Jim and Sarah Chapman #8 2023 The year of doing less

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199666 said:
Whatever happened now it's too late to talk about it, they needed to come clean when it was happening and maybe we all be more understanding but they decided to keep quiet so this is all on them
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Yes it is on both of them tbh.
Both acting like Martha never existed. Wtf.
If Tanya rehomed her without asking Jim that is quite crappy. I don't get why you would rehome your dog anyway tbh unless there were exceptional circumstances. Neither of them look good tbh.
 
Gossiper35 said:
The thing is, we don't know the other side of the story. Around that time he seemed to be turning up at Tanya's front door and taking Martha with him in a taxi and then taking her back later. This went on for a while and would have been incredibly difficult to deal with during a divorce. Maybe he was offered the chance to take Martha but he said he was living in his sisters flat temporarily and couldn't take her, we've no idea. I don't think it's quite how he's making out and from how he's been acting recently I'm guessing his behaviour was questionable.
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I can totally see Jim using Martha as a way to get at Tanya. He hated that she left him & is still bitter to this day about it, so can you imagine what he was like in the aftermath of the divorce when he was still performatively ‘Mr Nice Guy, we’re still friends’ about it all? Martha was a reason to still be in contact, be round at her house, making requests and demands etc. i am sure he would have been controlling and belittling about this situation too. I can see a logical reason why rehoming the dog allowed her to draw a line under all of that and make a clean break, rather than having to stay in contact and see and negotiate with Jim all the time.

It would take a huge amount for me to personally rehome a dog, but there are times where it is definitely kinder and the right thing. If Tanya thought she was leaving the U.K., or would be working so much (lol) that she’d never be home with her, or even was struggling mentally and couldn’t get out of bed to feed and walk her twice a day by herself, then rehoming might have felt like the kindest option to give her a nice life. She’s obviously gone to a great home and people know where she is and that she’s well cared for, it’s not like she dropped her off at a shelter.

I can see that giving Jim first refusal to take the dog might have seemed like a good choice, and maybe Tanya did do it to hurt him, but there must have been a reason the dog lived with Tanya to begin with rather than them splitting custody. I personally think it suited Jim to let Tanya take the dog most of the time and he liked having the optional contact and continued access to Tanya. He probably never thought she’d have rehomed her just to shut that door on him which will have bruised his ego even further, and just hates the fact that it ended up causing him negativity in public. Plus he lost a big player in his social media content lol.
 
Gossngiggles said:
The thing with the dog is that it was probably just a case of once they split Tanya couldn’t give it the time/attention a dog needs and deserves and so she rehomed it, Tanya didn’t want all the hate that people would throw over it. Who knows what happened with Jim, maybe he would have taken the dog or maybe he wasn’t that bothered at the time 🤷‍♂️
Tbh if circumstances change and you can’t give a dog what it needs then rehoming it with someone who can is probably the best thing to do. Better than keeping it because you feel you should but not being a good owner, Nobody knows what the future will hold and when they got the dog they probably never considered that one day they might split up and things change.
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But why then not just say that? That's an understandable situation, not saying anything has just fuelled speculation and kept it in people's minds
 
He knows that Tanya doesn’t speak out about anything to do with their marriage or divorce so he thinks he’s got the upper hand. He can make little snide remarks in comments on his instagram knowing Tanya isn’t going to retaliate so he thinks he has control of the narrative.

He’s a slimey bastard and he’s just bitter that Tanya isn’t *obsessed with him* anymore
 
This is just one side. And it’s clearly bitter and all said with the full protection of knowing Tanya will never retaliate. So Jim/Sarah can comfortably spin whatever angle they want which seems to be full of rage and sly digs.

We have no idea what Tanya’s side of the story is but I will say that what Jim’s sister said “Martha is happy and living with family in Norfolk” is probably the truer version of events as a more neutral party. Jim’s sisters have no problem with Tanya, I’m even sceptical about the “cheating” accusations. All of this is one sided and from two people who seem obsessed with someone who keeps her child and partner private and never mentions them.

The whole thing just shows what a man child Jim is to keep making digs to his large audience 3 years later. Can you imagine what he was behaving like during the actual divorce if he still does this now??
 
squacksquack said:
I can definitely see him being very nasty behind closed doors during and after the divorce. Obviously it’s an awful situation for the dog and owner if rehoming is the outcome but we don’t know the full story and I wouldn’t trust old weasel-narc Jim as far as I could throw him.
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But I remember when Jim moved in with Sarah, Tanya sent them a big welcome flower bouquet to wish them all the best. If the divorce was this nasty, would Tanya do such a thing?
 
emm said:
But why then not just say that? That's an understandable situation, not saying anything has just fuelled speculation and kept it in people's minds
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I bet if she could turn back time she'd say something diplomatic to stop all the sausage dog speculation. But they've gone down this path and probably had it written into legal papers, so they continue as is.

Although it's funny for us that Jim's comments are either dead, or flooded with people asking about the dog.
 
