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Sarah’s Day #77 3rd pregnancy over and out, another child to use for clout
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cumglaze
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gave me the ick.
TickledPink
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How Kurt tried to articulate the pain of contractions asking if it’s like „cutting“, oh man 
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Sarah’s pain threshold is absolutely zero. She is afraid of the pain before it even happens. She should have done a hypnobirthing course. She is clearly very anxious you could see the panic in her eyes even in the early stages of labour.
. Sarah’s pain threshold is absolutely zero. She is afraid of the pain before it even happens. She should have done a hypnobirthing course. She is clearly very anxious you could see the panic in her eyes even in the early stages of labour.
PiperPepper
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It always amazes me to see birthing experience from another countries. In my country we have one birthing partner and thats it. You can have your own midwife or doula present also but most women prefer to not have many people present so they can more easily be zen, not talk, relax and overall focus. All to produce natural oxytocin to help deliver the baby the most natural way. Since it is almost a cultural thing then most women try to learn the ways, do the work and prepare and most women have unmedicated births. There is no shame if help is needed but in my country women pretty much try to do everything to have as relaxing birth as possible. So to see so many people talking, being loud in the room (the one in labour also loudly laughing and being this energetic) and so much more going on at the same time, it is baffling to me. I know it's a different culture and normal (an honor for those people) to have them present but I couldn't imagine that for myself. How are you supposed to let your body relax and chill in that environment? I had my last baby two months ago and had my husband and one midwife present in the delivery room. It was perfect.
Anyways... You could tell that she can not be that far along from how Sarah was acting between contractions. And to see her making so much noise and wasting energy at 2-3cm. Wow. She really does it all for the drama and for the gram. And then does not understand why it takes so long for her or why her body does not cooperate etc. I mean when you focus your energy on maintaining your image and trying to be pretty and always thinking where the camera is, having your hair down and in your face, loudly laughing with all the body and hand movements she makes... What do you expect really?
Anyways... You could tell that she can not be that far along from how Sarah was acting between contractions. And to see her making so much noise and wasting energy at 2-3cm. Wow. She really does it all for the drama and for the gram. And then does not understand why it takes so long for her or why her body does not cooperate etc. I mean when you focus your energy on maintaining your image and trying to be pretty and always thinking where the camera is, having your hair down and in your face, loudly laughing with all the body and hand movements she makes... What do you expect really?
20 seconds in the birth vlog and she has already mentioned her bleeping dermatitis.
The sounds she is making so early in labour is actually so insane and frankly obnoxious. She would have only been around 3-4cm and she is yelling like she is about to transition, and is about to push!
(I’m sorry if that is insensitive but I’ve never seen someone act like that before so early into labour).
She is completely incapable of feeling any sort of discomfort. It explains why she incessantly complains about any minor inconvenience that happens to her and never seems genuinely grateful for all the good things in her life, it’s because she is used to her privileged life and has never had to experience anything else so she thinks that is the norm.
She is also too ignorant and self involved to ever care enough to hear about anything that doesn’t directly affect her.
The sounds she is making so early in labour is actually so insane and frankly obnoxious. She would have only been around 3-4cm and she is yelling like she is about to transition, and is about to push!
(I’m sorry if that is insensitive but I’ve never seen someone act like that before so early into labour).
She is completely incapable of feeling any sort of discomfort. It explains why she incessantly complains about any minor inconvenience that happens to her and never seems genuinely grateful for all the good things in her life, it’s because she is used to her privileged life and has never had to experience anything else so she thinks that is the norm.
She is also too ignorant and self involved to ever care enough to hear about anything that doesn’t directly affect her.
recoveryqueen
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Surprised nobody’s mentioned her saying “shut up water birth witch” to Em over the phone 
I know she was joking… but eeeeeek 
I know she was joking… but eeeeeek Firsttimeposter87
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That labour vlog was … something else.
Still filled with chronic lies.
