Unpopular opinions #5

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Notgonnalie said:
Totally. I was scrolling Twitter a few days ago and a political party in Northern Ireland were getting a lot of negative attention because they’ve brought out a period poverty policy which refuses to use the word woman or girl instead it uses person and people who menstruate and the political party are refusing to “debate on gender” I mean do they really think people are gonna vote for the likes of that?!
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Period poverty that only girls and women have experience of… arghhhhh
 
Ibrokethegoddamnwheel said:
Definitely agree with this one. Where does it end? “Happy 184th birthday to my nan, miss you loads, wish you were still with us”🙄 Some people act like they’re the only people in the world to have lost someone close to them. Not to sound harsh but people die, especially when they get old, it’s the natural order of things. Grieve and move on. Posting on Facebook helps no one and is very attention seeking.
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I just want say I'm a bit tearful today - it's the millionth-and-seventh anniversary of my 250'000-great Granddad Ug's death. He was sat on by a wooly mammoth by his cave entrance.
 
maytoseptember said:
Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, not so much an unpopular opinion as one that can’t really be said: children with severe SEN and high support needs (I mean those who are non verbal, in nappies, severe learning disabilities etc) should not be in mainstream schools. It’s not the right environment for the child. Especially if mainstream is the parents’ preference - I know only too well that some kids are forced into mainstream because there aren’t enough SEN school places locally - but some parents are just too afraid to make the choice of SEN school in the first place.

I mean, I get it. Having to make the decision that your child needs to go to a SEN school is hard. But being scared to make that step and opting for mainstream is not in the child’s best interests.

I’ve seen kids at my local primary who are unable to access the curriculum and unable to stay in class with their peers (due to sensory issues, behavioural issues, being unable to sit at a table etc) to the extent that they are babysat by a TA in a room on their own for most of the day. The schools try their best but it’s grim for the child.
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I have family members who work in teaching and they are totally agree. Mainstream schooling is not set up for SEN and it gets worse when you have children who are from impoverished backgrounds who don’t have any SEN needs but need additional attentional due to parental neglect or that they are being bullied etc. All the time is taken up with the SEN children which causes tension and anger. Plus the teachers and TA’s aren’t trained to deal with children who have these needs. But the schools have no choice because the governments have closed down SEN schools.
 
maytoseptember said:
Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, not so much an unpopular opinion as one that can’t really be said: children with severe SEN and high support needs (I mean those who are non verbal, in nappies, severe learning disabilities etc) should not be in mainstream schools. It’s not the right environment for the child. Especially if mainstream is the parents’ preference - I know only too well that some kids are forced into mainstream because there aren’t enough SEN school places locally - but some parents are just too afraid to make the choice of SEN school in the first place.

I mean, I get it. Having to make the decision that your child needs to go to a SEN school is hard. But being scared to make that step and opting for mainstream is not in the child’s best interests.

I’ve seen kids at my local primary who are unable to access the curriculum and unable to stay in class with their peers (due to sensory issues, behavioural issues, being unable to sit at a table etc) to the extent that they are babysat by a TA in a room on their own for most of the day. The schools try their best but it’s grim for the child.
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My brother went to a SEN primary. He was considered too high functioning for a SEN school (and struggled in mainstream) and had no post 11 education.
 
Melian said:
My brother went to a SEN primary. He was considered too high functioning for a SEN school (and struggled in mainstream) and had no post 11 education.
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Oh, don’t get me started on academically able SEN kids. My son is autistic but brainy. Struggles with the social side of school more than anything else. I can’t bear the thought of sending him to a mainstream secondary, but SEN schools wouldn’t be right for him either. There’s nothing out there.
 
wordzalad said:
That is the best christmas song and i will fight people over it. He has excellent taste
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A&P has provided me
With the world's smallest turkey
Already in the oven, nice and hot
Oh damn! guess what I forgot?

Lol I love this song!

Martin Lewis money saving expert is a dictator, he’s made money out of people who have none! He talks waaaaaay too fast.
 
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thegirlscout said:
It’s a massive problem and our system is so flawed. Hell, I almost don’t blame the migrants for doing it because they know how weak the rules are and that people can’t object for fear of being branded racist and losing everything. Our migrant policy is like the NHS - it needs a massive overhaul but everyone is sticking their heads in the sand.
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i came across a kind of artsy? Political? Movement called conversations from Calais. Basically it’s posters which relay a snippet of conversations between I’m assuming volunteers and asylum seekers/refugees etc.

bit more detail here, (guardian article on it)

basically a lot of the conversations were people who dreamed of having a house with a garden, being able to have a home for their seven children etc. How welcoming and eager the U.K. are to have them, how abundant the U.K. is with money, jobs and opportunities.

it’s pretty obvious a lot of them have been sold a total fantasy. Probably by human traffickers who financially profit from it. Or they cling to this ideal and make a fantasy of it themselves because they’ve had an awful time in whatever country they are fleeing from.

it was a eye opener for me in a way I expect the artist didn’t intend
 
that1 said:
it’s pretty obvious a lot of them have been sold a total fantasy. Probably by human traffickers who financially profit from it. Or they cling to this ideal and make a fantasy of it themselves because they’ve had an awful time in whatever country they are fleeing from.
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There are enough foreign billionaires sitting on millions worth of UK property with no intention of living or paying taxes in the country, people living off benefits with no intention of working or contributing, etc etc that if someone is so desperate to escape a horrific country and come to the UK to be with family and work and start a new life here, we should welcome them with open arms. It should be basic humanity and compassion to want to look after each other.

