TheLongMum #4 Charity shops, coffee hops, northern kn*bs, anything that makes the parenting stop
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Chardonnay
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This is actually really worrying. What are those poor girls living with if she’ll happily tell the world this little anecdote, there must be other, perhaps far worse incidents. I feel so sorry for her girls. They must have to walk on egg shells in their own home.
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I really can't get over the difference in 10minutes between those posts!
Poor kids...
I don't know another 'influencer' who is as blatant with talking about such poor parenting behaviour as she is... it's disgusting.
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Hate the fact she's used such language too... "not had the tiniest window of regulation" and "I just really needed her out of my sight I was so dysregulated"
Like the child was at fault for her reaction?! She's a child you awful human.. I'm in shock tbh.
Poor kids...
I don't know another 'influencer' who is as blatant with talking about such poor parenting behaviour as she is... it's disgusting.
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Hate the fact she's used such language too... "not had the tiniest window of regulation" and "I just really needed her out of my sight I was so dysregulated"
Like the child was at fault for her reaction?! She's a child you awful human.. I'm in shock tbh.
MrsJ2000
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Me too. I can’t believe she’s admitting to this behaviour on social media. She could easily get reported to social services and wouldn’t be able to deny it as she’s put it out there for all to see!!
Gingercream
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I can’t believe she’s actually posted that for the world to see. Does she think this is a relatable moment for instagram likes?! Can’t say I’ve ever had a tantrum about something one of my kids has said and thrown their dinner across the room. In my opinion those kids need a safeguarding review 
Chardonnay
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I was really hesitant to say it but I agree, Anna needs a welfare check. I don’t think she’s mentally stable to look after the kids. And this is from only what she puts on social media!
JellyDonut
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Not sure if these have uploaded in the correct order. But oh my bleeping god, Anna you absolute bleep. As someone with ADHD who also has children, I couldn’t imagine treating them like that. Don’t use your self diagnosed ADHD as an excuse for you being a crappy parent. duck off do you need support, your ex has them regularly and they go to school/childminders. You have only JUST started working 2 days a week. You have more free time than most. You don’t need more support. You need to stop prioritising cock and wanking and shopping and fluffing and pouting for Instagram and actually be a mother to your kids. Jesus bleeping Christ almighty. I’m disgusted.
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Horseyhelen
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Just wow to her posts tonight 
I'm not sure what to think. She doesn't deserve those girls.
She says she needs to be held amongst all the horrible stuff she's posted - she should be getting and giving that affection to her kids then. They are being emotionally abused by her lack of affection in the way she implies her mum abused her.
But when she says she needs to be held we all know she really means she wants to ride some strange blokes cock.
I'm not sure what to think. She doesn't deserve those girls.She says she needs to be held amongst all the horrible stuff she's posted - she should be getting and giving that affection to her kids then. They are being emotionally abused by her lack of affection in the way she implies her mum abused her.
But when she says she needs to be held we all know she really means she wants to ride some strange blokes cock.
JellyDonut
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I had a friend whose ex boyfriend used to throw plates across the room (never at her just threw the plates in a temper). And anyway the police said that actually that’s abusive behaviour. Anna could seriously get into trouble for that. I’m not saying she abuses her kids, but her behaviour is not ok. I really hope someone who knows her personally makes appropriate authorities aware of tonight’s incident.
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In fact I’m sure she’ll be on the phone to the ex demanding he comes and takes the girls and she’ll book herself into a hotel for the night
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In fact I’m sure she’ll be on the phone to the ex demanding he comes and takes the girls and she’ll book herself into a hotel for the night
Venuslurker
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Poor Violet she must've been so terrified, and the younger girl probably stayed quiet because she was equally scared.
Anna needs serious therapy.
Anna needs serious therapy.
Gingercream
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I bet the kids spend most of half term with their dad as Anna will be far too exhausted to be able to look after them
I hope somehow the screenshots end up with the girls dad as he needs to know what she is putting them through.
Venuslurker
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Why don't you have any friends Anna? Is it maybe because you can't bring yourself to hang out with the pleb non-vaping un-woke mums of market harborough?
