simply_stephjoy26 #2 drowning in dog hair and debt, haven't you had that baby yet?

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I've given up after she said about breastfeeding. 'And we haven't had her on as much as we have had so many visitors round ' and something along the lines of ...
I'm pumping because I find actually breastfeeding 'awkward'.

I messaged to say put her on one boob as you are pumping on the other! Maybe she just pumps under her top and they have visitors round so doesn't want to whip them out.
No feeding shame here I topped up with formula after a while. But goodness me the feeding (whatever method) should be the priority not outfits for pictures and visitors.
 
Irrch said:
I've given up after she said about breastfeeding. 'And we haven't had her on as much as we have had so many visitors round ' and something along the lines of ...
I'm pumping because I find actually breastfeeding 'awkward'.

I messaged to say put her on one boob as you are pumping on the other! Maybe she just pumps under her top and they have visitors round so doesn't want to whip them out.
No feeding shame here I topped up with formula after a while. But goodness me the feeding (whatever method) should be the priority not outfits for pictures and visitors.
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Yeah I found that strange, the time she's spent sat in Costa and dragging the baby all over the joint she could have had her on the boob and be further along on her journey but that doesn't pull her in any sympathy
 
I feel for her because she seems so lost and no one seems to help… (apart from people actually messaging her advice and her ignoring it). If she carries in letting the baby just suck her nipples without a proper latch, they will be cracked and sore in no time, it’s absolutely awful and then come the mastitis and blocked ducts!! Does she know that can happen?!
Why on earth didn’t her and the weirdo husband go to prenatal classes?!
 
Beanpop442 said:
I feel for her because she seems so lost and no one seems to help… (apart from people actually messaging her advice and her ignoring it). If she carries in letting the baby just suck her nipples without a proper latch, they will be cracked and sore in no time, it’s absolutely awful and then come the mastitis and blocked ducts!! Does she know that can happen?!
Why on earth didn’t her and the weirdo husband go to prenatal classes?!
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I struggle to feel sorry for her, she spent literally 9 months laid on that sofa chatting wham on her stories and rushing round the shops buying tit because she thought that was what having a baby is all about. She could have spent time reading, joining groups, going to classes etc to educate herself, yet she didn't because why should she went she's bought 478 baby grows 🤔
She seems woefully unprepared and uneducated for someone who was apparently TTC for 2 years imo
 
Wow she is really pissing me off now! I was so determined to breastfeed it made the first 4 months hell, I also had no support as I gave birth the first week of lockdown so the health visitors refused to come see me unless it was an emergency, and just told me to do formula instead. I had no friends or family around me as they weren't allowed to visit and I also had horrendous, crippling PN anxiety which meant I wouldn't sleep more than 10mins at a time at night as I wanted to keep an eye on my baby whilst he slept. But at no point did I think ' I must post a crying picture on Instagram for sympathy' or post 1000s of stories detailing every aspect of my journey. She is so lucky to have the resources and support available now COVID is not a thing, so USE THEM STEPH and remove the camera that seems to be surgically attached to your baby's face😬
 
Why does she have such a huge thing against formula and think everyone else will?

Yeah years and years ago people maybe used to make some comments but it's very rare you get someone that will make comments these days.

"I know many people will have opinions if I switch to formula"

And

"even she said if it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world"
Referring to the midwife and breastfeeding.

She's the one that seems to have the strong opinions on formula, not other people?
 
God shes getting on my nerves! Put your bleeping phone down and shut your eyes-Im not sure why she feels the need to update her followers of her journey every 5 seconds! Somebody really needs to step in and help this girl,God forbid she gets PND she’ll never cope!
Today is a really crappy day for me today as its the second anniversary of my brothers murder 😪 But you dont see me taking pictures of myself crying and begging for attention!
 
WhatABore said:
Why does she have such a huge thing against formula and think everyone else will?

Yeah years and years ago people maybe used to make some comments but it's very rare you get someone that will make comments these days.

"I know many people will have opinions if I switch to formula"

And

"even she said if it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world"
Referring to the midwife and breastfeeding.

She's the one that seems to have the strong opinions on formula, not other people?
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Came here to say this! Someone said it earlier and I think they’re spot on - she wants to breastfeed because of the calories it burns, so she can lose the baby weight as quickly as possible.

If she was this obsessed with breastfeeding, then why didn’t she take more time to learn more about it while pregnant? Especially as someone who had major surgery on their chest/nipples.

And it’s clear that she absolutely needs a social media break. The sad face/endless pics of her baby’s face has got ridiculous now.
 
I know it is tricky, my baby is two weeks old I'm practically feeding non stop! But I knew I wanted to give it a good go from the offset. What I find is weird that she's battling so hard almost 2 weeks in when she was eager to leave hospital and Breast feeding didn't fit in with her visitors schedules and baby had already been having bottles. It's all a bit back to front! All that expensive kit too....It is concerning that no one is helping but as people have said here they've offered advice but she seems to just ignore it if she wants to bottle feed who actually cares?!
 
She has spent her pregnancy crying to get attention and it's worked because people will be worried for the baby.
Now we can see the baby is fine.
If you've ever been a first time mum, the medical profession are very quick to blame you for anything. "Mum isn't coping well, babies cry, that's what babies do"
The more you cry, the more it builds up your file of being unstable, it won't work to get positive attention anymore.
 
I totally get being a 1st time mum every thing is such a shock and so daunting - I mean I nearly had a heart attack when I realised how much I was bleeding the first time I went toilet after giving birth - I generally thought something was wrong (yeah I cringe everytime at how naive I was 🙈) but she is so off the mark it’s unreal. She really is trying to make the newborn life instagramable and it’s causing her so much stress. I mean who goes to Starbucks/costa with a newborn when it’s something they never did before? And don’t get me started on stressing about today due to not being able to fit a bloody nap in for herself??? Priorities wrong or what?? I don’t think blaming her autism for everything either is fair she is just generally so unprepared for everything that’s happening.
 
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