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I’ve just been signed off work with stress and anxiety, I thought I’d be relieved being off but I’m just worrying about going back already with all the stuff I need to catch up on. Hopefully the new medication I’ve given will work soon.

Has anyone been in the same situation before?
 
charlie6578 said:
I’ve just been signed off work with stress and anxiety, I thought I’d be relieved being off but I’m just worrying about going back already with all the stuff I need to catch up on. Hopefully the new medication I’ve given will work soon.

Has anyone been in the same situation before?
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I was in your position the end of last year, I posted here and got lots of support. I was basically bedridden for the best part of two months and spent all my time in a constant state of panic about going back. I wish I'd listened to advice about therapy back then, is that something you could seek out? My medication worked wonders but I still think having someone impartial to talk to would have been a massive help as well.
 
charlie6578 said:
I’ve just been signed off work with stress and anxiety, I thought I’d be relieved being off but I’m just worrying about going back already with all the stuff I need to catch up on. Hopefully the new medication I’ve given will work soon.

Has anyone been in the same situation before?
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Yes I have and I completely understand how you're feeling. You're going through a tough enough time, seeking help is stressful, medication can have It's side effects, it's all a lot to deal with. My advice....just take it easy, please try and forget about work. Very hard, I know!

But try and give yourself a break, comfort and care for yourself. Have a duvet day, watch a boxset, eat what you like. Have a long soak in a bubble bath. Just do what you can to relax. It does get better, and work is just work....Hugs to you xxx
 
Back to this thread again. Just can't cope with life anymore. Dealing with two teenage boys and I just can't do it anymore. Can't cope in any way shape or form. Got ny evaluation through at work and my line managers have written the most wonderful things but it's never enough. I can try and try and try but I'll never be enough, never live up to my expectations.
 
Shimmering said:
Back to this thread again. Just can't cope with life anymore. Dealing with two teenage boys and I just can't do it anymore. Can't cope in any way shape or form. Got ny evaluation through at work and my line managers have written the most wonderful things but it's never enough. I can try and try and try but I'll never be enough, never live up to my expectations.
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I’m in the same position sort of. Lone parent to a pre school age child and I wake up every morning wishing it was still night time. I open my eyes and it starts. I’m so miserable and lonely right now!
 
I think I realised today just how depressed I am at the moment.

Been home for an hour, need to go pick up my LO. For the last hour I've just been sat here thinking about what I want to do, and when I realised there was nothing I wanted to do or could thing of that might make me happy, I remembered that feeling complete apathy to bleeping everything isn't normal is it :(
 
I relate to so many posts on here, I have tears rolling down my face reading them. I feel for you all ❤️

I have so many reasons to be grateful but I can’t shake my sadness. I lost my job earlier this year and it’s made me feel like a failure. It was supposed to a great new opportunity, a promotion and a great salary but it all went to tit. Applying for new roles and being either rejected or offered ridiculously low salaries and packages to say my years of experience has me feeling low.
I feel on paper I haven’t achieved what most people my age have and that makes me feel like a failure too. Sometimes I wonder what the point is, I just get this overwhelming feeling of sadness like I don’t want to be here. I’ve always had those feelings since I was young, like if life ever got too hard then there’s always a “way out”. But you think about what that would do to your loved one’s, and the people who are fighting so hard to stay alive and you feel guilty. I don’t really know what I’m saying here I just needed to unload. Have a little cry and hopefully a good long sleep
 
hytuhh said:
I relate to so many posts on here, I have tears rolling down my face reading them. I feel for you all ❤

I have so many reasons to be grateful but I can’t shake my sadness. I lost my job earlier this year and it’s made me feel like a failure. It was supposed to a great new opportunity, a promotion and a great salary but it all went to tit. Applying for new roles and being either rejected or offered ridiculously low salaries and packages to say my years of experience has me feeling low.
I feel on paper I haven’t achieved what most people my age have and that makes me feel like a failure too. Sometimes I wonder what the point is, I just get this overwhelming feeling of sadness like I don’t want to be here. I’ve always had those feelings since I was young, like if life ever got too hard then there’s always a “way out”. But you think about what that would do to your loved one’s, and the people who are fighting so hard to stay alive and you feel guilty. I don’t really know what I’m saying here I just needed to unload. Have a little cry and hopefully a good long sleep
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You're not a failure at all. You sound so kind and empathetic. I've had those overwhelming sad feelings too all my life. I understand how it feels. But you also will know that they pass and you will have better days ahead. It's very difficult to see that when you are in the midst of it all.

