

 

[Ewest]

As has been stated numerous times by lots of you…she is never bleeping with her toddler. But she has absolutely lost her patience with him, what that means for her in terms of her behaviour will be different to other mums but she has expressed so much resentment and frustration about her children and her role as a mum.
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“I for sure will… never ever speak badly of myself or others around you.” Of course you won’t speak badly about yourself you bloody narcissist! And this clearly doesn’t include big lump Alf.
she is awful