Chardonnay
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I don’t understand why she finds it so hard. Unless she has significant mh issues in which case she should see her GP. Her girls seem so placid (probably out of fear!) but it’s like she just doesn’t know how to parent. They don’t need to go to fetes or coffee shops to have fun. I swear if she wasn’t so stuck up and just embraced motherhood for what it actually is and not what she perceives it to be from Insta, she could get so much more from it.
Bob-bo-sunshine
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Just wow. She is such a narcissistic cow - it's all me me me, how bad I feel, how tired I am, how 'disregulated'... utter bollocks.
what she needs is a massive reality check, yes solo parenting is hard Anna - no one has it as hard as you...
Ps - haven't had my nails/hair/Botox done - you know because real life.
I really hope she gets some help, stePs away from social media and concentrates on her relationships with the girls.
what she needs is a massive reality check, yes solo parenting is hard Anna - no one has it as hard as you...
Ps - haven't had my nails/hair/Botox done - you know because real life.
I really hope she gets some help, stePs away from social media and concentrates on her relationships with the girls.
Bubblemamaa22
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My ex would scream and shout and throw things and slam doors and punch walls.
It was just as terrifying as anything physical would have been.
Everyone loses it sometimes, but that is not normal and she needs to realise that and not only repair it with the children immediately but take steps to stop it ever getting that bad again.
Part of being a parent and an adult is looking into our own reactions and meeting ourselves therapeutically. Anna finds cooking hard, and didn't get the reaction she wanted - so she needs to understand in herself why Vs rejection of food made her blow up so much to the point of violently throwing it. Because it isn't the child's fault or responsibility.
Rather than posting several stories about it, with accompanying photos that she has either taken specifically or scrolled through her camera roll to select, she should be reflecting on that, and reconnecting with the children she likely frightened by that outburst. Some things don't need sharing and you shouldn't need to post for validation when you know that isn't the right way to react.
I just feel sorry for those girls
It was just as terrifying as anything physical would have been.
Everyone loses it sometimes, but that is not normal and she needs to realise that and not only repair it with the children immediately but take steps to stop it ever getting that bad again.
Part of being a parent and an adult is looking into our own reactions and meeting ourselves therapeutically. Anna finds cooking hard, and didn't get the reaction she wanted - so she needs to understand in herself why Vs rejection of food made her blow up so much to the point of violently throwing it. Because it isn't the child's fault or responsibility.
Rather than posting several stories about it, with accompanying photos that she has either taken specifically or scrolled through her camera roll to select, she should be reflecting on that, and reconnecting with the children she likely frightened by that outburst. Some things don't need sharing and you shouldn't need to post for validation when you know that isn't the right way to react.
I just feel sorry for those girls
Anonymous_Troll
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Really worrying stories from her tonight. More so because if she thinks this is an amusing little anecdote for Instagram, then I genuinely worry about what goes on behind closed doors. Using articulate, pseudo-psychological language like ‘dysregulation’ does not take away from the fact this is a horrifying admission from her.
dettolmymind
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I can’t believe what I’ve read on her stories. I feel absolutely terrified for those two girls in that household. I grew up in a house where my parents thought it was acceptable during their divorce to throw plates/glasses/anything across the room at each other whilst myself and my brother were present. It fucked me up in my adult life & certainly with relationships now. Thank god for CBT!
I really do hope Anna realises she’s harming the girls & their futures with her own life choices.
I really do hope Anna realises she’s harming the girls & their futures with her own life choices.
NoseyParker2202
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I genuinely think she is very poorly and whilst I know there is a lot we can all say about her parenting / how she lives her life. It's hard to see past the fact that she is not well - whether it's a personality disorder, a neurodiversity or poor mental health - there is something very up and she has made herself very vulnerable here to social services intervention (I actually hope this has been noted by ppl in touch with the girls Dad for her girls sake).
It feels risky to me now to further discuss things that could push her further to the edge. I sincerely hope her children are okay and that she seeks help asap.
It feels risky to me now to further discuss things that could push her further to the edge. I sincerely hope her children are okay and that she seeks help asap.
maliceinwanderlust
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Admission here: I once could not cope and displayed equally poor parenting skills. Did I share them online looking for justification? No, I ended up working with social services, mental health services and on anger management. I knew I'd overstepped the mark and have spent years trying to repair the damage and work on myself. Literally not even my closest friends or family know this. It's not an anecdote, it's a wake up call.
