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See I wonder what the true nature of her being upset is. Initially it seems like it’s about her parenting role but from her latest story it’s more about being between homes and not having a “traditional” family. It’s tough going for sure but perhaps she thought her and Brett would get back together as has happened previously and that’s not the way it’s going and it’s sinking in more. She only got Harlow back last night, not that she can’t be struggling with her, of course she can but after less than 24 hours? I don’t think it’s about parenting at all. More about the situation with Brett. I hope she has people around her for support that aren’t just going out and “partying” because that’s not what she needs right now.
 
amberger0204 said:
I hope she has support around her to support her as she gets used to this new ‘normal’ for them both. It must be worse because you’re limited on where you can go to distract yourself. I know she makes stupid mistakes and comes across very naive, but she’s a fantastic mother to Harlow because that shows in how she’s come along. Her ability as a parent isn’t determined by her relationship status and it won’t reflect how Harlow looks back at her in years to come.

She’s a human being, she’s evidently hurting and knowing that she has struggled with her mental health previously let’s not mock her for essentially reaching out for help by posting photos of her crying. Pick on the real crappy things like the undisclosed ads and the selling of the coffee, not continually commenting on her appearance and calling her a slag.
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Im not mocking her?
 
Yeah I do think like the thread can get a bit much when they go in on appearance, every girl I know go through a stage when they break up they have a glow up then as days go on they reflect at the relationship, the same words Charlie’s put on her story I came out with last year I ended up getting diagnosed with PND but I am in a better place now I’ve got the correct help. It can be worst thing when the relationship collapses when you thought they was going to be your forever because you have had a baby. It don’t work though like that, she should concentrate on herself for a while and Harlow x
 
I think it’s not about struggling as a parent . More she feels like she let Harlow down by not being able to keep the family together. I felt the same and still do about my kids and their dad
I think she thought her and Brett would get back together but what she posted about him when she was angry probably sealed the deal. And she’s now probably got to find somewhere cheaper to live and it feels like everything is fucked .
Plus lockdown won’t be helping.

Lilyloves said:
she is a single parent the definition of single parent is someone who lives alone with their child/children without a partner or spouse
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Exactly she’s single and she’s a parent ..... she’s a single parent , she’s never once said Brett isn’t involved.
 
Poor Charlie. Yes she’s made some stupid decisions, yes she’s acted like an utter knob online but she’s a young girl who’s now a single mum. Lockdown with a child is NOT fun. The first few weeks I think most parents thought we had our tit together and by week 3-4 we were burned out. I have a partner thankfully but he works 5 days a week still. It’s extremely lonely, even with a toddler who can talk. You can reach out to friends or family but really what is there left to talk about? Nobody can do anything so it’s just a quick 5 min “hi how are you” conversation and it’s over.

I hope she has a decent support network around her. Nobody deserves to feel like they are failing as a parent (unless they are) but in Charlie’s case she’s not failing. There’s a few things I wouldn’t do but Harlow is so loved that’s clear to see.
 
I think the true reason charlie is upset is because of Brett but she obviously won't admit that. Yes having a toddler on your own is hard work, but she does get a breather when harlow goes to Brett's for the night.
 
Looks like Charlie on a comedown after the weekend. I 100% feel for her tho, I've been alone with a toddler for weeks at a time as my partner works away and can totally understand it's hard work, but she's only had Harlow back for a day so I'd say shes missing Brett and the reality is hitting hard after a weekend having fun with her friends.
 
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Blueberrymuffin said:
I think the true reason charlie is upset is because of Brett but she obviously won't admit that. Yes having a toddler on your own is hard work, but she does get a breather when harlow goes to Brett's for the night.
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It doesn’t change the fact she can still find it difficult the other 5 days out of the week. Everybody struggles for their own reasons, doesn’t mean her struggles are any less than another persons.
 
Georgethecat said:
Looks like Charlie on a come down after the weekend. I 100% feel for her tho, I've been alone with a toddler for weeks at a time as my partner works away and can totally understand it's hard work, but she's only had Harlow back for a day so I'd say shes missing Brett and the reality is hitting hard after a weekend having fun with her friends.
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Session depression 😂😂😂
 
Bostonx said:
She said before that brett worked away a lot so it wouldn't be any different for them but I think it's the company she is missing
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But it’s different to having someone coming home and having someone to talk to that being stuck in on your own with no other adult interaction
 
Dmp_xox said:
But it’s different to having someone coming home and having someone to talk to that being stuck in on your own with no other adult interaction
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I know it's different. I'm just saying she thought it wouldn't be. I literally said she was missing the company 😂
 
Blueberrymuffin said:
I think the true reason charlie is upset is because of Brett but she obviously won't admit that. Yes having a toddler on your own is hard work, but she does get a breather when harlow goes to Brett's for the night.
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You’ve just got to get on with it when you’ve got kids no time for moping around feeling sorry for yourself she gets a break and you can’t be crying not coping one minute then putting your nips and beef curtains on your story the next living the dream with your balloons at the weekend then crying on a Tuesday it’s all for attention if you was feeling that sort of way you would discuss it with close family and friends not your social media followers she wants to try knowing what hard work and a hard life actually is I’m not much older than her and I work full time (not selling things from my phone sat on the sofa ) I have a house to run a child to look after and I am I actually a single mum as my child’s father passed away so I could easily sit there feeling sorry for myself with good reason too but you know what you don’t come first anymore you get to get dressed and get tit done show your child what it’s like to be strong and independent and work for your money because the thing what makes you the proudest ever is knowing you’ve done it yourself and not had to rely on anything or anyone be a boss mom 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
 
