Niomi Smart #86 The woman is having a never ending existential crisis

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I hope this isn’t taken the wrong way, but a really gentle suggestion since I DO think Niomi has left an abusive relationship and this is a super vulnerable time.
No, I do not like Niomi and I can only imagine the annoying and infuriating things she will do in the next few months.

Last time she left him and went to London, I know for a fact people (a) left her messages and comments about how she was failing and/or should be embarrassed about another broken engagement, and (B) complained here that they ‘missed’ Jamie because things are boring now, etc.

I’m not trying to dictate anything, but could we all try to maybe recognize what’s going on and not try to poke at obvious vulnerabilities in DMs and comments for the sake of entertainment? There will be plenty to criticize about Niomi but I do hope she actually stays away this time and I hope people don’t try to actively hit her self esteem right now.
 
getawaywithit said:
I hope this isn’t taken the wrong way, but a really gentle suggestion since I DO think Niomi has left an abusive relationship and this is a super vulnerable time.
No, I do not like Niomi and I can only imagine the annoying and infuriating things she will do in the next few months.

Last time she left him and went to London, I know for a fact people (a) left her messages and comments about how she was failing and/or should be embarrassed about another broken engagement, and (B) complained here that they ‘missed’ Jamie because things are boring now, etc.

I’m not trying to dictate anything, but could we all try to maybe recognize what’s going on and not try to poke at obvious vulnerabilities in DMs and comments for the sake of entertainment? There will be plenty to criticize about Niomi but I do hope she actually stays away this time and I hope people don’t try to actively hit her self esteem right now.
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This is so important! We can snark on her online presence until the cows come home, but she should be celebrated for leaving him. I really hope her family and friends rally around her. She's openly admitted to trying to leave several times before and not being able to - this is a huge step in the right direction.
 
prive0505 said:
I feel like ever since they got back together in April, he rapidly started devaluing her. Textbook narcissist. He tested her boundaries and quickly realised she had none, and it was all downhill from there…
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Yes I reckon he thought he had the upper hand as she obviously went back to him. The SA trip. Also he maybe was always slightly punishing her for leaving him in the first place, allowing comments about him to stay on her SM and doing that article about being single again.
Interesting we can all safely assume she's left him rather than the other way round.
 
Jelly Bean said:
Yes I reckon he thought he had the upper hand as she obviously went back to him. The SA trip. Also he maybe was always slightly punishing her for leaving him in the first place, allowing comments about him to stay on her SM and doing that article about being single again.
Interesting we can all safely assume she's left him rather than the other way round.
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Lordon got very indulgent in the stuff he was posting once they reconciled, while never saying anything about being back with her on his socials, many of his posts were him taking jabs at her not accepting him as he is, and he is a gross creep.

He probably really needed her for Garbage Garry's event, he'd never have it wouth her as she followed Garbage for 2 years... and she was the one being prodded and embarrassed in that 3 hr video and not Jamie. He's a total user, that's why he makes sure to sprinkle all these cute sweet words in his posts to mask what he doesn't actually do, believe in and practice. A good person doesn't go in parrot mode 24/7 saying they are good.
 
MuthaCuppa said:
I think two things can be true at once;

We can celebrate her leaving him.

We can still think she’s been condescending, hypocritical and selfish.
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It's her smugness that irritates. And her insistence that all her life choices are amazing and all her 'I listened to Mother goddess and she decreed I am where I'm meant to be' nonsense.
But yes. If she has left that creep thank goodness. Nobody deserves that.
If they have split up I could see him hooking up with somebody else quite quickly and having a child. These Bali bums seem to do that.
 
The tarot card pull and cryptic “wrong turn” stanza were hilarious. 😂 ☕️

HOWEVER….those IG posts are so passive-aggressive and messy. This is not a good look for her and it’s not the right way for her to handle the breakup. She’s making herself look just as bad as him by being petty and not forthcoming.

We deserve a clear and concise breakup announcement. But instead, she’s skipping to the laughing-about-it phase. Not okay.

And she’s already painting herself as a victim, as if Jamie is something that happened TO her vs. Niomi being an active participant in their relationship. 🙄 Zero accountability.

She hasn’t grown at all or learned anything, imo.
 
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Callan said:
I felt that too, massively!! I felt like he really made sure to keep her down as much as possible while being pompous and sanctimonious in his little baby life coaching posts. He thought he was going to teach her a lesson after she ran away the first time, like how dare she...

