Pregnancy #53

How far along are you?

  • Under 12 weeks

    Votes: 46 26.7%

  • 12-18 weeks

    Votes: 21 12.2%

  • 19-26 weeks

    Votes: 26 15.1%

  • 27-32 weeks

    Votes: 12 7.0%

  • 33-38 weeks

    Votes: 22 12.8%

  • Full term / over due

    Votes: 8 4.7%

  • Just had my baby

    Votes: 14 8.1%

  • Just here for the nosey

    Votes: 23 13.4%
  • Total voters
    172
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fudgebox said:
Agreed, I gave up after 3 days and it’s the best thing I could’ve done!! Especially for my mental health
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i always told myself i wouldn’t put any pressure on breastfeeding and now he’s here i really am 😩 and the midwives in hospital gave such conflicting advice! we’ll see how i go, this entire baby thing is overwhelming isn’t it!!!
 
freddofrog said:
i always told myself i wouldn’t put any pressure on breastfeeding and now he’s here i really am 😩 and the midwives in hospital gave such conflicting advice! we’ll see how i go, this entire baby thing is overwhelming isn’t it!!!
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Yeah that’s what I thought is having a new baby to look after is overwhelming enough without all the stress of trying to breastfeed! He had all the colostrum and good stuff from me in the first few days so I was happy with that!
 
I had no desire to breastfeed with my first and my sister was the same. I bought formula with me to the hospital but when I gave birth the midwife really pressured me into it, I was so emotional I gave in. I hated every second of it! He had a tongue tie and couldn’t latch and I didn’t like not knowing how much he was getting. We got on the ward at about 2am and my boyfriend fell straight asleep, I woke up at 6am and tried breastfeeding again and just cried and woke my bf and said I don’t like this and he said, you never wanted to breastfeed anyway, just formula feed. So I did, and I’ve never looked back 😂 And I’m pregnant again and on my first midwife appointment when she asked if I was gonna breastfeed I said nope and that was that

I do admire Mum’s that breastfeed though, it’s just not for me. One of my friends asked me how I’ll bond with my baby if I don’t breastfeed, I said by
all the million other things we’ll do together 😆
 
freddofrog said:
i always told myself i wouldn’t put any pressure on breastfeeding and now he’s here i really am 😩 and the midwives in hospital gave such conflicting advice! we’ll see how i go, this entire baby thing is overwhelming isn’t it!!!
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I was exactly the same, I said it didn’t matter either way then I became fixated on BF. Traumatic birth ending in emergency CS. I remember baby staring up at me so helpless and feeling like I’d failed them. Suddenly BF because the be all and end all, I got it in my head I was failing then if I couldn’t feed them, why couldn’t my body do all this, I must be a terrible mum. We parents suffered with eczema and ear problems that BF is proven to help and thought I’d never forgive myself if I didn’t try harder, I’d be letting them suffer because I wasn’t tough enough. So I put myself through hell mentally and physically. I realise now it was PP hormones messing with my sense of reasoning and rationality.

It was great in the end, so many positives, but was it worth it? I’m not sure. They were fine with a bottle at first but I didn’t offer it for a while and suddenly they refused it, meant I couldn’t leave them for more that 3 hours which is also hard on Mum, I definitely wish I’d have kept up the bottle.
Oh and they do have eczema anyway, maybe it would have been worse if I hadn’t BF, who knows, but breast milk isn’t a magic cure, a loving, present, happy mother able to comfort their child because they’re in a good head space is x
 
I’m currently 38+2 with a nearly 2 year old in tow. Booked in for an elective section on Friday but the mum guilt is eating me up that we’ve barely done much this past week or so, feel like I can barely manage getting out of the house. Please tell me others are in/have been in the same boat? I recovered well from my first section, hoping for the same so we can get out and about again🤞🏼
 
Any advice from anyone that’s maybe been in the same situation, I had my first child during lockdown and had covid at the time was really poorly, causing me to have an emergency section. I never laboured, so do not know anything😅. Fast forward to now I’m pregnant again and don’t have a clue what to do, I’m terrified of birth full stop and the unknown, I’m one of them people that like to plan everything to the point and know what’s coming. I also know the recovery of a section with a toddler might be hell.🤣 I’ve gone to all the VBAC birth meetings and still anit any wiser. Any advice from anyone that’s gone through something similar?

