For anybody struggling ❤

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Reverend said:
The last interview I had left me seething. I was 20 minutes early, but I had to wait for over 45 mins in a horrible waiting area, no one came out to apologise or offer me any refreshment, the main interviewer came out in jeans and a t-shirt, one person was typing during my answers which was putting me off, and the test I had to do at the end kept crashing. Finally when I left, I found out that I was locked in and I had to go back to the office to be asked to be let out. Their response was 'Oh yeah, we lock up at 5pm', and left me out. I wasn't offered it, but I wouldn't have accepted it.
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God, that sounds HORRENDOUS. Lucky escape tbh, though what an enormous waste of your time! I’d be seething too.
 
Reverend said:
The last interview I had left me seething. I was 20 minutes early, but I had to wait for over 45 mins in a horrible waiting area, no one came out to apologise or offer me any refreshment, the main interviewer came out in jeans and a t-shirt, one person was typing during my answers which was putting me off, and the test I had to do at the end kept crashing. Finally when I left, I found out that I was locked in and I had to go back to the office to be asked to be let out. Their response was 'Oh yeah, we lock up at 5pm', and left me out. I wasn't offered it, but I wouldn't have accepted it.
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You’ve dodged a bullet there 💗
 
griftalo said:
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I'm a massive over thinker - not for no reason, it’s semi self protective, but two things have helped me:
The simple question: can I do anything about this right now? It sound stupid but it put a lot of things into perspective.
the second is guided meditation: insight timer is good, and if you don’t mind some god stuff; Soulspace has a lovely reader.
I’ve also recently discovered Quabble, if you don’t mind somewhat childlike things, it’s got tai chi, a duck, an opportunity to connect anonymously with strangers through the app, breathing exercises, sleep music, a gratitude jar etc, there’s also finch which gives you a reward for just getting out of bed/washing your face each day, and you can set other goals.
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Thank you. I have some time off so I’m writing a journal each day and I’m using some online tools to record my mood.
I haven’t been on the Corrie thread for some time. It didn’t feel right to be taking the pee all the time if there are people who genuinely seem to like the show.
 
Dogtanian said:
Thank you. I have some time off so I’m writing a journal each day and I’m using some online tools to record my mood.
I haven’t been on the Corrie thread for some time. It didn’t feel right to be taking the pee all the time if there are people who genuinely seem to like the show.
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I do like it (even if it isn’t what it was) but you always make me laugh. I’m always up for some humour. Stops sticks growing up your bum I think 😂
 
Just been reading through this thread and I just wanted to say I settled down bought a house had kids ect everything I thought I was "supposed" to do and guess what? I'm bloody miserable my mental health is on the floor, I feel completely trapped overwhelmed and have nothing at all for me. I'm lonley have no support, hardly any freinds who understand our situation and my relationship has taken a real beating. I guess I'm lost I don't even know what would make things better and more tolerable for me, I don't know what to do to help myself.

Obvs I love my children very much, but I really had no idea how hard and relentless it would be. Especially having a SEN child too which of course you never think about until you are in it and then the fight to get them support and help they need is so draining.
 
Littleelf said:
Just been reading through this thread and I just wanted to say I settled down bought a house had kids ect everything I thought I was "supposed" to do and guess what? I'm bloody miserable my mental health is on the floor, I feel completely trapped overwhelmed and have nothing at all for me. I'm lonley have no support, hardly any freinds who understand our situation and my relationship has taken a real beating. I guess I'm lost I don't even know what would make things better and more tolerable for me, I don't know what to do to help myself.

Obvs I love my children very much, but I really had no idea how hard and relentless it would be. Especially having a SEN child too which of course you never think about until you are in it and then the fight to get them support and help they need is so draining.
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It’s so hard isnt it. I feel the same at times. Doing all the ‘right’ things and still feel unfulfilled.

U should be able to get hours paid from by your local authority for childcare for your SEN child. Even an hour a week.

I dont have kids so cant relate in that respect. If at all possible, try and find a couple of hours for urself when possible to take a walk, watch a box set, read, have a relaxing bath etc.

I have tried a few day different day courses. This could be a way to make a new friend / learn a new skill. I have made friends through the gym also.

It will get better ❤️
 
Sending you all so much love ❤️ I hope you're all doing as okay as you can be.

I'm struggling particularly this week. Not sure what it is. Could be PPD, I'm due on and I just feel overwhelmed and like a failure. I don't really have anyone to talk to so sorry for venting here. Today was particularly bad, I cried pretty much all day. I try to be strong but today I just crumbled. Hoping tomorrow will be better.
 
justonemorepage said:
Sending you all so much love ❤️ I hope you're all doing as okay as you can be.

I'm struggling particularly this week. Not sure what it is. Could be PPD, I'm due on and I just feel overwhelmed and like a failure. I don't really have anyone to talk to so sorry for venting here. Today was particularly bad, I cried pretty much all day. I try to be strong but today I just crumbled. Hoping tomorrow will be better.
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Vent away; tomorrow is a new day. It’s okay to have bad/down days - the trick is not to stay there too long. ❤️
 
justonemorepage said:
Sending you all so much love ❤ I hope you're all doing as okay as you can be.

