Alex Light

[AliceInWanderLost]

Also the really really unnecessary picture of her holding a sick bag in the car on the way home with smudged eye makeup for dramatic effect...just why ? She really is soo oblivious to the potential harm all these self indulgent posts could be causing....awful woman!!

yep, that too. her make-up is very obviously smudged on purpose, to make the situation seem more dramatic and get her as much attention and sympathy as possible. and nausea is yet another potential negative side effect, thus something Alex wouldn't want to hear about from anyone else - so why share? not that i'm saying she should only share the positives - but it's the absolute hypocrisy of demanding nobody share anything vaguely negative about their own experiences with her, whilst happily sharing every detail of her own experience - which is going to upsetting to many of her followers for a multitude of reasons, whether due to their own fertility struggles, not being able to afford treatment or having anxiety about the process and not needing to exposed to the potential consequences. just shut up Alex, and keep the process - and your bleeping privilege - to yourself.

it's very obvious she is documenting her "journey" not to "help others" as she claims, but to flaunt her privilege and increase engagement. she's so bleeping smug. her post is full of comments wishing her luck and sending her love and commending her on her "bravery", as though she is going through medical procedures she has no choice in. and ofc, she is lappig up all the sympathy and attention and pride and advice to "rest up", while casually ignoring comments from followers who are devastated that fertility treatment failed for them, or that they can't afford it etc.

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

Alex's experience of the egg collection process was positive - she's feeling great, just a bit tired, and feeling a bit anxious waiting for the results - so now she is asking her followers to share their experiences. didn't want to hear other people's stories beforehand in case they made her feel anxious, yet because it all went well for her, she's suddenly happy to use her fertility treatment to increase engagement and wants messages of reassurance while she waits for the results. give it a few hours and she'll be ranting in her stories about how it's not okay for people to send her horror stories, or detail their experiences of waiting for an update and dealing with bad news etc, because while she's willing to share every negative side effect of her own treatement, she only wants to hear positive stories from other people. and obvs that's something they should know without Alex actually specifying.

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

and, as predicted, Alex caught up on tattle and was reminded to post a story to reassure her followers that she recognises her privilege and the fact that so many others aren't "lucky enough" to be able to afford fertility treatment and/or have been struggling both emotionally and financially for years, dealing with endless bad news and disappointment. but ofc she still manages to make it all about her, with a mention of how "super guilty" she feels that people are being so "nice" and that she has received so many kind, caring and supportive comments - as if she didn't specifically write a post about her experience for that exact reason.

also, the promise that she will "stop talking about it now lol" - for tonight perhaps, but she'll be talking about it again next time she needs engagement or wants some attention and sympathy. lol.

 

[mrsbucket]

She really has been lapping up the attention hasn't she? Anyone would think she is going through actual IVF and not just a precautionary procedure that most people cannot afford and probably aren't arsed about.

I can't understand how her family aren't telling her to reign it in.

 

[Romy]

She really has been lapping up the attention hasn't she? Anyone would think she is going through actual IVF and not just a precautionary procedure that most people cannot afford and probably aren't arsed about.

I can't understand how her family aren't telling her to reign it in.

I was wondering about that. They didn't try very long to have a baby? Here, doctors won't do anything if you try less than one year because it's still "normal"

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

I was wondering about that. They didn't try very long to have a baby? Here, doctors won't do anything if you try less than one year because it's still "normal"

i don't think they were trying for a baby. it wasn't that they were struggling to conceive - she just decided to get her egg reserves checked, as she is in her thirties yet doesn't want a child right now, discovered she has LoW OvAriAn ReSeRvEs - which she reminds everyone of on a daily basis - and then made the decision to got through fertility treatment to freeze her embryos so that they are there in firute when she decides she feels "ready" to have children. i get that she's lucky enough to be in a position to be able to do that, and that's great for her - but there is absolutely no reason to share every step of the process and mention it on a daily basis, literally rubbing bet privilege in the faces of those who have desperately been trying to conceive for years with no luck, yet she hasn't even tried for a baby, and has the option of freezing her eggs to avoid fertility issues in the future. again, good for her, but her content is insensitive and totally thoughtless in terms of the emptional impact it will have on so many of her audience. there are even comments on her recent egg collection post from people explaining that they are devastated that they can't afford fertility treatment, have been trying for years, desperately want to be parents etc - yet Alex hasn't responded to a single one, but they aren't comments she can relate to.

