Tiffany thinks #17

[Turaj]

Oh God. I'm SO sick of her and Darling. Matt dances to her tune. Pathetic.


If Matt has any sense, he will walk away at some point. But, he seems to revel in her childish ways and responds to her neediness. If he does propose, he can look forward to a lifetime of T calling the tune.

I have to think his family back in Ireland are pretty concerned about him and of course Tiffany..I always put myself in others' shoes and try to think what I would be thinking...if he were my son I would sure want him to support Tiffany thru this but would not see her as his long term partner for marriage. That is even taking away all the medical challenges.

 

[Daisychain4]

I have to think his family back in Ireland are pretty concerned about him and of course Tiffany..I always put myself in others' shoes and try to think what I would be thinking...if he were my son I would sure want him to support Tiffany thru this but would not see her as his long term partner for marriage. That is even taking away all the medical challenges.

Yes, I can appreciate that line of thought … I’m not sure she would be anyone’s ideal daughter in law given she definitely likes the power and final say on most things!

 

[lisette]

I thought Matt looked ill in that video - pale and skinny but maybe it was the filter? He looks on edge though. Tiffany looks surprisingly well. Good to see.

Yes this! I thought he looked very thin. Or we can do that to someone

Regarding Tiffany’s baby voice: it’s always been like that even worse in her earlier videos. At least it’s not a fake baby voice it’s a real baby voice. But I’m not saying there is no fakery going on. Her voice doesn’t bother me somehow.I guess I’m used to it lol

 

[Sheba]

I appreciate the updates! You all are the best.

 

[SueB]

I think she didn't want to announce the surgery date officially so her 'fans' will think she's recovering a lot faster than reality. I think the surgery was Monday 12th, so she's more than 2 weeks post op by now. Makes no sense to me considering the severity of the surgery, but I think it's just the way some people are.

 

[BCrowl]

I was watching one of her older cancer videos. She was talking about how she reads and responds to every comment on YouTube and Facebook. I almost laughed, because she barely responds to anyone!
I saw a few interesting comments on the SU2C video.

 

[ellyjelly2]

Does anybody else think this could be a catheter stand for a bag? I’m hoping it is meaning Tiffany has kept her bladder.

 

[Saydee]

I have to think his family back in Ireland are pretty concerned about him and of course Tiffany..I always put myself in others' shoes and try to think what I would be thinking...if he were my son I would sure want him to support Tiffany thru this but would not see her as his long term partner for marriage. That is even taking away all the medical challenges.

If matt is T's age, as a mother I would think at 30 he is fully capable of making his own choices in life and would trust he is old and wise enough to make decisions.
We are discussing 30 year old adults here, not teenagers.

Why does everyone think Amma will care for the stoma? It's actually much harder to put a flange and bag on someone else than to do it yourself. ( I've changed them as a nurse and had a temp one myself). Once you've learnt the little tricks like warming the flange under your arm or with a hairdryer on low, and placing your warm hands over it for a couple of minutes to aid adhesion it really isn't difficult ( except when the stoma goes thru a stage of constantly producing -i used to place a container under it and wait for a few minutes for it to stop).
The one thing I hated was carrying all the bits all the time, as I've always preferred small bags. I bought my first and last Kipling bag to carry it all as it had organisation and was washable.
When she goes back to work or is out with Matt she'll have no option to deal with it herself. In my experience the stoma nurses are very very firm about you becoming proficient yourself at dealing with stoma care before you go home. My wonderful pouch nurse at St Marks ( I actually had a chat with her last week - 13 yrs she's kept in touch with me) came and showed me how to do everything, then came and observed me doing it myself 4 times before I left hospital, and I was in 11 days I think.
Also the company providing the stiluff you need is amazing. They really support you. My daughter us using intermittent bladder catheters from coloplast ATM and the support service has been outstanding.

I'm not someone that believes Amma will have to care for T's stoma. I know when doctors are making decisions they have to facter in a lot, including how capable a patient is.
No way would T be discharged from hospital if she wasn't capable of looking after her own needs. I have self catheterised for a few years. At my worst I couldn't bend and struggled with it, but no way would I have requested help from family. Not a chance. I had specialist nurses and bullen healthcare there for me to teach me and give me tips. Bullen healthcare also call me on a regular basis and if there is a new product that they feel I am may be better suited to, they will arrange it all for me. An invaluable service.

Sue, in terms of flange and adhesion. Does it make skin sore? I have often wondered.

 

[Saydee]

Does anyone follow the NHS surgeon that had treatment for breast cancer on Twitter? Dr Liz Rhodian? @Liz_ORiordan

 

[Curly Top]

Does anyone follow the NHS surgeon that had treatment for breast cancer on Twitter? Dr Liz Rhodian? @Liz_ORiordan

Yes I have read some of her stuff on twitter. Her mum died recently - and she got a nasty comment which upset her.

Seems a level headed person.

 

[Turaj]

Yes this! I thought he looked very thin. Or we can do that to someone

Regarding Tiffany’s baby voice: it’s always been like that even worse in her earlier videos. At least it’s not a fake baby voice it’s a real baby voice. But I’m not saying there is no fakery going on. Her voice doesn’t bother me somehow.I guess I’m used to it lol

I think Matt has looked "on edge" for a very long time. Most of that I attribute to a guy that as the relationship went on found out that his girlfriend is addicted to filming. He has never wanted to be on camera. All these people including Astin, Ella, Amma and Matt are props.At first it was probably amusing but over time I think it has probably been a source of arguments...now he just does goes with it...but still hating it and very forced movements while being filmed. I will be really interested to see in a few months after the home routine is established and recovery continues to see how much he is around. Tiffany would love to get a proposal ...only problem would be how many "takes" would be required to get it right for the YT camera? Matt will not go that far.

