Ashley James #37 Captions full of bollox, forehead full of Botox.

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I don’t usually see many kids on screens at restaurants (certainly in waiting rooms etc), but I’d find it incredibly sad!!! It’s Nandos?! It’s a family restaurant? Maybe a screen while waiting for food, but I wouldn’t be cheering that people can’t sit and have a nice meal as a family. Did these kids all have headphones on? Or do I get to listen to Peppa Pig blasting from seven different directions?
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I don’t usually see many kids on screens at restaurants (certainly in waiting rooms etc), but I’d find it incredibly sad!!! It’s Nandos?! It’s a family restaurant? Maybe a screen while waiting for food, but I wouldn’t be cheering that people can’t sit and have a nice meal as a family. Did these kids all have headphones on? Or do I get to listen to Peppa Pig blasting from seven different directions?
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Not to back her up, but we were on a break away last Easter. At breakfast I looked around and we were the only table that the kids didn’t have phones or tablets. The parents were actually spooning the food into their mouths and they were glued to Peppa Pig and whatever else. It was a sad sight.
 
We have a 7 month old and maybe it will get harder as she gets older but so far we’re still determined she won’t be getting a phone or tablet. I just think, I grew up without a device and managed to eat out in restaurants with my parents, I’m sure it’s possible. Yes, they brought activities, sticker books, played games and had to actually engage with us but surely that’s the way it should be!
 
We have a 7 month old and maybe it will get harder as she gets older but so far we’re still determined she won’t be getting a phone or tablet. I just think, I grew up without a device and managed to eat out in restaurants with my parents, I’m sure it’s possible. Yes, they brought activities, sticker books, played games and had to actually engage with us but surely that’s the way it should be!
It’s definitely possible! My son is almost eight and I can count on one hand the number of times we’ve given him a phone while out and about. He’s also neurodivergent, so certainly not a placid or easy kid either 😅

Ashley seems to want to brag that they limit screens (ha) and talk about bad they are, while also trying to assuage her own guilt by posting endlessly about how screens are okay 🤔
 
I don’t usually see many kids on screens at restaurants (certainly in waiting rooms etc), but I’d find it incredibly sad!!! It’s Nandos?! It’s a family restaurant? Maybe a screen while waiting for food, but I wouldn’t be cheering that people can’t sit and have a nice meal as a family. Did these kids all have headphones on? Or do I get to listen to Peppa Pig blasting from seven different directions?
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Of course she was pleasantly surprised - it gives her permission to continue shoving a screen in front of her child at ALL times, not just meal times.

I’m disgusted in her comment. If she wants to draw comparisons between adults and children, and argue that children are held to higher standards than adults (hmm not true). If you want equality for children, then do they not deserve to be part of meal time just like their adult counterparts? You wouldn’t shove a screen in front of an adult you are eating out with so you can eat in peace, so why do children have to endure that? They don’t ask to be taken out for a meal, and I’m sure they would much rather have interaction with the adults sat with them.

My child has never used a screen at the table if we eat out. I don’t say that because I believe I’m high and mighty, but because I’ve always genuinely enjoyed that interaction time. It’s a luxury when eating out as it means you can just sit and focus rather than up and down cooking, serving, cleaning etc. Back in the days when I was married and money less of a challenge, we ate at pretty decent places occasionally and never had to stun our child into silence using a screen. My point there being I never felt pressure to do so.

I’ve seen children sat, not just whilst waiting but from the moment they arrived at the table until they left, including during eating on a screen and completely ignored by the adults on the table. What a horrible relationship that encourages between socialising and food. I’ve had some of my best chats with my child at the table!

I say all this as a mum of a child who is neurodiverse, who uses screen time to regulate. I would, however, be doing them a huge disservice if I started tipping the balance and using screen time to work in MY favour and not theirs. It’s up to me to establish healthy boundaries because all children ND and NT would go down that rabbit hole if those who cared for them set no parameters.
 
We have a kind of rule that if we go out for an easy tea because we can’t be bothered to cook or whatever, the children can have their screens - easy life and my husband and I can have a good chat. But, if we go out for like a reason or with other people, no screens because you’re there for a reason. If that even makes sense 😂
9/10 there more entertained by colouring or little games anyway x
 
I don’t have any issue with people using screens for their kids if having dinner OUT (definitely not at home) but I do believe it should be a last resort in any circumstance!

We always pack pens and paper, sticker books, her favourite Peppa figures (including the little accessories such as a sofa, beds, bath and table and chairs) and it keeps her distracted for AGES! I also love the magic water colouring pads you can get and keep one in the car and bag at all times for emergencies! Once you’ve exhausted all your options and if you are trying to finish your meal, then I think a bit of screen time is fair enough…

..but we know for a fact that Ash chucks it in front of Alf the second they sit down. He’s definitely addicted and has come to expect it, as demonstrated by him talking about “Miss Rachel” the second he woke up the other day!!

Can you cope 🤪 (Ashley can’t)
 
Once again we have a photo of poor baby Alf looking swollen and purple and bruised, and one of dainty little newborn Ada, the do-over baby. I don’t think she ever got over him being a boy, then he came out looking like that, and there was no way back for her.
I think this too. I’ve said from the start that this was her “ birth trauma " Alf coming out looking like that and not the “perfect” idea she had in her head.
 
I don’t have any issue with people using screens for their kids if having dinner OUT (definitely not at home) but I do believe it should be a last resort in any circumstance!

We always pack pens and paper, sticker books, her favourite Peppa figures (including the little accessories such as a sofa, beds, bath and table and chairs) and it keeps her distracted for AGES! I also love the magic water colouring pads you can get and keep one in the car and bag at all times for emergencies! Once you’ve exhausted all your options and if you are trying to finish your meal, then I think a bit of screen time is fair enough…

..but we know for a fact that Ash chucks it in front of Alf the second they sit down. He’s definitely addicted and has come to expect it, as demonstrated by him talking about “Miss Rachel” the second he woke up the other day!!

Can you cope 🤪 (Ashley can’t)

agreed my daughter will do colouring stickers playing talk to us etc and if after all that we’re still there she may get a screen - the difference with Alf is he would have been pushed in his pram into the restaurant watching his screen from start to finish!
 
We have a couple of grab bags with puzzles, toys, colouring books etc for when we go out. We eat out weekly and have done since he was very young, and have never had to resort to a screen.

He’s nearly 3 and we have noticed that this is rare (every other kids when we’re out seems to have a screen) but it’s a non negotiable for us. He is neurotypical though, there’s one of him and usually both of us, which makes a huge difference as well.

She doesn’t even attempt to not have the screen. We’d all respect her more if she mentioned Alf’s additional needs etc but alongside that is his need therefore for privacy.

Not to be forced into photoshoots or to perform. Now if that means not as much money or free stuff, then so be it. That’s being a good mum.
 
I don’t they all come out as swollen as Alf did but the don’t look like renaissance cherubs either! Mine was a regular colour (ELCS) but came out having a wee 😂 still took a day or so for his little face to look less swollen because they’ve been swimming in fluid for months (unlike Ash I know this is normal so didn’t see the need to bestow an aqua-inspired name on my baby)

EVEN SO most of us think our newborn baby is beautiful even if they come out looking like a surfaced blobfish.
 
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