LeonoreGuest
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This is the best post. Agree with every word. She is a terrible feminist. Normalise saying "hey, I have a well paid partner and a nanny and my older kids only half the time" when this is THE ACTUAL TRUTH.
Mother Pukka #8 Everything is a lie, isn’t it?
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blurstoftimes
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but but but she has a tattoo of frida kahlo AND a suffragette?!
threeSMEGfridges
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I have no issue with family/stepfamily photos but the current obsession with posting on social networks is ridiculous.
we should go back to getting prints done at chemist, sticking in an album and not looking again lol
petitspois
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Frida Kahlo has had the best PR job hasn't she? nothing against her but I can't see how she's more impressive than someone like Marie Curie and you don't see her chops on people's skin. Kahlo is just like wearing a brand to her isn't it? shorthand for 'I'm posh and rich and right on'.
threeSMEGfridges
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exactly. Make the true value and cost of motherhood clear not acting like there aren’t sacrifices. I’ve had to explain to people why k can’t make some parties /meals out
As im exclusively breastfeeding and am not ready to introduce an expressed bottle
Yet. I’ve decided its best for my baby and I’ve accepted the social sacrifice in the meantime to prioritise EBF over other things
fishsticks
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She chose to have a baby to not really take maternity leave, even though she can afford to take a full 12 months if not more, because she's too bothered about being a "feminist influencer" and instead would rather leave her newborn for said "feminist influencer" role, but then ram breastfeeding said newborn all over social media to prove she's still a "mother". ick.
I chose to have a baby and I chose to take a full 12 months maternity leave because I'm fortunate enough to be able to do that financially. I wanted to go back to work part-time so I could continue to have a career and spend precious time with my baby that I chose to have. Yes, childcare is a bloody nightmare, it's expensive, it's not all that flexible, but once again, I chose to have a baby knowing all of this.................
I chose to have a baby and I chose to take a full 12 months maternity leave because I'm fortunate enough to be able to do that financially. I wanted to go back to work part-time so I could continue to have a career and spend precious time with my baby that I chose to have. Yes, childcare is a bloody nightmare, it's expensive, it's not all that flexible, but once again, I chose to have a baby knowing all of this.................
Thank you! It's so performative. There are many women artists but their work isn't as pretty or their works may be challenging. Personally I'm sick of seeing Frida's god awful eyebrows (yes that's petty and probably anti feminist).
maytoseptember
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I think we were being naive to think that Anna wanted to a) take a long maternity leave and b) enjoy being at home with her content baby.
She didn’t exactly enjoy raising her other kids. I mean how many times did she say they made her lose herself, lose her sanity, and utterly destroyed her marriage?
She didn’t exactly enjoy raising her other kids. I mean how many times did she say they made her lose herself, lose her sanity, and utterly destroyed her marriage?
I just can’t understand having another baby if that was the case.
HALF a Frida (for...reasons?), the 'suffragette logo' and a Lorde lyric - 'it's time we danced with the truth (perhaps the dance is the Hokey Cokey?).
threeSMEGfridges
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Marie curie was a white European woman. Frida khaki is clearly the more acceptable idol as non white/non European.
no hate - I love FK just current era feminism seems to want to make idols of the women with the most DEI points
heddaverse
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LOL this is the hot take on Frida I didn’t know I needed. I think for Anna it’s more “tell me that you only know one female artist without telling me that you only know one female artist….”
She’s basic af.
She’s more concerned about keeping up with the Instagram algorithm than being present with her baby. The less she posts, the less Instagram shows her content on people’s feeds. Sad that’s more important to her than actually spending these infant days cuddled up at home, going on coffee dates, baby groups etc. She should be normalising ‘normal’ maternity leave and showing the reality of it. She’d do more for society by showing the mundane, difficult days of maternity leave than posting all these events. Maternity leave can be so hard for so many reasons and we need society to understand it’s not just ‘12 months off work’. She’s undermining the very thing she claimed she was trying to raise awareness of.
DeloresBawbag
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I think it’s most likely that her desperate antics are to show Chin that she’s still the young dynamic celebrity adjacent mover and shaker that she managed to portray herself as when they met a year ago.
She is so caught up in clinging to him and his lifestyle that she cannot be true to her own needs. Not just cos of him, but also her instagram persona. She’s got form for having done this with her second child - she wants to be seen, she can’t stop posting, and she’s addicted to pouting into the camera.
It seems she’s not got the capacity to see that she’s undermining what so many of her supporters hold dear - the recognition that maternity leave is a time for healing, for growing into motherhood as it stretches in new directions, and the selfless sacrifice for your new baby.