JellyDonut
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I feel awful for the girls. I’ve said before that Anna reminds me so much of my own mum, who was/is a genuinely narcissistic and selfish bleep. My mum would scream at me until she was blue in the face that I was the reason why all her relationships failed and it was all my fault that she didn’t have any money (always had plenty for cigarettes and clothes and getting her hair done though!). I can totally see Anna doing this to her kids. My mum would behave exactly the way Anna did and lose it over something so insignificant and so small, and would launch things across the room. She’d trash my bedroom in a temper and then scream at me that it was a mess and I need to tidy it up. Not saying Anna does this, but I can just imagine her going that way. I’m pretty fucked up because of the way my mum treated me, and we haven’t had any form of contact now for the last 7-8 years.
Do you know what though? Now I’m a grown up with my own house and my own kids, I look back and I can see that actually, I was a really good kid. I was very well behaved and did absolutely everything she asked me to or told me to do. It absolutely was not my fault that my mum was a tit excuse of a parent. All she cared about was having a man in her life and smoking her cigarettes. She begrudged me having anything if it meant she was inconvenienced in any way. I was always bloody terrified of my mum especially when she had her outbursts, and I imagine her girls are too. I have no doubt that’s why I have anxiety as an adult (and I actually do see a therapist weekly as well).
Anna believes her life would be so much better if she had a boyfriend - why though? Just because she wants another adult around? If she genuinely finds a day out at the fete too overwhelming, surely the girls have a few school friends whose mums she could message and be like “hey do you want to take the kids to this fete?”, and then she’s got another adult there for company. Or is Anna too woke and far too good for hanging out with the local school mums?
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I can see this being the trigger for her to quit her “just started and only doing 2 days a week” job (or getting signed off). She will then come out with some bullshit about how it was affecting her mental health. I don’t think her job has anything to do with it, but she never wanted to work in the first place and will have been looking for a reason to Jack it in from the start. My mum would work for a couple of weeks somewhere, but would barely go in (she’d call in sick constantly or claim that me or my brother were sick so had to look after us), and she would eventually lose that job. There was never anything wrong with either her or us, she just didn’t want to work and wanted to stay at home getting high and sitting on her arse doing duck all.
Sorry to keep going on about my mum. Anna just reminds me so very much of her, and I feel awful for her kids because of that. I sincerely hope that some teachers or school mums follow her and have seen her stories from tonight and they take appropriate steps as a result.
Do you know what though? Now I’m a grown up with my own house and my own kids, I look back and I can see that actually, I was a really good kid. I was very well behaved and did absolutely everything she asked me to or told me to do. It absolutely was not my fault that my mum was a tit excuse of a parent. All she cared about was having a man in her life and smoking her cigarettes. She begrudged me having anything if it meant she was inconvenienced in any way. I was always bloody terrified of my mum especially when she had her outbursts, and I imagine her girls are too. I have no doubt that’s why I have anxiety as an adult (and I actually do see a therapist weekly as well).
Anna believes her life would be so much better if she had a boyfriend - why though? Just because she wants another adult around? If she genuinely finds a day out at the fete too overwhelming, surely the girls have a few school friends whose mums she could message and be like “hey do you want to take the kids to this fete?”, and then she’s got another adult there for company. Or is Anna too woke and far too good for hanging out with the local school mums?
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I can see this being the trigger for her to quit her “just started and only doing 2 days a week” job (or getting signed off). She will then come out with some bullshit about how it was affecting her mental health. I don’t think her job has anything to do with it, but she never wanted to work in the first place and will have been looking for a reason to Jack it in from the start. My mum would work for a couple of weeks somewhere, but would barely go in (she’d call in sick constantly or claim that me or my brother were sick so had to look after us), and she would eventually lose that job. There was never anything wrong with either her or us, she just didn’t want to work and wanted to stay at home getting high and sitting on her arse doing duck all.
Sorry to keep going on about my mum. Anna just reminds me so very much of her, and I feel awful for her kids because of that. I sincerely hope that some teachers or school mums follow her and have seen her stories from tonight and they take appropriate steps as a result.
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