Venting really, really helps me. My emotions change very quickly which makes it hard for me to get help. All I know is that when the mood changes and I feel better, I'm always very glad I didn't do anything to harm myself when I was feeling low.

I hope you have a lovely restful sleep.
 
hytuhh said:
I relate to so many posts on here, I have tears rolling down my face reading them. I feel for you all ❤

I have so many reasons to be grateful but I can’t shake my sadness. I lost my job earlier this year and it’s made me feel like a failure. It was supposed to a great new opportunity, a promotion and a great salary but it all went to tit. Applying for new roles and being either rejected or offered ridiculously low salaries and packages to say my years of experience has me feeling low.
I feel on paper I haven’t achieved what most people my age have and that makes me feel like a failure too. Sometimes I wonder what the point is, I just get this overwhelming feeling of sadness like I don’t want to be here. I’ve always had those feelings since I was young, like if life ever got too hard then there’s always a “way out”. But you think about what that would do to your loved one’s, and the people who are fighting so hard to stay alive and you feel guilty. I don’t really know what I’m saying here I just needed to unload. Have a little cry and hopefully a good long sleep
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How are you feeling today? I can really relate to your post. I don’t want to seem like I’m gatecrashing, but fully empathise.

I’m having a hard time being gaslit at work. My boss is an evil blimp and me and a coworker have gone to his boss but after speaking with him before, he’s got him hoodwinked. I’m so angry with the injustice of it all. The team is rubbish, another coworker has weird issues with me and steals my work but acts hard done by 🤷🏼‍♀️ and my boss is protecting them. I’m being made the scapegoat and sensible me knows I need to get a new job because they’ll be screwed but no one is replying to applications and I feel so stuck. Emotional me wants to get very litigious. I just hate how people can affect peoples’ lives like this and get away with it 😡
 
no-no said:
How are you feeling today? I can really relate to your post. I don’t want to seem like I’m gatecrashing, but fully empathise.

I’m having a hard time being gaslit at work. My boss is an evil blimp and me and a coworker have gone to his boss but after speaking with him before, he’s got him hoodwinked. I’m so angry with the injustice of it all. The team is rubbish, another coworker has weird issues with me and steals my work but acts hard done by 🤷🏼‍♀️ and my boss is protecting them. I’m being made the scapegoat and sensible me knows I need to get a new job because they’ll be screwed but no one is replying to applications and I feel so stuck. Emotional me wants to get very litigious. I just hate how people can affect peoples’ lives like this and get away with it 😡
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Thank you for asking, honestly I felt better after my initial post but I’m just sat in bed crying again and when I saw your message it really did mean a lot to me. I’m sorry to hear you’re also going through a rough time.

The last part of your post, about how people can affect people’s lives and get away with it - 1000%. Since I lost my job, I know that my workplace has just carried on without even a second thought as to how this has affected me. Please keep applying and don’t give up, you will hopefully find a way out of your situation! I wonder why it’s so easy to have hope and positivity for other people, yet feel helpless ourselves…
 
hytuhh said:
Thank you for asking, honestly I felt better after my initial post but I’m just sat in bed crying again and when I saw your message it really did mean a lot to me. I’m sorry to hear you’re also going through a rough time.

The last part of your post, about how people can affect people’s lives and get away with it - 1000%. Since I lost my job, I know that my workplace has just carried on without even a second thought as to how this has affected me. Please keep applying and don’t give up, you will hopefully find a way out of your situation! I wonder why it’s so easy to have hope and positivity for other people, yet feel helpless ourselves…
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❤ thank you for your kindness. Back at you, you’ve given me a ‘restored my faith’ moment this evening 🙏 I’ll hold on to it. I was feeling numb dreading another weekend being hyper-vigilant and obsessing over work. It’s seeping into everything and I‘ve lost my identity. Then comes the self-loathing because a part of me knows it’s triggering insecurity/lack of control. I want to be more ‘don’t let the b’s grind you down’ but get suckered in to dwelling on it. I guess when you’ve got a lot of past trauma, extending compassion inward can feel unnatural ☹ Thanks again for responding to my (ranty) post and I wish you the best xxx
 
Called the mental health services because my mental health has tanked and I feel like I’m going to die. They basically asked me if I’m feeling suicidal (yes) and then asked if my daughter was ok being with me (yes) and then asked if I’m getting enough sleep (no) and that was it!? I could’ve done with a bit more reassurance or something I guess. It’s like they don’t care as long as my daughter isn’t at risk (she isn’t).
 
