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I find her content can be repetitive, but I do feel it’s valuable and the messages she’s trying to share are really needed imo. She just needs to grow and learn what works for her, rather than trying to copy other influencers and repeating their voices, not bringing anything new to the bopo discussion. I also think that each persons experience of life and mental health is different, so it can be very hard to compare journeys even if you’ve experienced the same things. A while ago I think she spoke about having rapid cycling bipolar, so she experiences dramatic changes in mood and behaviour very quickly. I obviously don’t know the ins and outs of her experiences, but that would explain how up and down she’s presented as recently.

It’s the fact that she doesn’t edit her own YouTube that gets me, how can you claim to be a vlogger if you cannot edit your own content?! Imagine any other job where you couldn’t meet the key deliverables, how long would you last?! I understand her partner edits them for her, and that’s really supportive for her which is great, obviously, I just wonder how much fun it is for him to work full time then come home and edit together all her content for YouTube. I don’t understand why you wouldn’t teach yourself to edit, or save up a bit and invest in a course, if you want it to be your full time career. Other influencers and Youtubers I follow treat it like a full time job with consistent hours, post throughout the day rather than just the evening times or middle of the night, and have a regular upload schedule. Also the constant beg for engagement, sulking when she doesn’t get it, and constantly asking for content ideas but then never actually taking the ideas provided.
 
Must be exhausting living out mental health symptoms all day every day. I dont doubt the message of it's ok not to be ok is a good one. I don't believe she gives off that message most of the time. To me I find it quite a toxic message of dwelling on negativity, and doing the things that might increase issues for anyone with a mental health problem. Seeking validation and reassurance from complete strangers. I personally find it difficult to understand why at 2am if in tears and suicidal it's a time to film yourself. My personal experience is that filming myself would be the absolute last thing on my mind. Of course everyone has their own way of coping. I just wish she would shake herself out of living out daily the symptoms of bipolar disorder and preaching very bad habits. She could do so much good by showing that a healthy lifestyle would help endlessly with her mental health. I dont often get positive messages from her posts, I find her messages toxic, very unhealthy both physically and mentally, and it makes me uncomfortable that she needs to be admired all the time. She will never move forward if she stays in the constant cycle of living and breathing mental health and obesity. This I find to be across most mental health accounts, they can never move on from the bad, because they feel like then they lose the main reason of having a mental health account. Everything is over analysed and related back in some way to a past issue and some kind of mental health problem. I find it all quite toxic. I also dont think she is always genuine with her issues and they are inflated for content. That is just my opinion, I dont know her in real life, just the impression I personally get.
 
StillMe said:
Must be exhausting living out mental health symptoms all day every day. I dont doubt the message of it's ok not to be ok is a good one. I don't believe she gives off that message most of the time. To me I find it quite a toxic message of dwelling on negativity, and doing the things that might increase issues for anyone with a mental health problem. Seeking validation and reassurance from complete strangers. I personally find it difficult to understand why at 2am if in tears and suicidal it's a time to film yourself. My personal experience is that filming myself would be the absolute last thing on my mind. Of course everyone has their own way of coping. I just wish she would shake herself out of living out daily the symptoms of bipolar disorder and preaching very bad habits. She could do so much good by showing that a healthy lifestyle would help endlessly with her mental health. I dont often get positive messages from her posts, I find her messages toxic, very unhealthy both physically and mentally, and it makes me uncomfortable that she needs to be admired all the time. She will never move forward if she stays in the constant cycle of living and breathing mental health and obesity. This I find to be across most mental health accounts, they can never move on from the bad, because they feel like then they lose the main reason of having a mental health account. Everything is over analysed and related back in some way to a past issue and some kind of mental health problem. I find it all quite toxic. I also dont think she is always genuine with her issues and they are inflated for content. That is just my opinion, I dont know her in real life, just the impression I personally get.
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I agree with you with the filming herself at 2am, in the midst of feeling that low and desperate would that really be the first thing on your mind?! I’m conflicted as I do feel that shedding light on those feelings and experiences can help others, but it comes off really not genuine with her. I also agree the constant need for validation, approval, and admiration makes for uncomfortable viewing and makes her message null and void, completely undermines it
 
sixofone said:
I agree with you with the filming herself at 2am, in the midst of feeling that low and desperate would that really be the first thing on your mind?! I’m conflicted as I do feel that shedding light on those feelings and experiences can help others, but it comes off really not genuine with her. I also agree the constant need for validation, approval, and admiration makes for uncomfortable viewing and makes her message null and void, completely undermines it
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It definitely is good to bring awareness. I know when I've been in that situation it's not something I would consider, my last thoughts would be film and post it on social media, especially if I was genuinely suicidal. It might be good instead for her to discuss what see went through during the night and how she coped, that would bring awareness and good tips and tricks for people. I find it weird that she films herself crying saying shes suicidal and then is in full makeup posting about her bowel movements. That for me makes her disingenuous.
 
