Whatmummymakes #7 A mother who smothers, refers to husband as the ‘Other’

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There is a really good farm park in Carlisle, I live an hour away and we go quite frequently. My kids literally ask to go every weekend! If I lived closer we would buy an annual pass. They have seasonal activities. Huge soft play, a big hard play castle, loads of animals to feed, really nice cafe with local produce and home made food, lots to play on outside..... I've literally never once seen them go there 🙄 why does she never think of Nini
 
Yellow_brick_road said:
What annoys me is she dresses this up as good for Nina, she says she is wanting to spend time with her which I actually think fair enough but she has taken her out two days a week anyway and it's her that wants to go to National Trust properties and eat out not Nina. The whole thing is done because Bex wants to go and do her favourite activities and Nina is dragged along so she doesn't have to go on her own, if she was doing it for Nina surely she would choose activities that are good for her. I only put my daughter in nursery three days while I'm working but the other two we have her activities and meet her friends, I don't take her shopping or for days out to places I want to visit. I'm surprised Bex shared a negative message to be honest normally her inbox is bursting with lovely messages and people asking where Nina's clothes are from (apparently).
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Bex took a calculated risk and hoped that her adoring fans would leap to her defence. She is building an image that she and Nina just skip along merrily doing such lovely grown up activities and you just know she takes secret delight in the fact that there will be hundreds of mums who feel guilty because they buy into Bex’ bullshit that this is normal and that Macdonalds with an iPad (and *gasp* MAYO) is evil and feel like crap because their kid doesn’t perform like Nina does.

So many of her followers see her relationship with Nina as something to aspire to (I have friends who idolise them) so the idea that somebody might criticise will have them rushing to defend her and send her messages telling her what an amazing mummy is. Which Bex so desperately needs to fulfil her and give her a sense of purpose. Her identity literally depends on it.
 
foreverfeds said:
Bex took a calculated risk and hoped that her adoring fans would leap to her defence. She is building an image that she and Nina just skip along merrily doing such lovely grown up activities and you just know she takes secret delight in the fact that there will be hundreds of mums who feel guilty because they buy into Bex’ bullshit that this is normal and that Macdonalds with an iPad (and *gasp* MAYO) is evil and feel like crap because their kid doesn’t perform like Nina does.

So many of her followers see her relationship with Nina as something to aspire to (I have friends who idolise them) so the idea that somebody might criticise will have them rushing to defend her and send her messages telling her what an amazing mummy is. Which Bex so desperately needs to fulfil her and give her a sense of purpose. Her identity literally depends on it.
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All of this. 👏🏽 👏🏽
 
TheBabeWithThePower said:
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You can see in her camera roll when she's showing people how she made her post that it looks like they went to pizza express and Nina had an ice cream sundae type thing too. Good balanced day!
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She also kept ‘Lauren’s’ IG handle visible here despite covering it in the original posting. She knows exactly what she’s doing - wants minions to go after someone who criticized her because *how dare they*, but also wants it to look like a mistake.
 
foreverfeds said:
So many of her followers see her relationship with Nina as something to aspire to (I have friends who idolise them) so the idea that somebody might criticise will have them rushing to defend her and send her messages telling her what an amazing mummy is. Which Bex so desperately needs to fulfil her and give her a sense of purpose. Her identity literally depends on it.
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I can't understand how anyone idolises them that's really surprising to me I don't see anything that I would aspire to. I don't think Bex is meaning to be a bad mum, she clearly loves her daughter but she is letting money and her need for attention colour her judgement she can't take any criticism. Why can't she take her out for the day and not film it or post photos? Why can't they have a mummy and Nina day ever, it's always an Instagram photo day in reality it's not for Nina. Bex must know she is over exposing her daughter and using her as a substitute best friend but she justifies it to herself and carries on, I don't think she really believes any of this is for Nina's benefit, Nina's benefit would be to stop filming her completely but she won't because it's making her money and without the Nina content people will unfollow.
 
Yellow_brick_road said:
I can't understand how anyone idolises them that's really surprising to me I don't see anything that I would aspire to. I don't think Bex is meaning to be a bad mum, she clearly loves her daughter but she is letting money and her need for attention colour her judgement she can't take any criticism. Why can't she take her out for the day and not film it or post photos? Why can't they have a mummy and Nina day ever, it's always an Instagram photo day in reality it's not for Nina. Bex must know she is over exposing her daughter and using her as a substitute best friend but she justifies it to herself and carries on, I don't think she really believes any of this is for Nina's benefit, Nina's benefit would be to stop filming her completely but she won't because it's making her money and without the Nina content people will unfollow.
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I did. I was so upset that I couldn’t take my 4 year old strong willed boy to a cafe for hot chocolate and have “mummy dates” with him. So I hot footed it back to Tattle for a head wobble 😂 seriously though when every day is a battle of wills (me vs. Him), having a little subservient best pal looks like the dream. I tried to take my son for hot chocolate and ended up crying in the car all the way to soft play, we left after 8 minutes. Lunches out happen very rarely and the iPad, along with a sackful of games are the only way to survive. Which she of course makes you feel inferior for.
 
Exactly. We’ve all noted that despite having 3 recipe books out, Nina and she only seem to eat the same handful of recipes. Has anyone ever seen them tuck into the bean burgers or fish tacos? Nope.

I bought her first two books after my little girl refused purées and threw every single vegetable on the floor from the day we started weaning. Friends told me that they were the ‘only recipe books I’d ever need’ and that if I cooked these recipes my little girl would enjoy a wide variety of meals.

I immediately turned to the ‘fussy eaters’ section and felt like the biggest failure. No way would my daughter touch most of those recipes, but neither would my son who I considered to be a ‘good’ eater. I then totally doubted myself - and thought maybe he wasn’t as ‘good’ as I thought he was because he wouldn’t eat the avocado and mushroom fries, and didn’t sit in cafes nicely like Nina did.

After a few months of following her on Instagram I realised she cooks the same meals over and over again and the relationship that she’s fostering Nina to have with food is toxic. Sadly many of my friends don’t see it and still think she’s amazing and get disheartened when their child isn’t perfect.

One friend only cooks from her books, lives on the FB group and posts photos on insta of her child eating all the WMM meals and tagging Bex in each one. She said that getting a ‘regram from Bex would be a dream come true. She’s not a very confident person and really looks up to the likes of Hinch, Bex and Stacy Solomon.
I don’t think they realise how much they influence people, especially vulnerable first time mums who need support, especially when they’ve been isolated during the pandemic.
 
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