Tells her midwife her water broke at 7:20am at the beginning but then later in the vlog says her water broke at 6am.
Also agree with other comments that her birth seemed pretty normal to me?
I think one of Sarah’s biggest issues is she is in constant comparison. She would be comparing her birth to her sisters or Beth’s. I would honestly go as far as saying that Sarah’s birth would be the more common birth scenario and that births like her sisters would be the anomaly.
Either way she’s just a flog.
Still filled with chronic lies.
Tells her midwife her water broke at 7:20am at the beginning but then later in the vlog says her water broke at 6am.
Also agree with other comments that her birth seemed pretty normal to me?
I think one of Sarah’s biggest issues is she is in constant comparison. She would be comparing her birth to her sisters or Beth’s. I would honestly go as far as saying that Sarah’s birth would be the more common birth scenario and that births like her sisters would be the anomaly.
Either way she’s just a flog.
I have so many thoughts... Bare with me, some sound defensive, some snarky, some just thoughts.
1. It's clear as day she has PPD and or PPA, and I feel insanely bad for her. I've survived both, barely, and it utterly destroys you. It's beyond your control.
2. I also found it hard to nap with my newborn, and I imagine it's even harder with a kid and a toddler around too. That said, she has admitted she doesn't nap but should and could, so there is a bit of onus on her to act in her best interest. I didn't have the means to hire a Nanny (etc), and no family around, but because of the PND/A, I felt like I couldn't - I HAD to be awake and aware and active and alert... Or so my brain said. I wish I sought help sooner for it and thus had the ability to disconnect and sleep. In her case, I hope she seeks help pronto. Perhaps therapy is enough but I would hope she's open to the discussion of medications.
3. Sleep deprivation sucks. Again, it's soul destroying. I can't imagine she is helping her cause by not taking naps, but even if she was, the interrupted nights are hard. It seems like Kurt is hands on and engaged with the other boys which is good, and they have family around and some what available to help. Sounds like her friends doing the meal train was also wonderful.
4a. I don't think H has reflux. Anatomically ALL babies reflux. It's an immature oesophageal sphincter that causes regurgitation in kids under 6 months. What he IS is unsettled, so we have been told.
4b. On that note, I don't blame her for only story-ing when he's calm. I wouldn't film when my son was upset either. Ever. (Thus I have like no photos or videos of us for the first 6 months sadly -- I timed it one day, at 10wo he screamed for 6 hours, only stopping for boob and sleep).
4a. Plus, Infants don't have acidic stomachs like adults do, so even when he's vomiting or possetting, it's not painful.
5. Paediatric chiros are useless and tongue tied are over diagnoses. Hot take I know. But seriously. We are designed to be born the way we are, we don't get "out of alignment" in birth, no matter how hard or easy the delivery. They're just taking her money.
6. She's so quick to jump on to food exclusions. Now, I DID have a child with CMPI, as well as a spirited personality/temperament, who ONLY contact naps and still at 1.5yo will only boob to sleep and cosleep and is up 5x a night -- so again I'm biased asn I feel her -- but damn, she cut out a lot QUICK. I GET it. I did the same, despite medical training (doctor, like, proper, not a chiro lol). But a quick read of PROPER sources tells you things like garlic and onion (and coffee!!) don't get transferred in breast milk. Dairy and soy do, and very VERY rarely things like corn, but it's not the first thing we suggest. Because food exclusions? A nightmare. Absolutely mental, ON TOP of sleep deprivation and an unsettled newborn? No wonder she's acting off.
7. I'd strongly suggest she continues seeing the GP IBCLC if they're Possums or NDC accredited. They'll do the tongue tie assessment, be quick to pick up PND/A, help with winding H down (thus making him less unsettled), and generally are a godsend for unsettled families.