Random but is your avatar of Eva Longoria? I actually just got her cookbook today and I am #obsessed.
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Haha yes - it’s from when we were all called desperate housewives 🤣 (although I can’t remember who by…. Was it Forky or nimbs herself?)
 
prive0505 said:
Haha yes - it’s from when we were all called desperate housewives 🤣 (although I can’t remember who by…. Was it Forky or nimbs herself?)
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Omgosh that's hilarious, and sounds like something they would both say. I don't actually see Forky getting married ever, he loves the mirror too much, maybe when he needs a care taker or something, cause he's also a people user...
 
Callan said:
Omgosh that's hilarious, and sounds like something they would both say. I don't actually see Forky getting married ever, he loves the mirror too much, maybe when he needs a care taker or something, cause he's also a people user...
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Yep ‘cause apparently we’re all unemployed housewives with nothing better to do than be haters on tattle 🤣

Forky is EVERYTHING I avoid in a man - narcissistic, two brain cells and he also gives me major sweaty vibes…. He just has one of those faces? Just by looking at it, I can smell the BO.

Sheesh, Nimbo chooses them well. 😅
 
Im pretty sure i posted something similar when they last split up, but as others have said, I’m just happy if she gets away from him. Niomi can irritate the hell out of me for a multitude of reasons, but I also think she has been swept up by Jamie at her most vulnerable. I really really hope Niomi turns this around… I can picture her in a few years time, dressed head to toe in Burberry, owning a house in Chelsea, dating some kind of banker, attending every influencer event in London - a completely different Niomi to what we’ve all witnessed over the last few years, probably still just as irritating, and yet…i’d be happy for her?

maybe its just late and im soppy
 
Was she actually stupid enough to buy a home with him? What fuckery is this?
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Also, December 13th is the date to watch for. Apparently, that’s when he’s leaving.
 
speach7991 said:
Im pretty sure i posted something similar when they last split up, but as others have said, I’m just happy if she gets away from him. Niomi can irritate the hell out of me for a multitude of reasons, but I also think she has been swept up by Jamie at her most vulnerable. I really really hope Niomi turns this around… I can picture her in a few years time, dressed head to toe in Burberry, owning a house in Chelsea, dating some kind of banker, attending every influencer event in London - a completely different Niomi to what we’ve all witnessed over the last few years, probably still just as irritating, and yet…i’d be happy for her?

maybe its just late and im soppy
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I get what you mean because ultimately I think everyone on this forum wants the best for her and that INCLUDES having self-accountability. Everyone wants her to be happy, have her friends, her career, etc but to truly be content she needs to face all the decisions she’s made and understand why she made them. She’ll continue to make the same mistakes and fall for another manipulative man if she doesn’t.

we should all continue to hold her accountable in places like this forum but hopefully no one send her any hate or snarky remarks because I can imagine she’s in quite a vulnerable place right now even if she doesn’t act like it.
 
Callan said:
News and politics are distractions that should be ignored, why does he always gives this crappy ass advice? Get a job then tell us to ignore the things that don't ignore us. I'm still shocked she dated this toad.

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So anything that takes him away from his favourite subject, himself, is a distraction. An interest in the world outside of his own peabrain is seen as negative.
Omg the narcissisism is quite startling. It's scary tbh. He has literally no curiosity about anything apart from his mundane crappy thoughts and 'learnings'.
Why doesn't he come off SM if he's so bleeping superior then?
 
Jelly Bean said:
So anything that takes him away from his favourite subject, himself, is a distraction. An interest in the world outside of his own peabrain is seen as negative.
Omg the narcissisism is quite startling. It's scary tbh. He has literally no curiosity about anything apart from his mundane crappy thoughts and 'learnings'.
Why doesn't he come off SM if he's so bleeping superior then?
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Only a person living in a privileged bubble has the luxury to ignore politics. What an ignorant viewpoint. Such solipsistic drivel
 
If Jamie was manipulative or abusive as we suspect, I really hope that (assuming she realises this and gets some therapy) she speaks about it.

There's still an attitude in society that the victims are at fault, that it's proof that they're weak, or the good old "if it was really that bad, why didn't she leave earlier?"
She doesn't need to do a podcast series - I think we can agree that should not be repeated, but a bit of a chat about how it all went down so anyone still in her audience can have a few more of those red flags known to them to watch out for.
 
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