Not that new mums shouldn’t go out and have fun, or that they’re not capable of juggling a million things to earn a crust - but the whole point of maternity rights and family friendly policies is so women don’t have to pretend to effortlessly grow and pop out a human before jumping back into normality after a few days.
She’s attempting to simultaneously be On Maternity Leave, as she mentioned a dozen times a week in her grovelling Heart posts; while also going to every photo opportunity remotely linked with flex appeal; ‘see me, (pout) sacrificing myself (flounce) and my baby (eyefuck with boobs) for the cause (pout, eyeliner) I’m sooo committed to.’
She is so caught up in clinging to him and his lifestyle that she cannot be true to her own needs. Not just cos of him, but also her instagram persona. She’s got form for having done this with her second child - she wants to be seen, she can’t stop posting, and she’s addicted to pouting into the camera.
It seems she’s not got the capacity to see that she’s undermining what so many of her supporters hold dear - the recognition that maternity leave is a time for healing, for growing into motherhood as it stretches in new directions, and the selfless sacrifice for your new baby.
Not that new mums shouldn’t go out and have fun, or that they’re not capable of juggling a million things to earn a crust - but the whole point of maternity rights and family friendly policies is so women don’t have to pretend to effortlessly grow and pop out a human before jumping back into normality after a few days.
She’s attempting to simultaneously be On Maternity Leave, as she mentioned a dozen times a week in her grovelling Heart posts; while also going to every photo opportunity remotely linked with flex appeal; ‘see me, (pout) sacrificing myself (flounce) and my baby (eyefuck with boobs) for the cause (pout, eyeliner) I’m sooo committed to.’
rogueapostrophe
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Is that why Fukka only got half of Kahlo’s face on her so she doesn’t have a monobrow on her arm?
heddaverse
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Her maternity leave doesn’t make sense because - despite self-styling herself as the Patron Saint of Working Mothers - she doesn’t have a job that is relatable for most working mothers.
Being a working parent is so much about boundaries - when am I working, when am I with my kids, how do I stop the two of them bleeding into each other so I can be focused and present and not overwhelmed. Being professional which means not bringing your personal life and responsibilities to work, and being a good parent which means not letting work distract from family time.
Maternity leave is so nice because it’s a time when you can set really clear boundaries and focus on just one thing.
She doesn’t have a job with boundaries. Her job is literally going on about being a mother and performing motherhood and publicising her personal life. It’s the exact opposite of what most working parents do.
It’s so weird to watch and it’s how we end up at total absurdities like “Anna Whitehouse is speaking out for mothers by ….attending a completely unnecessary promotional event, leaving her newborn baby at home with a cam girl”.
Being a working parent is so much about boundaries - when am I working, when am I with my kids, how do I stop the two of them bleeding into each other so I can be focused and present and not overwhelmed. Being professional which means not bringing your personal life and responsibilities to work, and being a good parent which means not letting work distract from family time.
Maternity leave is so nice because it’s a time when you can set really clear boundaries and focus on just one thing.
She doesn’t have a job with boundaries. Her job is literally going on about being a mother and performing motherhood and publicising her personal life. It’s the exact opposite of what most working parents do.
It’s so weird to watch and it’s how we end up at total absurdities like “Anna Whitehouse is speaking out for mothers by ….attending a completely unnecessary promotional event, leaving her newborn baby at home with a cam girl”.
Cucumberthunder
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She could've prewritten and scheduled enough posts to keep the algo happy, supplemented with a few "live" ones about the reality of post partum. Or employed spicy nanny as SM manager rather than nanny
Affiliatemebaby
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Genuinely her work looks awful to me. Going to endless events with the same attention-seeking blonde women and being on ‘panels’ to discuss how important branded vitamins are for all the other blonde women out there wanting to waste money? Are you going to look back on that in old age with a glow of satisfaction, no matter how many free items of clothing you got for it?
So interrupting the post-partum period for it all is even less understandable for most of us.
Also I feel really depressed at the idea of having a baby with someone you don’t feel comfortable to be your biggest bog troll self with. Sofa, baby, box set, hot drink, make sure you see a friend for a chat enough to feel human, wash often enough that you don’t repel the postman.
So interrupting the post-partum period for it all is even less understandable for most of us.
Also I feel really depressed at the idea of having a baby with someone you don’t feel comfortable to be your biggest bog troll self with. Sofa, baby, box set, hot drink, make sure you see a friend for a chat enough to feel human, wash often enough that you don’t repel the postman.
blurstoftimes
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it's a shame that FK has become so strongly associated with peak white feminism because a lot of her work is also around her identity as a disabled woman, which often seems to get conveniently overlooked