StillMe said:
Must be exhausting living out mental health symptoms all day every day. I dont doubt the message of it's ok not to be ok is a good one. I don't believe she gives off that message most of the time. To me I find it quite a toxic message of dwelling on negativity, and doing the things that might increase issues for anyone with a mental health problem. Seeking validation and reassurance from complete strangers. I personally find it difficult to understand why at 2am if in tears and suicidal it's a time to film yourself. My personal experience is that filming myself would be the absolute last thing on my mind. Of course everyone has their own way of coping. I just wish she would shake herself out of living out daily the symptoms of bipolar disorder and preaching very bad habits. She could do so much good by showing that a healthy lifestyle would help endlessly with her mental health. I dont often get positive messages from her posts, I find her messages toxic, very unhealthy both physically and mentally, and it makes me uncomfortable that she needs to be admired all the time. She will never move forward if she stays in the constant cycle of living and breathing mental health and obesity. This I find to be across most mental health accounts, they can never move on from the bad, because they feel like then they lose the main reason of having a mental health account. Everything is over analysed and related back in some way to a past issue and some kind of mental health problem. I find it all quite toxic. I also dont think she is always genuine with her issues and they are inflated for content. That is just my opinion, I dont know her in real life, just the impression I personally get.
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I honestly could not agree with you more. I know that raising awareness is overwhelmingly acknowledged to be a positive thing with regards to mental health but sometimes I feel like misery lives company and negativity breeds off itself.
And I say this as someone with some serious mental illness.
 
sixofone said:
I agree with you with the filming herself at 2am, in the midst of feeling that low and desperate would that really be the first thing on your mind?! I’m conflicted as I do feel that shedding light on those feelings and experiences can help others, but it comes off really not genuine with her. I also agree the constant need for validation, approval, and admiration makes for uncomfortable viewing and makes her message null and void, completely undermines it
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Not only filming herself, but the next day constantly sharing posts she is tagged in with her crying video.....then saying I love you to everyone. But weird to declare love to strangers in the phone
 
I find it weird she did a Q&A and asked for no triggering questions then to answer ones about food/mostly junk food. If you're in the early stages of recovering from an eating disorder then surely you won't want to think about food, or answer questions about it when going through a bad spell. I said further up in the thread, but one of my friends has BED and gained a rapid amount of weight in less than 6 months. I recall early in her recovery posting in a groupchat I'm in with her a fancy dinner I made and her DMing me privately saying whilst that didn't actively trigger her, could we maybe be mindful with conversations around food.

Whilst I understand preaching an anti diet culture message is important, as is embracing eating bad food once in a while, it seems a bit odd her focus, and the focus of her fans, would be right now to ask her all about food.
 
Annnnnnnd she's back in her underwear! I honestly wouldn't be surprised if she did a only fans at some point seeing as she's slowly becoming a narcissist despite apparently suffering with crippling anxiety and she's desperate for money. Her once relatable personality has turned into glorifying eating disorders and using depression to get followers. What an absolute twit.
 
sixofone said:
I find her content can be repetitive, but I do feel it’s valuable and the messages she’s trying to share are really needed imo. She just needs to grow and learn what works for her, rather than trying to copy other influencers and repeating their voices, not bringing anything new to the bopo discussion. I also think that each persons experience of life and mental health is different, so it can be very hard to compare journeys even if you’ve experienced the same things. A while ago I think she spoke about having rapid cycling bipolar, so she experiences dramatic changes in mood and behaviour very quickly. I obviously don’t know the ins and outs of her experiences, but that would explain how up and down she’s presented as recently.

It’s the fact that she doesn’t edit her own YouTube that gets me, how can you claim to be a vlogger if you cannot edit your own content?! Imagine any other job where you couldn’t meet the key deliverables, how long would you last?! I understand her partner edits them for her, and that’s really supportive for her which is great, obviously, I just wonder how much fun it is for him to work full time then come home and edit together all her content for YouTube. I don’t understand why you wouldn’t teach yourself to edit, or save up a bit and invest in a course, if you want it to be your full time career. Other influencers and Youtubers I follow treat it like a full time job with consistent hours, post throughout the day rather than just the evening times or middle of the night, and have a regular upload schedule. Also the constant beg for engagement, sulking when she doesn’t get it, and constantly asking for content ideas but then never actually taking the ideas provided.
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Yeah, I agree. I think if I had a fun job that I liked I would love to actually learn the skills needed to do an even better job. She says she gets lonely and bored all day, alone in the flat until James comes home. Surely she can learn to edit and brain storm ideas for vids? I would love a creative job like that.
 
