Made in Chelsea #7

[storminaDcup]

I admit to find him strangely s e x y, I appreciate this is disturbing. Im not overly pleased about myself but you can’t help your reality tv feelings. Certainly not for his actual personality, ability to boyfriend or his extremely challenged height - especially not with those sitty down insta shots , although give me time . If Izzy’s dad came back I am sure I could re appoint my fancies.

Izzys dad is unbelievable. Looks like the type who would give you a great time ahem

 

[Musings30]

Seems to be a I hate Julius mean girls club in here.

What I would say, is anyone who watches Made In Chelsea and then thinks they will make a good life coach, cannot then throw it back due to their ‘character’ on the show when they knew this from the off.

Also, "JulianC", I'm getting the vibe that you're either Julius or a mate of his. If it's the former, then wow, you're perturbingly a lot more responsive on fan forums than you are towards client complaints. Maybe get your priorities in order? Also, I've spoken to a couple of very experienced life coaches about my experience of Julius's services and they were disgusted and dumbfounded to say the least. They didn't exactly hold a high opinion of Julius and his ethical conduct.

I don’t hate Julius but he makes me cringe so hard it’s painful. I have no idea why anyone who had access to his social media would want him as a life coach from what people have posted here (the singing videos) let alone how he comes across on the show given he lacks basic self-awareness and continues to believe he can sing and that the world wants to listen

No, I don't hate him either. I've simply relayed the awful and disrespectful behaviour he showed towards me, as well as towards his romantic interests on the show. I get the strong feeling "JulianC" is the man himself, judging by his defensiveness and the narcissistic air of his comments. If so, then it's alarming that he devotes more energy and care towards stalking fan forums than acknowledging and responding to client complaints.

 

[Sliceofpizza]

Izzys dad is unbelievable. Looks like the type who would give you a great time ahem

Ha he does! Come back Izzy’s dad!!!!
You see, if I am honest - once height work has been tended to(!) I am of the same opinion about Mr little & angry (can’t even say his name, makes it too real)

 

[Hbeau93]

I admit to find him strangely s e x y, I appreciate this is disturbing. Im not overly pleased about myself but you can’t help your reality tv feelings. Certainly not for his actual personality, ability to boyfriend or his extremely challenged height - especially not with those sitty down insta shots , although give me time . If Izzy’s dad came back I am sure I could re appoint my fancies.

It takes big guts to admit this and now you admit it you can seek help (just not using his life coach services)
Big hugs x

 

[Hope96]

Tbh I don't understand why anyone would any sort of advice or life coaching from Julius but it's your money so you have to live and learn. There is no need to shame people for something that didn't work out for them!

 

[Sliceofpizza]

It takes big guts to admit this and now you admit it you can seek help (just not using his life coach services)
Big hugs x

I definitely think I need support, the first step was admitting it now I need the therapy. Hang on! For clarification I am not referring to spring onion. Repeat drill: I do not mean spring onion. I unfortunately am referring to Rez (shame face).
I still need the big hugs. The big big hugs.

 

[Musings30]

Tbh I don't understand why anyone would any sort of advice or life coaching from Julius but it's your money so you have to live and learn. There is no need to shame people for something that didn't work out for them!

I think you should see the situation from my perspective and put yourself in my shoes. He charges a lot of money for his service and has been incredibly disrespectful in his professional conduct, alongside showing zero remorse about it when I brought it to his attention. He's also conducted himself in a really appalling light on television. Scripted or not, he should be upholding the values he claims to endorse, rather than completely contradicting them. My big issue here is the fact he's posting a lot of hypocritical self-righteous social media videos about values he doesn't even uphold himself. I don't think it's okay that a lot of his impressionable followers will invest in his life coaching service, based on my terrible experience. There's absolutely no way of me being able to hold him to account, unfortunately, due to the non-existence of a life coaching regulator.

At the end of the day, you'd have every right to complain about a plumber or dentist if they gave you a shoddy and unethical service, so why on earth should Julius be any different? He's offering an expensive service yet doesn't think he should give his clients the simple courtesy of even turning up to sessions on time. Do you think it's okay that he completely ignores client's complaints and concerns about his professionalism, as well as ignoring their repeated requests for a refund?

