Womanhood and injustices against women #2

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They are afraid of us but they don’t want to admit it so they belittle us and terrorise us to make us feel less scary.
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Also, I can’t find the post now, but a PP mentioned an incident where two men ran up to her to scare her. The same thing happened to me when I was walking home at night in about 1994. I heard them behind me laughing about trying to freak me out so I was kind of prepared but then they ran up behind me deliberately to scare me. I went mental at them, but they were just like ‘what the duck is your problem, it was just a joke’.
 
Speaking of problematic work places, I got passed over for a promotion because I was told I "didn't have a brain" whilst gesturing at my blonde hair. A guy got the job then moved on and I got it but was paid £20k less than two of the people I was managing, both of which I had been "equal" to previously. I was told I got a job because I had better boobs than the other applicant and they nearly passed over me because they said my job history didn't make sense (I've worked across diverse industries). While on maternity leave my female boss hired a new man in same position as me (the team had been expanded). I found out that he was on £10k more than me despite me being more experienced and more qualified. When I mentioned it to my boss, she said oh well, the role is in the same band, you'll get there eventually. In a job that the only pay rises I'd had were inflationary uplifts that were below inflation. Fortunately my current role they actually value me and both my bosses (both men) have been really supportive and helpful with my development.
 
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Shana Roark on Instagram: "yall do NOT want to see the rest of this interaction!! Lmao what would you have said!?"

28K likes, 3,033 comments - supergirlreject on November 22, 2024: "yall do NOT want to see the rest of this interaction!! Lmao what would you have said!?".
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I’ve seen quite a few of these videos where you have men interacting with women in very misogynistic ways and I’m starting to think some of them are rage bait to advertise their products? Because in quite a few videos, like this one here, the man is obviously by a microphone, he’s speaking clearly and doesn’t ummm and ahhh - like it’s a rehearsed text.

Maybe I’m doing these women an injustice but I think it doesn’t help out at all. If it was a reenactment of what happened I wish they wrote that in the caption. Idk, it just feels icky to me, especially as these videos are often the ones with the highest amount of views.

(She also has another video this time with a woman and even though the woman isn’t as clear it still feels clearer to me than someone without a microphone? https://www.instagram.com/share/BAHuCl2d-Z
 
franmargio said:
Extreme porn is a factor, and maybe it plays a role. But then, people watch violent films about serial killers (I enjoy watching them myself) and don't go out committing murders afterwards.
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Watching something and attaching it to an orgasm creates a very powerful connection to motivate violence and sexuality. People mostly don't wank to horror films. There is also a huge element that is about humiliation and 'tricking' women. It is also very racist, which somehow doesn't get called out
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ShopTilYouSlop said:
Gisele Pelicot is a one woman powerhouse. I could never do what she's done. I don't think I could have even lived through it.
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I get choked up hearing about her. Furious she isn't Person of the Year!
 
My relationship ended recently and I’m struggling to ever see myself with anyone else which is hard. I’m finding it harder and harder to believe I could ever be in a safe, loving relationship.

Men in general as a group disgust me - I literally feel sick around drunk men screaming and shouting and the way they act in public with the spitting and swaggering and attitude just repulses me.

I’ve watched a lot of the docs etc. about Gisele Pelicot and it truly horrifies me. I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts too about domestic abuse and coercive control. I heard somewhere that women go to therapy to try and fix themselves when actually it’s the man who’s caused the issue for them.
 
qqwertyy said:
My relationship ended recently and I’m struggling to ever see myself with anyone else which is hard. I’m finding it harder and harder to believe I could ever be in a safe, loving relationship.

Men in general as a group disgust me - I literally feel sick around drunk men screaming and shouting and the way they act in public with the spitting and swaggering and attitude just repulses me.

I’ve watched a lot of the docs etc. about Gisele Pelicot and it truly horrifies me. I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts too about domestic abuse and coercive control. I heard somewhere that women go to therapy to try and fix themselves when actually it’s the man who’s caused the issue for them.
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If it ended recently no wonder you have some difficulties imaging different futures. Multitudes, with and without men, are available to you.

Maybe consider if lots of exposure to podcasts about violence etc is beyond witnessing the world and torturing yourself
 
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stop the world I want to get off
 
IndominusRex said:
Was discussing with my husband earlier and he made an interesting point that before the internet these people existed in isolation whereas now they can easily find each other and that normalises their actions.
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Whilst it is true that the internet has made everything much worse predators seemed to have no issue finding each other before its invention. Peadofile gangs have always existed.
 
I've got zero tolerance to males as a whole now.

Last night, walking past a group of male revellers one screamed in my face "LOVE YOUR DRESS" (it's a skirt and top, you bleep). Another pulled his top up exposing his blobby pasty white body and made towards me. They sicken me. Can't bloody walk down the stree minding my own business without being remarked upon by a bunch of bleeping arseholes.
 
Not Now Bernard said:
Whilst it is true that the internet has made everything much worse predators seemed to have no issue finding each other before its invention. Peadofile gangs have always existed.
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But this has helped them to normalise it and imagine that every other person they see in real life must be like them. It's easier now to create a personal bubble.
 
thegirlscout said:
www.thetimes.com

Jess Phillips: MeToo pushed teenage boys towards Andrew Tate

Minister for violence against women and girls says they have not been part of the conversation, allowing toxic influencers to fill the void
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Always the woman’s fault and responsibility.
(Why does she look like she could be Owen Jones’s sibling in that picture)
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We shouldn't have started talking about our experiences of harassment and assault because it made men sad?
 
thegirlscout said:
It’s more that we should have engaged men because now they are influencing the boys coming up

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The headline is less problematic than what she said but why must everything be catered to a males understanding? The discussions at that time were not complicated or gendered, anyone should be able to understand people sharing their trauma.

Why should women bear the responsibility of sharing those painful things again just so men can relate?
 
Eureka said:
Don't know why people think the French case was some kind of anomaly, it's clearly more common than we realise.
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Sophie smith wrote an EXCELLENT essay on this. To paraphrase, we can’t prosecute away the “evil” men… because most of the male population would be in prison

www.lrb.co.uk

Sophie Smith · Sleeping Women: On the Pelicot trial

Gisèle Pelicot doesn’t conceive of her now ex-husband or the other men who raped her as ‘bad apples’, aberrations...
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Blueblue123 said:
The headline is less problematic than what she said but why must everything be catered to a males understanding? The discussions at that time were not complicated or gendered, anyone should be able to understand people sharing their trauma.

Why should women bear the responsibility of sharing those painful things again just so men can relate?
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The thing is I doubt many boys or men even want to be part of the conversation.
 
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