HomewithShan #7 She got G some free magnesium. Well done shan, you're so great. Can we be mum friends

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I love falling asleep in my sons bed, little nap time for me 🤣 but I do try to set an alarm now so I don’t stay in there half the night or I tell my husband to wake me in an hour
 
whatshernameagain_93 said:
The absolute desperation in today's stories, clear she wants some freebies or acknowledgement from IKEA... Well done Shan, you spent £6 on teddies for your kids 🙄 it's Xmas why is she at IKEA and not doing festive things with her children? So odd. She's incredibly boring. She wants everything for no effort and it's so frustrating!
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Because children don't need festive things. 😅
 
whatshernameagain_93 said:
The absolute desperation in today's stories, clear she wants some freebies or acknowledgement from IKEA... Well done Shan, you spent £6 on teddies for your kids 🙄 it's Xmas why is she at IKEA and not doing festive things with her children? So odd. She's incredibly boring. She wants everything for no effort and it's so frustrating!
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Hopefully they did the breakfast/dinner with santa
 
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Each to their own but I'd be mortified if I found out my nearly 4yr old was at nursery/preschool and was told that if she's feeling sad or angry to go sit in a den on your own. To me that isn't self regulation and it's telling a child to duck off and leave the grown ups alone but that it right up Shan's street so no reason she thinks it's genius.
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Also I totally call it BS he put a photo of mummy and daddy there and flowers, or lost of thst stuff in there out of choice. It's all too well laid out for a 4year old.
 
The way she said something like: G isn't very good at self regulation. He is 4!!!! I am in my 30s and I'm not very good at it either.
I like the pitstop, I would imagine at nursery he has someone sitting in there with him doing deep breaths or holding his hand. That's what Shan needs to do. Bet she shouts "go to your pitstop now" though and uses it for punishment.
 
Emsie said:
The way she said something like: G isn't very good at self regulation. He is 4!!!! I am in my 30s and I'm not very good at it either.
I like the pitstop, I would imagine at nursery he has someone sitting in there with him doing deep breaths or holding his hand. That's what Shan needs to do. Bet she shouts "go to your pitstop now" though and uses it for punishment.
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100% she’s just going to make him go sit in there all the time now when she can’t be bothered to help him calm down
 
it's so funny how many 'amazing ideas' this girl has come up with and shared in order to become mum of the year and where have they all gone? Ah yeah...down the pan. How many times do we hear about the banning of screen time, no YouTube, pompoms, visual story boards, timetables, fresh air, no naps, naps, forest school, magnesium, soft play etc etc in a bid to have 'fixed' her kids typical attention, energy and emotional outbursts. What the heck is up with just PARENTING your child and being ATTENTIVE to their wants and needs 🤪
 
She put a story up moaning that G is asking for the iPad due to not being at nursery today and is wondering whether to do the hour of screen time now or later and H was up at 5. However, she’s included piles of washing in the story that she’s clearly trying to put away whilst expecting her children to entertain themselves. Forget the washing and take them to the park to burn off some energy. Is it that difficult? She’s obsessed with tidying away and ignoring her kids in the process.
 
If she wasn’t hiding away putting the washing away G probably wouldn’t be desperate for the IPad. Surely it can’t be good for them to be ignored first thing in the morning, they will easily learn they aren’t her priority, especially G.
 
I know you're allowed to change your mind on how you handle screen time with your children but pretty sure she changes it every week for G so he's going to be clueless as to what the "rules" actually are and just keep asking until she gives in.

If she was so realistic and honest with her parenting journey, she'd happily share a screen grab showing how much the ipad screen time has been used...... But no, she'd make up excuses how it's had to be used for other stuff too so not accurate, but it'd really be exposing her. 🤣
 
I found when I limited screen time for my 3 year old he became more obsessed with having it, the iPad is now available at all times while we are in the living room and he rarely ever touches it as it’s not this big thing of being a timed activity that ia only available at certain times.
if you make it a big deal then kids will too, she is making her own life so much harder than it needs to be!
 
So Gs screen time hour is gonna go over if he's sat watching a film. I'm not even judging her for this, let him watch the film after swimming he is probably tired, but I wonder if she realises that a TV is also a screen 😂
If she wants to limit screens she would be better off giving him 3 20 minute sessions and using that time wisely. Like 20 minutes ipad time - fold your pants. 20 minute tv time - cook the tea. 20 minute ipad time - have a cuppa. Allowing him to use it in one setting is gonna cause tantrums. But then she probably expects G to watch the time himself 😂
 
snoopy1902 said:
I found when I limited screen time for my 3 year old he became more obsessed with having it, the iPad is now available at all times while we are in the living room and he rarely ever touches it as it’s not this big thing of being a timed activity that ia only available at certain times.
if you make it a big deal then kids will too, she is making her own life so much harder than it needs to be!
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I had to with my eldest, it turned her feral and she'd get aggressive when I'd ask her to come off. My youngest wasn't as fussed but getting addicted now she's older 😩
 
Jc456 said:
I had to with my eldest, it turned her feral and she'd get aggressive when I'd ask her to come off. My youngest wasn't as fussed but getting addicted now she's older 😩
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It definitely varies for each child and you have to work around that. G supposedly does (though now I'm thinking it's just her excuse for his behaviour rather because of her lack of parenting) so you'd make a plan and STICK TO IT.

I had a phase where my LG was watching a lot of TV and I felt incredibly guilty but in the process I had cooked meals, done washing, cleaned some of the house and then mentally I felt less overwhelmed with everything then I didn't feel the need to have to use the TV as babysitter and went out with her to do things. But Shan has all that to do AND a "duty" of her incredibly important job to share it all online so no wonder it's all too much for her.......
 
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Puffin_island said:
It definitely varies for each child and you have to work around that. G supposedly does (though now I'm thinking it's just her excuse for his behaviour rather because of her lack of parenting) so you'd make a plan and STICK TO IT.

I had a phase where my LG was watching a lot of TV and I felt incredibly guilty but in the process I had cooked meals, done washing, cleaned some of the house and then mentally I felt less overwhelmed with everything then I didn't feel the need to have to use the TV as babysitter and went out with her to do things. But Shan has all that to do AND a "duty" of her incredibly important job to share it all online so no wonder it's all too much for her.......
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Yes definitely varies. Tv I find ok, I assume as the programmes end whereas youtube, Netflix it all blends into one so it can be harder to get them away from.
I actually took the tablet off my eldest for a few years, she wouldn't come off it after her sisters swimming lesson and I had to walk out holding it in the air with her screaming and jumping trying to grab it 💀🤣
 
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