 

[Belleboo]

Also, "JulianC", I'm getting the vibe that you're either Julius or a mate of his. If it's the former, then wow, you're perturbingly a lot more responsive on fan forums than you are towards client complaints. Maybe get your priorities in order? Also, I've spoken to a couple of very experienced life coaches about my experience of Julius's services and they were disgusted and dumbfounded to say the least. They didn't exactly hold a high opinion of Julius and his ethical conduct.


No, I don't hate him either. I've simply relayed the awful and disrespectful behaviour he showed towards me, as well as towards his romantic interests on the show. I get the strong feeling "JulianC" is the man himself, judging by his defensiveness and the narcissistic air of his comments. If so, then it's alarming that he devotes more energy and care towards stalking fan forums than acknowledging and responding to client complaints.

I think this is Julius, please don’t let anyone make you feel bad for the decision you took to look for a life coach.
The only person who should be ashamed here is Julius himself for providing such crappy customer service when people have reached out for support. He’s horrible and a disgrace but you are brave for taking the step to find a life coach in the first place and then sharing your story so people see how tit he is. Thank you

 

[Musings30]

I definitely think I need support, the first step was admitting it now I need the therapy. Hang on! For clarification I am not referring to spring onion. Repeat drill: I do not mean spring onion. I unfortunately am referring to Rez (shame face).
I still need the big hugs. The big big hugs.

I used to find Rez hot tbf

 

[Hope96]

I think you should see the situation from my perspective and put yourself in my shoes. He charges a lot of money for his service and has been incredibly disrespectful in his professional conduct, alongside showing zero remorse about it when I brought it to his attention. He's also conducted himself in a really appalling light on television. Scripted or not, he should be upholding the values he claims to endorse, rather than completely contradicting them. My big issue here is the fact he's posting a lot of hypocritical self-righteous social media videos about values he doesn't even uphold himself. I don't think it's okay that a lot of his impressionable followers will invest in his life coaching service, based on my terrible experience. There's absolutely no way of me being able to hold him to account, unfortunately, due to the non-existence of a life coaching regulator.

At the end of the day, you'd have every right to complain about a plumber or dentist if they gave you a shoddy and unethical service, so why on earth should Julius be any different? He's offering an expensive service yet doesn't think he should give his clients the simple courtesy of even turning up to sessions on time. Do you think it's okay that he completely ignores client's complaints and concerns about his professionalism, as well as ignoring their repeated requests for a refund?

I'm unsure why you're coming for me because I actually said no one should be shamed for something not working out for them because some of the posts towards you felt a bit like that! Of course, you're allowed to complain and the way you were treated was awful! I've never had much respect for Julian so that's why I'm confused why anyone would pay him to help them out but like I said it's your money and time so you (and others) have to live and learn! I'm sorry you had such a crap experience and hope you can find someone much better who will be far more professional and helpful if that is what you want!

 

[Musings30]

I think this is Julius, please don’t let anyone make you feel bad for the decision you took to look for a life coach.
The only person who should be ashamed here is Julius himself for providing such crappy customer service when people have reached out for support. He’s horrible and a disgrace but you are brave for taking the step to find a life coach in the first place and then sharing your story so people see how tit he is. Thank you

You're so sweet - thanks for your lovely words It's really annoying certain posters jumping to his defence and saying I'm being unfair publicly complaining about his behaviour and service. How is that unfair? I have every right to!! I'm a consumer and he offered an appalling service.

I'm unsure why you're coming for me because I actually said no one should be shamed for something not working out for them because some of the posts towards you felt a bit like that! Of course, you're allowed to complain and the way you were treated was awful! I've never had much respect for Julian so that's why I'm confused why anyone would pay him to help them out but like I said it's your money and time so you (and others) have to live and learn! I'm sorry you had such a crap experience and hope you can find someone much better who will be far more professional and helpful if that is what you want!

Oh, I'm sorry - I misread that. I thought you said I should refrain from complaining just because the life coaching didn't work out for me, and that I was giving him an unfair deal (embarrassed face). He used to come across a really decent person, but alas, his ego has eclipsed his sense of reality and self. Tbh, I'd never invest in life coaching again because this experience really hasn't inspired any confidence in the business. Thanks for your words of support

 

[Hbeau93]

I definitely think I need support, the first step was admitting it now I need the therapy. Hang on! For clarification I am not referring to spring onion. Repeat drill: I do not mean spring onion. I unfortunately am referring to Rez (shame face).
I still need the big hugs. The big big hugs.