We've been sold a massive lie that immigrants and asylum seekers are the problem while the rich and privileged tear the place down and tell you that people being trafficked to probably work in modern slavery here are ruining everything.
 
maytoseptember said:
Oh, don’t get me started on academically able SEN kids. My son is autistic but brainy. Struggles with the social side of school more than anything else. I can’t bear the thought of sending him to a mainstream secondary, but SEN schools wouldn’t be right for him either. There’s nothing out there.
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I’m going through this right now with both my young sons. My 4 year old will be starting primary next year and will be going into mainstream like his older brother because there’s no alternative around us. I just can’t see him coping with it though, they are very different and I’m sick with worry over the whole thing. My 6 year old is very bright too but like yours struggles with the social aspect. His behaviour lately has been all over the place and I’m at a loss as to how I can help him. We have a SEN secondary school local to us which is merged with the high school I went to so at least that’s an option when the time comes and if he can get a place. I just think it’s shocking the lack of SEN schools in general, or the fact that because a child is considered “high-functioning” then they just have to get on with it.
 
hydeist said:
We've been sold a massive lie that immigrants and asylum seekers are the problem
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There is a problem with immigrants and asylum seekers not appreciating our kindness, who don’t integrate and wish to set up their own version of whatever hell hole they left in this country. They treat women and girls like dirt. Opening up to people without proper checks and due diligence isn’t safe, the world isn’t sitting around the camp fire singing kumbaya.

hydeist said:
There are enough foreign billionaires sitting on millions worth of UK property with no intention of living or paying taxes in the country
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I don’t think this should be allowed. It’s disgusting that some random billionaire from Saudi Arabia can buy up half of London and jack up the prices so actual Londoners can’t live there.
 
hydeist said:
There are enough foreign billionaires sitting on millions worth of UK property with no intention of living or paying taxes in the country, people living off benefits with no intention of working or contributing, etc etc that if someone is so desperate to escape a horrific country and come to the UK to be with family and work and start a new life here, we should welcome them with open arms. It should be basic humanity and compassion to want to look after each other.

We've been sold a massive lie that immigrants and asylum seekers are the problem while the rich and privileged tear the place down and tell you that people being trafficked to probably work in modern slavery here are ruining everything.
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I agree. I don’t begrudge anyone wanting to escape their country. I don’t think asylum is necessarily strictly financial issue though.

my primary concern is the cultural differences between the U.K. and people fleeing war/poverty etc.

A lot of cultures are very conservative. People should stay at home until married. Women shouldn’t wear short skirts, all that stuff.

I know it’s not the case for ALL refugees, maybe it’s not the case for the vast majority. but it’s enough to concern me, as a woman.

I used to live in an area in London with a large migrant community. Large groups of men would huddle around a local library, speaking in another language. I was often stared down by them, it was intimidating because I didn’t know what they were saying. I was often heckled or leered at because of my clothing. At times I as convinced this group hated me because I was clearly educated and going to a professional job. They were men and looked unemployed and I could just tell they resented me.

on a darker side, some cultural practices are outright illegal and intolerable to U.K. society. I’m thinking FGM and the likes of Bacha Bazi.

for the latter, among pyschologists sexual abuse is known as “the werewolf bite” because those who abuse are often the victims of abuse themselves and it’s perpetuated in a cycle. All it takes is one individuall to commit this crime and it can impact hundreds? thousands?

How do you balance the immediate risk of lives to refugees against the less perceptible risks to minority groups/women/ social norms of people already in the U.K.? How do you even measure the risk? It’s not like there is a litmus test for people who hate women.
 
PrincessCharming said:
There is a problem with some asylum seekers. You get bad eggs in all walks of life.

The majority just want to live their lives safely, get jobs and bring up their families. I’d much rather have immigrants (asylum seekers or people who just fancied living here) next door to me than racists.

Immigrants bring a net positive to the economy also.
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it isn’t about good eggs or bad eggs though.

it’s ingrained cultural differences.

a migrant might be lovely, polite etc. They might be a good egg but ultimately believe that women should be home makers because that’s the norm in their country of origin, that women shouldn’t walk around alone at night and that men and women shouldn’t live together before marriage. This view will likely be inherited to an extent by their children and maybe even their grandchildren. And they will become voters in all likelihood.

that’s a pretty huge contrast to the view women have been fighting for, for themselves for a long time in the U.K.
 
re- The McCanns. I'll go one further and say they got off on the media attention, especially in the beginning. Him jogging on the beach etc, audiences with the pope. They should have been jailed for child neglect if for nothing else. & they didn't just leave the children unattended once to go out on the lash - it was several nights' running. I get bad vibes from Gerry, very, very bad indeed. She is just a wet lettuce and it's probably a co-dependent relationship and he emotionally coerces her and gaslights her.
 
thegirlscout said:
How do you know it’s the majority? The problem is no one knows. A lot of secretive things, like FGM, happens and it doesn’t get reported on. And he’s not a white vs minority situation. It’s the massive culture clashes which are detrimental to both white and minority women.
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I know because if over half of foreigners in this country were as bad as you say we’d be living in an out of control and lawless society.

I’m not saying there are no issues, there are, just as there are issues with people born here.

The media try to condition us to have a “foreigners bad” viewpoint. The reality is much different.

My life is enhanced by the immigrants I interact with and I’d hate not to have them in it.
 
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