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I've been drawn back in with Monique's latest post, rant incoming and I just want to make clear at the start - I'm not saying she should just be left to die BUT
The fact that Monique is still being 'allowed' to continue this charade has really got to me. I've talked before about losing people to cancer but in particular with my Dad, he died aged 53 from bladder cancer. All he was ever offered was chemo, they wouldn't even entertain the thought of surgery because they made clear from the get go they didn't think he would make it. There were no discussions, no consideration for extension of life. Just, no. My Dad wasn't the type of person who would 'fight' so just accepted it and while I am, I was too young at the time and looking back, I wish I had been his advocate but it's too late now. He had absolutely no quality of life, they didn't even support him with his horrendous pain or his mental health which was understandably shot to tit. He was essentially told you are going to die, bye. He had worked his entire life, paid into the system etc etc and this was the best they would offer him. He was dying and even had to fight to get poxy disability payments to keep a roof over his head because he (obviously) couldn't work anymore.
The system didn't care about him at all. Is that because he was a middle aged white man? Most likely.
Is this Monique's fault? Obviously not and I'd like to make it clear, I'm not saying I would want the same to happen to her, or that I don't understand why she is so hesitant to let go. But, I find it deeply disturbing that someone in her position is having every option under the sun when she is so much worse off than my Dad was (even when he died!) yet he gets nothing? How is this fair? It seems very much like it's all or nothing and the ones who get it all are the young, pretty girls who shout the loudest. Again, I don't want anything bad to happen to Monique, but it has been clear now for many months she has absolutely no life quality, infact not even that, her life is active pain and misery. How is it ethical that this continues? Why is noone stepping in here? What is driving the agenda that she is allowed to remain there? I cannot fathom it, the NHS seldom behaves like this, why is this different? Most folk get the minimal options and when they don't work they are left to die.
Whereas in some cases, they seem to be effectively allowing living corpses?
I just find it so deeply disturbing that this is still going on. I completely understand the desire to live and that while most of us may not agree with her choices, they are hers to make. But I just don't understand how this is happening from a medical POV and if it is, why doesn't everyone get the same opportunities?
Life extension at all costs it seems, even if the cost is no life at all.
Monique looks so ill in her latest post. She said again "hoping for some better days ahead soon." She hasn't had any good days for MONTHS. It is one thing to be optimistic but this seems more like absolute delusion from both she and her family.
I can't imagine the pain she is in. I do wonder if it's her parents feeding into this mentality.
This might sound like an asshole comment too but what are the chances that Monique who is gravely ill and should be in hospice is taking away a hospital bed from someone else?
This might sound like an asshole comment too but what are the chances that Monique who is gravely ill and should be in hospice is taking away a hospital bed from someone else?
I think this is rather unkind. We should never pit one patient against another over hospital beds. We should live in a country that can guarantee that everyone needing a cancer bed would get one.
I think this is rather unkind. We should never pit one patient against another over hospital beds. We should live in a country that can guarantee that everyone needing a cancer bed would get one.
I am not sure the poster was pitting people against each other - as it would be far better for Monique too if she was in a hospice, which would of course free up a hospital bed for someone who needs to be a a hospital.
Monique 100% needs to be in a hospice, where she would be getting the best treatment for her needs, and not a hospital and it is so sad for everyone that they haven't been able to accept this.
I think this is rather unkind. We should never pit one patient against another over hospital beds. We should live in a country that can guarantee that everyone needing a cancer bed would get one.
We already do though to an extent. There are limited resources so treatment choices are made based on safety, efficacy AND cost-effectiveness. Similar to how not all drugs can be funded on the NHS. Or when covid was really bad and careful choices were made as to who got the ICU bed. It really is very unusual that someone who was moved to end of life care months ago would still be in an acute bed.
Really hope that this would get a load of complaints if they did so, how unbeliveably disrespectful would that be (not that steve or lauren give two hoots about disrespecting people).
I see that his 'very important speech' talks about Rachael so wondering if he'll somehow shoehorn in something like: 'Rachael would have wanted, beyond everything, for my new slug browed wife to take her place at the podcast table with me and Lauren - in fact, it was all Rachael ever dreamed about!'
Or some such shite, and then intro in the replacement wife.
Monique looks so ill in her latest post. She said again "hoping for some better days ahead soon." She hasn't had any good days for MONTHS. It is one thing to be optimistic but this seems more like absolute delusion from both she and her family.
I can't imagine the pain she is in. I do wonder if it's her parents feeding into this mentality.