she's all about lapping up the sympathy and praise and attention and reminders that she is "brave" and the good luck wishes and people sending love - but those sharing their own struggles and difficult fertility experiences are dismissed or ignored, as bringing down her mood when she's trying to think positively. and if she's making this much of a huge deal out of the process of having her embryos frozen, just image the drama she's going to create when, in a few years, she is actually going thru treatment to become pregnant. just keep it to yourself, ffs.

 

[Deevee47]

I haven’t followed her for an age and still get triggered ready on tattle about her so just for the record- she’s freezing her eggs and not trying for a baby/going down the IVF route?
huh?

 

[mrsbucket]

i don't think they were trying for a baby. it wasn't that they were struggling to conceive - she just decided to get her egg reserves checked, as she is in her thirties yet doesn't want a child right now, discovered she has LoW OvAriAn ReSeRvEs - which she reminds everyone of on a daily basis - and then made the decision to got through fertility treatment to freeze her embryos so that they are there in firute when she decides she feels "ready" to have children. i get that she's lucky enough to be in a position to be able to do that, and that's great for her - but there is absolutely no reason to share every step of the process and mention it on a daily basis, literally rubbing bet privilege in the faces of those who have desperately been trying to conceive for years with no luck, yet she hasn't even tried for a baby, and has the option of freezing her eggs to avoid fertility issues in the future. again, good for her, but her content is insensitive and totally thoughtless in terms of the emptional impact it will have on so many of her audience. there are even comments on her recent egg collection post from people explaining that they are devastated that they can't afford fertility treatment, have been trying for years, desperately want to be parents etc - yet Alex hasn't responded to a single one, but they aren't comments she can relate to.

she's all about lapping up the sympathy and praise and attention and reminders that she is "brave" and the good luck wishes and people sending love - but those sharing their own struggles and difficult fertility experiences are dismissed or ignored, as bringing down her mood when she's trying to think positively. and if she's making this much of a huge deal out of the process of having her embryos frozen, just image the drama she's going to create when, in a few years, she is actually going thru treatment to become pregnant. just keep it to yourself, ffs.

Exactly. No issue with her having the treatment but she should be keeping it to herself. It's one thing showing off a Prada jacket but when it's something as emotive as fertility. She gives zero fucks about those who might genuinely be struggling to conceive and therefore finding her egg freezing journey upsetting. Vile behaviour.

 

[wibblywobblywoo]

Is she really soo self absorbed that she didn't think her recent stories would trigger a single person that follows her ? Her initial following, myself included, followed her because she was an ED account and ED and fertility issues go hand in hand. No doubt the reason she has gone down this route with freezing her eggs.

Why lie Alex ? Of course you knew that posting triggering stories about fertility would upset people, you just didn't care because it was all about you and your ' bravery' ( massively offended at the use of that word in reference to her, she's not brave) and lapping up the attention that you crave.


I've no doubt she's not going to shut up now, incoming will be all the messages from the people she's 'helped'.

And I'm not sure anyone believes she's struggling financially and more than has the means to buy prada jackets and fertility treatment!

 

[mrsbucket]

This is a terrible apology Thought I'd screenshot before she dirty deletes.

I think she's slightly missed the point here. And is it just me that reads this as "SORRY if you feel triggered. I wouldn't have shared if I knew I was going to get negative feedback and thanks for ruining my pity party with your real life struggle."

I feel I should add that this message was not sent by me incase 'Alexs management' come on here again for a snoop.