*sorry I realise this doesn’t make much sense*
 
Householdmystery said:
Any advice from anyone that’s maybe been in the same situation, I had my first child during lockdown and had covid at the time was really poorly, causing me to have an emergency section. I never laboured, so do not know anything😅. Fast forward to now I’m pregnant again and don’t have a clue what to do, I’m terrified of birth full stop and the unknown, I’m one of them people that like to plan everything to the point and know what’s coming. I also know the recovery of a section with a toddler might be hell.🤣 I’ve gone to all the VBAC birth meetings and still anit any wiser. Any advice from anyone that’s gone through something similar?

*sorry I realise this doesn’t make much sense*
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I haven’t yet been in your situation but I had an emergency caesarean first time round and am already debating what I’ll do next time even though my baby is only 5.5 months old 😆
However I did labour, which I didn’t find bad at all. I can’t comment on what comes after that, as I pushed for 2 hours, and no baby came hence the caesarean, but he was back to back so it was painful (I understand it would likely have been less painful had he been in the correct position!).
I am also a planner, so I found the thought of spontaneous labour quite daunting, but it wasn’t bad at all, I kind of enjoyed the excitement, but appreciate I didn’t have another little one at home to think about/worry about/plan for… But I did hate the fact I had no control, and although not all will end in an EMCS, it is a fairly high possibility, and I think a higher possibility if you’ve already had one previously (? Don’t quote me on that!)
Anyway, having laboured to the point of pushing and having had the EMCS, I thiiiiink next time I’ll be going for an elective. To be able to be more prepared in myself e.g some rest beforehand, (not 17 hours of labour🤣), to be able to plan for my first born, to have some element of control and be aware more mentally of what is happening to me and around me. If I could guarantee that a VBAC would go smoothly then I’d go for it, but ‘the only way to guarantee you won’t end with EMCS is to have an ELCS’ - which when I read actually made me sad haha. Sorry for the ramble, I don’t know if any of that will help you at all, but I have given it a lot of thought.. almost daily since he was born 🙃
I guess it depends on your first experience too, I never found the EMCS that bad, but I appreciate some people would do anything to avoid it! X
 
Hi guys, another question, I’m still super paranoid and the past couple days I’ve been feeling like just a really uncomfortable pressure feeling. It seems to be focused on the left side but sometimes moves over to the right. Did anybody else have this around 4 weeks? It doesn’t feel like cramps so much but really uncomfortable and isn’t as bad when I’m stood up
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Hi guys, another question, I’m still super paranoid and the past couple days I’ve been feeling like just a really uncomfortable pressure feeling. It seems to be focused on the left side but sometimes moves over to the right. Did anybody else have this around 4 weeks? It doesn’t feel like cramps so much but really uncomfortable and isn’t as bad when I’m stood up
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Have you been going to the loo as normal? Constipation and trapped gas is really common even at the start and can feel like pressure.
The pregnancy hormones can cause all sorts of aches, cramps and stretches from really early on which I found so disconcerting I ended up in EPU from the cramps and pains!
 
littlepup said:
Have you been going to the loo as normal? Constipation and trapped gas is really common even at the start and can feel like pressure.
The pregnancy hormones can cause all sorts of aches, cramps and stretches from really early on which I found so disconcerting I ended up in EPU from the cramps and pains!
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Yeah I’m not constipated, I’ve been more gassy than usual (sorry if tmi) and it sometimes temporarily gets better but just such a weird feeling of fullness, it doesn’t hurt, just don’t know what’s normal and what isn’t
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Hi guys, another question, I’m still super paranoid and the past couple days I’ve been feeling like just a really uncomfortable pressure feeling. It seems to be focused on the left side but sometimes moves over to the right. Did anybody else have this around 4 weeks? It doesn’t feel like cramps so much but really uncomfortable and isn’t as bad when I’m stood up
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Hi, congrats :) I had tons of aches and pains and cramps those first few weeks. Your uterus is growing at an exponential rate and your body is adapting to the surge of hormones. I remember I once moved too fast standing up and had the most horrendous pulling it made me keel over (was all fine!). It was worst around weeks 4-6 iirc however I then started vomming everywhere which was my focus after that haha. If you get sharper pains more on one side than the other then that’s probs the side you ovulated on.