8. She did moan a lot in labour, so early on. That said, I know everyone labours differently. Some women moan loud, some are silent. I've delivered many babies and it's so fascinating how we all vary. Personally, I was doing ok at home in the shower or using my tens until hour 10, when I was 5cm (I found out later lol I didn't examine myself), and I don't think I moaned like that until later... But who cares if she did. THAT SAID, she preached about doing hypno birthing and using the comb and stuff, so... Surely she knew not to waste all that energy so early on?
9. She's definitely envious of her sisters water home birth. I truly think psychology will help her dissect the why. WHY did she needs to have an unmedicated birth? WHY is a water birth better? (Of course this is from her POV, I don't think it's better myself lol). WHY did she feel she needed permission for an epidural? WHY does she need to prove herself? To who?
10. The dissociation stuff is probably the wrong word being used - she detached. She's also very dramatic, if the health care workers were that worried about her state they would've done an emergency Caesar. It's OK she was deflated and sad and annoyed, and that's probably what they commented on.
11. Nothing scarier than emergency team coming in, I know from being on both sides now. I feel for her. Definitely not a redemptive birth (again I wonder WHY she wanted or needed one).
12. The way she talks about caesareans boils my blood. I had an emergency one at 10cm (funny enough I also had a swollen anterior cervical lip lol but it was my son de-sating as he got stuck that made us call it). It ISNT the easy way out or a failure.
13. Her rush to the gym makes sense - it's how she feels productive. It's pathological and it makes me sad for her. Why not a nice walk with your kid/s? Why not at home? Why not with Kurt?
14. I feel conflicted about her sharing like she is. She is being VERY raw and I appreciate that. She is also being very dramatic which I get is her thing. She is also being very very stubborn from what she's sharing. I also wonder if she would be better funnelling the energy she puts into story-ing into therapy.
I had more to say I am sure but I can't think any more lol.
Overall? I hope she finds a good GP, NDC practitioner, psychologist and also offers food, hires a cleaner, hires a gardener, hires babysitters, and finds the time she needs to adjust to being a family of 5.
No chiro needed. No tongue tie cut needed.
If she needs a diet adjustment, talk to a dietician.
We know she can afford it. Even if it meant selling the other house or downgrading a car etc, Sarah if you're reading, it's worth it. As much as we snark, I truly think you're worth it. Worth the help. Worth the recovery.
1. It's clear as day she has PPD and or PPA, and I feel insanely bad for her. I've survived both, barely, and it utterly destroys you. It's beyond your control.
2. I also found it hard to nap with my newborn, and I imagine it's even harder with a kid and a toddler around too. That said, she has admitted she doesn't nap but should and could, so there is a bit of onus on her to act in her best interest. I didn't have the means to hire a Nanny (etc), and no family around, but because of the PND/A, I felt like I couldn't - I HAD to be awake and aware and active and alert... Or so my brain said. I wish I sought help sooner for it and thus had the ability to disconnect and sleep. In her case, I hope she seeks help pronto. Perhaps therapy is enough but I would hope she's open to the discussion of medications.
3. Sleep deprivation sucks. Again, it's soul destroying. I can't imagine she is helping her cause by not taking naps, but even if she was, the interrupted nights are hard. It seems like Kurt is hands on and engaged with the other boys which is good, and they have family around and some what available to help. Sounds like her friends doing the meal train was also wonderful.
4a. I don't think H has reflux. Anatomically ALL babies reflux. It's an immature oesophageal sphincter that causes regurgitation in kids under 6 months. What he IS is unsettled, so we have been told.
4b. On that note, I don't blame her for only story-ing when he's calm. I wouldn't film when my son was upset either. Ever. (Thus I have like no photos or videos of us for the first 6 months sadly -- I timed it one day, at 10wo he screamed for 6 hours, only stopping for boob and sleep).
4a. Plus, Infants don't have acidic stomachs like adults do, so even when he's vomiting or possetting, it's not painful.
5. Paediatric chiros are useless and tongue tied are over diagnoses. Hot take I know. But seriously. We are designed to be born the way we are, we don't get "out of alignment" in birth, no matter how hard or easy the delivery. They're just taking her money.