Danielle91 said:
You’ve just got to get on with it when you’ve got kids no time for moping around feeling sorry for yourself she gets a break and you can’t be crying not coping one minute then putting your nips and beef curtains on your story the next living the dream with your balloons at the weekend then crying on a Tuesday it’s all for attention if you was feeling that sort of way you would discuss it with close family and friends not your social media followers she wants to try knowing what hard work and a hard life actually is I’m not much older than her and I work full time (not selling things from my phone sat on the sofa ) I have a house to run a child to look after and I am I actually a single mum as my child’s father passed away so I could easily sit there feeling sorry for myself with good reason too but you know what you don’t come first anymore you get to get dressed and get tit done show your child what it’s like to be strong and independent and work for your money because the thing what makes you the proudest ever is knowing you’ve done it yourself and not had to rely on anything or anyone be a boss mom 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
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Did she get naked on camera? I must have missed that as I just saw her posting in pjs yeah sexy ones but not crotch less pants or peephole bras....unless she did and I missed it, apologies if so 😁
Also she had pre and post natal depression it’s possible that isn’t completely gone it’s not so easy to just get up and keep going, in fact if you fall into the hole it’s a slippery slope-fast.
Done the single mam thing a long time ago and found it pretty easy tbh, I didn’t have loads of support it was just circumstances, dad wasn’t involved from the start so I was used to that anyway. Worked full time, own house and car etc. But if you hit that bump it’s easy to get dragged down
 
I really do feel for her and hope she’s ok, she’s a wonderful mum and can clearly see how much they both adore Harlow. Must be the worst time to go through a breakup when you can’t go anywhere & you’re stuck in the house on your own with a baby. My partner works away for weeks at a time and it gets lonely but I have a phone call at end of each day for someone to talk to, I hope her family and friends are checking in on her and making sure she’s doing ok and being that ear that she will need. Also she didn’t say that it wouldn’t be any different because Brett works away she said because he’s always at work & yes she is a single parent, just because brett has Harlow doesn’t take away the fact she is a single parent
 
Danielle91 said:
You’ve just got to get on with it when you’ve got kids no time for moping around feeling sorry for yourself she gets a break and you can’t be crying not coping one minute then putting your nips and beef curtains on your story the next living the dream with your balloons at the weekend then crying on a Tuesday it’s all for attention if you was feeling that sort of way you would discuss it with close family and friends not your social media followers she wants to try knowing what hard work and a hard life actually is I’m not much older than her and I work full time (not selling things from my phone sat on the sofa ) I have a house to run a child to look after and I am I actually a single mum as my child’s father passed away so I could easily sit there feeling sorry for myself with good reason too but you know what you don’t come first anymore you get to get dressed and get tit done show your child what it’s like to be strong and independent and work for your money because the thing what makes you the proudest ever is knowing you’ve done it yourself and not had to rely on anything or anyone be a boss mom 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
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100%, I'm the same I'm a mum of 2 and work full time. Yes lockdown is hard but you have to get on with it instead of attention seeking on instagram like she is!
 
_basic_ said:
Did she get naked on camera? I must have missed that as I just saw her posting in pjs yeah sexy ones but not crotch less pants or peephole bras....unless she did and I missed it, apologies if so 😁
Also she had pre and post natal depression it’s possible that isn’t completely gone it’s not so easy to just get up and keep going, in fact if you fall into the hole it’s a slippery slope-fast.
Done the single mam thing a long time ago and found it pretty easy tbh, I didn’t have loads of support it was just circumstances, dad wasn’t involved from the start so I was used to that anyway. Worked full time, own house and car etc. But if you hit that bump it’s easy to get dragged down
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My dad killed him self he had proper depression the one that you wouldn’t discuss on social media to loads of people you don’t know the one that you find it hard to talk about to just anyone when your that badly depressed you barely want to talk to anyone never mind be on social media posting your every move you don’t hardly want to get out of bed in the morning and it’s a hard to get dressed every day never mind putting your 50 inch lashes on face full of make up extensions in just to post a picture of your self In skimpy pjs acting seductively sorry but know this isn’t the behaviour of someone who’s depressed and or not coping ..... FACT 😊

Blueberrymuffin said:
100%, I'm the same I'm a mum of 2 and work full time. Yes lockdown is hard but you have to get on with it instead of attention seeking on instagram like she is!
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Exactly it’s all for the cameras and it’s all for attention I think the only thing we don’t no is when she’s took a tit how about put your phone down for 2 seconds of your life and go be a parent then you might not feel like a “bad mum” go and actually be one then 🙄🙄🙄
 
Danielle91 said:
My dad killed him self he had proper depression the one that you wouldn’t discuss on social media to loads of people you don’t know the one that you find it hard to talk about to just anyone when your that badly depressed you barely want to talk to anyone never mind be on social media posting your every move you don’t hardly want to get out of bed in the morning and it’s a hard to get dressed every day never mind putting your 50 inch lashes on face full of make up extensions in just to post a picture of your self In skimpy pjs acting seductively sorry but know this isn’t the behaviour of someone who’s depressed and or not coping ..... FACT 😊
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I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad, but please don't use phrases like "proper depression" it is extremely insensitive. Need I remind you of the countless celebrities who would put on make up, go to lavish parties and have thousands of admirers but ended up killing themselves? We don't know what Charlie gets up to 90% of the time or how she truly feels.

I personally wouldn't air my grievances on my social media but if thats how she gets some comfort then so be it.
 
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