This might sound like an asshole comment too but what are the chances that Monique who is gravely ill and should be in hospice is taking away a hospital bed from someone else?
Being handed this sort of diagnosis surely you would be delusional? I don’t think anyone can blame her for continuing to advocate for herself and for wanting to keep going, even if her days are awful, because she is so young and has had such a tough time of it. Everyone loves to say “she’s not living” “what kind of life is this” but truthfully, she has not lived and she deserves more, and I would absolutely be in denial of a female of a similar age, I simply don’t think I would be able to sit back and accept my fate.
She has been extremely ill since January I believe and obviously has a lot of fight left in her body. I wish people would stop acting like she needs to give up and accept her fate when she is fighting so hard to simply live a life that is being robbed from her.
Erm, why on earth does Bland have one?! Same for Lauren but at least she’s lived through cancer….he was married to somebody who had it and now fails to mention her since she’s been replaced!
Yip I have had it. I have been lurking on tattle for well over a year just reading and nothing until steve blands freeze out of Rachael has made me post. It’s awful just awful. I’m sure he tries to justify it in his own way but this today tagging bb and Lauren and his new life whilst ignoring the mother of his child and woman who has provided his new life by dying.. absolute cretin there is no justifying this whilst he prances about in his robe with the lookalike wife saying how proud she is. God love you Rachael you deserved more respect. And steve if you read here when Freddie is old enough to understand how you disregarded his mum good luck!
Also very strange how Lauren did not acknowledge Rachael’s anniversary (unless I missed it) seems like everyone is afraid to upset the new mr and Mrs bland
The whole programme/ introduction is to the brim of rachael yet she gets nothing. I don't know the ins and outs but from the outside looking in, it looks very sad!
If anyone subscribed to the YMBC pod and disagrees with his behaviour and In general the way he and Lauren are conducting themselves - vote with your fingers! UNSUBSCRIBE!
I really hope Rachael was honoured since the whole podcast was her idea and bloody SB career is him riding off his dead wife's (who you wouldnt even realise he had by the state of his IG) coattails!!
Lets face it neither SB or LM would have got the doctorate if it wasn't for the passing of BB and the fact she became a Dame. I am absolutely disgusted by SB behaviour. I am all for moving on with your life but dont openly disrespect the woman who provided your life style/career with her heart breaking passing!!!
I'm actually furious about this. How properly disgusting.
So a man who has moved so far on from his dead wife that he has remarried and a woman that has moved so far on from her cancer she now has a stylist and talks about not getting sex a lot in capitals are getting a doctorate but one of the, now tragically deceased, women who started this whole thing is being completely frozen out - despite having way more of a presence in the real cancer community then these two muppets and actually kicking off the attention around the whole podcast with her death.
Plenty of people get and recover easily from breast cancer (in fact she should be grateful enough for this rather than constantly whinging!) and plently of people have a spouse die of cancer - what exactly have these two twats done to warrant this recognition over rachael!? Neither have done anything particularly impressive or anything particularly charitable (let's be honest, both of them have solidly been lining their pockets off other people's misery ever since)
This is just gross. I'm sure she gets a mention - but so far it looks like the focus is firmly on the other three
Oh WOW! Rach's Mum must be absolutely heartbroken. These bleeping idiots (Deb aside obvs) riding on the success of something her late daughter created without even a mention of her. What did Steve actually bring to the table, nothing at all!
Wow! I don't know how doctorates work tbh, but I am assuming that perhaps Deborah was given hers while still alive or something and that's why Racahel can't be given one? Do you have to have died within a certain time to get a posthumous one?
The podcast went crap after Racahel died anyway. By far the best episodes are the early ones where it was clear that Rachael had really planned what she wanted to achieve. After she died I mostly stopped listening because you could tell the others were just trying to come up ideas to keep it going, and bar the odd episode, it wasn't that great.
The only reason any of them are on the podcast is because of Rachael - it was Rachaels idea, she could have chosen any of the 'cancer influencers' at the time, and there were a few other choices, and she chose Deb and Lauren. And as for Steve, he has brought absolutely duck all to that podcast, bar perhaps the episode with Amy, which was actually quite interesting and informative. Otherwise he just mostly sits there nodding along.
A doctorate!!!
Just seen Steve has posted it on his grid.
Lauren, Deborah, Deborah's family, Amy all tagged in the post. No mention of Rachael in his post at all. Not even her name.
I don't even know what to say tbh.
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check Bowelgrans post.