6. She's so quick to jump on to food exclusions. Now, I DID have a child with CMPI, as well as a spirited personality/temperament, who ONLY contact naps and still at 1.5yo will only boob to sleep and cosleep and is up 5x a night -- so again I'm biased asn I feel her -- but damn, she cut out a lot QUICK. I GET it. I did the same, despite medical training (doctor, like, proper, not a chiro lol). But a quick read of PROPER sources tells you things like garlic and onion (and coffee!!) don't get transferred in breast milk. Dairy and soy do, and very VERY rarely things like corn, but it's not the first thing we suggest. Because food exclusions? A nightmare. Absolutely mental, ON TOP of sleep deprivation and an unsettled newborn? No wonder she's acting off.
7. I'd strongly suggest she continues seeing the GP IBCLC if they're Possums or NDC accredited. They'll do the tongue tie assessment, be quick to pick up PND/A, help with winding H down (thus making him less unsettled), and generally are a godsend for unsettled families.
8. She did moan a lot in labour, so early on. That said, I know everyone labours differently. Some women moan loud, some are silent. I've delivered many babies and it's so fascinating how we all vary. Personally, I was doing ok at home in the shower or using my tens until hour 10, when I was 5cm (I found out later lol I didn't examine myself), and I don't think I moaned like that until later... But who cares if she did. THAT SAID, she preached about doing hypno birthing and using the comb and stuff, so... Surely she knew not to waste all that energy so early on?
9. She's definitely envious of her sisters water home birth. I truly think psychology will help her dissect the why. WHY did she needs to have an unmedicated birth? WHY is a water birth better? (Of course this is from her POV, I don't think it's better myself lol). WHY did she feel she needed permission for an epidural? WHY does she need to prove herself? To who?
10. The dissociation stuff is probably the wrong word being used - she detached. She's also very dramatic, if the health care workers were that worried about her state they would've done an emergency Caesar. It's OK she was deflated and sad and annoyed, and that's probably what they commented on.
11. Nothing scarier than emergency team coming in, I know from being on both sides now. I feel for her. Definitely not a redemptive birth (again I wonder WHY she wanted or needed one).
12. The way she talks about caesareans boils my blood. I had an emergency one at 10cm (funny enough I also had a swollen anterior cervical lip lol but it was my son de-sating as he got stuck that made us call it). It ISNT the easy way out or a failure.
13. Her rush to the gym makes sense - it's how she feels productive. It's pathological and it makes me sad for her. Why not a nice walk with your kid/s? Why not at home? Why not with Kurt?
14. I feel conflicted about her sharing like she is. She is being VERY raw and I appreciate that. She is also being very dramatic which I get is her thing. She is also being very very stubborn from what she's sharing. I also wonder if she would be better funnelling the energy she puts into story-ing into therapy.
I had more to say I am sure but I can't think any more lol.
Overall? I hope she finds a good GP, NDC practitioner, psychologist and also offers food, hires a cleaner, hires a gardener, hires babysitters, and finds the time she needs to adjust to being a family of 5.
No chiro needed. No tongue tie cut needed.
If she needs a diet adjustment, talk to a dietician.
We know she can afford it. Even if it meant selling the other house or downgrading a car etc, Sarah if you're reading, it's worth it. As much as we snark, I truly think you're worth it. Worth the help. Worth the recovery.
cumcustard
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And I think the psychic she went to told her she would have a c section.And she did yoga!
Yeah my 5 year old would be so distressed.
as a mother of two children, that I
birthedthrough my vajayjay under medical supervision (that’s Sez for hospital) - I’ve never heard of someone having their cervix pushed out of the way 
.Is this a real thing? Or only in Sezy Land?
pepsi_max_love
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The way Kurt calls her bubba 
it’s what I call my child.. not about that.
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it’s what I call my child.. not about that.---
I actually have heard of this cervical lip issue before!Yeah my 5 year old would be so distressed.
as a mother of two children, that I
Is this a real thing? Or only in Sezy Land?
