Paul from Perth

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oceanbaby said:
Oh yes, poor Monique. Damn so heartbreaking. She was a sweetheart. I keep telling myself I need to stop following the cancer influencers as it seriously gets to me. I started following one, and then got recommended others, and then I got caught up in their stories too. I think really that I'm too soft for it though. The photo montage at the end of Kyle's last video did me in. It certainly puts my own life in perspective, and how fortunate I am to be in good health, but the degree of suffering some have to endure, that's very hard to witness.
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Monique really did seem like a sweetheart.
No you are just very empathetic. I couldn't watch Jenny's videos in the last couple of months (I relied on updates on here) when she deteriorated and if Tiffany ever gets to that point and films it, there is no way I will watch it. I was able to watch Emily's 'dying' videos maybe cause there weren't many and not much suffering was shown. Both Emily and Aisha were quite upbeat until near the end. And I don't 'need' happy stories but some of this is too much. I also hate the ideas of 'beating cancer', 'fighting cancer', 'thriving with cancer'. Or the notion of those with cancer being heroes. I find it patronising. People with cancer just get on with it, they don't need to be put on a pedestal.
 
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LeonorG said:
Monique really did seem like a sweetheart.
No you are just very empathetic. I couldn't watch Jenny's videos in the last couple of months (I relied on updates on here) when she deteriorated and if Tiffany ever gets to that point and films it, there is no way I will watch it. I was able to watch Emily's 'dying' videos maybe cause there weren't many and not much suffering was shown. Both Emily and Aisha were quite upbeat until the end.
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I was the same, I had to stop watching Jenny's videos as well, and I just read the updates here. Hopefully Tiffany doesn't get to that point, but I wouldn't watch either. I am not knocking those that want to share their entire journey, but for me once it gets to end of life, and one is highly medicated and not really all there, it starts to feel like I shouldn't be seeing it.
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LeonorG said:
I also hate the ideas of 'beating cancer', 'fighting cancer', 'thriving with cancer'. Or the notion of those with cancer being heroes. I find it patronising. People with cancer just get on with it, they don't need to be put on a pedestal.
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It's a good point and I can see how it comes off as patronizing. That said, some with cancer use those terms themselves (beating, fighting, thriving) so I guess it just depends on the individual and how they feel about it. I know some find the use of the word "inspiring" grating too, but I can understand it. I don't consider someone with cancer a hero, but I do find it inspiring how some handle their diagnosis with humor and grace.
 
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oceanbaby said:
I was the same, I had to stop watching Jenny's videos as well, and I just read the updates here. Hopefully Tiffany doesn't get to that point, but I wouldn't watch either. I am not knocking those that want to share their entire journey, but for me once it gets to end of life, and one is highly medicated and not really all there, it starts to feel like I shouldn't be seeing it.
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It's a good point and I can see how it comes off as patronizing. That said, some with cancer use those terms themselves (beating, fighting, thriving) so I guess it just depends on the individual and how they feel about it. I know some find the use of the word "inspiring" grating too, but I can understand it. I don't consider someone with cancer a hero, but I do find it inspiring how some handle their diagnosis with humor and grace.
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That's true, some cancer patients use those terms when talking about themselves, maybe it helps them? I find it to be too much pressure; on top of having cancer, going through treatment and suffering, you also have to thrive and be strong and inspiring. I know some cancer patients who can't stand the cancer instagrammers constantly bouncing around and being 'inspiring' and 'thriving'. Emily, for example, was not trying to be any of that. She wasn't constantly spewing inspirational quotes or dancing around. She was humble, and just got on with it and in the process inspired us.
 
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LeonorG said:
That's true, some cancer patients use those terms when talking about themselves, maybe it helps them? I find it to be too much pressure; on top of having cancer, going through treatment and suffering, you also have to thrive and be strong and inspiring. I know some cancer patients who can't stand the cancer instagrammers constantly bouncing around and being 'inspiring' and 'thriving'. Emily, for example, was not trying to be any of that. She wasn't constantly spewing inspirational quotes or dancing around. She was humble, and just got on with it and it the process inspired us.
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I didn't follow Emily, but she certainly seemed like a lovely woman. That's a shame that some cancer patients are bothered by some of the instagrammers. I get that the inspiring and thriving stuff could maybe ring false to them at times, especially if one is feeling like crap in their own journey, but everyone processes and handles things differently. No right way or wrong way. Better to support each other than to judge each other I think.
 
Saydee said:
@Make sense of it! not seen you around? Are you with us? :)
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Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. Been really unwell and in Hospital, for the.life of me l will never ever understand how these You Tubers vlog from ICU or Critical Care, l had no idea that l was even there for 5 days!! Anyway l will have a peek and catch up.on Kyles grifting and Tiffany Stinks now lm at home and trying to recover. X
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LeonorG said:
I'm missing her posts. Get well (or as well as you can), Blue.
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Thanks so much. I'm home now and will try to catch up on all the gossip. X
 
Make sense of it! said:
Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. Been really unwell and in Hospital, for the.life of me l will never ever understand how these You Tubers vlog from ICU or Critical Care, l had no idea that l was even there for 5 days!! Anyway l will have a peek and catch up.on Kyles grifting and Tiffany Stinks now lm at home and trying to recover. X
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Thanks so much. I'm home now and will try to catch up on all the gossip. X
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Welcome back ❤
Yes the last think I'd want is to film myself in that state. And how do they do it in that state? Remember Tiffany a few days after her PE, swollen face, barely coherent crying for Judith and Amma. Why in the world do you film that? If you want to be raw and authentic and helpful, then explain the medical stuff properly. Explain PE, explain the watch and wait fiasco, explain results properly and cut the 'very important organs' crap. I'm still not sure if she is that stupid or just that manipulative.

Sorry for going off topic. Paul in Perth doesn't look good in that update.
 
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LeonorG said:
Welcome back ❤
Yes the last think I'd want is to film myself in that state. And how do they do it in that state? Remember Tiffany a few days after her PE, swollen face, barely coherent crying for Judith and Amma. Why in the world do you film that? If you want to be raw and authentic and helpful, then explain the medical stuff properly. Explain PE, explain the watch and wait fiasco, explain results properly and cut the 'very important organs' crap. I'm still not sure if she is that stupid or just that manipulative.

Sorry for going off topic. Paul in Perth doesn't look good in that update.
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Some people need attention, it's as simple as that 💁🏼
 
Make sense of it! said:
Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. Been really unwell and in Hospital, for the.life of me l will never ever understand how these You Tubers vlog from ICU or Critical Care, l had no idea that l was even there for 5 days!! Anyway l will have a peek and catch up.on Kyles grifting and Tiffany Stinks now lm at home and trying to recover. X
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Thanks so much. I'm home now and will try to catch up on all the gossip. X
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Hey I hope you are taking it easy. You have been missed :) x
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TryingMyBest said:
He sounds awful. I'm worried about not only his physical health but his mental health.
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I agree!
 
This doesn't sound very good.....
 

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