Lily Pebbles #13 Oh diarrhoea on the wall, who is the moaniest of them all?

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I think the nursery at 2 sounds like a topic they have argued about and it's a compromise. Possibly one wants for one of them to be working full time and have Grey in nursery now and the other wants to wait until she is 3 for the free hours. Or they want to try for a second baby when Grey is 2 and Rich doesn't think he could cope looking after a toddler and a pregnant Lily and be working which is fair enough tbh.

If it was something like wanting for Covid to pass or just simply enjoying having Grey at home surely she would just say that?
 
TillyTee said:
I think the nursery at 2 sounds like a topic they have argued about and it's a compromise. Possibly one wants for one of them to be working full time and have Grey in nursery now and the other wants to wait until she is 3 for the free hours. Or they want to try for a second baby when Grey is 2 and Rich doesn't think he could cope looking after a toddler and a pregnant Lily and be working which is fair enough tbh.

If it was something like wanting for Covid to pass or just simply enjoying having Grey at home surely she would just say that?
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Yes she came off as bitter. She wanting a second baby is another 'norms' that she imposed on herself, is one of those I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE DON'T HAVE MULTIPLE BABIES
 
i don't understand why is her sending grey to nursery at 2 years old so frowned upon? my daughter started nursery when she was 2 as well, went 5 half days that year and switched to 5 full days at 3 years old.

she said that when they were buying their current house, they wanted to make sure they can pay with only rich's full time salary. she mentioned being afraid of not having the youtube job once she returned from maternity leave. then just get a regular job ffs!!!! go out and work in a 9-5 and earn a salary, then buy the house you actually wanted to live in.

also, as a parent i've never felt the dilemma of having another kid she talked about, you know, being comfortable right now vs. not wanting to extend the age space. i've always known i'm a one and done kinda parent. it is like she doesn't see outside her bubble.
 
I don’t think anybody disapproves of her sending Grey to nursery at 2.

Everybody is questioning why she wrote about it the way she did in her insta Q+A: “for reasons I don’t want to get into.” What? Just send your kid to nursery, or don’t. Why act like it’s some great contentious issue?
 
I honestly thought she had done a horror vlog for Halloween. The opening with her brushing her horse teeth should come with a warning.
Never seen anyone look so scary without makeup. The state of her skin. As a young woman she used so many 'pwroducks' that she probably stripped all the healthy layers off. Hate the way she talks about how she's enjoying her child like she's a sofa or pair of shoes. The little one seems to go off doing activities with Rich most of the time. So the moany one can pose for insta in shapeless sacks.
 
TillyTee said:
I think the nursery at 2 sounds like a topic they have argued about and it's a compromise. Possibly one wants for one of them to be working full time and have Grey in nursery now and the other wants to wait until she is 3 for the free hours. Or they want to try for a second baby when Grey is 2 and Rich doesn't think he could cope looking after a toddler and a pregnant Lily and be working which is fair enough tbh.

If it was something like wanting for Covid to pass or just simply enjoying having Grey at home surely she would just say that?
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I wondered this. Will they even get the free hours when she's 3 though? I think there's an upper earning threshold?
 
There is quite a bit of research around showing how going to nursery too young can negatively impact a child's development so maybe that's why they are waiting until she is 2. Saying that mine had to go when he was 7 months as I had no choice & needed to work for the money so they are very lucky they are able to look after Grey at home and send her to nursery at a good age. Not all of us have that luxury.
 
Oh my, some days I can’t stand her even less, if that is possible.

Everyone is following the news regarding us elections closely and her „content“ today is unboxing another boring grey jumper ...
i know that she decides actively not Tonfall about politics online.. but .. I dunno auch content on this day.. she is so irrelevant and I don’t know why she makes me so upset!
 
TheBabeWithThePower said:
I wondered this. Will they even get the free hours when she's 3 though? I think there's an upper earning threshold?
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Yeah, the threshold is if one of you earns over £100k (but two people can early £99k each and still get it). Totally her own choice when Grey starts nursery but she really needs to remind herself that she is in a very privileged position to be able to have that choice (as they both seem to earn good money so can afford to do shared parental leave) and SHE has made this choice - nobody forced her so don't complain that you have to be quiet when working upstairs when Grey is sleeping etc. Just get on with it!

Saying it's 'unfair' that children's classes have to close whilst nurseries remains open just show how childish she is. Nurseries remaining open is so that people can continue to WORK. They still have childcare for Grey even with her ballet, singing, baby swimming being closed.

My guess is that Lily stayed home with her mum until she was older/almost at school because daddy was out earning the BIG MONEY. As she fees like her parents did everything the RIGHT WAY she probably wanted it to be this way for her kid but Rich (who seems to have had a more normal/grounded upbringing) wanted Grey to go a bit earlier. So they 'compromised' and agreed on two.

Also found it strange (in the latest video) that she was talking about not wanting to move Grey from school once she started cause she never moved schools but 'rich did and he said it was fine'. Does Rich get to influence any decisions? Does she have to be the one to have experienced something to understand it? Does she presume that because she can't handle the thought of her daughter maybe moving schools so mummy can lock away the garish toys in a playroom that Grey might actually be ok with the change?

All the talk about the house being too small and decisions around schools makes me really think that a move will be happening by next summer. She'll get pregnant and they'll have to move so that they have a bigger house/closer to schools. I also think she's seen the house that Anna is buying and it's bigger than hers so she HAS to have a bigger house.
 
