Ashley James #28 my body is Ada’s home, Alf’s is down the road

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Here she is again harping on about the dad’s going to work and having it so easy….most dads I know feel quite a bit of guilt when they have to go back to work after paternity leave? Most dads I know do a full day in the office and then come home and are straight away on dad mode - which isn’t always easy in itself to switch between work mode and dad mode. She’s so against men it’s unbelievable. She chose to go back to “work”, she could easily still be on maternity leave, or working part time if she really thinks she need to “work”. She’s a pathetic excuse for a human being. She has no idea what it’s like in the real world. She needs to get a bloody grip of herself.
 
Her bar for being a good mum is never having lost her patience?? She doesn’t see him, she doesn’t do any of the hard bits. Tommy spends the early 2 hrs of the day with him, feeds him breakfast, the childminder does the rest, then Tommy gives him his nightly quota of cheese and watermelon, baths him and puts him to bed. Ashley ‘plays’ with him for 10 mins, which mostly includes sitting there while he watches tv. why on earth would she lose her patience?!!
 
I hate that she blames breastfeeding for why she can’t be back at work full time now. Like women who bottle feed ship their kids off to childcare at 8 weeks?

her babies also just need a mum who is around. She could easily film and create content in 2-3hr chunks in the day, between naps or maybe with a nanny/relative around for a few hours here and there a couple of days a week. She could then do evening “dj jobs” if she got Ad to take a bottle of expressed milk. It’s actually perfect because you can work when your kids are sleeping (assuming they have a bit of a routine).

that “boring” engaging with your baby stage isn’t always sunshine and rainbows but it’s actually important for the child.

go to a baby group, make friends. Stop moaning!!!
 
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But Alf is awful for waking early in the morning, like many toddlers and pre-schoolers do.
 
If she’s feeling isolated she’s totally done that to herself. She’s obviously awkward and a complete knob and the kind of woman that says she finds it hard to make female friends because she’s too intimidating (when really they’re just so up themselves and self absorbed others tend to stay clear) but she needs to suck it up and give a few baby classes or play sessions a try- for Ada. Some structure to your day and getting out of the house will never be a bad thing.
 
Rose18778 said:
“I’m a really REALLY good toddler mum, to date I’ve never lost my patience”

You know, if I didn’t have to make 3 meals every day (9/10 times for it to be thrown on the floor), clean up all the mess, do bath time every night for BOTH my children, bedtime, play, read, entertain (for more than 10 mins a day), console the many tears and tantrums, the school run for the older child, oh and try and hold down a job, I don’t think I’d ever lose my patience either 😂😂😂
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That’s just what I thought 😂😂 if I spent 10 minutes a day playing and nothing else, there’d be no melt down from both of us about the wrong plate 🫠
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But she could take Ada to a baby group. Yes she’s not getting her work done but you tend to get a good nap afterwards where she could!
 
JarvisCockerSpaniel said:
If she’s never lost her patience with Alf (I call bullshit on that anyway) it’s because she’s not bothered. I’ve been frustrated with my toddler on occasion (who hasn’t!!) because I care about meeting his needs. As a lively, stubborn, loving life kind of toddler, he often fights me on that but I have boundaries in place for a reason and of course he will try to resist them, he’s learning how to be a person. Ash does duck all so I doubt there’s much resistance coming her way.

What does she mean ‘lost patience’ anyway? She’s never hit him? Wow Trash, what a benchmark.
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Just calls him a big lump passive aggressively 🙁
 
And at last I have a tiny bit of sympathy for her. I think I would be quite pissed off if my husband had had 2 stags do’s and one wedding in first 3 months! Not because I couldn’t cope with my 2 kids alone, that’s standard but because I do like a hen do/wedding but I would be getting that bottle feeding going with everything I had so I could go out for at least for an evening with friends. But she loves playing the victim so this works for her.
 
willowtree2 said:
So she’s fuming with Tommy for having a weekend away 😂 Which means NNB is in the house!

God I feel for Tommy. They won’t last another 6 months. The cracks are REALLY showing.
“But I have to say we’re smashing parenting 2 kids” hahahahahaha
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They’re not parenting two kids, they’re parenting a kid each. “Parenting” used loosely.
 
InTheDollsHouse said:
Did she say they had to wake Alf up this morning at 20 past 7? WHY?

It’s Friday. No childcare.

Let him sleep.

Oh, you can’t can you? Because you are using childcare but you aren’t about to admit to that.

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Alf woke up an hour ago yet she’s still laid in bed on her phone, clearly not having even seen him this morning, saying she’s a great toddler mum. You couldn’t even make it up 😭🤯
 
If they ‘had’ to wake him at 7:20 he would’ve been in childcare from 8am.

I don’t feel sorry for her one bit. She takes the piss out of Tommy so he’s probably reached peak level of doormat and thought.. duck her. If she actually bothered to help him out I’d feel for her and say he’s being unreasonable. She could’ve taken Ada to the wedding. She never said why she cancelled it!
 
Imagine being Tommy though, getting up with Alf at the crack of dawn every morning, getting him ready and sorting his breakfast, dropping him off with the childminder, dropping in at Gail's to then deliver breakfast to Trash who's still lying in bed. Then going to do a full day's work in a proper job, picking up Alf afterwards, and doing the whole bath and bed routine every single night. To then have to deal with Ashley feeling 'resentful' towards him. She really doesn't know she's born and I don't have an ounce of sympathy for her.
 
God she is really running out of excuses as to why she can’t parent without a lot of help isn’t she? We’ve had
-longest C-section recovery ever
-Alf not sleeping
-Ada cluster feeding
-Ada ‘refusing’ to be put down
- Alf’s terrible behaviour due to IPad (not tv or phone)
- and the current one is ‘feeling lonely and don’t like entertaining my baby’

How many more can she really get away with?
 
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