Pregnancy #53

How far along are you?

  • Under 12 weeks

    Votes: 46 26.7%

  • 12-18 weeks

    Votes: 21 12.2%

  • 19-26 weeks

    Votes: 26 15.1%

  • 27-32 weeks

    Votes: 12 7.0%

  • 33-38 weeks

    Votes: 22 12.8%

  • Full term / over due

    Votes: 8 4.7%

  • Just had my baby

    Votes: 14 8.1%

  • Just here for the nosey

    Votes: 23 13.4%
  • Total voters
    172
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Yo-kruss said:
Hi all! Hope everything is going well. I'm normally a lurker on here but could do with some advice.

Bit of a long one.. I had a pretty horrific day, have had some light bleeding for a couple of days (17 weeks pegnant) so was told to head into hospital today to get checked. Saw the midwife first who was fab and heard the heartbeat and she said everything was grand.

I was then sent to a Dr for a speculum to check where the bleeding was coming from. After the examination she sat me down and told me my cervix was open and I was definitely having a miscarriage. She ran through the possibilities of how the miscarriage may go and said I may have to stay in hospital and may need surgery. Told me to get my husband to come to the hospital with an overnight bag. Obviously I was devastated and a bit of a mess.

I was then was seen by a registrar who did another examination and she said I could be having a miscarriage but she thinks that there is a polyp at the cervix and that is the more likely cause. I then was sent ultrasound and baby was absolutely fine and the cervix was closed and defo not having a miscarriage. It turns out the first Dr was a GP trainee on rotation.

I'm over the moon baby is doing well but I have been left feeling pretty traumatised, terrified and have been in tears since even though i know baby is ok. Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and had any advice. I am debating changing the hospital as I feel like I can't trust them now. The registrar and midwife were fantastic, it was just the experience with the GP trainee that was horrific.
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So sorry you’ve had such a rough day. I’ve also been experiencing bleeding on and off since around 17 weeks, had a few hospital trips and can honestly say I’ve never experienced anyone as awful as that trainee GP seems to be. Every speculum check has been done by 2 people, either a consultant and midwife or 2 midwives. Please consider putting in a complaint because the level of distress she has caused you whilst you’re pregnant is unacceptable, even if she was just a trainee. It’s shocking they’ve let them do the examination alone and give such devastating diagnosis without it being checked or confirmed by someone with much more experience. I hope you’re ok. Has your bleeding stopped now? Have they kept you in?
 
Yo-kruss said:
Hi all! Hope everything is going well. I'm normally a lurker on here but could do with some advice.

Bit of a long one.. I had a pretty horrific day, have had some light bleeding for a couple of days (17 weeks pegnant) so was told to head into hospital today to get checked. Saw the midwife first who was fab and heard the heartbeat and she said everything was grand.

I was then sent to a Dr for a speculum to check where the bleeding was coming from. After the examination she sat me down and told me my cervix was open and I was definitely having a miscarriage. She ran through the possibilities of how the miscarriage may go and said I may have to stay in hospital and may need surgery. Told me to get my husband to come to the hospital with an overnight bag. Obviously I was devastated and a bit of a mess.

I was then was seen by a registrar who did another examination and she said I could be having a miscarriage but she thinks that there is a polyp at the cervix and that is the more likely cause. I then was sent ultrasound and baby was absolutely fine and the cervix was closed and defo not having a miscarriage. It turns out the first Dr was a GP trainee on rotation.

I'm over the moon baby is doing well but I have been left feeling pretty traumatised, terrified and have been in tears since even though i know baby is ok. Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and had any advice. I am debating changing the hospital as I feel like I can't trust them now. The registrar and midwife were fantastic, it was just the experience with the GP trainee that was horrific.
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Absolutely horrified to read this. So sorry this happened to you but also so happy everything is OK with your baby.
i didn’t have quite such an awful experience with the medical staff but I had some heavy bleeding at 31 weeks and was admitted for 4 days. They checked my cervix and it was closed but also thought my waters might have gone and that I was having contractions. There weren’t really any answers and I spent 4 days not knowing what was happening (other than thankfully monitoring showing baby very happy) and kept having random new nurses/midwives coming in and thinking I was in labour.
i did leave hospital overall feeling the staff had been really supportive, but it was terrifying and I was very upset and anxious for some time after. That was without having anything like as scary as what you were told. I can only empathise and suggest you feed this back / make a complaint to the trust / hospital.
 