LA2019 said:
Yeah, the threshold is if one of you earns over £100k (but two people can early £99k each and still get it). Totally her own choice when Grey starts nursery but she really needs to remind herself that she is in a very privileged position to be able to have that choice (as they both seem to earn good money so can afford to do shared parental leave) and SHE has made this choice - nobody forced her so don't complain that you have to be quiet when working upstairs when Grey is sleeping etc. Just get on with it!

Saying it's 'unfair' that children's classes have to close whilst nurseries remains open just show how childish she is. Nurseries remaining open is so that people can continue to WORK. They still have childcare for Grey even with her ballet, singing, baby swimming being closed.

My guess is that Lily stayed home with her mum until she was older/almost at school because daddy was out earning the BIG MONEY. As she fees like her parents did everything the RIGHT WAY she probably wanted it to be this way for her kid but Rich (who seems to have had a more normal/grounded upbringing) wanted Grey to go a bit earlier. So they 'compromised' and agreed on two.

Also found it strange (in the latest video) that she was talking about not wanting to move Grey from school once she started cause she never moved schools but 'rich did and he said it was fine'. Does Rich get to influence any decisions? Does she have to be the one to have experienced something to understand it? Does she presume that because she can't handle the thought of her daughter maybe moving schools so mummy can lock away the garish toys in a playroom that Grey might actually be ok with the change?

All the talk about the house being too small and decisions around schools makes me really think that a move will be happening by next summer. She'll get pregnant and they'll have to move so that they have a bigger house/closer to schools. I also think she's seen the house that Anna is buying and it's bigger than hers so she HAS to have a bigger house.
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Triple like for this, especially about the nursery thing. Yes Lily, it’s so unfair that childcare gets priotitised over Grey’s singing class. 🙄
 
Kitkatkut said:
Triple like for this, especially about the nursery thing. Yes Lily, it’s so unfair that childcare gets priotitised over Grey’s singing class. 🙄
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This really irritated me. I was halfway through my mat leave when the first lockdown happened, and all our classes got cancelled too. It was upsetting yes, but a big part of that was knowing that I'd never be able to do them again, as I'd be heading back to work. Lily doesn't have that issue, when Grey's classes start up, she'll be able to go again. Me and my baby have lost that chance. On top of that, half the classes we went to have now been permanently cancelled as they couldn't afford to carry on, which is upsetting in its own right. Totally tone deaf from Lily, once again. She was massively privileged that she could afford all those classes for Grey, boo hoo if she's got to now figure out how to entertain her for a few hours.

Thank god childcare can still stay open, because otherwise I couldn't work. It's not a luxury that these places are staying open, it's a matter of survival.

And lastly, I don't know why she feels the need to have a second child, she's obviously not that maternal (which is fine), but if she doesn't have that yearning for another child, then don't have one. Too many people have a second because it's what they'd always envisioned, even if they don't actually want another. I might be wrong, but the way she talks about it doesn't make me think she's desperate for more children.
 
Starttheline said:
This really irritated me. I was halfway through my mat leave when the first lockdown happened, and all our classes got cancelled too. It was upsetting yes, but a big part of that was knowing that I'd never be able to do them again, as I'd be heading back to work. Lily doesn't have that issue, when Grey's classes start up, she'll be able to go again. Me and my baby have lost that chance. On top of that, half the classes we went to have now been permanently cancelled as they couldn't afford to carry on, which is upsetting in its own right. Totally tone deaf from Lily, once again. She was massively privileged that she could afford all those classes for Grey, boo hoo if she's got to now figure out how to entertain her for a few hours.

Thank god childcare can still stay open, because otherwise I couldn't work. It's not a luxury that these places are staying open, it's a matter of survival.

And lastly, I don't know why she feels the need to have a second child, she's obviously not that maternal (which is fine), but if she doesn't have that yearning for another child, then don't have one. Too many people have a second because it's what they'd always envisioned, even if they don't actually want another. I might be wrong, but the way she talks about it doesn't make me think she's desperate for more children.
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Sorry that you missed out on the classes whilst you were on mat leave, that really does suck. They really are a saviour in that first year (I cried when my kid had their last Baby Sensory class).

Totally agree - re: second child. I always envisaged I would have two but having one was such an eye opener and taught me many lessons about myself. Part of that was to be true to myself and when I thought about it I realised I didn't want another child. Don't get me wrong, I love my kid but i'm done.
 
I agree with all the comments saying what the issue is around Grey going to nursery at 2; it's up to her and Rich how they parent but don't broadcast on a public platform making out it's some 'bad' issue when she's doing Q+A. People could have found her insights helpful (lol) if she was more open about it as I'm sure it's a relevant topic for many parents.

Her unboxing the T-shirt was so dull.
 
SachaStark said:
So, this morning’s Instastories... “work from home” sticker, over the usual moody selfie.

... Then proceeds to wang on about paint samples for several more stories.

In what way is this “work from home”, Lily?
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I think she (and many others) confuse working from home with just being at/inside a home.

SachaStark said:
So, this morning’s Instastories... “work from home” sticker, over the usual moody selfie.

... Then proceeds to wang on about paint samples for several more stories.

In what way is this “work from home”, Lily?
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I think she (and many others) confuse working from home with just being at/inside a home.
 
My theory with Lily not wanting Grey to have to change schools (which of course is not ideal, but less of a problem when they’re young) is that Lily seems to have made her base group of friends around the age of 3-5 years old. Perhaps she thinks it’s not possible for children to make new friends at a later age.

I changed schools twice in my youth, because of my parents’ jobs. I must admit my longest friendships are from secondary schools from around the age of 13. And then I added lots from university and various jobs. I do not feel like changing schools has caused me any permanent traumas. But many may have different experiences with that.
 
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