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

I haven’t followed her for an age and still get triggered ready on tattle about her so just for the record- she’s freezing her eggs and not trying for a baby/going down the IVF route?
huh?

basically, yes. she is in her thirties, so casually decided to go get her fertility checked - totally #relatable, right?! - simply because she is privileged enough to hav ethe financial means to do so. she then discovered she had "low ovarian reserves" - a phrase she uses in every other sentence - so decided that, as she doesn't yet feel "ready" to have a child, but wants to be a mother in the future, she would freeze her eggs so that she wouldn't be as likely to struggle with conceiving in the future, as they would already have the frozen embryos ready to transfer, as by the time she decides she "feels ready" to have children, the chances of her becoming pregnant will be unlikely, due to her "low ovarian reserve". and whilst it's great for her that she has the financial means to afford fertility treatment, she is rubbing the process of her egg collection etc, and sharing all her emotions and side effects with the word - knowing damn well that many of her followers will be struggling with fertility issues, given that her audience is built up of eating disorder sufferers, and fertility struggles go hand in hand with th illness - without any thought for how hurtful her content will be to those struggling to have children, for whom IVF has failed or who, more likely, don't have the ability to pay for fertility treatment.

it's truly heartbreaking, and she is being totally inconsiderate and insensitive detailing every step of the process and constantly reminding the world how bleeping lucky she is, as though documenting the process is somehow doing her audience a huge favour, and the expectation that they will support her and send her positive good luck vibes and commend her on her "bravery". she is an absolute nightmare and if this is the drama she has managed to make out of one single egg retrieval, just image the content she plans to create when she eventually decides to go thru the IVF process and have a baby.

 

[Romy]

i don't think they were trying for a baby. it wasn't that they were struggling to conceive - she just decided to get her egg reserves checked, as she is in her thirties yet doesn't want a child right now, discovered she has LoW OvAriAn ReSeRvEs - which she reminds everyone of on a daily basis - and then made the decision to got through fertility treatment to freeze her embryos so that they are there in firute when she decides she feels "ready" to have children. i get that she's lucky enough to be in a position to be able to do that, and that's great for her - but there is absolutely no reason to share every step of the process and mention it on a daily basis, literally rubbing bet privilege in the faces of those who have desperately been trying to conceive for years with no luck, yet she hasn't even tried for a baby, and has the option of freezing her eggs to avoid fertility issues in the future. again, good for her, but her content is insensitive and totally thoughtless in terms of the emptional impact it will have on so many of her audience. there are even comments on her recent egg collection post from people explaining that they are devastated that they can't afford fertility treatment, have been trying for years, desperately want to be parents etc - yet Alex hasn't responded to a single one, but they aren't comments she can relate to.

she's all about lapping up the sympathy and praise and attention and reminders that she is "brave" and the good luck wishes and people sending love - but those sharing their own struggles and difficult fertility experiences are dismissed or ignored, as bringing down her mood when she's trying to think positively. and if she's making this much of a huge deal out of the process of having her embryos frozen, just image the drama she's going to create when, in a few years, she is actually going thru treatment to become pregnant. just keep it to yourself, ffs.

I am amazed. It is indeed pure privilege, especially from the very one person passing judgements all the time.

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

This is a terrible apology Thought I'd screenshot before she dirty deletes.

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I think she's slightly missed the point here. And is it just me that reads this as "SORRY if you feel triggered. I wouldn't have shared if I knew I was going to get negative feedback and thanks for ruining my pity party with your real life struggle."