Squittel said:
Called the mental health services because my mental health has tanked and I feel like I’m going to die. They basically asked me if I’m feeling suicidal (yes) and then asked if my daughter was ok being with me (yes) and then asked if I’m getting enough sleep (no) and that was it!? I could’ve done with a bit more reassurance or something I guess. It’s like they don’t care as long as my daughter isn’t at risk (she isn’t).
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I’m so sorry. Where abouts in the world are you? I am in Essex if you need any help. I have a 3 year old boy and I am a lone parent.

What has triggered this for you?
 
Squittel said:
Called the mental health services because my mental health has tanked and I feel like I’m going to die. They basically asked me if I’m feeling suicidal (yes) and then asked if my daughter was ok being with me (yes) and then asked if I’m getting enough sleep (no) and that was it!? I could’ve done with a bit more reassurance or something I guess. It’s like they don’t care as long as my daughter isn’t at risk (she isn’t).
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Words because don’t feel like much right now .. But I wish I could help you .. Have you got family or friends you can overload too?
 
I feel stupid saying this because it didn't actually happen to me but I can't get it out of my mind maybe I just need to write it down
My mum told me about a truly awful thing that had just happened to a family member yesterday and I can't stop thinking about them
I won't say what actually happened but my heart breaks for them They are younger than me and have recently been getting their life back on track after years of not having an easy life
From the details my mum told me they must of been absolutely terrified and it brakes my heart to know that, it will affect the rest of their life and they probably will know longer feel safe in their own home anymore
We are not close and we don't keep in touch if we saw each other at a family thing we might just have a few words but I just feel so sad for them im sobbling as I write this I haven't even told my husband yet because I just can't face talking about it
They have plenty of friends and family around them and i know they are being well looked after thank god, I just hope they will eventually get back to a good place 😭
 
Todays a tough one, My Mum died in March which alone is enough but also i'm going thru probate & have no money. So anytime I need something I have to ask people for help which i'm hating. As I just feel like i'm taking advantage even tho i'll pay back day probate arrives.
I just feel broken and keep worrying about running out of electric etc
 
pixxyy said:
Todays a tough one, My Mum died in March which alone is enough but also i'm going thru probate & have no money. So anytime I need something I have to ask people for help which i'm hating. As I just feel like i'm taking advantage even tho i'll pay back day probate arrives.
I just feel broken and keep worrying about running out of electric etc
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Your local Citizens Advice Bureau might be able to help you. Even with contacting your electricity provider for some help with your bills/credit, or help with food bank referral etc. they could potentially help with some of the practical stuff around probate too.
 
ThisIsMyDragName said:
Your local Citizens Advice Bureau might be able to help you. Even with contacting your electricity provider for some help with your bills/credit, or help with food bank referral etc. they could potentially help with some of the practical stuff around probate too.
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Oh I dont need a food bank etc as I do have help, I think its more it makes me feel awkward asking for Cheese for example. I'm sure the people who I ask(Aunty/Cousins etc) dont even give it a second thought.
Probate shouldnt take to long as i'm only person it goes to, it just took awhile to get the money to apply
 
Feeling awful about work and the future of my job atm. Unfortunately post maternity leave I've moved from an area that I was comfortable in to one where we regularly get patients that I find really triggering and difficult to deal with mentally (lots of MH patients awaiting movement to MH hospital, rather than a physical one. This afternoon I had to leave early - only by a few minutes, so no-one really noticed - as one of the patients was about to undergo a procedure against their will due to their MH and it triggered a panic attack, like I haven't had in years.

My line manager knows but apart from referring me to OH there's not a lot we can do until I move wards in spring next year. I desperately want to move closer to my family but can't afford to. There's also no jobs in my home area that I could do. and my OH likes living here and his job. Feel so stuck atm.
 
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