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Had a really tough week, my daughter was in hospital for 2 nights ☹️ thankfully nothing serious and she’s now home but I feel mentally and emotionally drained and obviously have not slept or eaten well 😫 this also meant spending time with my ex husband (we divorced 6 years ago) but we were both at the hospital for our daughter that we share together, having to make small talk with him was so awkward, he has remarried and had another child which has never bothered me, though he’s changed and not for the best, his wife is also vile towards my daughter and has not even messaged my daughter to send get well wishes and has never made any effort with her. Anyway I’ve not felt anything for him for years but being around him has made me feel really confused, I don’t know if it’s anger at the way he hurt me years ago or if there are feelings deep down that I have failed to accept will just never go away I just feel so sad about it all, I would never express any of this to him obviously but it’s so weird and wish I could shake this feeling off we normally never speak unless necessary and go months without seeing each other so maybe it’s just that? But it feels rather odd and I am really hoping this soon passes as I hate feeling this way especially about him 😔 maybe someone can relate?
 
Aliali23 said:
My dad died yesterday, I'm 37wks pregnant, I don't know how to feel or what to do. Not sure why I'm posting this here.
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I’m sorry for your loss I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. It’s good that you’ve posted here as it gives you a place to share how you’re feeling and there are many people on here who can listen and support you. Sending you love and hugs. ❤️
 
Update to my previous issues- my 16 year old had refused to leave the house completely for 9 days. I can’t get him into school or even out of his room. He’s lost his phone computer and Xbox and it made zero difference and I’ve had to report him to the police for criminal damage to my house. I’m 31 weeks pregnant with pre eclampsia and I’m at the end of my rope I can’t take this mess anymore.
 
Yes 😞Looks like my mum is relocating to be near my toxic NC brother. I don't trust them not to financially abuse my mum. I don't trust them after not paying back thousands and thousands off my parents over the years, verbally abusing my dad on his death bed and just the thought of bumping into him again. I'd made peace knowing I'd never bump into him ever again,my anxiety had improved. Now I'm getting sleepless nights again. My mum is on her own in this and I'm worried she's going to be taken advantage of 😞
 
I've just had enough. Not like that. Just the drudgery of life and I'm not feeling gratitude etc even though in so many ways I'm very blessed.

I've had a family member critically ill in hospital since November and now recovering but changed forever and who basically has become like a newborn baby due to their illness. There is a small glimmer of hope of further recovery but it will be a long and very difficult road ahead.

So my life has been hospital based for months now and I'm completely burnt out. This is in addition to working full time and attempting to parent one teen and one pre teen who seem to have to be shepherded through every step of their daily routine.

My manager has been exceptional and I've had paid time off and reduced work pressure but no chance of rest because free time is spent with my family member.

I've started staying up late again because my mind whirs. I get over stimulated and I love lots of alone time and down time and I haven't been able to have that.

My husband is dealing with a crisis in his family too that takes a lot of mental energy so we are both just very drained and worn out and feel like life is a struggle and finding it difficult to keep going. I struggle to get out of bed in the morning but I force myself.

Just wanted to get that off my chest.
 
Been taking sertraline for 2 weeks, not had any side effects but I don't feel that much better? I realised I need to just try something to feel like the old me. I'm on 50mg and I've got a review in 2 weeks, I'm aware it'll take 6-8 weeks to really work.

Anyway - back to the gym properly, I went this morning and felt better.. I realise when I'm going through a depressive episode I don't go to the gym and I eat tit, which doesn't make me feel any better!! Just have to break the cycle... I'm hoping with spring coming I feel more like me with everything I'm doing 😫
 
Fed up. I live 100s of miles away from where I'm from. Moved up here on the promise from my fellas family I'd have support and help with the kids (2 youngest have significant special needs).... for me to get here and have them turn on me and get real nasty so have nothing to do with them now. I don't have any family support of my own. Fella just has no empathy and lately I don't even like the man. Just feel very alone. Need to move back to where I'm from(ish). I can front deposit but have no guarantor. No local connections to any council now. Just feel stuck and trapped.
 
Update to my tit show of a life…. Police came out Friday to discuss criminal damage with my 16yo, they asked him why he isn’t in school he said he can’t be arsed. School have referred it to social care which is all I bleeping need right now. School think we’ll be prosecuted because he won’t go to bastard school and I give up I don’t want him in my house anymore I just don’t know where to go to get him out. I have other children that aren’t causing all this trouble and stress.
 
al255 said:
Been taking sertraline for 2 weeks, not had any side effects but I don't feel that much better? I realised I need to just try something to feel like the old me. I'm on 50mg and I've got a review in 2 weeks, I'm aware it'll take 6-8 weeks to really work.