 

[Saydee]

Yes I have read some of her stuff on twitter. Her mum died recently - and she got a nasty comment which upset her.

Seems a level headed person.

Hello Curly Top. Hope you had a wonderful xmas.

I haven't had much time online recently due to a change in circumstances. I am rather shocked and very upset about her mum dying. I thought that after her mum had her arm removed and had some chemo, her mum may return back to good health? Was I wrong?
Spoke to Dr Rhodian a few times in private. I do need to express my sympathy, but I am in shock at the moment. Had Isobel been unwell?

 

[Curly Top]

Hi Saydee,

Thanks I had a lovely Christmas and I hope you did too.

Yes I agree with you it was a big shock to me when her mother died, though I didn't follow her closely. She had such a brilliant attitude after her arm was amputated that I felt sure she would be fine for a good while. It just shows, you just don't know. The details of her cancer were fairly sketchy - think it was a form of bone cancer.

I think Liz O'Riordan is excellent, she comes across as a really wonderful person. Recently she was gifted a couple of dresses but she refused them and had the company give them to a couple of her breast cancer followers instead. As you would imagine with a breast cancer surgeon, her posts are so informative and balanced.

 

[ladyt7087]

If matt is T's age, as a mother I would think at 30 he is fully capable of making his own choices in life and would trust he is old and wise enough to make decisions.
We are discussing 30 year old adults here, not teenagers.


I'm not someone that believes Amma will have to care for T's stoma. I know when doctors are making decisions they have to facter in a lot, including how capable a patient is.
No way would T be discharged from hospital if she wasn't capable of looking after her own needs. I have self catheterised for a few years. At my worst I couldn't bend and struggled with it, but no way would I have requested help from family. Not a chance. I had specialist nurses and bullen healthcare there for me to teach me and give me tips. Bullen healthcare also call me on a regular basis and if there is a new product that they feel I am may be better suited to, they will arrange it all for me. An invaluable service.

Sue, in terms of flange and adhesion. Does it make skin sore? I have often wondered.

It's one thing for the hospital to teach T how to properly care for her stoma. But it's another for her to actually do it herself once she's discharged. I will be shocked if she doesn't regularly call on Amma to do it or help her do it. Just because RM trains her doesn't mean T will do so on her own once at home.

 

[pooch&mutt]

Tiffany looks a lot more like herself, which is good to see! (Still not sure why she's put on that voice belonging to a five-year-old though. Sigh).

i honestly was wondering if an op like this could change how we sound?..then I remembered it’s Tiffany ffs..but she does sound more helium charged than usual

 

[LeonorG]

I think one of the best resources on stomas and rectum and colon removal surgery is Maggie (LetsTalkIBD). She talks about her surgeries and complications, infections and related health issues. Yes it's not colorectal cancer but it's all bowel stuff. She is also a good example of how to combine life stuff (e.g. travel, personal stories) and health stuff in vlogs. She is incredible. Mature, wise and overall good vibes.

 

[Turaj]

It's one thing for the hospital to teach T how to properly care for her stoma. But it's another for her to actually do it herself once she's discharged. I will be shocked if she doesn't regularly call on Amma to do it or help her do it. Just because RM trains her doesn't mean T will do so on her own once at home.

agreed. RM will educate both her and Amma for sure but Amma gives her mouth drops and brushes her hair. Eventually she will have to do it but early on my thoughts are Amma will sure help if not do it.

 

[LeonorG]

i honestly was wondering if an op like this could change how we sound?..then I remembered it’s Tiffany ffs..but she does sound more helium charged than usual

Same! I thought at first that the sound is a side effect but then remembered that it's her baby voice She does it around Darling the most so it makes sense it was so prominent.

 

[SueB]

Sue, in terms of flange and adhesion. Does it make skin sore? I have often wondered.

In my case, yes. I actually developed an allergy to all the flanges available back then. The only way I cooked was using a cream I had to buy from USA and get shipped over - it was really expensive but worth it. It's available on the NHS now, thankfully. It went into the skin and formed a sort of rubber layer that the flange sat on top of.
Warning - description you might not like:



The horrible thing is, the skin being sore stops the flange sticking properly- which can allowed corrosive enzymes in the output to damage the skin further. My skin wouid often be weeping and bleeding. The great thing about that cream was that it would adhere even to skin that was damaged and oozing. Sorry, TMI!

 

[ginnyw]

Hi Saydee,

Thanks I had a lovely Christmas and I hope you did too.

Yes I agree with you it was a big shock to me when her mother died, though I didn't follow her closely. She had such a brilliant attitude after her arm was amputated that I felt sure she would be fine for a good while. It just shows, you just don't know. The details of her cancer were fairly sketchy - think it was a form of bone cancer.

I think Liz O'Riordan is excellent, she comes across as a really wonderful person. Recently she was gifted a couple of dresses but she refused them and had the company give them to a couple of her breast cancer followers instead. As you would imagine with a breast cancer surgeon, her posts are so informative and balanced.

I am going to look up Dr O'Riordan right away, based on what you have kindly posted. I'm not used to hearing about any 'grammers actually giving gifted stuff away!