Ex Slimming World Disordered Eating Recovery #2 Underestimating Our Desire To Eat Pasta

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WhatABore said:
Yeah exactly!
It's blamed on everything.
I went to basically ask for help/some support with bulimia and came out with a referral for slimming world (which I was already doing)
At this point I'd already lost 7 stone. But as I was still over 20 stone, she just kept saying how I need to lose weight, gave me loads of leaflets and websites on calorie counting.
She weighed me, told me my bmi, told me I'm obese.
All these things.
When I just wanted some support. I came out feeling worse about myself! Didn't take me seriously at all. All she said was "I'll put it on your notes"

I mentioned it a few times on here before too but when I went back a few years later, he looked at my notes and said "well it didn't do you any harm, might have been a good thing really, you did lose weight"
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Of course! The support in general for eating disorders is awful!
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That's awful 😥
 
WhatABore said:
Yeah exactly!
It's blamed on everything.
I went to basically ask for help/some support with bulimia and came out with a referral for slimming world (which I was already doing)
At this point I'd already lost 7 stone. But as I was still over 20 stone, she just kept saying how I need to lose weight, gave me loads of leaflets and websites on calorie counting.
She weighed me, told me my bmi, told me I'm obese.
All these things.
When I just wanted some support. I came out feeling worse about myself! Didn't take me seriously at all. All she said was "I'll put it on your notes"

I mentioned it a few times on here before too but when I went back a few years later, he looked at my notes and said "well it didn't do you any harm, might have been a good thing really, you did lose weight"
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Sorry to hear this :(

I assume this was a while ago as with the current situation I would struggle to make it past a receptionist to see my GP without being given his/her diagnosis first.

It's a bit of a vicious circle really isn't it because I felt like I needed help with a few things but didn't feel I could seek help at the doctors. The next thing would be to go to specific self help groups but that would be me almost self diagnosing something which I possibly don't have so in my head I kept saying I would look silly rocking up to a group of people who have real issues and I'm telling them this is my problem and maybe it's not a problem so I put myself off things like that. Also the worry of seeing people I know and having to admit to things I didn't want to admit to.

We have a couple of self help groups setup across our town now which aren't topic specific and are very well organised. I'm in a place where I feel comfortable talking about my issues and openly discuss with friends and family where before I would hide it. Some of it was stupidly plastered in newspapers where I said the wrong thing to a journalist and it was blown a bit out of proportion. I do however know a few people who attend these groups and they have helped them no end in both how they can control the problem they have gone there about and also in finding direct support via other people in the group who have suffered with similar issues.
 
-Dave- said:
Sorry to hear this :(

I assume this was a while ago as with the current situation I would struggle to make it past a receptionist to see my GP without being given his/her diagnosis first.

It's a bit of a vicious circle really isn't it because I felt like I needed help with a few things but didn't feel I could seek help at the doctors. The next thing would be to go to specific self help groups but that would be me almost self diagnosing something which I possibly don't have so in my head I kept saying I would look silly rocking up to a group of people who have real issues and I'm telling them this is my problem and maybe it's not a problem so I put myself off things like that. Also the worry of seeing people I know and having to admit to things I didn't want to admit to.

We have a couple of self help groups setup across our town now which aren't topic specific and are very well organised. I'm in a place where I feel comfortable talking about my issues and openly discuss with friends and family where before I would hide it. Some of it was stupidly plastered in newspapers where I said the wrong thing to a journalist and it was blown a bit out of proportion. I do however know a few people who attend these groups and they have helped them no end in both how they can control the problem they have gone there about and also in finding direct support via other people in the group who have suffered with similar issues.
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Yeah! This was about 5 years ago now. Would have no chance even speaking to a receptionist now 😂

I completely get feeling that way!
I think I have my own stigma in my head that you can only have an eating disorder if you're slim. So in return, i expect every other person to feel the same. So i feel like I wouldn't be believed or that it's embarassing to admit because people might take 1 look at me and not believe me.
 
I signed up for slimming world online last week, and have cried everyday since.
I feel so restricted, I was too scared to have a drink over the weekend from fear of feeling like I wouldn’t have lost enough at my first weigh in so it would have all been for nothing.
I’m constantly hungry and miserable. I hate the term “syn”.
I need to lose weight, my body dysmorphia is at an all time high.
But I’m so bleeping depressed and miserable over not eating what I want to to eat, and it’s not even bad stuff that I want, it’s just the freedom to pick what I want.
It sounds so silly it’s literally been a week but I already know that this is so not sustainable to my lifestyle and way of living, but I just don’t know what to do.
From the sounds of things though it seems like this is a common thought from others that have started SW?
 
N-NewGirl said:
I signed up for slimming world online last week, and have cried everyday since.
I feel so restricted, I was too scared to have a drink over the weekend from fear of feeling like I wouldn’t have lost enough at my first weigh in so it would have all been for nothing.
I’m constantly hungry and miserable. I hate the term “syn”.
I need to lose weight, my body dysmorphia is at an all time high.
But I’m so bleeping depressed and miserable over not eating what I want to to eat, and it’s not even bad stuff that I want, it’s just the freedom to pick what I want.
It sounds so silly it’s literally been a week but I already know that this is so not sustainable to my lifestyle and way of living, but I just don’t know what to do.
From the sounds of things though it seems like this is a common thought from others that have started SW?
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It doesn't sound silly at all.
I've never understood people that say it isn't restrictive.
It's massively restrictive!
Calorie counting has always been my go to after Slimming World but it's hard to get the SW ideas out your head and free yourself a bit!
 
