One Day of Winter #2 Slop for dinner, nips on tap, Dads not allowed to help with naps!

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Atleast dean is finally getting the chance to parent his own child, bet hes loving getting all the baby snuggles he missed out on with raven.. I'm shocked that nicola is so distant with the baby, amber clearly isnt getting the same attachment parenting raven had, and in those first few days especially when bonding is so important.
 
I never comment on these threads (but have been lurking since the MOD scandal!) Just wanted to say that the baby won't be missing out on any nutrients or anything like that. It'll still be getting colostrum because it's linked to your placenta coming away. With Raven feeding too her milk might come in quicker but everyone's comes in at different times anyway. Our bodies are capable of feeding two kids at once. I fed my second baby till he was two and we coslept. I was happy and so way he. Didn't see a problem and don't think we should judge women who choose to feed for longer. However when I got pregnant again I realised baby would need me more and encouraged my two year old into his own room.and weaned him. It was so easy because he was two. Baby is 10 weeks now and definitely needs me more! This baby is happy in a cot next to me (so was my first, all babies are different and I think) but couldn't do the night feeds with a toddler there! My husband definitely takes the lead with the older two and I have the baby more. Doesnt mean I never see them. I've also never felt the urge to film me feeding! The sort of preaching she does is what pits mums against each other when we should all be on the same team. I had to unfollpw her because she made me feel so inadequate as a parent xx
 
Your body makes milk to meet demand so there will be plenty for both of them. They say to let the baby go first and on the fullest boob because it is easier for the baby to get more milk this way (still learning to bf and sleepy) rather than possible have to wait for a let down like if the older one had drained the boob first. I tandem fed my kids until I had to wean the older one due to terrible aversion and always having someone bloody touching me or pawing at me, it drove me mental!
He also started sleeping in bed with his dad when baby arrived as I knew it couldn’t work for us all to be in the same room and would just be a bleeping nightmare with nobody sleeping and everyone crying 🤣 My husband’s and eldest’s relationship has really blossomed since his baby brother came along! He will sometimes choose daddy over mummy now and that’s how it should be sometimes! We both offer him love 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dean could get a whole new dynamic to his relationship with Raven and that doesn’t take anything away from Pea and Raven’s bond.

I agree that her gentle parenting ethos and posting ravens whole life online, especially private intimate moments, are at odds with each other and I don’t understand how she can’t see that.
 
Me&My said:
I think if Pea weans R off the tit then in her head she doesn’t ‘NEED’ her and she needs to be needed by R. She’s SO attached to her god help her when she goes to school? What she gonna do pop the tit through the school gates every dinnertime? Don’t get me wrong I absolutely adore my child but I do need a break every now and then its not normal the attention she craves from her 3 yr old. Have you noticed there’s not much ‘bonding’ between R and the baby? Its like she’s just slipped into the house, R is still getting all the undivided attention and business as usual. Apart from the AWFUL shots on the tits, like why? Suprised R isn’t stood on her filthy stool cooking placenta lentil slop 🤪
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This is so strange! Why isn’t she with her newborn baby?
 

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HerFromInTheMiddle said:
Why has Dean 1 got no hold on the baby 2 why is he still wearing that honking hat indoors 3 why is Raven suck on old niknak nips
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Do you think Dean is secretly bald?! It’s weird to wear a hat inside at nighttime or am I the weird one? Nothing wrong with baldness just seems like maybe he hides something with the hat. Maybe he keeps things in it? Like Mac Donald’s takeaways or something
 
Pollyponsonby said:
This is so strange! Why isn’t she with her newborn baby?
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Because she’s SO scared of losing Raven over the new baby. She’s shoving her tit in Ravens mouth way more since the baby is here, just to keep her attached to her literally!

HerFromInTheMiddle said:
Why has Dean 1 got no hold on the baby 2 why is he still wearing that honking hat indoors 3 why is Raven suck on old niknak nips
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1. That baby will be providing for itself from day dot, it’ll be mashing a cuppa in about a week. Matilda style
2. Surely it itches like duck when I wear a woolley hat I can’t wait to rag it off
3. Cuz Peas got HUGE attachment issues so bribing her with the goods 🤮
 
I was scrolling waaay back through her feed today (I don’t even know why because it was driving me insane 😂) and the difference in her year by year is just staggering.
Even when R was a baby she still had a really cool/funky vibe with her hair and was a much healthier weight, there were no ‘brelfies’ and even one post apologising for her always being in a bra - I bleeping wish!! Now it’s full on breast and nipple. I think she is going to look back on her social media posts from the last couple of days in the future and realise how much she prioritised Raven at the time of Embers birth, they are only little for such a small time it’s just heart breaking she is letting it all slip away just so Raven the succubis can drain her dry. Even if R isn’t initiating the feeds, Nicola obviously is. And Christ alive, I could barely even tolerate a bra on my day 3 milk boobs, let alone a 2 stone toddler yanking on them.
 
Booboothefool said:
Did anyone else notice that, if Nicola uploads the pictures in 'real time', poor Ember has been in sick covered clothes all day. I mean if its just a little milk dribble fair enough, but this was a proper sick up bless her. She must've stunk all day. She's brand new and already in dirty smelly clothes. Makes me really sad.
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God I didn’t even notice this until you pointed it out 😞 poor little thing, I know babies tend to spit up a lot, but like you said that was such a lot of sick and she left her in those clothes all day, you can see she only had a fresh onesie on when she was asleep on Dean. Pea really couldn’t be less interested in her new baby, she really seems to be unable to part herself from Raven for the sake of her newborn baby, it’s like the roles are reversed and she’s treating R like the baby again - she’s nursing from Pea again and she had her arms around her whilst doing so, whilst Ember gets shunted into another room when R is upset and isn’t even being properly cuddled by her own mum. It’s worrying watching this and she’s only a few days old
 
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