Omg THANK GOD
But still.... girl, really
But also no judgement cos I have some weird crushes that I just can't justify

 

[cee-bee]

“Mean girls club” yeh right, we aren’t part of a gang who lie to, manipulate and disrespect women on TV on the reg.

I may be wasting some time indulging in gossip on a gossip forum, but I can hold my head high and say; I’ve never lied to people I’ve dated about dating other people, never gone on a date and then lied about having to see my sick mother to go shag someone else. I’ve never strung someone along for two years. I’ve never gaslit someone I didn’t want to date, including telling them I care for them and feel a connection with them whilst ignoring their distress, because I don’t lack empathy to that extent. I’ve never felt comfortable using people to bolster my ego to the extent Julius does, with the women he dates.

I’ve never started dating someone, introduced them to my mother, sharing a kiss with them - and then gone home with someone else on the same night. (Remember Emma Willis, anyone?) I’ve never been that callous.

Julius has been on MIC for what, 5 or 6 seasons? Not a huge amount in the grand scheme of the show. But in that time he’s consistently, demonstrably, been an unpleasant person (particularly to women). One could argue that it’s reality TV and maybe he’s nicer behind the scenes: except behind the scenes he was still stringing India along for two years, presumably not thinking the producers would ever contact her to go on the show.

I get full blown narcissist, personality disorder vibes form Julius and honestly, wish he’d go for an assessment instead of trying to “life coach”. God knows he’s got the money to access professional help. Narcissism can’t be cured, but it can be managed and the poor self esteem that is a hallmark of someone with a personality disorder, can be improved.

 

[Hope96]

@Musings30 it's ok complain as much as you want about Julian on here! I'm sure we've all taken part in something and then on reflection realised it wasn't the best idea. Don't beat yourself up over it and please do stick around! x

 

[Musings30]

“Mean girls club” yeh right, we aren’t part of a gang who lie to, manipulate and disrespect women on TV on the reg.

I may be wasting some time indulging in gossip on a gossip forum, but I can hold my head high and say; I’ve never lied to people I’ve dated about dating other people, never gone on a date and then lied about having to see my sick mother to go shag someone else. I’ve never strung someone along for two years. I’ve never gaslit someone I didn’t want to date, including telling them I care for them and feel a connection with them whilst ignoring their distress, because I don’t lack empathy to that extent. I’ve never felt comfortable using people to bolster my ego to the extent Julius does, with the women he dates.

I’ve never started dating someone, introduced them to my mother, sharing a kiss with them - and then gone home with someone else on the same night. (Remember Emma Willis, anyone?) I’ve never been that callous.

Julius has been on MIC for what, 5 or 6 seasons? Not a huge amount in the grand scheme of the show. But in that time he’s consistently, demonstrably, been an unpleasant person (particularly to women). One could argue that it’s reality TV and maybe he’s nicer behind the scenes: except behind the scenes he was still stringing India along for two years, presumably not thinking the producers would ever contact her to go on the show.

I get full blown narcissist, personality disorder vibes form Julius and honestly, wish he’d go for an assessment instead of trying to “life coach”. God knows he’s got the money to access professional help. Narcissism can’t be cured, but it can be managed and the poor self esteem that is a hallmark of someone with a personality disorder, can be improved.

Preach! You've hit the nail on the head on all fronts.

To address your point about narcissism, having had the great misfortune of having know several people with clinically-recognised narcissistic personality disorder (including my own parent), I can definitely see some very of clear-cut narcissistic traits in Julius' own personality. E.g. the lack of empathy and ability to recognise personal wrongdoing, and grandiose sense of self-importance. You're right; he needs to seek some form of therapy for the fact he can't recognise why he's getting so much criticism for his behaviour on screen, and why it's not okay to treat his clients in a certain way.

Also, pretending to your date that your mum's ill on national TV so you can sleep with another woman, and then repeatedly denying it happened is beyond sick. Really messed up behaviour that's just not clinically sound.