I'm struggling particularly this week. Not sure what it is. Could be PPD, I'm due on and I just feel overwhelmed and like a failure. I don't really have anyone to talk to so sorry for venting here. Today was particularly bad, I cried pretty much all day. I try to be strong but today I just crumbled. Hoping tomorrow will be better.
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Post partum is a really hard time. I’m 100% sure you’re not a failure though.
can you break down what’s overwhelming you into small things? Is it the keeping house, cooking, social things? If something social would help and there’s a group nearby, leave the housework and just go. If you vacuum today, chances are you’ll only have to do it again tomorrow so leaving it won’t hurt.
apologies if I’ve gotten it all wrong by the way. I feel for you as I’ve been there.
 
griftalo said:
Post partum is a really hard time. I’m 100% sure you’re not a failure though.
can you break down what’s overwhelming you into small things? Is it the keeping house, cooking, social things? If something social would help and there’s a group nearby, leave the housework and just go. If you vacuum today, chances are you’ll only have to do it again tomorrow so leaving it won’t hurt.
apologies if I’ve gotten it all wrong by the way. I feel for you as I’ve been there.
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I think it's a bit of everything to be honest. I feel guilty for being at work and not being with my baby but when I am with her I get overwhelmed as she's quite exhausting now that she's moving more (just started walking but very unsteady) so I feel guilty if she falls over and I don't catch her quick enough. I'm trying to lose weight because none of my clothes fit and I just feel enormous but then I don't have much time to cook properly or get to the gym so I feel frustrated about that. The house is an absolute tit tip but I need a good day without the baby around to get it sorted but that just never ends up happening. I go to a baby group on my day off which I really enjoy but it's just one hour and then I spend the rest of the day being an anxious mess because she's really hard to keep up with and just trying to keep her away from dangers. She gets annoyed at me for stopping her doing things too so it's just feeling like a lot at the moment. I am feeling a bit better today though. Thank you for replying and understanding ❤️
 
justonemorepage said:
I think it's a bit of everything to be honest. I feel guilty for being at work and not being with my baby but when I am with her I get overwhelmed as she's quite exhausting now that she's moving more (just started walking but very unsteady) so I feel guilty if she falls over and I don't catch her quick enough. I'm trying to lose weight because none of my clothes fit and I just feel enormous but then I don't have much time to cook properly or get to the gym so I feel frustrated about that. The house is an absolute tit tip but I need a good day without the baby around to get it sorted but that just never ends up happening. I go to a baby group on my day off which I really enjoy but it's just one hour and then I spend the rest of the day being an anxious mess because she's really hard to keep up with and just trying to keep her away from dangers. She gets annoyed at me for stopping her doing things too so it's just feeling like a lot at the moment. I am feeling a bit better today though. Thank you for replying and understanding ❤
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It might be something you don’t have room for but I used to use one of those American pens to contain my child while I tried to do something. It’s like click together gates to make a playpen so you can change the shape and size. I used to have a high chair in the bathroom so I could shower! We all just do what we can to get by. I’ve started making bolognese in giant quantities (using frozen ready chopped onions to save time) as I’m sick of cooking and overwhelmed. Then I can use some and freeze some for lasagne or make into chili. I hate doing anything that takes a long time, so I always look for time saving stuff. It takes the same time as making a normal portion so for me it feels like a big win when there’s a ton more food leftover. I’m also trying to eat better and the only thing helping me with that is prepping all the salad stuff at once, as I will eat it if it’s ready done and won’t if I have to make it! I don’t know if any of this is helpful to you but don’t feel alone! We are all trying to do it all and not managing. I always think the instagram perfect homes/lives have a lot of secrets and bits where they’re not doing it all either. None of us is a machine.
 
justonemorepage said:
I think it's a bit of everything to be honest. I feel guilty for being at work and not being with my baby but when I am with her I get overwhelmed as she's quite exhausting now that she's moving more (just started walking but very unsteady) so I feel guilty if she falls over and I don't catch her quick enough. I'm trying to lose weight because none of my clothes fit and I just feel enormous but then I don't have much time to cook properly or get to the gym so I feel frustrated about that. The house is an absolute tit tip but I need a good day without the baby around to get it sorted but that just never ends up happening. I go to a baby group on my day off which I really enjoy but it's just one hour and then I spend the rest of the day being an anxious mess because she's really hard to keep up with and just trying to keep her away from dangers. She gets annoyed at me for stopping her doing things too so it's just feeling like a lot at the moment. I am feeling a bit better today though. Thank you for replying and understanding ❤
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Me too me too me too!

In fact I'm sitting here writing this whilst OH bathes our LO because I am so overwhelmed and I only picked him up at 5pm.

