Pregnancy Off Topic #5 “Are men ok??”

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User767676 said:
Mine is lovely, it’s just I feel they forget I exist or that I’m baby’s mother. Heart is in the right place but I’m worried baby will be so spoilt when they’re older!

I think it’s because they all baby the boys. All you boy mums will be that MIL in a few years 😂
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Naaaahhhhh I’ve sworn I’m not gonna be an annoying MIL when my boy is older. I’m gonn be sound. Proper nice. no video calls at 10pm asking to see the baby. No pretending to be a telephone. No trying to get their attention like their a cat
 
My MiL is a weird one, she can go months and months of being alright then suddenly she’ll decide to act like an almighty head for a while. We are currently at the head stage. I’ve been so laid back with her about the baby, literally no restrictions, cuddle him when you want, don’t ask etc, the only rule I’ve put in place is please please do not kiss him (obvious reasons). She’s decided to ignore it. She keeps kissing him and it’s really bothering me. I find it so disrespectful that she’s ignoring my request, especially when I’ve clearly explained the reasons to her (RSV, premature so weak immune system). It makes me wish I hadn’t been so laid back with her because she thinks she can do what the duck she wants. And when confronted about it she’ll say “he’s my grandson I will kiss him if I want” 😫😫 so disrespectful, I’m his mum and I’m asking you not to!

Also she can’t just sit still with him she always bounces him about like a fuckin ragdoll then wonders why he cries 😂
 
Elle Woods said:
My MiL is a weird one, she can go months and months of being alright then suddenly she’ll decide to act like an almighty head for a while. We are currently at the head stage. I’ve been so laid back with her about the baby, literally no restrictions, cuddle him when you want, don’t ask etc, the only rule I’ve put in place is please please do not kiss him (obvious reasons). She’s decided to ignore it. She keeps kissing him and it’s really bothering me. I find it so disrespectful that she’s ignoring my request, especially when I’ve clearly explained the reasons to her (RSV, premature so weak immune system). It makes me wish I hadn’t been so laid back with her because she thinks she can do what the duck she wants. And when confronted about it she’ll say “he’s my grandson I will kiss him if I want” 😫😫 so disrespectful, I’m his mum and I’m asking you not to!

Also she can’t just sit still with him she always bounces him about like a fuckin ragdoll then wonders why he cries 😂
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I would just put it brutally to her like “ok, you ignore my request and kiss him - I’m sure you’ll think those kisses were worth it when he catches RSV/a virus and ends up in hospital really poorly or worse”

My step-MIL came near nubs with a bad cold (didn’t say until she’d breathed all over him) and he ended up needing to go to hospital when he was 2 weeks old. It’s so not worth the risk.
 
Elle Woods said:
My MiL is a weird one, she can go months and months of being alright then suddenly she’ll decide to act like an almighty head for a while. We are currently at the head stage. I’ve been so laid back with her about the baby, literally no restrictions, cuddle him when you want, don’t ask etc, the only rule I’ve put in place is please please do not kiss him (obvious reasons). She’s decided to ignore it. She keeps kissing him and it’s really bothering me. I find it so disrespectful that she’s ignoring my request, especially when I’ve clearly explained the reasons to her (RSV, premature so weak immune system). It makes me wish I hadn’t been so laid back with her because she thinks she can do what the duck she wants. And when confronted about it she’ll say “he’s my grandson I will kiss him if I want” 😫😫 so disrespectful, I’m his mum and I’m asking you not to!

Also she can’t just sit still with him she always bounces him about like a fuckin ragdoll then wonders why he cries 😂
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Mine seems a bit like this too, and I anticipate it getting worse. They seem to feel this entitlement which I didn’t see coming.

We’ve already seen it with the fact that I’ve said we are going to see how we feel about when the first visitors can come round, she seems to think she’s excluded from this (exacerbated by the fact they live 5 mins away, so she seems to think she can come round asap). I’ve commented this multiple times, that we’ll see how we feel and how things go with the birth. She’s “jokingly” said she’s “had to put her foot down” about coming round in the first few days. It’s all “jokingly” getting a bit awkward now…!
 
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