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emmer_moans said:
While I am sure Grace is happy for her siblings I know that would be a bit tough for me if 2 elder siblings both got married and moved out in a matter of months. I wonder if she is feeling pressure to find someone to date?
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Yeah I wonder this too, she’s also mentioned friends getting married and expecting babies recently too. I really hope she doesn’t but I feel she might, I hope she doesn’t think she needs a partner to be happy because she definitely doesn’t.
 
Bouvriel said:
I still can't get my head around it. I'm Irish & the same age as Grace, but nobody my age practices any sort of religion, and I don't know anybody who has/is interested in marrying so young. Myself & Grace are clearly in totally different worlds.
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I find it weird she has never been on a date but seemingly really wants a boyfriend? like surely you need to at least have a few dates with different people and then maybe think about something more?
 
emm said:
I find it weird she has never been on a date but seemingly really wants a boyfriend? like surely you need to at least have a few dates with different people and then maybe think about something more?
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I dunno, it kind of reminds me of the way I was when I was 14/15. Went to an all girls school, didn't have any brothers or male friends so was very naive about teen boys in general yet really wanted a boyfriend. I was totally romanticising the whole thing in my head without much thought of the actual reality of having one. Sounds like Grace is a bit immature for her age in this aspect and could be doing similar.
 
jimmy&vera said:
If Grace does want to date and have a boyfriend, that’s totally fine of course but I wonder if she’s maybe a bit naive with people. I get the sense from what she’s mentioned in her dating app experience, that she wants to believe that everyone is good. I don’t want to sound rude but I really don’t know.
I agree also with @emm
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yeah also I remember her saying a while ago she felt weird about dates because she would feel weird going out to dinner on a first date. Obviously each to their own, but imo most first dates are not for meals? I never would, coffee/a drink/a walk but a meal is pretty intense and also (again only my opinion) is a pretty old fashioned view of dating?

GreenFlamingo said:
I dunno, it kind of reminds me of the way I was when I was 14/15. Went to an all girls school, didn't have any brothers or male friends so was very naive about teen boys in general yet really wanted a boyfriend. I was totally romanticising the whole thing in my head without much thought of the actual reality of having one. Sounds like Grace is a bit immature for her age in this aspect and could be doing similar.
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yeah I get that , for that age, but she must be 21/22? which really is a pretty big age/maturity gap
 
Maybe I'm projecting because I see a lot of myself in Grace, but in my teenage years I was similarly religious as Grace is, but I stopped being part of Christianity around the time I went to uni but the beliefs stuck with me for a while after (particularly no sex before marriage). When I was around 19/20 I went through a totally wild phase (for a former Christian lol) because I was so desparate experience romantic enounters.

I don't think she is feeling pressured becuase of her siblings getting married but is on dating apps becuase she's never had a boyfriend before and it may feel to her that she has reached a point in her life where she just needs to experience a romantic relationship and like @GreenFlamingo says you can totally romanticise these things in your head and become obsessed with the idea of just having someone to spend time with and have a bit of physical touch
 
emm said:
I find it weird she has never been on a date but seemingly really wants a boyfriend? like surely you need to at least have a few dates with different people and then maybe think about something more?
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That also really varies I think. I've been in relationships that didn't really develop through going on dates. We met in a different context, became friends, became 'more' than friends (though I don't think romantic love is inherently 'more' than platonic love).

So even if she hasn't been on an actual date, Grace might well have felt the potential of being in a relationship before.

Random add-on: Grace explains that she was a bit unwell in the nutritionist video, but my first thought waa that she seemed more chill than in some of the previous ones 😅😅 obviously if she was feeling better before, that's what she should be like, I don't want her to feel under the weather! She just seemed a tat calmer with her personality and enthusiasm still shining through. 🙈
 
emm said:
yeah also I remember her saying a while ago she felt weird about dates because she would feel weird going out to dinner on a first date. Obviously each to their own, but imo most first dates are not for meals? I never would, coffee/a drink/a walk but a meal is pretty intense and also (again only my opinion) is a pretty old fashioned view of dating?


yeah I get that , for that age, but she must be 21/22? which really is a pretty big age/maturity gap
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jimmy&vera said:
If Grace does want to date and have a boyfriend, that’s totally fine of course but I wonder if she’s maybe a bit naive with people. I get the sense from what she’s mentioned in her dating app experience, that she wants to believe that everyone is good. I don’t want to sound rude but I really don’t know.
I agree also with @emm
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I see what you mean on the first dates thing. I hope that Grace knows or will find out that regardless of what you and that person do, this is a chance to get to know each other and see if you click.
 
