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As parents we all lose it sometimes and say or do things we regret, but the guilt and the shame of it is brutal. I lost it with my daughter a few months ago over an ongoing issue and I really screamed at her. I feel so bad about it still months later. Just Typing it then was hard. With Anna, I don’t buy that she’s trying to break down barriers or talk about the hard shameful stuff. It feels like she thinks everyone does it and it’s just something to laugh about.
I listen to a podcast called something was wrong, it’s about abusive relationships either romantic, friendship or familial. In the most recent episode the host talks about her parents laughing about all the terrible stuff they did and making a joke out of bad parenting and it just reminded me of Anna. It’s so dismissive. Much like Anna has said herself about her mother denying her abusive behaviour I can just see Anna laughing about this and making it a joke when Violet is older ‘haha Remember when I threw your dinner across the room, you were a nightmare!’.
 
vastslug said:
School have been made aware of the Thursday incident. Thanks to CPOMS, I would imagine that the nursery/ preschool for the youngest will also know.
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thank goodness, I won’t lie I’ve been hovering over this for a few days and had told myself if someone hadn’t said it had been reported then I’d have to myself. What she did was sickening & the worst part was all the blame on how SHE is disregulated / on her period. Absolutely no shame or accountability. Her kids must be terrified of her.
 
I don’t understand why these mums think it’s ok to post stuff then wonder why it’s come back to bite them. If you share something that is going to alarm people then don’t be surprised if you don’t get kick back.
It’s like the person who shares stuff about feeling suicidal or very mentally unwell then complaining that someone has reported them and they are getting contact from concerned parties. What do they expect?
 
Am I remembering it rightly that Anna disclosed dark thoughts to her health visitor a few years ago who reported it because she was obligated to and then she was offended that SS were in touch? I'm sure I remember that.
 
She’s unfortunately in this genre of instamums who think it’s quirky and cool to hate your children. It isn’t. It isn’t relatable to throw food across & room and smash a plate because your child said she didn’t ask for the food. It’s abusive, it’s deplorable. I don’t care if you apologised after, the damage is done. I hope the children get the support they need & frankly I couldn’t care less about what happens to her.
 
It was pointed out in the email to school that posts are on a public account and that identifying exactly which school Violet attends is very easy, considering there have been posts in uniform in the past. It’s really irresponsible.

It was bad enough when school was being blasted on her stories for not covering Black History month “enough” (like she has any idea what’s being taught and covered across the curriculum every day) and it was easy to identify the school. Not very nice for the staff involved..! Harborough may be a big town but the school communities are fairly small.
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
I did google how to report it to SS but it seemed like I needed her postcode plus consent from her? Which seemed odd. Glad someone managed to do it.
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Definitely don’t need consent from anyone. In future if you have concerns NSPCC are a great starting point as they will be able to direct you to the appropriate service in the area on question.
 
I’m very happy that someone has reported Anna’s actions to the school. I genuinely would have done it myself if I had more information to pass on which would identify them. All I know is Anna’s full name and the town she lives in, plus her kids names. I sincerely hope that the girls are properly looked after throughout all of this, whether that’s by Anna or they go and stay with their dad for a bit.

I really think Anna should have a long hard think about whether she actually wants to raise and parent those girls. I’m sure she loves them, but very often comes across resentful at being a mother and as though she wants to spend all her time and money prioritising herself. I honestly think she’s far too selfish to be a full time mother.
 
Chattymamabear said:
Thatll be why she’s gone quiet. Serves her right for a) doing it and b) putting it on public social media
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Yep suspiciously quiet isn't she. Wonder if the school will be speaking to her today or if she's had a call over the weekend. Don't know how all this SS referral stuff works but I'm sure they'd have to move quickly with it being a child involved.
 
She’s probably just quiet because she’s spent the weekend rotting in her bed. Hopefully the girls have at least one competent parent
 
It will take a few days for things to happen, if social services get involved, which I suspect they will given she’s had a history with the health visitor etc as mentioned in other posts.
I suspect that if the kids went to their dad full time, she’d loose financial support, and I have a feeling that’s one of the reasons she has them, is that it’s more beneficial for her financially. She clearly doesn’t enjoy parenting and has mental health stuff happening.

I wonder if the dad would take them full time.
I don’t feel sorry for her, she’s blasted her private parenting failure to the internet. She can’t have thought that someone wouldn’t react.
I wonder if she didn’t even do it deliberately to attract attention.

What a mess.
 
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