Jim and Sarah Chapman #8 2023 The year of doing less

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I remember Jim saying that he couldn't take Martha at first because he had to look for a place where to live and then lived at his sister's. And I actually don't think he'd take her when he moved in with Sarah. Thh, I think it's good that Jim and Sarah didn't get Martha. Sarah doesn't come off to me as a pet-loving person and considering that it was the dog Jim had with his ex wife who leaves rent-free in his head, I doubt Sarah would treat her well...
 
Thelizardqueen said:
Slightly off topic, but I’m still suspicious of Jim’s old assistant Daisy as she disappeared very quickly when Jim and Tanya announced their divorce. I almost wonder if Tanya emotionally cheated on Jim with Rhys, as we know how obsessed with him she was, and Jim physically cheated on Tanya with Daisy
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God I cannot imagine what would make anyone get physical with Jim. The most physical thing he would make me do is a sick in my mouth
 
It clearly really winds them up people constantly commenting about Martha hence why they feel the need to 'set the record straight'... so I hope people keep spamming their tiktok about it forever 🤣
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Jelly Bean said:
Sarah's new long 70s fringe. They're so popular now - but just look so irritating. Constantly flopping in your eyes.
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Yeah you can tell its all in her face in that story, she's not wearing it very well
 
So just make clear the the pregnancy bump with music and child with money are stock images from google.

Jim is working less, kids work more. So it would seem to me that Jim will encourage Sarah during her pregnancy to listen to Dolly Parton on repeat so that new child can work 9-5 to so Jim can earn a living.

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Just been catching up on this! Given the history of tea spilling and where it’s come from I would bet that was Sarah’s response from The Chapman’s account, because she can’t help herself. It is a bit weird really, you would think it was her in the relationship with Tanya with how she’s brought up cheating in the past, like she’s struggling to get past that breakup!

The brunt of ‘where’s Martha’ has fallen on Tanya as everyone knew she was living with her, so this is really petty. I bet it suited them just fine to not have the responsibility, but to let Tanya be the bad guy at the same time.

We don’t know the ins and outs of Tanya and Jim’s marriage but I can imagine, either way, Martha would have continued to be a tie and a means of control depending on what the ‘custody situation ended up being…so seeing as Martha is being looked after and not gone to a shelter I could sympathise with that decision. The dog is OK and it is a clean break, no emotional blackmail for one to hold over the other.
 
If they’d have just said something like ‘we’ve made the difficult decision to rehome Martha to a lovely family in Norfolk bla bla bla, it wasn’t fair on Martha to keep moving her between houses bla bla’ then there wouldn’t be people still going on about it and they’d have just sucked up any backlash and everyone could’ve moved on. But no, we’re banging on 3 years later or however long it is about it. Pair of idiots.
In reality, Tanya was probably, as people have said, sick to death of Jim still having a weird, controlling hold over her by popping round to ‘see Martha’ and telling her to paint the front door. I don’t blame her to be honest but a bit of honesty with the people who are invested (rightly or wrongly) in them and thusly the dog too would’ve prevented all this and Sarah would’ve needed to find something else to witch about 🙄
 
A friend of mine was a temp at a court that handled divorces for a little while. Unfortunately the file with the original petition had already gone into long-term storage and there is only the minimum information on the database so she couldn't find out the actual reasons given just the grounds.
 
_Lon said:
I have it on good authority that Tanya divorced him and the grounds were his behaviour
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This doesn’t really mean anything if they agreed to a divorce, one or the other had to do it and generally use that as a reason. Until 2022 you could only get divorced with ‘fault’. Which means one person would petition the other for divorce and have to cite a reason. “Unreasonable behaviour” was a catch all so it doesn’t mean he specifically did anything ‘wrong’. Of course he could have done it and claimed adultery but he would have to prove and document it, people often avoided this to stop details of their lives being made public.

“Until the new Divorce Act takes effect, under current divorce law, married couples looking to divorce would prove the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. This was evidenced through one of the following facts being proven:
  • Adultery
  • Unreasonable behaviour
  • Desertion by one party
  • Two years separation with the consent of the spouse; or
  • Five years separation without consent.
These facts mean that one party made an application against the other for a divorce to take place and it could not be through mutual agreement.”

He’s still a prick but in his head this is probably another example of him being a good guy by allowing her to lodge it.
 
Yeah, that’s true. But if my partner had an affair and broke my heart, I don’t think I’d be in the frame of mind to generously tell them that they can be the one to file for the divorce and cite my behaviour as the cause…

So I still think Jim/Sarah are v likely talking tit about the cheating…
 
donutwitch said:
Yeah, that’s true. But if my partner had an affair and broke my heart, I don’t think I’d be in the frame of mind to generously tell them that they can be the one to file for the divorce and cite my behaviour as the cause…

So I still think Jim/Sarah are v likely talking tit about the cheating…
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No, I’ve never really believed the implication of a sordid affair. More her head was turned maybe, emotional cheating or a one off. Which when the person at home is belittling, taking you for granted etc and you find someone who seems to understand you I can see happening.

IMO, in a grown up relationship/marriage cheating usually occurs if one person is an egotistical, immature hole who loves attention and isn’t committed to their partner or something is lacking at home that they look for/find elsewhere. I don’t see Tanya as the former. I’m not excusing it, you should fix your relationship or get out then move on but when you’ve only really been with one person and they are your whole identity that takes a lot to do, more than many are capable of particularly if they’re repressed, dismissed or the partner won’t listen or accept the extent or the problem.
 
littlepup said:
This doesn’t really mean anything if they agreed to a divorce, one or the other had to do it and generally use that as a reason. Until 2022 you could only get divorced with ‘fault’. Which means one person would petition the other for divorce and have to cite a reason. “Unreasonable behaviour” was a catch all so it doesn’t mean he specifically did anything ‘wrong’. Of course he could have done it and claimed adultery but he would have to prove and document it, people often avoided this to stop details of their lives being made public.

“Until the new Divorce Act takes effect, under current divorce law, married couples looking to divorce would prove the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. This was evidenced through one of the following facts being proven:
  • Adultery
  • Unreasonable behaviour
  • Desertion by one party
  • Two years separation with the consent of the spouse; or
  • Five years separation without consent.
These facts mean that one party made an application against the other for a divorce to take place and it could not be through mutual agreement.”

He’s still a prick but in his head this is probably another example of him being a good guy by allowing her to lodge it.
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The it seems she just filed for divorce and he accepted (if I understand correctly)? Given how obsessed he is with her I would be surprised id he didn’t make problems. Especially how they seemed to divide everything nicely and move on (I mean except for Jim).
 
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