Selfloveliv

[S1791]

I used to follow her and another girl who's name escapes me but she was very much on the body positivity mental health tip. Her real name was Milly and she had a little boy?
Anyway her, Liv and Kate were besties then all of a sudden Milly had some kind of episode and then they weren't mates any more. Dunno what happened there.
I think Liv was a lovely girl but I personally don't find the "hey, it's ok not to wash your hair for a week if you are depressed, you got this, I'm proud of you etc etc" very helpful, encouraging or cheering when you do have severe depression.
As I said though, I do think she comes from a good place and she's trying to offer genuine care and support.
Her friend Milly on the other hand (wish I could remember what her insta handle was but she used to do those "look how great posing/ lighting can make you look thin" photo comparisons and was on the BBC a couple of times) - I wasn't so keen on her
At all.
Edit - it was selfloveclubb

Here to spill some tea on my throwaway account as I mention personal details of my son on my other account. I actually know Milly personally and it has turned me off all self help accounts and influencers. She’s one of the most dreadful people I know.

Okay so I also knew about selfloveclubb, I didn’t realise something like that had happened..but...and I’m not saying she was lying about having cervical cancer..she posted she’d been diagnosed, shaved her head for chemo..and then never mentioned it again..I thought it was very odd? Unless there was a misdiagnoses and it wasn’t as serious as they first thought?

I know selfloveclubb personally and we all think she either lied completely or lied about how serious her cancer was. She already had a bald head anyway in patches which she said was down to previous medication and then claimed it was chemo. She went from stage 4 cancer to in remission in literally a couple of weeks then when people started picking holes she deleted all trace of her posts saying she had cancer etc from her Facebook.

 

[S1791]

Okay so I also knew about selfloveclubb, I didn’t realise something like that had happened..but...and I’m not saying she was lying about having cervical cancer..she posted she’d been diagnosed, shaved her head for chemo..and then never mentioned it again..I thought it was very odd? Unless there was a misdiagnoses and it wasn’t as serious as they first thought?

So....
I thought far too much about this at the time but I thought....she'd had a cancer scare, deffo.
I also think she had a hair pulling disorder. Honestly I know a lot about this and I also know a lot about hairloss from chemo and I did think the hair loss pattern looked a lot like the former rather than the latter.
There was also an incident where she left Rishi (positivitypoppa) out of the blue and moved in with another guy, then immediately realised she'd made a mistake and moved back in with Rishi and he graciously looked after her while she posted millions of angsty heartbroken songs on her stories
Sorry to derail the thread. I just can't get along with a lot of the MH awareness/ bopo influences tbh

Again I know her personally. She had been with rishi for years. The guy she left him for was Rishi’s best friend and the guys ex was her best friend for years too. Really weird.

 

[S1791]

Well I missed that lil nugget about her leaving Rishi! we should have a new general BOPO influencers thread, only thing is I’m not sure how many of them have the right amount of followers to be allowed to talk about them?

See my earlier comment but they both pretend milly didn’t shag her fiancé’s best friend and her best friends man

I'm jumping in here to say I'm glad someone mentioned Milly too, something is so suss about her. She said she had cancer and was losing her hair due to chemo, shaved her head and then never mentioned cancer again. I know people with cancer and they wish they could drop it as easy as she did.
That milly also did a previous go fund me for mental health treatment and got a couple of grand for that but never mentioned it again, she's from my home town. Something very dodgy about her story. Liv I don't mind so much

She lied about it all, I know her that esonally

This has been a ride, I don’t know Liv personally but I do know milly/ selfloveclubb as she was known as and 90% of what she says is a complete lie. She’s changed her account name now and now only does the odd post and makes money with the book she stole everyone’s ideas and put in and also onlyfans

I think she just fell out with Liv as she can’t keep friends with anyone (she slept with her best friend’s boyfriend who was also her fiancé’s best friend) so you can imagine the friendships don’t last.