I am fine with the bleeding itself, I have had it on and off the entire pregnancy so far it was just that this was going on a bit longer so thought I better get it checked. I wasnt actually concerned when I went to the hospital because of that and was pretty sure I wasnt having a miscarriage. So I am not worried about that part of it, I am more just worried about having a similar experience later down the line and giving birth. But yeah, I think I might put in a complaint just so it is noted as I am not sure what she told the registrar as the register seemed quite surprised about the mess I was in by the time she came to see me. I wish I had just stood up for myself a bit more at the time and trusted the fact I really did not think I was having a miscarriage but hard to think straight when you are in the moment.

Thank you for all your advice! Pregnancy is a wild ride and its so nice to have people to talk to about it.
 
freddofrog said:
baby frog has arrived, he’s perfect 🥰🥰 so in love, but struggling a bit to breastfeed which is getting me down
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Congrats!! If you don't mind me asking, what are you struggling with, is it the latch/pain? I'm planning on breastfeeding, and haven't done my breastfeeding class yet, but just wondering what it is people generally struggle with so I can be a bit mentally prepared! x
 
freddofrog said:
baby frog has arrived, he’s perfect 🥰🥰 so in love, but struggling a bit to breastfeed which is getting me down
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Congratulations! I struggled with breastfeeding too (still am 8 weeks on) and what I would say is please advocate for yourself and ask for help. I kept asking for help and they'd palm me off so you have to be strong which is hard when sleep deprived! I also didn't understand cluster feeding and no one explained it to me so I was very frustrated when baby wanted to feed 24/7 and I didn't understand why. She would also scream every time she came off the boob and I was a bit of a mess but they said in my notes I was doing well 🙃 because of the lack of support I'm now in so much pain that I'm having to take a break from breastfeeding and I'm currently combi feeding as I couldn't exclusively breastfeed. Make sure you are shown a few different positions (they only showed me one - laying down, until when I was about to be discharged I begged to be shown another position) and I never fully got the latch right and didnt understand how to get her on properly so insist that they show you that too. I had assumed that breastfeeding would be easy and come naturally to me but it really didn't 😭 I hope you get the support you need ❤️
 
Hi all, reluctantly joining this thread, still very early in pregnancy (only about 4 weeks), third month in a row being pregnant as the other two ended in early losses. Just wondering if anybody has any tips for getting through the early days of pregnancy after losses? Every twinge and cramp I feel, I’m convinced it’s happening again. I keep squeezing my boobs constantly to make sure they still hurt and convincing myself they don’t anymore. So early on and I’m already consumed with anxiety, convinced it’s all going to go wrong or I’m going to jinx it somehow. Did/does anybody else feel this way?
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Hi all, reluctantly joining this thread, still very early in pregnancy (only about 4 weeks), third month in a row being pregnant as the other two ended in early losses. Just wondering if anybody has any tips for getting through the early days of pregnancy after losses? Every twinge and cramp I feel, I’m convinced it’s happening again. I keep squeezing my boobs constantly to make sure they still hurt and convincing myself they don’t anymore. So early on and I’m already consumed with anxiety, convinced it’s all going to go wrong or I’m going to jinx it somehow. Did/does anybody else feel this way?
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Yes I felt exactly the same. Please don’t panic over things like your boobs not hurting, not feeling as sick one day etc as it does come and go and doesn’t mean anything is going wrong. I must have done about 100 tests in the early days. I think I was testing every time I went to the toilet at one point. The only thing that relaxed my mind a little was an early private scan at 7 weeks. It’s such a stressful time. I have no tips on reducing the anxiety because I was the same but I hope you’re ok and good luck for your pregnancy.

Sorry for your losses ❤️
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Hi all, reluctantly joining this thread, still very early in pregnancy (only about 4 weeks), third month in a row being pregnant as the other two ended in early losses. Just wondering if anybody has any tips for getting through the early days of pregnancy after losses? Every twinge and cramp I feel, I’m convinced it’s happening again. I keep squeezing my boobs constantly to make sure they still hurt and convincing myself they don’t anymore. So early on and I’m already consumed with anxiety, convinced it’s all going to go wrong or I’m going to jinx it somehow. Did/does anybody else feel this way?
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This was me too following loss. I also found a scan was the best thing but appreciate you’ll have to wait a few weeks for that. I tried as best as I could to take each day at a time and not think big, but this wasn’t always easy.