N-NewGirl said:
I signed up for slimming world online last week, and have cried everyday since.
I feel so restricted, I was too scared to have a drink over the weekend from fear of feeling like I wouldn’t have lost enough at my first weigh in so it would have all been for nothing.
I’m constantly hungry and miserable. I hate the term “syn”.
I need to lose weight, my body dysmorphia is at an all time high.
But I’m so bleeping depressed and miserable over not eating what I want to to eat, and it’s not even bad stuff that I want, it’s just the freedom to pick what I want.
It sounds so silly it’s literally been a week but I already know that this is so not sustainable to my lifestyle and way of living, but I just don’t know what to do.
From the sounds of things though it seems like this is a common thought from others that have started SW?
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If you only signed up last week, it’s not too late to GET OUT!!
my advice as someone who lost 4 stone this way:

- Work out your calorie deficit online, there are calculators. Set yourself a realistic goal weight you’d like to reach, start small, don’t aim for 20kg in one stint.
- Calorie count. Track everything, be honest with yourself.
- Walk more each day. Again, if you’re currently doing 1000 steps, aim for 3000, don’t try and suddenly be able to do 10,000.
Stay consistent. Think of calories and steps per week instead of per day. Weigh yourself regularly.

That’s it, that’s the magic recipe!
 
Greencatfysh said:
If you only signed up last week, it’s not too late to GET OUT!!
my advice as someone who lost 4 stone this way:

- Work out your calorie deficit online, there are calculators. Set yourself a realistic goal weight you’d like to reach, start small, don’t aim for 20kg in one stint.
- Calorie count. Track everything, be honest with yourself.
- Walk more each day. Again, if you’re currently doing 1000 steps, aim for 3000, don’t try and suddenly be able to do 10,000.
Stay consistent. Think of calories and steps per week instead of per day. Weigh yourself regularly.

That’s it, that’s the magic recipe!
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Really good advice.
Also drink water daily. Learn as much as you can about the composition of food, have a look at the labels before you buy.

Put the cost of the class into a jar every week and buy yourself something nice when you reach your target.
Best of luck.
 
Ergh I couldn’t sleep last night and had a fleeting notion of joining slimming world. I’m miserable about everything at the moment and a friend has lost almost a stone on it.
I know it doesn’t work for me, I have a very long history of ED as well, it’s a toxic place for me but I had it my head it would be fine. It’s one of the most miserable diets ever. I’ve been trying my hardest not to diet but I have a need to control something while my life feels like it’s falling appart.
 
SW sending me ridiculous emails again. When I saw a dietician, one of the first things they told me was not to drink my calories. These look chemically and foul.

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Dancing_in_the_dark said:
Ergh I couldn’t sleep last night and had a fleeting notion of joining slimming world. I’m miserable about everything at the moment and a friend has lost almost a stone on it.
I know it doesn’t work for me, I have a very long history of ED as well, it’s a toxic place for me but I had it my head it would be fine. It’s one of the most miserable diets ever. I’ve been trying my hardest not to diet but I have a need to control something while my life feels like it’s falling appart.
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I could have wrote this myself. I went to SW for years and it’s my fall back. I hate SW but it worked. Feeling a bit miserable and just want to say my rational mind will say it won’t work for us. Always here for you ❤️
 
A friend is currently in it and is probably losing weight but honestly, to hear someone who was always conscious of eating healthy and giving good example to her kids, talking about how she will no longer be eating perfectly healthy good foods would definitely put me off.

I joined some years ago but the long drawn out meetings put me off, very quickly. And I am so glad that they did.

I use Nutracheck for calorie counting and walk every day. That works for me better than syns or anything else.
 
ChastityDingle said:
A friend is currently in it and is probably losing weight but honestly, to hear someone who was always conscious of eating healthy and giving good example to her kids, talking about how she will no longer be eating perfectly healthy good foods would definitely put me off.

I joined some years ago but the long drawn out meetings put me off, very quickly. And I am so glad that they did.

I use Nutracheck for calorie counting and walk every day. That works for me better than syns or anything else.
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I always found the meetings a pain, they went on forever and I didn’t feel like I got anything from them either. Always used to try to weigh and run but then if I didn’t have a good week the consultant would try and say it was because I hadn’t stayed to group 🙄 I have a busy life and can think of a lot more productive uses of my time than sitting in a stuffy room being bored to death for 90 mins!
 
ChastityDingle said:
I use Nutracheck for calorie counting and walk every day. That works for me better than syns or anything else.
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Nutracheck is in my opinion the best thing for ex SW'ers to have a look at.

Even if you don't intend to calorie count longterm just download and use the free version and put in a few of your favourite foods.

You'll find a lot of so called syn free foods are high in cals and many highly synned foods really don't have as much cals as SW lead you to believe.

It will change how you look at food and begin the journey of ridding yourself of SW indoctrination.
 
JustWonderingIf said:
Nutracheck is in my opinion the best thing for ex SW'ers to have a look at.

Even if you don't intend to calorie count longterm just download and use the free version and put in a few of your favourite foods.

You'll find a lot of so called syn free foods are high in cals and many highly synned foods really don't have as much cals as SW lead you to believe.

It will change how you look at food and begin the journey of ridding yourself of SW indoctrination.
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I don't consider myself as having been indoctrinated because I only lasted as far as the second meeting - years ago. 🤣

I stumbled on Nutracheck by accident and it's great.
Very user friendly, (I really love the barcode scanner), and you very quickly start to see what are the more nutritional foods.
They often do offers too for a yearly membership fee for the app / website.

I am beginning to sound like I am promoting it 😁 or have shares in it or something. I don't!
It's great though.
 
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