I feel I should add that this message was not sent by me incase 'Alexs management' come on here again for a snoop.

that last sentence "if i had known it would upset people, I wouldn't have shared in the first place" - as if she wasn't aware that bragging about her ability to afford fertility treatment wouldn't be upsetting to her following of eating disorder sufferers. she saw it as a way to create content, increase engagement and get herself a load of praise and attention, without a moment of thought for the people it would hurt and upset. she's truly vile. and guaranteed that this "apology" and forced acknowledgement of her privilege won't stop her from continuing to share the process and repeatedly mention her low ovarian reserves.

if she was truly sorry, she would just stop with all the posts and stories about fertility treatment, but she won't. she will justify it by claiming that she received loads of DMs in response to that story which reassured her that sharing every detail of her treatment is helpful, and that those upset by her content are in the minority thus should just unfollow her if they find her documenting her fertility journey distressing and hurtful - as though she is doing it as a favour to her followers out of kindness so they understand the process, and doesn't benefit her in any way.

 

[#ad#aff]

This is a terrible apology Thought I'd screenshot before she dirty deletes.

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I think she's slightly missed the point here. And is it just me that reads this as "SORRY if you feel triggered. I wouldn't have shared if I knew I was going to get negative feedback and thanks for ruining my pity party with your real life struggle."

I feel I should add that this message was not sent by me incase 'Alexs management' come on here again for a snoop.

So, she’s not actually sorry at all then. A bleeping mini lecture about ‘I thought I’d made this clear’ and then imploring everyone to feel bad for her again. She has had an incredibly expensive procedure that isn’t even an option for the majority of people, and she wants pity. This is a slap in the face to anyone dealing with infertility. And she only reposted that so her sheep would flock in and say ‘omgggg so sorry this happened’

I hope you’re ok

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

So, she’s not actually sorry at all then. A bleeping mini lecture about ‘I thought I’d made this clear’ and then imploring everyone to feel bad for her again. She has had an incredibly expensive procedure that isn’t even an option for the majority of people, and she wants pity. This is a slap in the face to anyone dealing with infertility. And she only reposted that so her sheep would flock in and say ‘omgggg so sorry this happened’

I hope you’re ok ❤

plus, as predicted, her apology and her claim that "if i knew that talking about fertility treatment would upset people, i wouldn't have posted about it" was quickly followed by "thanks for all the nice, kind, reassuring and supportive DMs! i knew that sharing my fertility journey would help others!" - as if sympathy wasn't the sole reason she shared the original message. and the sly implication that the messages she recieved to highlight how upsetting her content is were somehow "unkind" or nasty - she is beyond manipulative in the way she twists every situation to benefit her, while totally dismissing the impact she has on other people.

and ofc, despite now being fully aware that her content is distressing for many of her followers - as if she wasn't already - she proceeds to explain that she still plans to share every bleeping detail of the egg freezing process - because avoiding upsetting other people is not a reason to sacrifice planned content - just that she will try to remember whack a trigger warning up before posting and to make people aware before they read the caption. just as effective as the obligatory TW she adds to her reels filled with photos of herself at a low weight, as if that somehow protects eating disorder sufferers from being triggered, despite the fact that the images will have all been displayed before they even see the warning.

the DM she received obviously wasn't a message that affected her in the over-dramatic way she is implying - it's clear she blew it all out of proportion to increase engagement, as literally moments later, she has moved on and is advertising her light ldn live to talk about her launch of another over-expensive range of diffusers and dried flowers - at the bargain price of £34! - because obvs her priority is enticing her audience into funding her fertility treatment, with no consideration of their feelings.

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

Alex sharing yet another unhelpful post - *TW eating disorders* as though that disclaimer somehow protects her audiences, the majority of whom are eating disorder sufferers - where she lists phrases and slogans from diet culture under the guise that it is weight loss language tha "needs to go", along with an explanation of why each phrase is toxic - including "it's just stupid". many of the phrases and quotes she shares were popular in the 90s and early 00s - the skinny Kate Moss quote etc - thus it is likely that many of her younger followers may not have heard them - especially those that she obviously initially read on tumblr, but for the sake of "content", she is happily sharing potentially triggering phrases that will now be stuck in the minds of vulnerable people, whose eating disorders will latch into irrational and disordered concepts, like "sweat is just your fat crying". and ofc, she is encouraging her followers to share all the diet culture phrases that they find triggering - forming an collection of pro-ana and toxic weight loss quotes to the point it could easily be a screenshot from pro ana tumblr posts.

and including "if it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you", specifying that it is a phrase used to "motivate weight loss"? really? because i have only ever used that quote as a way to motivate myself i my recovery from anorexia, in the sense that if you aren't doing things that feel scary and difficult, then nothing will change, because those feelings of anxiety etc are a sign that the eating disorder feels threatened. but trust Alex to find a way to make a helpful recovery quote "triggering".