I will say the biggest help was The Miscarriage Association’s Pregnancy After Loss Facebook group. There are people going through loss on there sometimes as a warning, but there’s also a huge amount of positive stories from people further along or even given birth who had previously suffered loss/multiple losses. I always found these very reassuring to read. Plus the advice was always really sound on there. You should be able to find their group if you go on their website and search.

Really sorry for your past losses ❤
 
amyy said:
Congrats!! If you don't mind me asking, what are you struggling with, is it the latch/pain? I'm planning on breastfeeding, and haven't done my breastfeeding class yet, but just wondering what it is people generally struggle with so I can be a bit mentally prepared! x
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no pain! just hard to keep him latched, then the paranoia he’s starving.. and we go round again! i’ve been asking a specialist for help today and they were brilliant, so i’d recommend getting help if you need some - breastfeeding isn’t easy for most people!! takes some work getting you and baby in a groove.
 
freddofrog said:
baby frog has arrived, he’s perfect 🥰🥰 so in love, but struggling a bit to breastfeed which is getting me down
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Congratulations on your new arrival! Don’t feel too disheartened, your body has and is doing amazing things ! take care of yourself.
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38 weeks pregnant today.
And I’ve just finished work and started my mat leave 😬 feels so strange but I don’t think it will hit me until Monday.
 
I massively struggled with breast feeding. To the point it really affected my metal health and first weeks of parenthood. In a way I wish I’d have given up however I didn’t and managed to successfully feed for 2.5yrs. It’s hard but also incredible not to have to worry about bottles etc especially when going out/away.
Things I learned…
If you struggle with latch look at the “flippel” technique and various holds. Nose to nipple too. Nipple shields can help with pain. Look up things like vasospasm, mastitis etc so you know what to look out for and if all gets too much, your mental health is more important.
Get to know hunger cues, you can’t over feed if exclusively BF. If you're really panicking about them getting enough, take them to your local library and weigh them, seeing them regain and put it on is a real help to put your mind at ease.
Cluster feeding is tough but it doesn’t last forever so get plenty of snacks, a big water bottle and settle in while you can.
If you want to supplement with a formula bottle from time to time, the research says night feeds are the most important ones in terms of establishing supply due to the hormone increase at night so go for daytime feeds where possible. Be sure to introduce the bottle often to avoid bottle refusal.
Your health visitor can really help and there are peer support groups and BF cafes so use all the resources available to you.
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Thank you both so much, your words are very reassuring ❤ I’m definitely gonna book a 7 week scan x
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It was honestly worth every penny for me. I also had one at 10 weeks because I was really struggling with Hyperemesis and worrying about what it was doing to baby (nothing, he was absolutely fine it was just me going through it 😅). Again, worth every penny for the peace of mind it gave me.
Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏼
 
freddofrog said:
baby frog has arrived, he’s perfect 🥰🥰 so in love, but struggling a bit to breastfeed which is getting me down
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Do not let anyone pressure you into it!! I’m 4 weeks pp now and it lasted 5 days with me. FED is best, wether it’s breast or bottle as long as little one isn’t going hungry who’s business is it wether it’s breast or bottle. People are very quick to forget that we also have to look after ourselves when baby arrives.
Hope you’re alright, be good to yourself ❤️
 
raspberryjuice said:
It was honestly worth every penny for me. I also had one at 10 weeks because I was really struggling with Hyperemesis and worrying about what it was doing to baby (nothing, he was absolutely fine it was just me going through it 😅). Again, worth every penny for the peace of mind it gave me.
Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏼
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I had two private scans before 12 weeks too @Jasminexx02! Don’t regret paying for them as they did reassure me so much. Please be gentle to yourself in the next couple of weeks - your reactions and responses to things are valid. Like @raspberryjuice got everything crossed for you ❤️
 
cmcdb said:
Do not let anyone pressure you into it!! I’m 4 weeks pp now and it lasted 5 days with me. FED is best, wether it’s breast or bottle as long as little one isn’t going hungry who’s business is it wether it’s breast or bottle. People are very quick to forget that we also have to look after ourselves when baby arrives.
Hope you’re alright, be good to yourself ❤
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Agreed, I gave up after 3 days and it’s the best thing I could’ve done!! Especially for my mental health
 
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