Dating after lockdown #38 midnight messages from the ghost of boyfriends past

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D2them said:
Lol, never mind 🤦🏼‍♀️
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how do I know he doesn’t do the same somewhere? My point is, if I had shared personal info such a a phone number or anything then Obviously that would be unfair. He has a tinder profile with that info and more on so he’s obviously ok with his details being out there.
 
D2them said:
It's dating. You're gonna come across a lot of this behaviour
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I accept that but it’s just weird to chase someone relentlessly then start playing stupid games. No adult has time for that, I work 2 jobs I have precious little time and I’ve already changed my weekend which means I’ve now lost out on Sunday premium rate for nothing
 
freezelouise43 said:
I accept that but it’s just weird to chase someone relentlessly then start playing stupid games. No adult has time for that, I work 2 jobs I have precious little time and I’ve already changed my weekend which means I’ve now lost out on Sunday premium rate for nothing
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I would simply disengage with them if you feel they are wasting your time and do something more productive instead.
 
freezelouise43 said:
I accept that but it’s just weird to chase someone relentlessly then start playing stupid games. No adult has time for that, I work 2 jobs I have precious little time and I’ve already changed my weekend which means I’ve now lost out on Sunday premium rate for nothing
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So you’ve learned a valuable lesson… never change your plans for a man, especially a flakey man you don’t know
 
whathastheworldcometo said:
I would simply disengage with them if you feel they are wasting your time and do something more productive instead.
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This is why I work so much, then you get criticised for working so much by the very men who want to let you down. I’m fine I’ll just do extra shifts and never believe a man is going to follow through on his plans again, because they don’t, I appreciate that this is my stupidity for believing a man I met online . What can I say, I’m clearly a stupid person 🤣
 
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freezelouise43 said:
Does anyone else struggle with getting replies off guys you’re talking to? I’ve been chatting to a couple of guys over the last couple of weeks, and you exchange alot of WhatsApp messages, then suddenly the last message you send…stops getting a reply? It’s a weird phenomenon and seems to be prevalent is anyone else familiar with this?
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It's being ghosted, very common
 
Right so I've still been in regular contact with my ginger. Hadn't seen him since we split up until Saturday he invited me over. Lovely night, we had sex, I didn't stay. So that's all grand, been chatting away and not stressing. But omg girls tell me I'm not being insane but I just found out he's an anti vaxxer and it's given me mad ick 🤣🙈 like I'm not sure if I can even chat anymore, one of his sons is on the spectrum, he blames it on mmr jab. I didn't realise how strongly I felt about it but it's made me question his intelligence 🙈 it's not my intention to spark a debate or anything here but holy duck, I just feel so shocked that he has gone from one of my favourite people in the world to thinking he might be an idiot!
 
Rach472 said:
Right so I've still been in regular contact with my ginger. Hadn't seen him since we split up until Saturday he invited me over. Lovely night, we had sex, I didn't stay. So that's all grand, been chatting away and not stressing. But omg girls tell me I'm not being insane but I just found out he's an anti vaxxer and it's given me mad ick 🤣🙈 like I'm not sure if I can even chat anymore, one of his sons is on the spectrum, he blames it on mmr jab. I didn't realise how strongly I felt about it but it's made me question his intelligence 🙈 it's not my intention to spark a debate or anything here but holy duck, I just feel so shocked that he has gone from one of my favourite people in the world to thinking he might be an idiot!
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Ugh I totally get why it's a massive turn off for you - it speaks to a weird break with reality, doesn't it? There is absolutely zero indications that Autism has anything to do with vaccines. So it makes him a person that believes a known fraudster who was struck off the medical register and has been discredited, over actual scientists. I think it's a warning flag because it speaks to a certain mindset - a belief of knowing better than everyone else, of being above others because he knows "the truth" etc. It's fertile soul for conspiracy theories to take hold, and it usually starts with BS like that. I would stay away.
 
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