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

as predicted, Alex's "apology" for upsetting people with her insensitive excess of fertility treatment content was totally insincere and meaningless. just words. she literally said that *if* she posted anything about fertility treatment/egg freezing in future, she would be sure to post a trigger warning first, so that anyone who would find it upsetting knew not to view the stories - not that a *TW fertility treatment* isn't upsetting to those who don't want to be reminded about their fertility struggles.

but regardless, despite her fake apology and disingenuous promise to be a little more thoughtful in future, it's only a few days later and she's already sharing stories - without even bothering to share a TW - about how she's been feeling drained and emotional in the aftermath of the "egg stuff" - an attempt to be subtle, as though not mentioning her "low ovarian reserves" and using vague terminology will be less upsetting to her audience - with the reminder that she's been having a hard time, poor thing - obvs realised that by not mentioning the egg freezing, she wasn't getting quite enough sympathy and attention, thus her engagement had reduced. and ofc, the "pity me" story was immediately followed by making a point of sharing her "good news"! yay! two successful frozen embryos - despite her "low ovarian reserves" - totally over the moon, overjoyed, so lucky! a sly beg for congratulatory DMs, wihh no consideration of how her "luck" after one egg collection could affect other people.

and obviously tagging the fertility clinic she is using, desperately hoping that providing them with free advertising will work in her favour and the company will reward her with a discount. and then sharing this post, which is an obvious hint that people should be happy for her success and happiness - not jealous or upset - and should be supporting her, thus a subtle reminder that any messages from people upset by her content and messaging her with stories of their struggles with fertility will be ignored in future, because she won't allow other people's bitterness to impact her joy. she is bleeping gross.

 

[Author123]

Who are these people supposedly obsessed with very normal looking baggy sweatshirts?!

 

[somuchforsummerlove]

Is she aware she’s just posted a strangers phone number for everyone to see?

 

[AliceInWanderLost]

Is she aware she’s just posted a strangers phone number for everyone to see?

but Alex is married?! why the duck is she using dating apps?! presumably in the hope that men will send her messages like the one she shared, and she can use them to create content. she must be truly desperate, as she is really scraping the barrel with that story!

and wow. so she receives a message from a guy which criticises her weight, and ofc her immediate reaction is to share the conversation on SM - along with the guy's phone number, knowing damn well that her followers will leap to her defense by hounding the guy with angry and abusive messages. sure, the message he sent her was gross, but that's not a reason to publicly dox him in such a huge platform - kinda defeats the point of half cropping out his photo as a half-assed attempt to conceal his privacy when you are happy to share his number with the whole of SM. she will undoubtedly delete the story and reshare it with the number concealed, accompanied by the usual "ooops! ditzy blonde!" excuse - but she will purposefully leave it up long enough to ensure that it is seen by thousands of people, knowing they will flood him with abusive messages, thus happily encouraging bullying as long as she isn't the victim.

and whilst it's absolutely not okay, women recieve messages like this frequently, yet resist the urge to share private details of every conversation on SM for attention - especially as she seems to be using dating apps specifically to recieve messages like that which she then use as "content" - because for what other reason is she registered on dating apps when she is married and has been in a relationship with her partner for years?! that's pretty "vile" behaviour in itself, and i wonder how sh would feel if Dave started sharing screenshot of messages women were sending him in dating apps - because guaranteed she wouldn't be happy, and it would be all drama and tears!