Mother Pukka #8 Everything is a lie, isn’t it?

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DeloresBawbag said:
She makes some absolutely bonkers choices. Not just the getting knocked up five mins her meeting the chintastic one, but hiring the chaotic not-a-nanny, the gruelling social schedule, and her incessant performative gurning in the camera. The eyeliner and pout, the voluminous tent dresses, and now, THE ANKLE SOCKS 😳

Seriously, are there any other forty somethings looking out at a cold December evening and thinking do you know what, I think I’m going to leave my 1/3/5 children this evening, slip into this tiered binbag with bare legs and sandals, pop on some boys school socks to keep my tootsies warm, and selflessly go smash some stigmas!
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Tiered bin bag 😂
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Percycat said:
I am a bit on the fence with this one. If you’re self employed (I am) then maternity ‘leave’ doesn’t really exist. I was back at work, and out of the house for probably one whole day a week when mine were 2 weeks old. If you have to do it then you do. However my children stayed at home with their dad and my job was not pouting on instagram for free cardigans. My guess is that lawyer Olly Breton is not home until 10pm every day, and so, apart from a newborn, there’s not much for her to be home for. So instead she’s going along to free to register events and giving the illusion she’s like a guest speaker. Actually tragic.
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“ pouting on instagram for free cardigans”.

So true about this and Chin being at the office till late so she’s filling the void by going to every PR event.
 
It's completely bonkers. I don't understand any of it and while it's each to their own with how you live your life and Content Baby will be oblivious to it all at the minute, I hate to think of the impact it's having on her older two. Even if her and Matt do week on/week off custody, she has been going to at least one thing every week, so there must be times she's leaving her bigger girls at home to go off to these events. It's been such an unstable year for them with parents separating, both meeting new partners and then getting a new baby half sister, plus they're moving between parents constantly as per custody arrangements. What they need is lots of love and homely family time with whichever parent they're staying with - not being palmed off on the sex positive nanny while mummy goes to the opening of an envelope.
 
DeloresBawbag said:
She makes some absolutely bonkers choices. Not just the getting knocked up five mins her meeting the chintastic one, but hiring the chaotic not-a-nanny, the gruelling social schedule, and her incessant performative gurning in the camera. The eyeliner and pout, the voluminous tent dresses, and now, THE ANKLE SOCKS 😳

Seriously, are there any other forty somethings looking out at a cold December evening and thinking do you know what, I think I’m going to leave my 1/3/5 children this evening, slip into this tiered binbag with bare legs and sandals, pop on some boys school socks to keep my tootsies warm, and selflessly go smash some stigmas!
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i guarantee spicy poppins encouraged this look
 
DeloresBawbag said:
She makes some absolutely bonkers choices. Not just the getting knocked up five mins her meeting the chintastic one, but hiring the chaotic not-a-nanny, the gruelling social schedule, and her incessant performative gurning in the camera. The eyeliner and pout, the voluminous tent dresses, and now, THE ANKLE SOCKS 😳

Seriously, are there any other forty somethings looking out at a cold December evening and thinking do you know what, I think I’m going to leave my 1/3/5 children this evening, slip into this tiered binbag with bare legs and sandals, pop on some boys school socks to keep my tootsies warm, and selflessly go smash some stigmas!
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She looks like she's dissociating here
 
Percycat said:
I am a bit on the fence with this one. If you’re self employed (I am) then maternity ‘leave’ doesn’t really exist. I was back at work, and out of the house for probably one whole day a week when mine were 2 weeks old. If you have to do it then you do. However my children stayed at home with their dad and my job was not pouting on instagram for free cardigans. My guess is that lawyer Olly Breton is not home until 10pm every day, and so, apart from a newborn, there’s not much for her to be home for. So instead she’s going along to free to register events and giving the illusion she’s like a guest speaker. Actually tragic.
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This is fair, except she made a song and dance about “starting Mat leave”. Which feels disingenuous.
 
I remember her finding the baby stage (/all stages of parenting) hard with her other children even though Matt seemed pretty present and hands on.

It’s a totally different dynamic when your partner has an “always on” job with relatively late hours.

Back home 10-11 so there’s no handover at the end of the day so they can do bathtime or bedtime and give you a break.
No adult time together in the evenings when the kids are down.
No help with night wakings because they need to be ok for work the next day.
No nights off when you can go out for a bit when they look after the kids as they can’t commit to not being at work.

It can be very lonely and isolating. And it’s hard on a relationship as you get so little quality time together and you’re both stressed out in different ways so it’s hard to communicate or find common ground. And if your partner is the main earner that’s another weird dynamic - you can’t get upset that he’s not home because his job is keeping the whole show on the road.

I found it so hard with my first child even though I perfectly understood the nature of my partner’s job AND we had been equal earners before AND we had been together long enough for me to know that he would have been home if he could have been. Cannot imagine going through that with a man I had only known for a year.
 
Percycat said:
I am a bit on the fence with this one. If you’re self employed (I am) then maternity ‘leave’ doesn’t really exist. I was back at work, and out of the house for probably one whole day a week when mine were 2 weeks old. If you have to do it then you do. However my children stayed at home with their dad and my job was not pouting on instagram for free cardigans. My guess is that lawyer Olly Breton is not home until 10pm every day, and so, apart from a newborn, there’s not much for her to be home for. So instead she’s going along to free to register events and giving the illusion she’s like a guest speaker. Actually tragic.
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I'm self employed and on mat leave. Plan to take 9 months.
 
Anna know though, that if she had posted that the baby was here, she was talking 6/9 months maternity leave and therefore wouldn’t be posting on her public instagram, that she would come back to nothing.

Even the people who fawn over her would have moved on to other people.

She’s always gone to the opening of an envelope. Always posted about going to things that anyone can go to in a sneaky way to make it look like she’s been specially invited.
 
threeSMEGfridges said:
Whilst maternity can be lonely too I love being able to do different NOT WORK things with baby; or stay in watching Xmas 🎄 films….
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Oh yeah don’t get me wrong I wasn’t meaning maternity specifically. I meant MP’s set up where she’s either taking selfies on her own or in a huge gathering. There seems to be little contact in her own home.
 
hattie20 said:
Anna know though, that if she had posted that the baby was here, she was talking 6/9 months maternity leave and therefore wouldn’t be posting on her public instagram, that she would come back to nothing.

Even the people who fawn over her would have moved on to other people.

She’s always gone to the opening of an envelope. Always posted about going to things that anyone can go to in a sneaky way to make it look like she’s been specially invited.
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Exactly this. All the influencers are replaceable and they know it!
 
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