I've been going to the gym in the evenings and feel so guilty for prioritising myself over his needs even though he goes to bed around 7pm.
 
I’ve had a really bad week. I’m depressed and my anxiety is horrific. I’m waking up with a sense of dread and it just doesn’t pass. I’m picking at my partner and it’s causing issues and he’s a ‘just don’t think about it’ type when it comes to anxiety. So having arguments with my partner makes me feel even worse.

I just wish I knew why I was like this.
 
whoareyouu said:
I’ve had a really bad week. I’m depressed and my anxiety is horrific. I’m waking up with a sense of dread and it just doesn’t pass. I’m picking at my partner and it’s causing issues and he’s a ‘just don’t think about it’ type when it comes to anxiety. So having arguments with my partner makes me feel even worse.

I just wish I knew why I was like this.
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If i have learned anything recently it’s not ‘why am i like this?’ It’s ‘what happened to you?’ Reframe the question. It’s your experiences and environment that shapes you. Acknowledge your dread and anxiety and slowly put the work in to calm yourself. It’s probably taken a long time for you to become anxious and full of dread. It probably wont go away immediately so be kind to yourself. This too shall pass 💓
 
My best friend has alcohol issues and it’s hard. For her mainly, but also for me. She was drinking last night and was messaging me about wanting to harm herself. Saying she didn’t want to be here anymore and she wished she could just disappear and saying she felt suicidal. I asked if she wanted to call, she said no. I then messaged her mum because I was worried.

I think she’s probably annoyed with me. But I don’t know how to react when she says these things. Take her seriously and I get told that I should “know” she’d never do anything. Don’t take her seriously and I’m not a good friend and I don’t care. She’s ill and she’s struggling. I want to help.

My mum died by suicide so this is a bit triggering hearing things like this and I get worried.
 
Squittel said:
My best friend has alcohol issues and it’s hard. For her mainly, but also for me. She was drinking last night and was messaging me about wanting to harm herself. Saying she didn’t want to be here anymore and she wished she could just disappear and saying she felt suicidal. I asked if she wanted to call, she said no. I then messaged her mum because I was worried.

I think she’s probably annoyed with me. But I don’t know how to react when she says these things. Take her seriously and I get told that I should “know” she’d never do anything. Don’t take her seriously and I’m not a good friend and I don’t care. She’s ill and she’s struggling. I want to help.

My mum died by suicide so this is a bit triggering hearing things like this and I get worried.
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You did the right thing. So sorry you are in this position.
 
My last post on here was something similar so I do apologise, I don't need anyone to reply but I find venting on here kind of helps. I feel like a total witch right now, my step dad has dementia and my mum has had to put him in a home and she is struggling massively with it all. I'm trying to help as best I can but I live 6 hours away so supportive messages and calls are the best I can do. But I'm struggling so much myself right now. My husband is away for 6 months and as above we live 6 hours away from my family. I don't have any friends, not real ones anyway, and I'm stuck in the house every day with 3 kids just trying to survive. I hate this life and I resent my husband for choosing the job he has. I'm so isolated and crying myself to sleep every night. But because of my mums situation if I tell any family members that I'm feeling down, I just get the whole "you'll be fine in a few days or when the kids go back to school". There's no support for me. I'm at a loss. And feel like I'm wasting my life as I'm just on countdown until Christmas when my husband hopefully gets back. Life is just tit 😪
 
Squittel said:
My best friend has alcohol issues and it’s hard. For her mainly, but also for me. She was drinking last night and was messaging me about wanting to harm herself. Saying she didn’t want to be here anymore and she wished she could just disappear and saying she felt suicidal. I asked if she wanted to call, she said no. I then messaged her mum because I was worried.

I think she’s probably annoyed with me. But I don’t know how to react when she says these things. Take her seriously and I get told that I should “know” she’d never do anything. Don’t take her seriously and I’m not a good friend and I don’t care. She’s ill and she’s struggling. I want to help.

My mum died by suicide so this is a bit triggering hearing things like this and I get worried.
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’re doing the best you can. Take care.

Taefan3011 said:
My last post on here was something similar so I do apologise, I don't need anyone to reply but I find venting on here kind of helps. I feel like a total witch right now, my step dad has dementia and my mum has had to put him in a home and she is struggling massively with it all. I'm trying to help as best I can but I live 6 hours away so supportive messages and calls are the best I can do. But I'm struggling so much myself right now. My husband is away for 6 months and as above we live 6 hours away from my family. I don't have any friends, not real ones anyway, and I'm stuck in the house every day with 3 kids just trying to survive. I hate this life and I resent my husband for choosing the job he has. I'm so isolated and crying myself to sleep every night. But because of my mums situation if I tell any family members that I'm feeling down, I just get the whole "you'll be fine in a few days or when the kids go back to school". There's no support for me. I'm at a loss. And feel like I'm wasting my life as I'm just on countdown until Christmas when my husband hopefully gets back. Life is just tit 😪
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I really feel for you.
I hope things get better for you once your husband is home.
 
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