LMAOOOOO 4cm and she tapped out? I thought I was a weakling and I showed up to the hospital at 8cm
also what the duck at H being only 2.5kg. Sorry but im going to mum shame here. 2.5kg?!! Did she eat ANY fats at all during her pregnancy? In what state is that baby’s brain? Did she eat any omega 3 for his brain during pregnancy? duck, did she eat anything at all?! duck her for choosing to gain as little weight as possible over her baby’s health
Do YoUR oWn ResEARCh
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I had one in my first birth. It was like smacking your head against a brick wall for hours, my midwife put me on a drop to try and speed up labour but never checked me, midwives swapped she checked, pushed it out of the way and instant relief.The way Kurt calls her bubba
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I actually have heard of this cervical lip issue before!
peridoe
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Awesome breakdown! Very informative pov.
Sarah's mental health is tied greatly to her ED, and whether she's worked out enough (in her mind). This isn't to downplay PND/A, but imo, her "struggling" is purely because she hasn't been able to go to the gym whenever she wants. Look how she was last week when H's reflux stopped for two days, enabling her to go workout - she was a completely different person. The high she was on was insane. We've seen her have many meltdowns in the past because she can't get to a gym, and this is no different.
Sarah's fine being a mum until her kids need her, then she gets immediately "touched out" (her words) and frustrated because she can't do what she wants to do. Like she's said, M was her dream baby because she could just feed him and put him down after. F and now H need more contact/attention so she's struggling.
Also, she already has her groceries delivered, a cleaner in once or twice a week, a gardener, a dog walker, a baby sitter and a video editor to work on her content. She used to also have a nanny. She also has her parents and sister, Kurt's family, several parent friends, plus the support of her church community on hand to help as well. She doesn't have a village, she has a city!
This isn't to say she shouldn't find newborn life or three kids hard, and for anyone else claiming to be struggling this hard would benefit from seeking professional help, but I'll be willing to bet she'll be magically back to herself once she's back at the gym regularly.
TickledPink
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LMAOOOOO 4cm and she tapped out? I thought I was a weakling and I showed up to the hospital at 8cm
also what the duck at H being only 2.5kg. Sorry but im going to mum shame here. 2.5kg?!! Did she eat ANY fats at all during her pregnancy? In what state is that baby’s brain? Did she eat any omega 3 for his brain during pregnancy? duck, did she eat anything at all?! duck her for choosing to gain as little weight as possible over her baby’s health
I thought the same thing. I know it’s hard to tell on social media how a person really looks like but she looked like she didn’t gain any extra weight. Most pregnant women do and they are supposed to, depending on their pre pregnancy weight.
I think it was fairly obvious she kept her weight gain as minimum as possible. Her reel with the „optical illusion“ was disturbing. When she was 35 weeks plus (don’t know exactly) she also mentioned how her baby is „cooked“ and only gains weight from now on hoping she doesn’t go above 40. The need to exercise at the end of her pregnancy despite saying she doesn’t sleep and is tired etc. You would think running after two children whilst pregnant keeps you active enough but hey off to the gym as well. Sorry I just can’t relate. Growing a baby is exhausting.
Overall I thought she had no pregnancy glow, no fullness in her face which she used to and she looked gorgeous.
I had this to with my almost 5kg baby, the midwife had me reposition to see if it would resolve. Also just have to mention for sezzy that I didn't have a single tare.The way Kurt calls her bubba
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I actually have heard of this cervical lip issue before!
Alloftheteaplease
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I also felt like all the noise she was making was a bit performative. It felt like she has seen videos of women in active labour when they’re pushing or something and she thinks that’s the noises she had to make too. It doesn’t help, actually makes it harder to mentally deal with the pain because you feel out of control and uses up energy.
