Sorry it’s munchausin by proxy.
In the UK it's now known as FII, fabricated induced illness. It's a tricky one, it's extremely rare although it might not be as rare as people think as many case go undetected/reported. If you take 100k children there wont even be 100 cases of FII as it is that rare. It's a really rare form of child abuse but a really serious form.
It's not a nice thing for any of us in the SEN community to accuse other parents of. A high proportion of parents are treated as though they are fabricating their childrens symptoms, for instance ASD parents trying to get a ASD diagnosis for their children are often parent blamed, told they are exagerratting their childs needs and abilities, behaviours are blamed on parenting or trying to get disability benefits. Its very rarely the case but its the go to thing for professionals who dont take into account how rare and unlikely it is to be the case.
FII is complex, it can be done for different reasons, most cases are done by the mother and usually because they enjoy being the caregiver and the attention/sympathy they get from others. There has also been cases of FII for financial gain, those who have fabricated or caused their child to become ill or to increase their childs needs and decrease their abilities, in order to claim disability benefits or raise money. This is really rare.
Most people think FII is done by a parent with children who are 100% fit and healthy, infact it can be either those with existing diagnoses or those with no health concerns at all.
Regardless of if Fii is the case here or not, this is the damage Kaytee is doing to the SEN community. People will be talking, looking at her actions and as she claims to be the voice of the sen community, people will start to wonder about others. Theres alot of SEN parents who give up fighting for assessments and diagnoses because of professionals judging them instead of listening and assessing the child first. If Kaytee is ever found to be FII the damage to the sen community could be horrific.
Whether FII is the case or not, without a doubt the professionals around them will be looking at FII being possible. She has created alot of attention around her so they will be viewing her page just like we do. They will 100% know more information than any of us do.
They will notice things we wont even notice. For instance if Kaytee has exaggerated or lied about meetings, assessments and decisions that have been made. They will know what attitude she has with professionals, how she acts in meetings, they may have reports off people who have reported her or raised concerns. There may be meetings and appointments that she has failed to attend. They will be concerned if communication with them is poor but she is constantly online. They will know about the fundraisers and will have noted the things she claimed she needed money for was funded and she never admitted that until weeks later once alot of money had been raised. There may be concerns raised by carers, we already know she was reported by one for coming home drunk and having a domestic. They will be concerned with why she doesnt disconnect his tube leading it to cause discomfort and increasing the risk of infection which increases the likelihood of hospital visits and admissions. She may have already been told about this which will concern them more if they are viewing her page and seeing she is still doing it. They will know shes aware missing meds and feeds can cause devastating consequences but she admits to doing it. The feeding school programme would have been another red flag because they will know GOSH advise ALL parents against this.
Each thing is a individual safeguarding concern, so collectively she is causing a huge safeguarding issue. As she has put her self into the public arena, there is no way they will overlook things in her case, and it wouldn't be the first or last time professionals got their own back for being made to look bad publically.
Without a doubt FII will be a concern for them that they have already noted and may be looking into. They have professionals dutys and I would not be shocked if they have raised quite a few safeguarding concerns. It's not for any of us to say if FII is the case here and people should be mindful that it is incredibly rare. But her own actions are questionable and professionals have a legal duty to act on concerns. If a professional even read this thread they would be duty bound to report safeguarding concerns. J should be on a CIN plan, if that has not been progressed to a child protection plan I would put money on it being progressed to that level soon.
We all know his dad lives in London. It’s highly likely she has taken him there and could either be in a hotel again or back home in Nottingham for a child free weekend.
Not the first or last time it’s alluded to that something is wrong when it’s simply her being shady. No she doesn’t have to check in with SM and her life is her own but the image she portrays, the sympathy she expects and now the financial investments she demands from her followers means she has a duty to say if all is well or not.
And I don’t know anyone else who has used a stories to show themselves after finding out a friend has passed away.
Shes also removed the grid picture of her and her friend which seems odd to me and a little bit disrespectful unless the family have asked her to remove it
how much was raised on that one, do you know?