 

[roseturntupnose]

I used to go and see a successful businessman as a "financial advisor". (He legit ran a financial coaching business after making his millions etc)
Through his experience, he would advise me on where to take the business, what opportunities to ignore and what might be beneficial to the company.

I haven't caught up but Surely it should be similar with a life coach? You go to someone who has had some sort of success in life through hard work? No offense Julian c but isn't he just someone on made in Chelsea? A lot of those people know the right people at the right time and aren't what I'd call successful, they just have a larger online following. I don't see his credentials for life coaching other than enjoying everyone's business .

Spring onion life coaching ltd




E.t.a that was no shade at the person that went to him. We all make bad calls sometimes, like....OK.... I find rez hot aswell

 

[Musings30]

I used to go and see a successful businessman as a "financial advisor". (He legit ran a financial coaching business after making his millions etc)
Through his experience, he would advise me on where to take the business, what opportunities to ignore and what might be beneficial to the company.

I haven't caught up but Surely it should be similar with a life coach? You go to someone who has had some sort of success in life through hard work? No offense Julian c but isn't he just someone on made in Chelsea? A lot of those people know the right people at the right time and aren't what I'd call successful, they just have a larger online following. I don't see his credentials for life coaching other than enjoying everyone's business .

Spring onion life coaching ltd




E.t.a that was no shade at the person that went to him. We all make bad calls sometimes, like....OK.... I find rez hot aswell

You make some very good points (and the spring onion comment... ). A hard lesson learned alright! Nah, that's okay. I don't take offence. It's quite remarkable the fact Sam Prince - of all people - is the only one who's calling him out on his behaviour and stinking hypocrisy.

Omg THANK GOD
But still.... girl, really
But also no judgement cos I have some weird crushes that I just can't justify

I used to find him hot and got royally ribbed for it. Then again, apparently I have a type - olive-skinned and bearded - so that must explain it

 

[Sliceofpizza]

I used to find Rez hot tbf

There’s something about him. I like his voice and shady mannerisms displaying his constant guilt “ok I’ll call her, this is bleeping embarrassing” Go on Rez you womanising hero lacking in any self awareness whatsoever.

Yay finally another few brave admitters are amongst us.

I knew there had to be a couple of us out there, I mean there’s Ruby at least! What shall we call ourselves? The Rezettes? The Rezaroonies? The questionable tasters ?!

 

[Musings30]

There’s something about him. I like his voice and shady mannerisms displaying his constant guilt “ok I’ll call her, this is bleeping embarrassing” Go on Rez you womanising hero lacking in any self awareness whatsoever.

Yay finally another few brave admitters are amongst us.

I knew there had to be a couple of us out there, I mean there’s Ruby at least! What shall we call ourselves? The Rezettes? The Rezaroonies? The questionable tasters ?!

The Rezettes has a certain ring to it He also has a wonderful command of the English language and quite favours an eloquent turn of phrase ("my heart was made into beef carpaccio"). Might that also be a deciding factor for you?

 

[Musings30]

Seems to be a I hate Julius mean girls club in here.

What I would say, is anyone who watches Made In Chelsea and then thinks they will make a good life coach, cannot then throw it back due to their ‘character’ on the show when they knew this from the off.

Also, you or Julius himself (if you aren't in fact Julius) actually came across a decent person on the show when I enlisted your/his services. Why do you think I dropped you/him as soon as you/he showed his true colours with Tabitha and India?

It's also not rocket science to think "hmm, if I treat people really disrespectfully on the show, this will inevitably have an impact on how people view me in a professional light". Why would someone take seriously a life coach who disrespects women and strings them along for sex?

Beyond the show, does a client sign up for a service with the expectation their life coach will be late to virtually every session and pull sneaky tactics like rolling on sessions without seeking client consent first? Absolutely outrageous.

Blaming the client for someone else's hideous unprofessionalism and quite frankly exploitative manner smacks of gaslighting and narcissism.

If you are him, I would implore you to take a long, hard and realistic look at yourself and how you treat others. Saturating your social media with videos about the importance of respecting others and not tolerating disrespect, then proceeding to treat others like sh1t just makes you look utterly ridiculous, and quite frankly, a joke.