simply_stephjoy26 #2 drowning in dog hair and debt, haven't you had that baby yet?

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WhatABore said:
Never understand why people post or even take photos of themselves crying.
Always just for attention
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Also it looks like she's still at the group place when she's taken the photo. Imagine the staff watching her whip out her phone to take a crying selfie.

I always wonder people who do this, do they take several pics and choose the most upset looking or just the one and hope it portrays enough sadness?
 
It would take her 5 minutes if reading to learn that what the baby is doing is normal and she's establishing her supply, so she wants to get the "pacifer" taken off the baby for a start.
I agree it's all for the gram and to say she's breastfeeding. All the trips out to Costa won't exactly be helping, babies need to be fed on demand and I don't see her whipping a boob out in Costa. The first few weeks you're pretty much sat at home topless 27 hours a day, but no, get the trips to Costa in for the gram 🥺
 
Flip&Flop said:
It would take her 5 minutes if reading to learn that what the baby is doing is normal and she's establishing her supply, so she wants to get the "pacifer" taken off the baby for a start.
I agree it's all for the gram and to say she's breastfeeding. All the trips out to Costa won't exactly be helping, babies need to be fed on demand and I don't see her whipping a boob out in Costa. The first few weeks you're pretty much sat at home topless 27 hours a day, but no, get the trips to Costa in for the gram 🥺
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I’m seven months pregnant and am learning so much “what not to do” from Steph’s so-called “breastfeeding journey”. On the positive side, I’m learning lots about what to actually expect from posts like these :)

Honestly the crying pictures - it makes me cringe so hard. You’d think birthing a baby would make you grow up a bit.
 
Olivia Bowen has had a baby at the same time as Steph, and has uploaded a pic of herself crying.

Maybe crying pics are a horrendous new influencer wannabe trend? 😂
 

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WhatABore said:
"I've already got huge anxiety about tomorrow because I don't get much sleep at night"

😂 Ummm that's called having a baby hun.
She really was super naive. Even more so than I thought.
I thought the lack of sleep was just something everyone expected
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This from the girl who's sleep pattern got mixed up if she was on earlies or lates, thats a 8am or a 10am to anyone else 🤣
 
If I was Autistic and pregnant and knew how much I struggle being out of routine and stuff, I would’ve spent every spare minute of the day (or the hours she sat on her arse on that sofa) and read on what to expect from the second I gave birth. Why did she not try and read articles from or get in touch with other parents with autism and see what there experiences were like.

she honestly infuriates me. Not gonna lie, for a passing second in time, I had the tiniest urge to flick my phone screen when I took this screenshot 😂😂 (not that I condone violence even when it’s to a picture protected under iphone glass)
 

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ChampagneBox said:
Genuine question because I don’t have kids...why is breastfeeding hard?
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In the start, usually, they want to be on constantly to establish the feeds.
But that isn't really happening with Steph cause she's only putting her on every few hours when she'd be giving her a bottle.

She said she didn't want to try in hospital again(where she could've got help) because it meant staying in longer. But now she needs help.
She should've stayed and got the help to begin with if she was so determined to try
 
ChampagneBox said:
Genuine question because I don’t have kids...why is breastfeeding hard?
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You spend the first 6 to 8 weeks with them constantly on the boob so they can establish your supply, they do also use it as comfort and will sleep on the boob and wake as soon as you unlatch them.
It's draining, you doubt every second and there's tears, lots of tears. I vividly remember those first few weeks with my first baby, its so bleeping hard but worth it.
However, steph is reluctant to take advice it seems. She could simply Google the number for the local infant feeding team, stop giving her bottles, take the dummy off the baby, let her constantly be on the boob but the poor lamb needs sleep and naps 🥴
 
ChampagneBox said:
Genuine question because I don’t have kids...why is breastfeeding hard?
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I can only speak from my own experience but breast feeding was hard for me because in the crucial two weeks we needed to establish it, my baby was in and out of hospital with really bad jaundice and I was told by the doctors to stop breastfeeding completely.

I tried to keep pumping, to mix feed, to keep trying with her but I was only ever pumping about 15ml on each side (which is a pittance) and was having to supplement with formula as she was born small and struggling to put on weight.

She learnt that bottle feeding required much less effort from her, my supply just wouldn’t pick up even with pumping every hour or two, so we eventually gave up and formula fed.

I tried my best, but in the end, it just didn’t work for us, and I consider myself very lucky that I had the option to bottle feed.

However I never took photos of myself crying, never blamed anxiety and struggles on anything but being a new mum, and yes, I didn’t anticipate quite how much a screaming baby can floor you and make you have to put them down for 2 mins and walk away, but I was full aware it came with exhaustion, sleepless nights, stress and an entire upheaval of your life?!
 
Dare I say that I do feel for her, she's trying to juggle a lot when it comes to feeding. Pumping, bottle & breast - yikes, no wonder she's sobbing.

As I've said before, I've offered lots of help & my messages have never been read. She needs to make a decision on how SHE wants to feed her baby & seek support from there. All the opinions & impressing the gram shouldn't matter, as long as her baby is being fed, in the way she feel s happy & supported.

She needs a social media break, a basket of snacks, Netflix & be sat on the sofa feeding her baby. Such a precious time & she's missing it being a performing monkey!
 
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