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There is no "proper depression" it isn't one size fits all. Some people talk about it and some people don't. Some people look fine and others don't. Sick of explaining that mental health isn't once size fits all on here.

I don't post about my depression on social media. When I leave the house I don't "look depressed" whatever that look is. But the world didn't see the energy it took to have a wash and look like the person I show the world. So I look presentable, wearing makeup, having my hair done. Can't see I suffer with self harming. It just really isn't the same for everyone..
 
Bostonx said:
There is no "proper depression" it isn't one size fits all. Some people talk about it and some people don't. Some people look fine and others don't. Sick of explaining that mental health isn't once size fits all on here.
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But why don’t people understand that social media has a big part to play on your mental health so if you really want to fix things and get the help you need close down your account stop contradicting yourself and speak to your GP not people who follow you because you appeared on a show these people she’s preaching to don’t care you need professional help if your ok opening up to the world your ok to talk to your gp who can actually do something and you should want to even more so coz of your baby and I use proper depression because sadly it’s the truth these days people use it and abuse it my poor dad suffered in silence and it killed him and over the last few years since it’s more talked about all over sadly people do lie either to get a long term sick note on full pay when in fact there’s nothing up with them or to get more benefits because they know it’s an illness that can’t be proven & some people don’t understand the difference between a bad off day or two and depression and because people throw it around so much this days that’s why the real sufferers are scared of opening up it’s the sad truth agree or don’t agree I’m not causing an argument and nothing said will change it
 
Danielle91 said:
But why don’t people understand that social media has a big part to play on your mental health so if you really want to fix things and get the help you need close down your account stop contradicting yourself and speak to your GP not people who follow you because you appeared on a show these people she’s preaching to don’t care you need professional help if your ok opening up to the world your ok to talk to your gp who can actually do something and you should want to even more so coz of your baby and I use proper depression because sadly it’s the truth these days people use it and abuse it my poor dad suffered in silence and it killed him and over the last few years since it’s more talked about all over sadly people do lie either to get a long term sick note on full pay when in fact there’s nothing up with them or to get more benefits because they know it’s an illness that can’t be proven & some people don’t understand the difference between a bad off day or two and depression and because people throw it around so much this days that’s why the real sufferers are scared of opening up it’s the sad truth agree or don’t agree I’m not causing an argument and nothing said will change it
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Because not everyone handles it the same way. Its funny how you think it's so easy to get sick pay or help though. Because it really really isn't. Anyway this isn't a place to get into a heated discussion in just making you aware that for everyone the journey isn't the same. And people were started to feel they could talk about it more openly because it was being advocated.
 
Danielle91 said:
My dad killed him self he had proper depression the one that you wouldn’t discuss on social media to loads of people you don’t know the one that you find it hard to talk about to just anyone when your that badly depressed you barely want to talk to anyone never mind be on social media posting your every move you don’t hardly want to get out of bed in the morning and it’s a hard to get dressed every day never mind putting your 50 inch lashes on face full of make up extensions in just to post a picture of your self In skimpy pjs acting seductively sorry but know this isn’t the behaviour of someone who’s depressed and or not coping ..... FACT 😊


Exactly it’s all for the cameras and it’s all for attention I think the only thing we don’t no is when she’s took a tit how about put your phone down for 2 seconds of your life and go be a parent then you might not feel like a “bad mum” go and actually be one then 🙄🙄🙄
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I’m sorry you lost your dad but as someone else said you can’t label it proper depression or dismiss others feelings, people can try and hide it well
 
Danielle91 said:
My dad killed him self he had proper depression the one that you wouldn’t discuss on social media to loads of people you don’t know the one that you find it hard to talk about to just anyone when your that badly depressed you barely want to talk to anyone never mind be on social media posting your every move you don’t hardly want to get out of bed in the morning and it’s a hard to get dressed every day never mind putting your 50 inch lashes on face full of make up extensions in just to post a picture of your self In skimpy pjs acting seductively sorry but know this isn’t the behaviour of someone who’s depressed and or not coping ..... FACT 😊


Exactly it’s all for the cameras and it’s all for attention I think the only thing we don’t no is when she’s took a tit how about put your phone down for 2 seconds of your life and go be a parent then you might not feel like a “bad mum” go and actually be one then 🙄🙄🙄
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Sorry about your dad but there is no one size fits all when it comes to depression. People deal with it in different ways. Plenty of people with ‘proper depression’ as you so nicely put it also use social media for attention. People are different.
 
Bostonx said:
Because not everyone handles it the same way. Its funny how you think it's so easy to get sick pay or help though. Because it really really isn't. Anyway this isn't a place to get into a heated discussion in just making you aware that for everyone the journey isn't the same. And people were started to feel they could talk about it more openly because it was being advocated.
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I agree that people should talk it could be the difference between life or death but your Instagram stories on an open account isn’t the place especially with the hate she’s already been receiving next minute someone will inform the social services that she’s sat crying and airing how much she’s not coping whilst her young child is in the same room as her and no one else is there with her helping her with Harlow you’ve got to be carful
 
Bostonx said:
There is no "proper depression" it isn't one size fits all. Some people talk about it and some people don't. Some people look fine and others don't. Sick of explaining that mental health isn't once size fits all on here.