I’ve just come on to say I think all self love and self help influencers should be taken with a pinch of salt and they can do more harm than good and if you are struggling you would be better going to someone who is a qualified professional. Don’t buy into their scams and don’t feel guilty based on their posts

 

[Cookiemonster83]

It's the digital creator in her bio that gets me. Creator of what. She creates nothing. Her followers create it by giving her the ideas. She has the most unnatural voice. No charisma. No warmth. No likeability. Just fakeness. Why companies choose her to promote when she just looks so awkward in ads, I do not know. If she's losing followers, hopefully it'll continue. She needs reality. Instagram is not reality.

 

[ChampagneBox]

So this is just my opinion but me, it seems ‘body positivity’ attracts a certain type of person, it’s a movement for the marginalised. Unfortunately that also means it’s a melting pot of peoples mental health problems, their insecurities and I think it really highlights the difficulties some of them have with social interaction and living in the real world. When it first started I thought oh this is great, a place for me to belong, but I just got so triggered by the mental health aspect of it! My own mental health isn’t great, and I just couldn’t spend time in a space where it was quite a prominent thing. It’s called body positivity but like a lot of things I think it’s just one way mental health problems manifest. Not saying in any way people should be ashamed of mental health struggles, just for me it was too much when I was suffering with my own MH problems

 

[Sariassong]

Here to spill some tea on my throwaway account as I mention personal details of my son on my other account. I actually know Milly personally and it has turned me off all self help accounts and influencers. She’s one of the most dreadful people I know.



I know selfloveclubb personally and we all think she either lied completely or lied about how serious her cancer was. She already had a bald head anyway in patches which she said was down to previous medication and then claimed it was chemo. She went from stage 4 cancer to in remission in literally a couple of weeks then when people started picking holes she deleted all trace of her posts saying she had cancer etc from her Facebook.

I knew it was dodgy. I really didn't believe her for lots of reasons. The only doubt I had was that Rishi went along with it, and I thought he seemed quite genuine. Obviously not!

 

[obviously....]

When she talks to the camera, stories or ads , its so awkward

 

[S1791]

I knew it was dodgy. I really didn't believe her for lots of reasons. The only doubt I had was that Rishi went along with it, and I thought he seemed quite genuine. Obviously not!

It’s weird as duck. You’ve probably seen but she went from saying she had stage 4 cancer to in remission in a matter of weeks. She also put a post on Facebook, I don’t remember the exact wording but I would be able to find it eventually as lots of us screen shotted it but she would post about going to chemo and she ‘met a little boy who was telling her about his cancer treatment’ etc- the ward she would receive treatment on didn’t have children on there and there was no way she’d have come into contact with a child there. Personally I think it was a cancer scare or a much lower grade and she lied then panicked when it started to run away with her. Rishi went with it but at the time she was suddenly with his best friend anyway so I imagine it was easy to lie or exaggerate things

 

[Sariassong]

It’s weird as duck. You’ve probably seen but she went from saying she had stage 4 cancer to in remission in a matter of weeks. She also put a post on Facebook, I don’t remember the exact wording but I would be able to find it eventually as lots of us screen shotted it but she would post about going to chemo and she ‘met a little boy who was telling her about his cancer treatment’ etc- the ward she would receive treatment on didn’t have children on there and there was no way she’d have come into contact with a child there. Personally I think it was a cancer scare or a much lower grade and she lied then panicked when it started to run away with her. Rishi went with it but at the time she was suddenly with his best friend anyway so I imagine it was easy to lie or exaggerate things

This is mental. She was so blatant in asking followers for money!

 

[Hullgirl]

I think it was the whole 'guys I'm 75 % cancer free' after only a few weeks, then the announcement that she was cancer free literally weeks later. Now there's no mention of cancer, it stunk of exaggerating everything for likes and then pretending it didn't happen after ppl were beginning to call her out. Nobody gets through a cancer diagnosis that quickly, I thought she was a hair puller hence bald spots

 

[JellyWobbles]

I think it was the whole 'guys I'm 75 % cancer free' after only a few weeks, then the announcement that she was cancer free literally weeks later. Now there's no mention of cancer, it stunk of exaggerating everything for likes and then pretending it didn't happen after ppl were beginning to call her out. Nobody gets through a cancer diagnosis that quickly, I thought she was a hair puller hence bald spots

I want more tea on Milly. I followed her a while back and always thought something seemed really iffy and I couldn’t put my finger on what - I didn’t know about half of this!