Mental health is important but equally is physical health. It’s all well and good raving about how beautiful your body is, but her apple bodyshape and increasingly large ‘belly’ cannot be doing her insides any favours.
 
Cookiemonster83 said:
Annnnnnnd she's back in her underwear! I honestly wouldn't be surprised if she did a only fans at some point seeing as she's slowly becoming a narcissist despite apparently suffering with crippling anxiety and she's desperate for money. Her once relatable personality has turned into glorifying eating disorders and using depression to get followers. What an absolute twit.
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She is one extreme or another.

Depressed and "so so low, lost" etc.....to now dancing in underwear.

She has stated she has an ED but continues to glorify her weight, eating, food

Huh 😕 Sorry I just dont get it
 
I don't think she has an eating disorder. I think she's labelling it to get bigger follower numbers and in turn get more ads, sponsors etc. She has no idea what to do. What content to make. How to portray herself. No one that has an ED would watch constant food programs. Would glorify having a mcdonalds. All the junk she eats isn't because she's binging it's because she has no direction. She must be so bored with trying to come up and stir engagement up all day every day. No job. Sleeps late. Hates housework. What sort of life is that. A very sad one to me. She needs a job. She is an adult and people need to stop pandering to her "depressive" episodes. It's probably cos deep down she is actually thinking wtf am I doing with my life. She has no prospects and is probably shitting herself that one day when Instagram is as redundant as Facebook, she'll actually have to go out an earn a living. I used to really like her, now she's just a liar. A bad one at that.
 
Cookiemonster83 said:
I don't think she has an eating disorder. I think she's labelling it to get bigger follower numbers and in turn get more ads, sponsors etc. She has no idea what to do. What content to make. How to portray herself. No one that has an ED would watch constant food programs. Would glorify having a mcdonalds. All the junk she eats isn't because she's binging it's because she has no direction. She must be so bored with trying to come up and stir engagement up all day every day. No job. Sleeps late. Hates housework. What sort of life is that. A very sad one to me. She needs a job. She is an adult and people need to stop pandering to her "depressive" episodes. It's probably cos deep down she is actually thinking wtf am I doing with my life. She has no prospects and is probably shitting herself that one day when Instagram is as redundant as Facebook, she'll actually have to go out an earn a living. I used to really like her, now she's just a liar. A bad one at that.
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I find her really triggering for my eating disorder. I do watch food shows and obsessively look at pics of food but that’s only because I restrict myself from having them. I also refrain from telling anyone what I have or haven’t eaten so I do find it all a bit odd
 
Cookiemonster83 said:
I don't think she has an eating disorder. I think she's labelling it to get bigger follower numbers and in turn get more ads, sponsors etc. She has no idea what to do. What content to make. How to portray herself. No one that has an ED would watch constant food programs. Would glorify having a mcdonalds. All the junk she eats isn't because she's binging it's because she has no direction. She must be so bored with trying to come up and stir engagement up all day every day. No job. Sleeps late. Hates housework. What sort of life is that. A very sad one to me. She needs a job. She is an adult and people need to stop pandering to her "depressive" episodes. It's probably cos deep down she is actually thinking wtf am I doing with my life. She has no prospects and is probably shitting herself that one day when Instagram is as redundant as Facebook, she'll actually have to go out an earn a living. I used to really like her, now she's just a liar. A bad one at that.
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Omg yes all of this, hit the nail on the head.
 
Boos .....okay just no, don't call people that

Considering its her "job" she should remember when her YouTube goes live.

We don't always need to see you half naked....

Im not sure what fashion people are sending you clothes or asking you to do ads but I've never seen anyone with that style. The clothes you're being sent are horrendous
 
obviously.... said:
Boos .....okay just no, don't call people that

Considering its her "job" she should remember when her YouTube goes live.

We don't always need to see you half naked....

Im not sure what fashion people are sending you clothes or asking you to do ads but I've never seen anyone with that style. The clothes you're being sent are horrendous
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Yep I thought this! You don’t know when your vids are going live cus somebody else is scheduling them for you 🥴 just don’t get it, if she would put the work in then she’d be getting the kind of engagement and ads and sponsorship she is after, rather than scraping the barrel.
 
Soppy post about how much she loves her followers

She has been in panic mode because she has been losing followers. bleeping hell, I wish that was all I had to worry about.

The real reason she is in panic mode is because losing followers means she is not as popular with ADs and might have to get a proper job. You know retail, "and that tit". (Her words)
 
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