I don't post about my depression on social media. When I leave the house I don't "look depressed" whatever that look is. But the world didn't see the energy it took to have a wash and look like the person I show the world. So I look presentable, wearing makeup, having my hair done. Can't see I suffer with self harming. It just really isn't the same for everyone..
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This I don’t put my mental health stuff on social media either but I know people who do some do it to raise awareness some just want to have a moan it’s all ok because everyone copes differently and it doesn’t invalidate theirs or my struggles.
 
Danielle91 said:
I agree that people should talk it could be the difference between life or death but your Instagram stories on an open account isn’t the place especially with the hate she’s already been receiving next minute someone will inform the social services that she’s sat crying and airing how much she’s not coping whilst her young child is in the same room as her and no one else is there with her helping her with Harlow you’ve got to be carful
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She never said she couldn’t cope. Her feelings are valid, most parents will have been there. Does that mean she can’t cope as a parent? No. Are we our own biggest critics when it comes to parenthood? Yes. Just because she’s feeling down, feels like she’s doing stuff wrong, doesn’t mean she can’t cope as a parent because evidently she can.
 
amberger0204 said:
She never said she couldn’t cope. Her feelings are valid, most parents will have been there. Does that mean she can’t cope as a parent? No. Are we our own biggest critics when it comes to parenthood? Yes. Just because she’s feeling down, feels like she’s doing stuff wrong, doesn’t mean she can’t cope as a parent because evidently she can.
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“I’m really struggling” is pretty much the same as not coping
 
Danielle91 said:
I agree that people should talk it could be the difference between life or death but your Instagram stories on an open account isn’t the place especially with the hate she’s already been receiving next minute someone will inform the social services that she’s sat crying and airing how much she’s not coping whilst her young child is in the same room as her and no one else is there with her helping her with Harlow you’ve got to be carful
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Don't try to scare people with social services. Mums are allowed to get upset and feel tit. If she's going to burst into tears she's going to do it.
Social services aren't just people who come in and steal kids they are humans who understand struggles and emotions and supports parents in getting the help they need. She's locked down with a 1 year old, her family can't pop round & she's just lost her boyfriend. I don't think it's a call for a welfare check it's just a young woman upset that her life's a bit all over the place the now
 
Bostonx said:
Don't try to scare people with social services. Mums are allowed to get upset and feel tit. If she's going to burst into tears she's going to do it.
Social services aren't just people who come in and steal kids they are humans who understand struggles and emotions and supports parents in getting the help they need. She's locked down with a 1 year old, her family can't pop round & she's just lost her boyfriend. I don't think it's a call for a welfare check it's just a young woman upset that her life's a bit all over the place the now
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Omg I’m not scaring anyone But I’m Saying some nasty people out there who follow her who don’t know her from Adam could potentially do something like that

Danielle91 said:
Omg I’m not scaring anyone But I’m Saying some nasty people out there who follow her who don’t know her from Adam could potentially do something like that
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That’s why I said you’ve got to be careful
 
Danielle91 said:
I agree that people should talk it could be the difference between life or death but your Instagram stories on an open account isn’t the place especially with the hate she’s already been receiving next minute someone will inform the social services that she’s sat crying and airing how much she’s not coping whilst her young child is in the same room as her and no one else is there with her helping her with Harlow you’ve got to be carful
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Oh don’t be ridiculous social won’t come knocking because she posted herself crying on her stories.

It doesn’t seem like Charlie has many people see can really reach out to in my opinion, she seems quite alone. Maybe her stories is the only way she feels she can reach out, she wants someone to care. Which yes is attention seeking but also normal human behaviour. Doctors ‘care’ in the sense they want to help you get better but they’re not friends.
 
Bitofthebubbly said:
Oh don’t be ridiculous social won’t come knocking because she posted herself crying on her stories.

It doesn’t seem like Charlie has many people see can really reach out to in my opinion, she seems quite alone. Maybe her stories is the only way she feels she can reach out.
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She has a sister and dad she posts about and sees and speaks highly of I’m sure they would help her out in a heartbeat no questions asked she would certainly get more help off them than her followers she doesn’t no or even follow back or what about the friends she was out with at the weekend they must love and care for her I’m not saying I don’t feel for her I’m saying she’s looking for help in the wrong places that’s all I would be absolutely devastated if I knew my child or family member was posting things like that and not coming to me for the help and support they need
 
Doctors definitely aren't your friends. My doctor left the room when I was there for help and i could see the vile tit my therapist said about me to him because I put in a complaint. Couldn't handle that she wasn't helping me
 
Bostonx said:
Doctors definitely aren't your friends. My doctor left the room when I was there for help and i could see the vile tit my therapist said about me to him because I put in a complaint. Couldn't handle that she wasn't helping me
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Sorry to hear you have an unprofessional doctor but must people don’t it’s not one size fits all remember and most doctors are absolutely amazing when dealing with things like this I hope you managed to get the help you needed in the end
 
People deal with depression differently weather it’s on social media or not, I do myself up with lashes,make up, But it’s not to say I don’t suffer with depression yeah I post pictures to social media but it don’t mean I don’t suffer with depression people deal with it in different ways, post natal depression ain’t something what goes away you gradually just learn to deal with it as best you can, this is why people won’t speak out cause they get tarred with the same your attention seeking putting it on social media, it’s not the case off that we don’t know what’s going on in Charlie’s head deep down.
 
Danielle91 said:
Sorry to hear you have an unprofessional doctor but must people don’t it’s not one size fits all remember and most doctors are absolutely amazing when dealing with things like this I hope you managed to get the help you needed in the end
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Still trying but thank you x
 
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