Anyway - back to the gym properly, I went this morning and felt better.. I realise when I'm going through a depressive episode I don't go to the gym and I eat tit, which doesn't make me feel any better!! Just have to break the cycle... I'm hoping with spring coming I feel more like me with everything I'm doing 😫
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I've been on Sertraline a few times and am on it currently. I would say that in my experience I don't usually notice it helping that much, so I decide to come off it, and then I realise things are even worse and it probably was helping but just not as much as I needed it to. This time I've told myself I will stay on it even though I'm still depressed, and I have noticed my responses to some triggers are slightly reduced since going back on the meds in September, so it's worth it to me. I don't know if that helps but just be aware that they might be doing SOMETHING even if you're still feeling dreadful.
 
I had a missed miscarriage and surgery which was rough anyway but I’m not sure I’ll be able to get pregnant again. It took years to happen and every single friendship group I have has at least one pregnant friend so I’ve nowhere real to turn to or lean on. I’ve also been bullied by a couple of my ‘friends’ and left out when they know I’ve had the miscarriage, had huge health problems that have meant I can’t work properly anymore, three close family members died as did my friend, getting made redundant, husband lost his job just before our wedding (which was also ruined), husband also got cancer which thankfully was very minor, I’m behind on bills but can’t get financial help, had to go no contact with some family, had pets die, all in the past 18 months and I genuinely just feel at my wits end. I also think I might have PTSD through the loss/ some of the above and some of the traumatic things I’ve had happen to me- I watched someone die at work and I also nearly got assaulted by a convicted sex offender and escaped just by chance. I’ve probably missed stuff out as well because there’s that much bad stuff that’s happened to me that it’s actually ridiculous. I’ve been to doctors repeatedly and they can’t help me, plus I’ve reached out to all the mental health/ support services I can think of and there’s nothing really out there. I just don’t know when it gets better or where to turn.. I spend every day just crying or wishing I could teleport to the future where I hope things might be less painful 💔
 
Elisha97 said:
I had a missed miscarriage and surgery which was rough anyway but I’m not sure I’ll be able to get pregnant again. It took years to happen and every single friendship group I have has at least one pregnant friend so I’ve nowhere real to turn to or lean on. I’ve also been bullied by a couple of my ‘friends’ and left out when they know I’ve had the miscarriage, had huge health problems that have meant I can’t work properly anymore, three close family members died as did my friend, getting made redundant, husband lost his job just before our wedding (which was also ruined), husband also got cancer which thankfully was very minor, I’m behind on bills but can’t get financial help, had to go no contact with some family, had pets die, all in the past 18 months and I genuinely just feel at my wits end. I also think I might have PTSD through the loss/ some of the above and some of the traumatic things I’ve had happen to me- I watched someone die at work and I also nearly got assaulted by a convicted sex offender and escaped just by chance. I’ve probably missed stuff out as well because there’s that much bad stuff that’s happened to me that it’s actually ridiculous. I’ve been to doctors repeatedly and they can’t help me, plus I’ve reached out to all the mental health/ support services I can think of and there’s nothing really out there. I just don’t know when it gets better or where to turn.. I spend every day just crying or wishing I could teleport to the future where I hope things might be less painful 💔
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I didn’t want to read and not reply, I’m not sure what to say but I wanted you to know that we all care on this thread, sending you love and peace 💖
 
al255 said:
Been taking sertraline for 2 weeks, not had any side effects but I don't feel that much better? I realised I need to just try something to feel like the old me. I'm on 50mg and I've got a review in 2 weeks, I'm aware it'll take 6-8 weeks to really work.

Anyway - back to the gym properly, I went this morning and felt better.. I realise when I'm going through a depressive episode I don't go to the gym and I eat tit, which doesn't make me feel any better!! Just have to break the cycle... I'm hoping with spring coming I feel more like me with everything I'm doing 😫
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It can take a few weeks to kick in. I’ve recently had mine increased, venlafaxine and my sleep pattern is fucked.
 
I’m in my final year of uni and I feel so overwhelmed at all the work I need to do over the few months. I do primary education so do placements to get QTS and since my last one ended I’ve really struggled to motivate myself to get anything done. My parents think I’m doing great and am going to get a first and pass my driving test in a few weeks when in reality I’m terrified I’m going to fail both.

I’ve also got no friends because I’m quite introverted. However, there is a swiftie society where I have been able to talk and meet people outside of my course. I was really looking forward to going today as I’ve felt really on edge with everything else and was looking forward to talking about trivial stuff like the Grammys and new album announcement. However, my bus didn’t show up and the next one would’ve made me really late so I ended up not going and instead cried at the bus stop and my whole walk home (sad I know). I honestly never cry but have felt on the verge a few times recently and I think this was my last straw.
 
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