I had a traumatic birth with my first son, a 3 day labour, ending in episiotomy and forceps in theatre with a spinal block because they thought they would have to do a c section. I laboured for 2 full days at home and one in hospital. I don’t think I made a sound until the very end when I was 10cm and in transition. My sister is a midwife and she was like wtf are you a mute
also I don’t bang on about my traumatic birth ad nauseam. Oh also sezzy btw I didn’t get an epi until the spinal block in theatre cos they were so convinced I was going to end a c section. At that point though I was so determined I was going to push the baby out. Oh and I didn’t decide to disassociate when they were talking about a potential c section either she is so fuckijg dramatic
Nina1991
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LMAOOOOO 4cm and she tapped out? I thought I was a weakling and I showed up to the hospital at 8cm
also what the duck at H being only 2.5kg. Sorry but im going to mum shame here. 2.5kg?!! Did she eat ANY fats at all during her pregnancy? In what state is that baby’s brain? Did she eat any omega 3 for his brain during pregnancy? duck, did she eat anything at all?! duck her for choosing to gain as little weight as possible over her baby’s health
Did you see how happy she was when she found out how small he was….
annieray
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Omg yes I zeroed in on that too! But unlike Sezzy I have been too busy actually parenting a baby and working full time this week, so didn’t post until now.Surprised nobody’s mentioned her saying “shut up water birth witch” to Em over the phone
Once again Sarah shows her true colours. Imagine how Em must’ve felt, having just achieved this wonderful birth experience that she clearly worked hard and prepared for, AND being in the emotional throws of postpartum, AND taking the time away from her own newborn to call and encourage her sister in labour…Only to have her entitled narc sister turn around and call her a ‘water birth witch’?
Em achieved what you desperately wanted but could never achieve, Sarah. And not because she’s special, and not because you have and that WrAp tOgEtHer during labour (lol), but because she put the work in, and you refuse to. Everyone could see how deflated you were at getting your third epidural. Your face (despite what you’ve done to it) doesn’t hide your sour demeanour. But what did you honestly expect? You did zero preparation! You bought a new ball and combs, then proceeded to do like you did the last 2 times and faff around to exhaustion by 3cm. Go figure you had to tap out!
Beyond sad, Sarah is absolutely pathetic. She also especially shows her true colours through veiled jokes that actually touch at the heart of her insecurities, or that (in her mind) create comparisons where she comes off as the loser. You ARE the loser, Sarah. And not because you had an epidural, but because you show so much hatred to those who you perceive to be better, instead of showing (Christian) grace. And because you then go on to blame your baby for your misgivings, and lie through your horse teeth all the while looking miserable.
But as others have so eloquently stated, Sarah’s focus is always on the surface level - the appearance of health, the appearance of interest in wellness, motherhood, etc. But the facade falls real quick when she is faced with walking the walk. Then she can’t help but show her distain for the success of others; her constant annoyance with her children; her mania at the idea or food restrictions and over exercise; and her obvious PPD.
Sarah, the commenter above was very kind to say you’re worth getting help. I honestly don’t think you are. But your children are innocent, and they’re worth it. And your impressionable audience eating up your lies are worth it. So pick yourself up by your extensions and get yourself psychological help. You very very much need it.
Sincerely, another
water birth witch (suck it)
Alloftheteaplease
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An addition to my post - I don’t shame anyone for having an epidural, or a c section, or to birth however they wants. It’s your baby, your body, your choice. Same with breast/bottle feedingI also felt like all the noise she was making was a bit performative. It felt like she has seen videos of women in active labour when they’re pushing or something and she thinks that’s the noises she had to make too. It doesn’t help, actually makes it harder to mentally deal with the pain because you feel out of control and uses up energy.
I had a traumatic birth with my first son, a 3 day labour, ending in episiotomy and forceps in theatre with a spinal block because they thought they would have to do a c section. I laboured for 2 full days at home and one in hospital. I don’t think I made a sound until the very end when I was 10cm and in transition. My sister is a midwife and she was like wtf are you a mute
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