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I do think trigger warnings have their place, for example I’ve seen them used for things like discussion about eating disorders or suicide. I don’t think it’s any harm to throw a few words up to warn people who may be in recovery that this is about to be discussed.

However I do also agree with the flip side and the need to build resilience and not everything in life is going to be sanitised and airbrushed and you’ll never know when you may come across something upsetting so it’s best to learn how to appropriately confront these things. But in relation to Pippa yesterday, I don’t think she needed to trigger warn. It was clear as day she was trying to avoid upsetting anyone, maybe she doesn’t even know what trigger warnings are. She was at pains to make clear that she didn’t want to upset anyone and that is what matters. I don’t think she should have put a warning on her pregnancy post either, people should be allowed to share happy news without a caveat for those who it may hurt.

Talking about sensitive things like loss, suicide, or eating disorders have a place for trigger warnings but equally if you don’t put one, it’s all about how you handle and approach the topic, which Pippa did perfectly. If someone wants to trigger warn, it doesn’t make them or anyone reading a petrified snowflake who needs to get out more. It makes them a vulnerable human still coping with a difficult situation. And if someone doesn’t want to trigger warn than that’s okay too as long as it’s handled sensitively. It’s all about how you discuss the topic, and Pippa excelled with sensitivity. It’s not black and white and I don’t like to make grand statement about the type of people who may prefer either scenario, we don’t know what these people have been through.
 
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ahtisyourself said:
I do think trigger warnings have their place, for example I’ve seen them used for things like discussion about eating disorders or suicide. I don’t think it’s any harm to throw a few words up to warn people who may be in recovery that this is about to be discussed.

However I do also agree with the flip side and the need to build resilience and not everything in life is going to be sanitised and airbrushed and you’ll never know when you may come across something upsetting so it’s best to learn how to appropriately confront these things. But in relation to Pippa yesterday, I don’t think she needed to trigger warn. It was clear as day she was trying to avoid upsetting anyone, maybe she doesn’t even know what trigger warnings are. She was at pains to make clear that she didn’t want to upset anyone and that is what matters. I don’t think she should have put a warning on her pregnancy post either, people should be allowed to share happy news without a caveat for those who it may hurt.

Talking about sensitive things like loss, suicide, or eating disorders have a place for trigger warnings but equally if you don’t put one, it’s all about how you handle and approach the topic, which Pippa did perfectly. If someone wants to trigger warn, it doesn’t make them or anyone reading a petrified snowflake who needs to get out more. It makes them a vulnerable human still coping with a difficult situation. And if someone doesn’t want to trigger warn than that’s okay too as long as it’s handled sensitively. It’s all about how you discuss the topic, and Pippa excelled with sensitivity. It’s not black and white and I don’t like to make grand statement about the type of people who may prefer either scenario, we don’t know what these people have been through.
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I agree with you about eating disorders & suicide. From what I know of eating disorders not eating or reaching a certain weight can become competitive. On the flip side I guess learning how to deal with that is part of recovery - to resist the urge to try to be thinner. I once looked at a pro ana website when someone I knew was suffering from an eating disorder it was like reading another language.

Suicide tbh I just don’t know enough about but I suppose we all know copycat suicides exist. I think there is a balance to be struck between not demonising the person who committed suicide while also making clear that suicide shouldn’t be an option. Very very difficult stuff.

It’s not black & white as you said.

I don’t think that people who seek trigger warnings lack empathy, I’d assume they don’t want to feel upset themselves as opposed to not empathising with another person.

If I was struggling with fertility I think my gut would be to avoid pregnant people & content. I do wonder though the way the mind works would it be better to just face it head on, rather than avoid avoid until a point where I can’t.
I can relate somewhat in that I can’t afford another child so I do find myself trying to avoid posts about pregnancy. I still feel Pippa’s story shouldn’t have been labelled with a trigger warning.
 
Pippa has earned my respect in last few days tbf she is not the worst on insta she works and always has so I think she has earned her successes.

Her announcement was done respectfully and her miscarriage story genuine and honest and certainly rung true for me the whole get out of here I’m grand feeling and the heartbreak after, even years after.

If trigger warnings are placed on everything real they lose the effectiveness especially for something like miscarriage the taboo needs to be broken down not upheld in the form of not talking about upsetting things without warning, it was clear where her story was going no one is forced to watch she wasn’t graphic and most of all it is her story. For Pippa I also imagine she had a fear that it could become public knowledge outside of her control, I know I didn’t want to be seen anywhere near the hospital in case anyone knew me imagine what that’s like as someone who is recognised daily.
 
I have to say as someone who suffered a miscarriage last year , I found Pippa and Sīle very inspiring , they were both raw and honest about their own experiences and also very respectful of others that are going through one or have experience a miscarriage , this mama doodles also just announced her pregnancy and wrote brilliantly about it on her page , I always find her honesty very refreshing
 
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I agree with you about eating disorders & suicide. From what I know of eating disorders not eating or reaching a certain weight can become competitive. On the flip side I guess learning how to deal with that is part of recovery - to resist the urge to try to be thinner. I once looked at a pro ana website when someone I knew was suffering from an eating disorder it was like reading another language.

Suicide tbh I just don’t know enough about but I suppose we all know copycat suicides exist. I think there is a balance to be struck between not demonising the person who committed suicide while also making clear that suicide shouldn’t be an option. Very very difficult stuff.

It’s not black & white as you said.

I don’t think that people who seek trigger warnings lack empathy, I’d assume they don’t want to feel upset themselves as opposed to not empathising with another person.

If I was struggling with fertility I think my gut would be to avoid pregnant people & content. I do wonder though the way the mind works would it be better to just face it head on, rather than avoid avoid until a point where I can’t.
I can relate somewhat in that I can’t afford another child so I do find myself trying to avoid posts about pregnancy. I still feel Pippa’s story shouldn’t have been labelled with a trigger warning.
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We have been trying to conceive a second child for over two years and when I saw her announcement on Sunday I was like ah for f sake another one pregnant, was thinking of unfollowing but then I was like sure she doesn't post that much anyway so I didn't. When I watched her stories on Monday it was really comforting to hear that all her babies didn't just happen when she wanted them to and that she struggled to conceive after Louis. Two of my friends are aware that we are ttc a long time as are my sister and mam but I don't talk about it much because one of those friends and my sister are now pregnant so I don't want to be going on about it, nothing they can do to help. I would have unfollowed not cos I can't deal with other people having babies but just because pregnant women are everywhere when you are ttc
Nice to think that maybe one day, we too will have happy news like Pippas so glad she shared her story
 
I’d say with the boys in school now it will be easier to have a live in Nanny & having the space to keep that person a bit separate from the family when off duty makes sense so both sides can enjoy some privacy.
Having a new baby in the house after so long will be a whole different experience to last time, the boys being older have school, activities, play dates etc. First & 2nd time round she wouldn’t have had any of that to be dealing with & the boys could be minded anywhere or tag along with her.
 
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