BridgetJones said:
But I remember when Jim moved in with Sarah, Tanya sent them a big welcome flower bouquet to wish them all the best. If the divorce was this nasty, would Tanya do such a thing?
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Tanya's definitely being the 'bigger person' or at least putting on a very good show of it and she's coming off so much better. It's honestly so embarrassing of Jim and Sarah to keep vaguebooking/ slagging her in this way when they're supposed to be happily married with a toddler and another on the way 😭 what is wrong with them?! It's also embarrassing that they're dropping all these hints knowing that Tanya is very unlikely to reply/ put her side of the story out there and I def don't trust THE CHAPMAN's version of things without hearing Tanya's side
 
And again, in most circumstances I would say there’s almost no excuse for rehoming a dog that you share/shared with a recent ex without at the very least notifying them and then likely giving the option of them taking the dog instead, especially if they are regularly seeing the dog. Even if you’d like to go no contact just because you’d like to move on, etc. Like I’m not making excuses for that scenario because yes it would be unforgivable.

HOWEVER something about the situation and Jim’s behaviour is just setting my instincts off and I just feel more inclined to acknowledge that there very well might be more going on in this situation than we know…

Even the fact that only now he is hinting at all this, like… why would this not be the FIRST thing you snark about or make clear? I also kind of doubt there is much of a legal agreement because ~*~The Chapmans~*~ have certainly talked about Tanya and if they would’ve gotten a notice about anything then, it would definitely be the cheating allegations. If anything it would likely be something along not naming names.
 
getawaywithit said:
Even the fact that only now he is hinting at all this, like… why would this not be the FIRST thing you snark about or make clear? I also kind of doubt there is much of a legal agreement because ~*~The Chapmans~*~ have certainly talked about Tanya and if they would’ve gotten a notice about anything then, it would definitely be the cheating allegations. If anything it would likely be something along not naming names.
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He has only hinted, not named names. Always along the lines of ‘well there’s more to it, there was cheating, but… I can’t go into that’ So not direct accusations and careful with words. The direct stuff has come from Sarah or ‘The Chapman’s’ which could be argued as being Sarah.
Jim’s the one who kept entertaining it, making things public or answering questions - I don’t think Tanya’s addressed anything to do with the relationship Jim since the split. She’s said she had lows or found it difficult to adapt but referenced herself not the relationship. Jim has been vocal about it being over long before it was announced, they grew apart, there was more to it, we’re still mates etc. He went public with Sarah 3 months after they announced the split so wanted to stress he wasn’t the bad guy.
He could easily say “that part of my life is over, it’s painful so I won’t be addressing it” but he can’t miss the chance to live in the past, for a dig or prove he’s a ‘nice guy’.
 
iz10101 said:
This is just one side. And it’s clearly bitter and all said with the full protection of knowing Tanya will never retaliate. So Jim/Sarah can comfortably spin whatever angle they want which seems to be full of rage and sly digs.

We have no idea what Tanya’s side of the story is but I will say that what Jim’s sister said “Martha is happy and living with family in Norfolk” is probably the truer version of events as a more neutral party. Jim’s sisters have no problem with Tanya, I’m even sceptical about the “cheating” accusations. All of this is one sided and from two people who seem obsessed with someone who keeps her child and partner private and never mentions them.

The whole thing just shows what a man child Jim is to keep making digs to his large audience 3 years later. Can you imagine what he was behaving like during the actual divorce if he still does this now??
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I think he broke up with her and is now bitter that she seems to be over it and happy when he isn't as he wanted to have the upper hand still as he did instigating the breakup
 
Tbh I always thought that Martha was more Jim’s dog, I always thought he liked her more. But that’s from what I remember.
If Tanya did rehome her without asking Jim I think it’s really horrible. I am not against rehoming at all, in fact I think it gets too much hate and that leads to animals being in worse situations. If it’s better for the dog or even the people then it should be done. Especially if it’s straight into a nee home rather than going to a kennel. People’s life situations change or someone finds it more difficult to look after an animal than they thought then I don’t think rehoming is bad it’s better than the animal being neglected or if not neglected then negatively impacting the lives or the people and animal. Imo it’s worse when people get an animal but can’t afford to look after them, especially when they ‘rescue’ an animal from a bad situation but then cannot get it help as it’s effectively in the same situation as before it was rescued.
 
Avoiding the debate of better off re-homing or not as I don't really give a toss. I do wish Tanya would do a large sausage dog tit and wrap it up in a bow tie for Jim. He is a little bleep who is bitter and should keep that BS off social media and grow up, he is a bitter little twirp.
 
If we all need further evidence that we might be dealing with unreliable narrators in THE CHAPMANS, remember that time Sarah said Tanya had implied Jim was a violent abuser, because she’d said in an interview that she found the break-up “brutal” (or something to that effect, I can’t remember….) 🤪

These two are clearly fuelled by bitternesss and jealousy towards Tanya, I wouldn’t trust them to be fair minded or honest about any topic that concerns her.
 
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