Married at First Sight UK #9 Bradley Namaste away from me

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Miss Begotten said:
It’s also quite ironic considering that for the majority of my life I’ve been called a woke, tofu munching, libtard.
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I think it's easier for people to believe that everyone with gender critical views is a Trump-supporting, racist, Farage bum-licking, daily mail reading alt right bellend, rather than accept the uncomfortable fact that there are many of us who are politically very left who are gender-critical. Because if they accepted that fact they might need to actually sensibly engage with and consider our views like adults, and not write us all off.
 
newaroundhere123 said:
he's also said he's pansexual which I believe means he needs to have feelings before he does / can fancy you
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The neologism for having to have an emotional connection before you experience sexual attraction is 'demisexual'

Pansexuality doesn't mean you have to have feelings for someone to experience sexual attraction it just means gender isn't a factor in whether you experience attraction or not.

There's an ongoing debate in the LGBTQ community about the labels of bisexuality and pansexuality but it's generally agreed they mean you are capable of experiencing attraction to two ~or more~ genders (bi) or all genders (pan)

So generally people who believe there are more than two genders are more likely to label themselves as pansexual. But that's not a hard and fast rule.
 
Sorry if this has already been mentioned but I just read an article saying this is Mark when he did First Dates
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pommobear said:
I don't actually think the gender stuff is off topic because it relates to what is happening on the show. Ella sees herself as a conventional, highly sexually attractive, straight female and she wants a conventional, masculine straight male. But the problem is the men of the type she probably wants are vanishingly unlikely to be attracted to a woman who used to be a man. Or, if they are, it will be in a fetishised sort of way and not as a long term relationship bet. That's what's so sad about the whole thing really, because if she'd simply stayed as the gay man she was before she transitioned, she'd have had plenty of prospects for a loving, long term, sexually healthy relationship. As it is I just don't feel she can be very happy on the inside.
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Being honest I'm personally pleased at how often the gender stuff comes up as part of 'normal' threads despite people's attempts to silo it off onto the gender thread which they can just ignore. Because that's how invasive it is now into normal life, we can't just go around ignoring it every day when it's on TV shows all the time, in workplaces, etc. And Ella is a great example of why people are either getting, or are already very tired of the whole thing, because there's one trans person on this show and now everything is about him. So it is 'on topic' now. That's what was pushed for, that's what you get.
 
judgejohndeed said:
Being honest I'm personally pleased at how often the gender stuff comes up as part of 'normal' threads despite people's attempts to silo it off onto the gender thread which they can just ignore. Because that's how invasive it is now into normal life, we can't just go around ignoring it every day when it's on TV shows all the time, in workplaces, etc. And Ella is a great example of why people are either getting, or are already very tired of the whole thing, because there's one trans person on this show and now everything is about him. So it is 'on topic' now. That's what was pushed for, that's what you get.
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Why do you feel the need to call Ella he? Just curious as to why you ignore pronoun preferences.. genuinely interested, don’t want to start anymore beef

Regardless of whether she’s trans or not. She’s annoying and is on the show for the wrong reasons. Disliked her from the moment I clapped eyes on her
 
Affiliatemebaby said:
That’s my thinking too. People get shouted at for being transphobic for saying they probably wouldn’t be sexually attracted to someone transgender (and many transgender people don’t have any surgery) so there’s very little honest conversation about how lonely a lot of trans people end up.

Dylan Mulvaney, famous transwoman, has not been in any sort of relationship for example and has said no one seems interested.
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I personally wouldn’t date someone who is trans either, I’ve been accused of being trans phobic for stating that in my dating profiles but it’s a personal preference
 
elelliott said:
Why do you feel the need to call Ella he? Just curious as to why you ignore pronoun preferences.. genuinely interested, don’t want to start anymore beef

Regardless of whether she’s trans or not. She’s annoying and is on the show for the wrong reasons. Disliked her from the moment I clapped eyes on her
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I'm quite sure you already know this, but 'she' refers to someone who is female. Ella is a man. HTH.
 
elelliott said:
Why do you feel the need to call Ella he? Just curious as to why you ignore pronoun preferences.. genuinely interested, don’t want to start anymore beef
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Because Ella is male and language matters. If you obfuscate what he/she etc means it might not feel like it matters. But then you end up with chestfeeders, uterus havers, and the nonsense that is 'cis' - which a lot of women find deeply offensive - why do women need a new classification, why can't trans women just be trans women, and women keep the word we've always had?

Have you ever asked yourself why there's no sperm givers or prostate havers in medical literature? Why men get to keep their words? Why women have to give up their safe spaces to protect men, from other men? It's a nonsense.

If I met Ella, I would absolutely call him Ella, a person can chose whatever name they please. But I don't see why I have to pretend he's changed sex when referring to him elsewhere (I'd bet my house he'd have no issue calling me cis even if I said it hurt my feelings).
 
Miss Begotten said:
Of course you don’t, and neither do I. I honestly hope his life is as happy and fulfilling as anyone’s can be.
But there’s a huge, fundamental difference between hoping that trans people are allowed to get on with their lives in the same way that everyone else does, and being compelled to deny reality and sitting silently by while women and children, lesbians and gay men are pushed aside to pander to a tiny, tiny subsection of society.
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Nor should it. But what does bother me is that I should be compelled to comply with the denial of reality.
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That you seperated women from lesbians is so funny and bizarre to me.
 
MMA69 said:
Bless the new groom (called himself a bride)
Bought himself a suit but couldn’t afford a neck
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The thing that perplexed me about him was that he said he was into fashion but his outfit made him look like a waiter and those skull buttons were weird. Also his shirt was white and his jacket was cream which is a total fashion failure. The other groom looked a lot better in his smart suit.
 
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