I think she is watching too many ‘Rom coms’ (she has mentioned being obsessed with them in a few vlogs) and that is tainting her view of dating. We all wish for the fairy tale love story but really it never works out like that. I’ve kissed a few frogs and then met the love of my life and am happily married but it was far from what is portrayed in the movies. Your first heartbreak is the worst feeling in the world and I feel she is very sensitive to that! Although in the world she is in with her church etc I’m doubtful there will be much ‘heartbreak’ as her brother and sister seem to have been married off rather quickly. I feel like once she has a boyfriend then she will settle and get married etc. Each to their own but having my heart broken several times definitely helped me chose the right partner and know exactly what and who I wanted to be with, although we are from hugely different backgrounds so perhaps she doesn’t see it my way.
 
Just having a nose said:
I think she is watching too many ‘Rom coms’ (she has mentioned being obsessed with them in a few vlogs) and that is tainting her view of dating. We all wish for the fairy tale love story but really it never works out like that. I’ve kissed a few frogs and then met the love of my life and am happily married but it was far from what is portrayed in the movies. Your first heartbreak is the worst feeling in the world and I feel she is very sensitive to that! Although in the world she is in with her church etc I’m doubtful there will be much ‘heartbreak’ as her brother and sister seem to have been married off rather quickly. I feel like once she has a boyfriend then she will settle and get married etc. Each to their own but having my heart broken several times definitely helped me chose the right partner and know exactly what and who I wanted to be with, although we are from hugely different backgrounds so perhaps she doesn’t see it my way.
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I agree rom coms and other shows like that taint your idea on love,dating,marriage,etc.
I hope she doesn’t just settle with the first guy with whom they take interest in each other (unless he ends up being the guy we’ll suited for her). I hope that when she moves she will have more experience socially with a variety of people, so she gets other experiences other than she’s seen.
At the end of the day, what she does is her life but I don’t know if she’s emotionally competent to handle dating and/or serious relationships just yet.
 
I honestly just think lockdown in general hasn’t been good for her. Kept her at a lower maturity level by spending all her time with her parents and probably gave her more time to dwell on life. No doubt she’s feeling a bit lost right now especially compared to her peers who most likely don’t live at home. I think once she puts herself out there a bit more she’ll be forced to grow up really, like we all do.
 
I wonder what how long she wants to do youtube. It's easy for her and what she's done for so long and a good income stream but I wonder if she would ever get serious about using her baking degree and maybe actually try to bake for a living? I definitely get the feeling she is self conscious about it and hyper aware of any criticism. Maybe she feels like her own abilities are lacking and still isn't sure what direction she wants to go in life.

I'm also one that can't see her with a boyfriend, despite how much she wants one. She is a very young 23 (almost 24 now!) and I don't think she's ready, but if she finds the right guy I'll be happy for her. Just don't want her to rush into it soon. I know it's probably expected in their family/upbrining to marry soon after engagement but it did seem a bit jarring how quickly Chloe and Jesse married.
 
Is she really almost 24? I can’t reconcile in my head how she did so much work/travel/life living(!) while she was modelling at such a young age, and now she seems so immature? When I was 24 I was living with my long-term boyfriend, was working and finishing up my degree. I don’t get the feeling she really has much direction in her life. Obviously everyone has a different journey through life and there’s no one way you “have” to be at a certain age but she’s a fully grown woman who I’d think was about 17/18 if I didn’t know any better.
 
littlerat said:
Is she really almost 24? I can’t reconcile in my head how she did so much work/travel/life living(!) while she was modelling at such a young age, and now she seems so immature? When I was 24 I was living with my long-term boyfriend, was working and finishing up my degree. I don’t get the feeling she really has much direction in her life. Obviously everyone has a different journey through life and there’s no one way you “have” to be at a certain age but she’s a fully grown woman who I’d think was about 17/18 if I didn’t know any better.
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Yeah, I keep thinking she's in her teens but then i have to remind myself she turned 23 last summer. Crazy!
 
I get the feeling her parents baby her a lot. I’ve been watching her for about two years and I assumed she was in her late teens, I was shocked when I found out she was in her twenties and I still struggle to wrap my head around it sometimes lol. I really can’t imagine her in a relationship unless she finds a guy who matches her maturity level. I don’t see her handling heartbreak too well, as someone mentioned earlier she seems to have a rom-com idea of love which sadly isn’t the reality. I really do have a soft spot for grace and I hope she finds someone when the time is right, I just don’t think that now is that time.
 
littlerat said:
Is she really almost 24? I can’t reconcile in my head how she did so much work/travel/life living(!) while she was modelling at such a young age, and now she seems so immature? When I was 24 I was living with my long-term boyfriend, was working and finishing up my degree. I don’t get the feeling she really has much direction in her life. Obviously everyone has a different journey through life and there’s no one way you “have” to be at a certain age but she’s a fully grown woman who I’d think was about 17/18 if I didn’t know any better.
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I honestly think part of it might have been because she was working throughout her younger years so she's trying to reclaim her youth so to speak
 
Is it Jesse’s wedding she is driving to in her most recent video? I know she’s been a lot more private family-wise since her channel has grown, which is totally understandable, but I just find it odd she wouldn’t even say “my friend’s” or “my brother’s” wedding, unless I missed it.
 
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