 

[MyLittlePony25]

I hate saying it, but I also don’t think she has an eating disorder.
I get the fixation on food and binging, but I wouldn’t be proudly showing it off. Of course I have said in my insta posts that I have had a bad day, I have binged etc but I won’t eat on camera or show off my body or anything.
there is no need to dance around in your underwear at any weight. Or jiggle your stomach around. If a severely anorexic girl did it then I’m sure insta would delete it. I’m not having the best time right now so I’m probably more grouchy than normal...

 

[F*ckbopoinfluencers]

My bulimia was very secretive, I still hate eating around people and I've been in recovery a while now, food is still a whole complicated thing so I really don't get the whole making a song and dance about eating McDonald's thing. I think shes confusing binge eating disorder with just generally over eating. The way she is parading around in her underwear though I wouldn't be surprised if its all just been made up for engagement, I know everyone is different but she shows no signs of an eating disorder at all

 

[Sariassong]

I think it was the whole 'guys I'm 75 % cancer free' after only a few weeks, then the announcement that she was cancer free literally weeks later. Now there's no mention of cancer, it stunk of exaggerating everything for likes and then pretending it didn't happen after ppl were beginning to call her out. Nobody gets through a cancer diagnosis that quickly, I thought she was a hair puller hence bald spots

This is exactly what I thought! Liv seems downright normal next to her.

 

[obviously....]

My bulimia was very secretive, I still hate eating around people and I've been in recovery a while now, food is still a whole complicated thing so I really don't get the whole making a song and dance about eating McDonald's thing. I think shes confusing binge eating disorder with just generally over eating. The way she is parading around in her underwear though I wouldn't be surprised if its all just been made up for engagement, I know everyone is different but she shows no signs of an eating disorder at all

She doesn't have a regular emotion without labeling it depression...
She was a binge drinker but labelled it alcoholism

Now she is overeating but labelling it binge eating disorder...

There's a pattern of her using mental health for everything

 

[Sariassong]

She doesn't have a regular emotion without labeling it depression...
She was a binge drinker but labelled it alcoholism

Now she is overeating but labelling it binge eating disorder...

There's a pattern of her using mental health for everything

Exactly. I think it's become the norm to pathologise every uncomfortable emotion or behaviour - it means that you don't have to be accountable for anything but then nothing ever gets dealt with.

 

[ChampagneBox]

Exactly. I think it's become the norm to pathologise every uncomfortable emotion or behaviour - it means that you don't have to be accountable for anything but then nothing ever gets dealt with.

This it’s a bit like conspiracy theories, humans can’t accept that things ‘just happen’ without a reason, and so seek to put things in a neat box with a ribbon on top. But actually, it’s just ‘one of those things’ or *gasp* just a crappy human behaviour that happens. I also don’t think it always helps to have more awareness of these conditions, don’t get me wrong I think it’s great mental health is being spoken about more and more, but it’s like Dr Google- it’ll always tell you you have the worst thing ever before listing the less serious conditions but it means people can self diagnose

 

[misslunax]

Sorry but who sits on their own shouting and screaming at their TV that much it causes the neighbours to come round?! Not bleeping normal.

 

[ekl2000]

To Angus thongs and perfect snogging weird film to make such a lie up about! Even her made up content is boring

 

[S1791]

This is mental. She was so blatant in asking followers for money!

It was all just for money

I think it was the whole 'guys I'm 75 % cancer free' after only a few weeks, then the announcement that she was cancer free literally weeks later. Now there's no mention of cancer, it stunk of exaggerating everything for likes and then pretending it didn't happen after ppl were beginning to call her out. Nobody gets through a cancer diagnosis that quickly, I thought she was a hair puller hence bald spots

I think at best it was a huge exaggeration. Because it’s such a sensitive subject most people wouldn’t believe someone would lie or be awful enough to lie about it. People she actually knew in person started calling her out first and then suddenly it all disappeared. I see you’re from the same area as me!

I want more tea on Milly. I followed her a while back and always thought something seemed really iffy and I couldn’t put my finger on what - I didn’t know about half of this!

What would you like to know?