I was so terrified I went to the pharmacist and she told me it was completely normal and could take paracetamol safely for it if it felt like too much.
As others have said throughly recommend a scan, probably around 7 weeks when there would be a heartbeat and to allow for any changes in how far along you might be (I got put forward but know many who got put back). Hope you’re ok, it’s so tough, I didn’t experience any losses or anything but am an anxious person and found it hard xx
 
themuffinwoman said:
Hi, congrats :) I had tons of aches and pains and cramps those first few weeks. Your uterus is growing at an exponential rate and your body is adapting to the surge of hormones. I remember I once moved too fast standing up and had the most horrendous pulling it made me keel over (was all fine!). It was worst around weeks 4-6 iirc however I then started vomming everywhere which was my focus after that haha. If you get sharper pains more on one side than the other then that’s probs the side you ovulated on.

I was so terrified I went to the pharmacist and she told me it was completely normal and could take paracetamol safely for it if it felt like too much.
As others have said throughly recommend a scan, probably around 7 weeks when there would be a heartbeat and to allow for any changes in how far along you might be (I got put forward but know many who got put back). Hope you’re ok, it’s so tough, I didn’t experience any losses or anything but am an anxious person and found it hard xx
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Thank you so so much, that’s so reassuring ❤️ xx
 
I got lots of pains around 4-6 weeks too and convinced myself I was losing the baby (no previous losses but sky high anxiety). They were often on one side and felt crampy or like pressure. At my scan at 7 weeks they said that was the side I’d ovulated from and that’s why I was getting more pain that side. I tried to avoid pain killers but did take a paracetamol on days when it was really bad. I also felt full/pressure like I was going to pop like a balloon from the bloating in the early days. I’d like to say the anxiety improves as you go along but it really doesn’t 🙈
 
Hi, look I’ll be brutally honest- I didn’t read any of this thread- just jumped on in to comment! First baby attempt…
I’m coming off my oral contraceptive pill (Yasmin) Wednesday week. Last time I came off the pill, I got a period but it took 6 weeks to arrive. Maybe this time it will be sooner but who knows!! Anyway my question is: what’s the story with ovulation tests. Do I do one everyday? What brand?
Please don’t laugh, I’ve not a clue where to start and a little overwhelmed
 
ADBCORK said:
Hi, look I’ll be brutally honest- I didn’t read any of this thread- just jumped on in to comment! First baby attempt…
I’m coming off my oral contraceptive pill (Yasmin) Wednesday week. Last time I came off the pill, I got a period but it took 6 weeks to arrive. Maybe this time it will be sooner but who knows!! Anyway my question is: what’s the story with ovulation tests. Do I do one everyday? What brand?
Please don’t laugh, I’ve not a clue where to start and a little overwhelmed
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I can’t help as Baby Raspberry is a surprise baby, but the TTC thread might be able to give lots of advice on ovulation tests etc? Good luck 😊
 
ADBCORK said:
I’m so sorry I didn’t even know that was a thread. Sorry for being on the wrong one… a great start haha! Congrats on the little raspberry. I wish you health and happiness xx
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Wasn’t having a dig or anything, just thought they’d be a fountain of knowledge for all things ovulation testing and support on trying to conceive after coming off the pill etc because they’re all going through it too 😁 good luck, hopefully you’ll be posting on this thread after a positive really soon 😁🤞🏼 xx
 
opintionatedperson said:
First sober hen completed, wasn't as terrible as i antipated but my god people talk some amount of shite and really makes you consider why drink at all 😆
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Weldone, that’s a big thing to go through. I used to work in bars and people talk absolute shit when they’re drunk, though they’re never “drunk” 🙄 wears thin quickly. Finally unpacked my hospital backpack this morning. Lots of uneaten, flattened snacks but it reminded me how useful it was to have a notepad and pen to write down what consultants were saying, as so much of it as a blur.
 
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