Irish Insta Fertility Huns

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I mean it’s been tough on her for sure. She turned 40 and that has to make you chase the clock when doing ivf - she had a miscarriage which is awful. And her last period seems to either be very late or was in fact the last bleed she had after vaccine. And I’m 100% believing that many women had cycle issues after the vax because I did too for 3 months. Anyway outside of that- she’s just so high energy isn’t she? Like you’d wonder if she was able to relax a bit would she feel better? This is kind of her last chance I think seeming as this is go fund me. It’s totally consumed her and I know trying for a baby does that - but take a look at Lisa my solo journey to mom , she wanted the pregnancy so bad and she actually appears disinterested in those babies a lot of the time. I often wonder have these people only ever thought as far as the pregnancy bit
 
Yeah, she can be a bit all over the place with those energy levels and the last minute plans she's chopping and changing. I've felt twinges of second hand worry for her about her financial situation sometimes watching her stories, there's never a sense that she's made any plans more long term than her next nail appointment, and that doesn't work when you've got a kid. I don't think she knows how to really relax, there's a sense of constant movement and noise (eg the telly still on loudly in the background when she's doing stories and her head constantly moving).

She would've been brilliant on big brother though!


brandambassador said:
I often wonder have these people only ever thought as far as the pregnancy bit
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Agree, I think loads of them get so caught up in the Instagram bubble that they don't think much beyond how to style the photo for their bfp urine stained first response test, and then the scan picture with the heart shape around it made out of used syringes from their ivf cycle (🤢).

And all of the women doing it solo in countries like Greece don't talk about the fact that it's totally anonymous donors over there, so the kid can never find out anything about their genetic history - they only talk about how much they want to be pregnant.
 
brandambassador said:
I mean it’s been tough on her for sure. She turned 40 and that has to make you chase the clock when doing ivf - she had a miscarriage which is awful. And her last period seems to either be very late or was in fact the last bleed she had after vaccine. And I’m 100% believing that many women had cycle issues after the vax because I did too for 3 months. Anyway outside of that- she’s just so high energy isn’t she? Like you’d wonder if she was able to relax a bit would she feel better? This is kind of her last chance I think seeming as this is go fund me. It’s totally consumed her and I know trying for a baby does that - but take a look at Lisa my solo journey to mom , she wanted the pregnancy so bad and she actually appears disinterested in those babies a lot of the time. I often wonder have these people only ever thought as far as the pregnancy bit
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In fairness to Lisa though, it can't be easy being a single mam of twins. I'd say the reality of motherhood probably hit her harder than anticipated. It wouldn't surprise me if postpartum depression was a factor as well, because they all go through so much to begin with and all of it can affect you so unpredictably. You can have the happiest pregnancy and then feel absolutely miserable after the birth. I hope she reaches out to someone if she is struggling.

Definitely agree though that they seem to get so transfixed on getting pregnant that they probably do neglect other aspects. I'd be wondering how they'd be doing mentally as well as multiple IVF cycles and loss is bound to take a toll on you.
 
shesnotalltherexoxo said:
I'm actually a bit devastated for her.
She's a wreck.
She has so much to do other than pursuing a baby.
So many ways to have a fabulous and full life. But she is not ready for the trials of motherhood from what we can see.
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I agree 100% with you. I know the struggle wanting a baby and it's hard and gets your mental health all up in a heap but she's definitely got a lot more on right now. It's hard though. Just hope she looks after her mental health now even more so.
 
shesnotalltherexoxo said:
Yep. Well said.
She does manage to stay remarkably upbeat for all of her trials to be fair but she needs direction.
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She does but I know we can all put on a brave face too and behind closed doors we're a mess. I do think she has a mental health issue by what I've seen but she definitely needs see someone. It's been a rough road for her.
 
Regarding Ollie, I think she is a consequence of her own bad decisions. I know that sounds harsh but I've lost all sympathy for her with the erratic carry on. That go fund me should be closed and refunded for a start. All she spends her money on is holistic therapies instead of science backed psychotherapy which she very clearly needs.

Speaking from experience it is difficult to find the right counsellor but keep looking and stop wasting money on charlatans who tell you what you want hear.

She won't even spend money on fixing her tooth but can go dancing on a Tuesday night? No sorry cop on to yourself at 40 years of age, and wanting to bring a child into that chaos?

I think she should come off Instagram for her own mental health recovery.
 
I followed ollie for a long time. I had to unfollow because the irrational behaviour was making me uncomfortable. Back when she was badmouthing childrens services for denying her to be a foster parent or adopt. It seems to me she latches onto something and goes hell for leather and if she doesn’t get it, then that’s badmouthing.

A lot of these fertility accounts are the same-they thing it’s a 100% guarantee if they do treatment then they get a baby which is absolutely isn’t. Every one gets a % chance of success and no one gets 100%. When they (very sadly) don’t get their positive, SOME tend to turn on the doc in their clinic and badmouth them. I get that it’s devastating and upsetting-I’ve been through it but they go about it the wrong way.
I’ve said it here before I completely disagree with any GFM for treatment. It’s inappropriate.

I think ollie needs a good long therapy session and to sort her head out because I think before she started all this treatment and hit devastation after devastation she was in need of some support
 
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